| | Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?Page 6 of 7 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7) | Yes, well, maybe.
I've arranged my life to live within my means. So I don't want your money, don't need your money...but I sure don't want to give you mine. Been there, done that, no desire to go back down that road.
So lets see
-a soda and game of pool
-picnic at a park
-ice cream
-redbox and popcorn
-biking, skating, fishing, etc assuming you already have the gear
-bbq and horseshoes
-cards/board games and a beer
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the list goes on of all kinds of acceptable dates for under $10
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Posted: 7/25/2012 10:05:11 AM | I have loved women and committed with all my soul, I have given and shared my last dime. It is ingrained in me to give my all, no matter my low, medium, or high income. This is easy for me because the giving of myself is a natural expression of my love, so of course I share all my money, my heart, my thoughts, and even my very last Krispy Kreme Donut. These things should come naturally if my true focus is to be with the one I truly love.
My lover should understand that i want to spend my all on her because she is worth it, just as I should understand not to do so if it makes her feel guilty, we communicate and find an equilibrium. but only after we truly understand and love each other beyond just putting up with each others faults.
If my lover feels the same then she will do the same thing. Because our love is deep, our communication will let us know if it is inconvenient to pay for dinner this time, Or If I am on the verge of falling behind on paying certain bills, because we love each other naturally we consider and trust each others advice and will implement possible solutions so finances do not threaten our well being, as they shouldn't anyway because a couple who are truly in tune with each other will focus on attacking the problems that may hinder the growth of a strong relationship. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 10:33:21 AM | It all depends, I went on this date with this guy and it was the best date ever, we grabbed some deli sandwhiches and drove up to the mountains and watched the city lights at nite, our tailgate picnic was the top of all dates.
So if creative dates are willing to be taken a chance then, Im all good.
If he is down right cheap, uh no. | |
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Posted: 7/25/2012 11:56:46 AM | | I dated someone with not much and he had an unstable income and the relationship didn't last because I always had fears about whether or not we would be able to survive and if I would have to take care of him eventually. I've realized that I probably won't be able to date a man who is struggling to make ends meet. I cannot date someone in debt (with the exception of school debt) because I need financial freedom. Any debt burdens would cause wayyyy too much stress on me. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 2:08:49 PM | as a man. how much a woman makes doesn't affect how i feel about her. it depends on how hard she can make my****
i actually prefer if she wasn't a power hungry careerist with zero femininity. someone who makes less than me is preferable. the only women who have been proven to balance work and femininity are french chicks.
those who have been born and raised in north america have no chance.
for a women. i found that women also don't care as long as your an alpha male. if your a provider beta then for a women, the more the merrier. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 7:42:09 PM | | I don't find a woman who has little money outside of necessities to be an issue. But I find a woman who thinks they should live a JLO lifestyle off my money to be a problem. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 10/28/2012 8:35:47 PM | | Personally I"m not looking to be with someone because of what he has in his wallet or his bank account. I'd be dating/involved with someone because of who he is, what he's about and how it feels when we're together. There are too many things more important about a man (to me) than how much he's got as cash flow. | |
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Posted: 10/28/2012 8:52:00 PM | Living at home has made relationships impossible for me right now, lol. Trying to date women my own age sucks because they're all so hell-bent on getting married that they date guys who are like 50 just because they're financially secure. Crazy.
I don't care all that much because I'm working on stuff and I'll know I'll make it at some point and have my pick. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2012 10:03:27 PM | | No I wouldnt. I have my own home, financially secure etc and I expect the same in a man. It is no fun without money and sooner or later he would want you to pay more than your share is my bet. You will get tired of walks in the park, cheap hamburgers but it depends on what you have to offer and your choices, I guess. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2012 10:31:32 PM | | I have never had a rich boyfriend or husband....nor so I care if a guy has a lot of money or not a lot of money...what I do care that he is similarly fiscally responsible, has good credit, little/no debt and can carry his own weight financially speaking, because I have a good career and I can carry mine. | |
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Posted: 10/31/2012 11:20:24 PM | I prefer to date someone who's financial profile is similar to mine. Steadily employed, no or at least manageable debt, etc. I dont think this is alot to ask for. A sandwich date is fine...maybe ten times in a row, but this is a big world and I enjoy traveling, it would be nice, on occasion, for my man to be able to join me.
I've worked very hard to get to where I am, and I admire men who have done the same. We may be tapping into some fundamental differences here between men and women, but I'd like to see how many ladies who make 6 figures date a bag boy or dishwasher.
On the other hand, since men value slightly different things in a woman, and are more likely to be comfortable in the role of provider (shock, awe, yes, this is true) I dont think you'll see so much of an issue if a woman is BEAUTIFUL with very little money.
Of course, I'd be happy to be proven wrong on all the above counts..I really dont care! | |
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Posted: 11/1/2012 8:37:14 AM |
VolcanoKing
Of course, I'd be happy to be proven wrong on all the above counts..I really dont care!
Obviously, you do care, and quite a bit. That’s why you would be happy to have someone or something prove you wrong.
alexvanlee
i actually prefer if she wasn't a power hungry careerist with zero femininity. someone who makes less than me is preferable.
There have been a number of threads here in the forums with successful women asking if their success is intimidating to men. And to me, it isn’t, not at all. I do find that successful women are harder to approach, to get to know. But once you do get past their outer wall, they can be every bit as feminine as the high school dropout serving your breakfast at Denny’s. | |
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| Would you date a man/woman who doesnt have money?
Posted: 11/1/2012 12:04:56 PM | I'm a realist. Issues in a relationship relating to money can create a huge strain. If one person is a "saver" and another is a "spender" then sparks will fly.
I've worked extraordinarily hard to be debt free, have a decent retirement plan and a few side investments. If I met someone who was a financial train wreck then honestly I'd walk away regardless of compatibility. People like to say warm fuzzy things like "it's about the person" or "if you love someone" but that will wear pretty thin if one person is constantly bailing the other out because they never learned to manage their finances. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2012 12:52:29 PM | Money problems in a relationship are just as bad as sex problems.. One thing that is very obvious statement on many women profiles. Is that in no way they want to help support or help pay for men. Which is the main reason many women would only date or marry up. While they still expect the men to ride the old fashioned train and treat them and pay for them. Almost feels like they say my money is my money but your money is our money....
While for most men the hotter/better looking the women the more they are willing to pay.
As for me if I feel that I need to pay for everything, I would be out of there, Don't have a need for money pit.
It's a long way to say No I will not date a woman who is broke. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2012 1:27:08 PM | | Beachgirl brings up a good point about struggling......sometimes, a person who is struggling will resent you, if you have your shit together and have no problems......it becomes a problem. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2012 2:08:29 PM | My rules for dating (and finances are)
1. If she is in the same financial boat as myself, I would be an as& to not date her.
However
2. I have things I want to do (and like to do) in life, and will sacrifice and work to get there. Is she going to be willing and able to come along for the ride? (Really; I would do everything in my power to help with the "able" part)
I dont date alot right now because "I" am the one who is probably not able to keep up these days. (I dont even try so hard; because I wont be able to throw into the proverbial pot)
What’s wrong with a guy having an iphone or some other kind of a smart phone? Average Joe can afford it. It will also show that a man likes to be up to date with technology which is an attractive trait.
Really?
That's how you judge a man?
I have a super smart phone, all ready for all business; and I often wonder when I will throw it in a lake. I worked for a tier one worldwide travel supplier; selling deals from 400Gs per year to 20 million per year spend; and I--still--did--not--need--me--phone. It brought me 0 extra advantage or benefit.
Wow. If you have a "flip phone" that is bought and paid for, fits right in your pocket, and still does everything you need it to do, this is something to be ashamed of? So in this day and age, the idea is not to buy things that you need and use them until they have to be replaced, it's buy things you want and use them until they're no longer cool? See, this type of thing is a complete embarrassment to Western society. Snap the **** out of it, people
Seconded.
It amazes me that in the 21st century when women have equal rights and jobs that they still expect men to foot the bill for all dating expenses. Here's an idea ladies. If you want to go out to a nice dinner, a night out on the town, etc and your guy doesn't have a lot of disposable income, you plan and pay for the date...
Welcome to equality.
It's how "we've" rolled for a real long time. | |
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Posted: 11/1/2012 10:29:22 PM | | It wouldn't really make any difference to me, i am not out to find someone who can support me, I can do that myself, however any woman i date would have to understand that there is a limit to what i can afford to do, I am always up front and honest about it, so there should be no misunderstanding, | |
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Posted: 11/2/2012 2:02:45 PM | | Absolutely I would date someone like that....if I liked them. Doesn't matter to me as long as they aren't looking to me for contribution. I'm here to find love, not $. As long as I'm with someone that I like, they like me and we're attracted to each other, it doesn't matter what we're doing. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2012 3:15:16 PM | It should never matter what the other person has. Just because they're broke and you're not, it doesn't mean they're looking to you to support them..
A lot of people live in a dream world. They see having to take money out of their savings account to pay bills as struggling. To these people, there's no excuse to be broke, cuz it's so easy to have money.
When it comes to dating, most decent people will date someone who's broke, as long as they're not trying to use them to support themselves. People are capable of looking past money, but some aren't.
Me personally, yeah, I'd date a woman who doesn't have money. Love doesn't care if you're broke. | |
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Posted: 11/2/2012 3:24:47 PM |
Was curious as to where someone might draw the line when thinking about starting a relationship. If you met someone, and were attracted to them, including chemistry, but later discovered that they were struggling financially, would you continue to date them? I would hope so... although I can't imagine it would be much of a surprise. If it was a huge surprise, I would be more concerned that they misrepresented themselves to begin with. I began a relationship KNOWING this stuff about someone. While not ideal, I don't think it's worth losing a fantastic relationship because of it.
I'm not talking, welfare, or buried in debt... Even then... be careful who you overlook.
I'm talking about a man/woman who works hard, pays their bills, but has little left over for fun such as traveling or eating out more than a couple times a month. They also take care of their business, and are not complaining of their circumstances with you, just down on finances. That sounds completely reasonable.
Is money part of the deal for some? Well, it's ALWAYS part of the deal... pretending it isn't will lead to problems down the line.
Do some look for men/woman who have the same lifestyle as yourself financially? I guess I did when I was a bit younger... that didn't really work out. It would surely be easier that way, but alas, the world isn't perfect.
Or are you willing to keep things simple and be creative in the things you do together because you enjoy being with them? Absotudalootly. Nothing else would make sense to me. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2012 3:04:37 PM | | Someone who has similar spare income (whatever that might be at the time) as me seems easiest. After all, you're likely to have fairly well matched expectations on how much to spend on going places and how often. I've also dated people who are a lot wealthier and a lot poorer. It wasn't a deal breaker in either case, but raised more issues about making choices more carefully when suggesting where to go and what to do. With wealthier I felt concerned they might wish we could go to more expensive places more often, I also felt worried that if I accepted their spending on me too much I might look bad too. With poorer I worried about suggesting too much stuff they couldn't afford and making them feel bad. Ultimately, the relationships all ended for other reasons though, so it wasn't a massive deal in the end. I've become more confident since then however, so I think in future if I was seriously dating someone I'd talk a bit more about how much to spend on things we do and that I'm more interested in the spending time together than anything else. | |
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Posted: 11/3/2012 8:01:26 PM | If money is EVER an issue... If you're afraid he's going to expect you to support him, or if you're not gonna let him refuse your help and then punish him for it, or if you're afraid she's not going to like doing things with you because she can afford to do things that are more fun... You're not in a stable enough place to be dating, unless you're a gold digger.
Finances should be the LAST thing on your mind. And if it gets to marriage, there's these magical contracts called prenuptual agreements, which SURPRISE!!!! mean that all your finances are YOURS, and all his debt is HIS. If it doesn't work, it doesn't work.
You guys obsess over the most minor details of other people, and then wonder why you're single and can't meet a good person... Debt happens, to almost everyone. It's good you've managed to stay debt free, and hopefully you can hold that up for the rest of your life... But all it takes is one trip to the ER and you're applying for food stamps so you can eat.
Not all debt is irresponsible. A lot of people are in debt out of necessity. And I see some people in here saying they'd never date someone in debt, they have to have their finances in order to be datable... And then I see that some of you own businesses, you're from comfortably living families, aka "the lucky sperm"... Well what are you doing to prevent people from having these problems? Are paying a wage that they can actually expect to survive off of? Are you getting out there and spending your money so that the place they work is getting the business so that they don't get laid off, or so they can get raises to keep up with the cost of living? And the rest, you've NEVER had to borrow something? You've never lost a job, or had to get a loan, or anything?
Reading the things some of you are saying, and your reasons to not date them, or your reasons for breaking up with them... I'd rather date someone who's completely poor, someone who knows how to be grateful for what she has. | |
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Posted: 11/4/2012 4:43:23 PM | as someone who tries to live within my limitations and I do the best I can with what I have-
I am easily content and as long as the guy did his best to be responsible and treated me well
I could work with that.
On the other side of things - i know a gal who basically was the sole support for the guy she was involved with including helping to raise his children and take care of more of the bills and helping him with HIS debts- now that i would not accept. | |
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