| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 1/21/2008 5:11:55 PM | OP I always thought there were more non-smokers then those who do, so checked 50
female profiles at random and here's the results:
NO 24
Occasionally 19
Often 7
PreferNotSay 2
So its about 50/50, depending where the pns people are. The only thing we know for sure is I have waaaaay too f*ck'n much free time. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 1/21/2008 6:11:43 PM | | i dont smoke and why would someone want to smoke and then especially end up with all creases and lines above their top lip ?smoking is banned completely here in England anywhere inside bars ,clubs ,cimemas,food places etc ....which was great as i can go out and come home with fresh smelling hair now .............. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:26:48 AM |
So you would try to change her?? Why even bother getting involved in the first place then.
Brushing alone doesn`t get rid of the smell,its in their home,clothes, hair,it`s everywhere.
A smoker is a deal breaker for me.
I don't look at it as trying to change her... More in the line of asking her to be more healthy for the both of us. I want her to be around a good long time. If you love someone deeply enough... wouldn't you want what's best for them too? So if it appears that I'm trying to change her, it's only for the better. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 1/23/2008 7:32:47 AM |
OP I always thought there were more non-smokers then those who do, so checked 50
female profiles at random and here's the results:
NO 24
Occasionally 19
Often 7
PreferNotSay 2
So its about 50/50, depending where the pns people are. The only thing we know for sure is I have waaaaay too f*ck'n much free time.
Yes you do! When I posted this thread A LONG TIME AGO, the dynamics of what I was looking for showed more smoking women than not. That's including the Occaional and Often. I also didn't go to far out of my region so I'm sure the demographics of the areas I looked in reflected that. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 1/23/2008 8:54:45 AM | Yeah smoking is a turn off to me... But if the woman is either really hot or is average but has a really nice personality, I guess I can turn a blind eye to it.
Hell... Virtually all of the women that I've dated who smoked, all expressed a willingness to quit anyway. So it's a problem that can be over come.
However, I can't see myself seriously committing to a woman who was adamant about not giving up her smoking habit. Well, for one it would be bad for any future offspring we may choose to bear... Along with about a million other reasons. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 1/23/2008 4:37:17 PM | | I smoke. I enjoy it. I know it isn't good for me but I am not a chain smoker. One day I'll quit. If you hate women that smoke, don't date us. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 1/23/2008 10:43:43 PM | I'm afraid that a woman who smokes has to be one of the biggest turn offs going.
How can anyone with any sense do that to themselves.
I'm pretty sure that a man smoking for a non smoking woman is the same thing.
Since July 2007 when the smoking in public places ban came into force in England I once again have begun to go out during the evenings to bars and restraunts.
It's so pleasant to come home and not have to put everything that you had been wearing that evening into the washing machine and yourself into the shower before going to bed because of the disgusting smell all over you.
The only remaing problem now is the sad little huddled groups of people milling around outside getting their 'fix' of nicotine then dashing back indoors.
I would have thought that the horrible wet cold winter we have had here in England this year would have provided some incentive for the 'light' , 'occaisional' or 'social' smokers to get help and give it up.
All of the above euphanisms all mean the same thing you smoke and are addicted to it get help and give it up. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 1/24/2008 7:06:59 PM |
I don't look at it as trying to change her... More in the line of asking her to be more healthy for the both of us. I want her to be around a good long time. If you love someone deeply enough... wouldn't you want what's best for them too? So if it appears that I'm trying to change her, it's only for the better.
I smoked for 20 some years and I liked smoking.There isn`t anyone or anything that could make me want to smoke again .I know how it affects me,the smell alone makes me dizzy and it wouldn`t be fair to a smoker for me to get involved with him just to **** him out about the smell. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 1/25/2008 7:27:03 PM | | Well women, men, whatever I think it is bad when anyone smokes. But lets look at the root of the problem, its the companies that piss me off. They are the ones that put the chemicals in them to make them addicting and then to make them so they harm us. I tried dating a girl that smoked but I could not deal with it. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 3/17/2008 6:17:46 PM | | I can't see if I ever responded to this post as there are so many of you that have responded. From an ex-smoker. I quit twice. The 2nd time I quit I saw what it did to my mother. It KILLED HER!!! I quit COLD TURKEY 1 week after her funeral. At the time, my boyfriend who later became my husband hadn't noticed for 2 weeks that I quit. I was not the reigning **** on wheels. I just quit. That was January of '84. Now for the biggy. My husband was diagnosed with lung cancer in 10/05. The worst day in my life -ever. He finally succumed to the disease in February of 2007. So for those of you who want to smoke, that is your privilege. But to watch a person go through what my husband did is not a pretty sight. I now see smokers in a totally different site. I have seen someone who I would like to get to know, but as soon as I see him light up...........he's off the list. I don't want to go through life telling people what to do with their life. However, I did tell one of my husband's closest friends to quit smoking so he doesn't put his wife and his kids what I and my daughter went through. I ran into this friend several weeks after my husband's funeral to find out he did quit. He was at our house the day BEFORE my husband passed. I think it scared him. Also I had never seen a cop cry before and I didn't think much scared a police officer either. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 3/17/2008 6:44:08 PM | | what i find rather disturbing about this thread is that the OP has been posting on same subject for three years... | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 3/17/2008 9:48:36 PM | Only at times to make comment concerning things that are directed at me. Such as your comment, Ciaobaby71.
I still don't think smoking is something anyone should do and, though I have dated women who do smoke, it was something that bothered me greatly.
Also... you'll notice that I have only spoke up after the first few pages in short comments. This is a thread where everyone is allowed to make comment on the subject. I started the thread, true. But... I'm not the only one, it would appear, that feels this way. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 3/20/2008 10:51:11 AM | women who smoke...as oppossed to....... MEN that smoke.....
what's your point. smoking is smoking | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 3/22/2008 7:57:00 AM | | I was dead against it until I dated a few. I find most if they like you go out of there way to smoke outside or with there windows down and I appriciate that allot. A smoke every now and then is not going to kill me. Since I don't smoke. Especially if they brush there teeth before kissing. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 3/22/2008 8:21:11 PM | | Please spare me. Kinky is right.. smoking can be overcome. I did it and so have a lot of other people. Please spare me OP, why did you start over eating and gain a few extra pounds? How about if I climbed up on my soap box and preached about the dangers of being just a few extra pounds? What if I also preached about how it would be better to work out than to spend idle time complaining about others when you are guilty of the same offense in a different form. How to abuse our bodies 101. Your soap box needs kicked out from under you, as it is my opinion, you have no right to be on it. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 3/22/2008 8:44:11 PM | | This is a forum for talking about topics that people may have a comment or two about. Sorry if you don't like what I or other people have to say here. Kinky and I both agree... yet you put me down and not him? Odd... very odd. If I am standing on "soap box" then so are others who post here. Feel free to kick away their "soap boxes" too. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 3/22/2008 8:56:40 PM | | Not odd, as Kinky was not standing on the soap box. He didn't post first concerning the subject matter of this thread. This act in itself, is one of climbing on the soap box. You realized you were putting yourself out there or at least so you said, does the truth hurt? You asked me what I thought, and I told you. In the end, I really don't care what was said, because as soon as I saw the words few extra pounds; I would in these words... just keep going. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 3/22/2008 10:06:31 PM |
Ok... I know I'm putting myself up infront of a fireing squad, but I have to say that it seems more women smoke than not. To me, it's a turn off. When I look at a person's profile and I see "often", "all the time", etc. next to an (IMO) attractive woman, I just move on. I know it limits my search but, dear lord, there's more women who smoke than don't. It's like that on every dating site.
I can handle almost anything, but smoking is a no-no to me. The fact that it's unhealthy is a given, but there's the odor, aging of the skin, necatine stains... yuck! Yet many people do it. I don't understand why.
I just wonder what you all think about this situation?
I can't argue on this one... Two Thumbs Down... | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 3/23/2008 8:35:49 AM | Yeap, I am a bit over weight. And I'm sure that makes me less of a desire to some women. But here's the thing... Smoking kills more people than being a bit over weight does. People die more each day due to cancer than to being "slightly over weight."
Not only that.... but my being slightly over weight doesn't cause others to die. Smoking does. So with that said... I'll now get down from my so called "soap box" and all you to say your piece. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 3/23/2008 9:22:42 AM | | i dont smoke in front of people who are non smokers. just good manners i think (my own opinion) | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 4/28/2008 8:37:59 AM | | Who says smoking is unhealthy? Every smoker I've ever seen was living. Have you ever seen a corpse smoking a cigarette? And even if you did, it's highly doubtful it was harming them. Next case. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 4/28/2008 8:50:00 AM | | Another myth about smoking is that it's "habit-forming." There is no basis whatsoever for such a claim. My grandfather smoked two packs a day for fifty years, and he never got into the habit. But let's suppose, for the sake of argument, that it is a habit. Why do people think that quitting is going to improve their health? People convinced my grandfather that he had a habit, so he tried to "quit", and choked to death on a piece of nicotine gum. He could just as easily have been hit by a car on his way to the Schick Center. If he hadn't listened to these people, he'd still be with us... still smokin'. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 4/28/2008 10:26:25 AM | This thread looks very interesting, I will read all the responses in a while. But my first reaction, OP:
1. You may as well ask "why do people drink, eat junk food, watch tv, become sex addicts or shopaholics, do drugs, etc etc etc"
2. If you truly can't handle the smoke, you made the right decision by moving on. But most people, IMO, move on too quickly. A lot of smokers don't have to smoke all the time, and they are aware if someone is uncomfortable. Just don't fall into the "It's ok to vilify smokers" trend that has swept the country (it's easier than the 'lets all have universal single payer health insurance' trend that I'm hoping for). I'm not going to fault someone for being a smoker just as I won't fault someone for watching realityTV. We just don't share that in common, but it's not the endall be all.
We are a discriminating animal, don't let it become a weakness.
I also noticed your comment at the end of the page about "nice guys having it hard" or whatever. If you think you are unatractive for whatever reason, then Work On It. Do I want something for nothing? I hope not, but I'm sure my friends and POF will tell me if I am. Quit smoking. Lose weight. Buy nice clothes. Develop hobbies. Practice conversation. Man up. (notsomuch directed at you but to all those who think they can find Love by being Lazy.)
As to why smoking is a turn off... may I suggest finding a better reason? Health is a copout- might as well cross of all the meat eaters, tv watchers, drinkers, nonwalkers... you get the idea. If it's the smell (well first make sure you don't smell like feet, like most guys) or if you are allergic (most people aren't even thought they may think they are) that's another story... just say "go ahead outside, I'll stay at our table" then give them a mint. Damn. | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 4/28/2008 10:29:38 AM | (OP) and actually being overweight and everything associated with that (heart disease, diabetes) kill more people annually than smoking related deaths. Both numbers are high though.
Everything in moderation (including moderation) | |
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| Women Who Smoke
Posted: 4/28/2008 10:33:20 AM | | Thank you ginger tea, I hate the smell of car exhaust (enviromental sickness: asthmasa, cancer, etc) and I don't drive. But we can't go on hatin Drivers like we do Smokers, no can we! | |
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