| | Black women and white menPage 6 of 21 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21) | (Actually white men prefer asian women. Nuff said. I didn't used to be attracted to black women, but that has been changing somewhat lately.)
It depends upon the man...I actually know white men who are not attracted to Asian women at all...but they like black and/or Latina women...just like I know white men who like an attractive woman, period. I've been friends with white guys who only go for Asian women who happen to be submissive..the ones who are submissive BOTH in and out of the bedroom. I don't think they met any of my Asian female friends who wouldn't put up with that shit!
(If I run into an unusually attractive black woman, that would be fine.)
Interesting how you worded that...it totally supports what I've come to realize with certain white men: I've seen white guys date mediocre-looking women of other ethnic backgrounds...but when it comes to a black woman, they want the "prettiest of the pretty black woman" and everything else included. I've been in the presence of white men over the years who basically have said this very statement. While there are non-black men who would consider dating black women, there still are some where a black woman is at the bottom of the list of who they would date. And I don't mean go out a few times and screw, I mean as far as potential relationship material.
I have a niece who is in her late 20s. She models part-time and has done extra work on TV shows. She dated a white guy for almost 2 years. She about 5'8" athletic but with an hourglass figure (size 4 but with a natural D-cup chest (went to college on a lacrosse scholarship). He TOTALLY pursued her, and she was the first black woman he had ever dated...or even asked out for dinner. When he showed her pictures of his ex's WHY were all of them average looking, white women and close to 20-30 lbs overweight?! I'm not saying this to put down women. I'm simply making a point. Maybe it's my environment, but from what I've seen, the same white guy who will date a white women who is nice yet average looking will only consider a black woman who is nice but with higher standards of beauty....or maybe it's just NYC!? And this is even if he's just an average looking white guy! | |
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Posted: 10/14/2011 5:07:34 PM | | I don't find the average run of the mill black woman attractive. Sorry. I've heard black women and asian men are the least married demographics out there. Maybe the black women and asian men should get together. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2011 5:21:36 PM | | I'm not saying an average black woman, I'm mean an honestly attractive black woman...don't get me wrong, while I don't look for models (although I did date one who did commercials when I was younger) I certainly DON'T date mediocre looking men. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2011 5:22:02 PM | | BTW- I was being kind of ironic when I typed that. Although you have to admit, I see asian women paired with white guys all the time. I've also been out on a few occasions with asian women, but never really went anywhere. | |
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Posted: 10/14/2011 6:20:52 PM | (BTW- I was being kind of ironic when I typed that. Although you have to admit, I see asian women paired with white guys all the time. I've also been out on a few occasions with asian women, but never really went anywhere.)
And as someone who has lived in Asia due to my career, I have tons of stories about that. I became friendly with a few Asian women while spending time there and we had a lot of conversations about the whole white man/asian woman thing...but that's ANOTHER thread!
What I was getting at when I made my comment is the following: In some situations, I've seen white men date average to somewhat attractive white women...yet if they "take the plunge in dating a black woman," they raise their standards even more... | |
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Posted: 10/14/2011 6:28:46 PM | Actually white men prefer asian women. Nuff said
Really? Guess again....
BTW- I was being kind of ironic when I typed that. Although you have to admit, I see asian women paired with white guys all the time.
Nah, you were just being stupid. How can you have us admit that you see asian women paired with white guys? Are you peeking in the bedrooms with that heavy-duty zoom-zoom camera? | |
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Posted: 10/14/2011 7:04:35 PM | | No dude-you see them out in public running around and obviously together. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2011 2:01:45 PM | | Black men don't never ask me out. A majority of the men whom court me are either white or Latino. I don't even consider race when it comes to dating. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2011 5:50:56 PM | WIP
There are also guys who are genuinely interested, and it's easy to become jaded and think they are all bad when some actually like and want to get to know you. Try your hardest to take everyone on a case by case basis.
This is the best advice ever!!! Not only for this op but people in general. Like when a woman has a guy with a big wang and he is a bad lover so they all are bad lovers or when a guy has a perfect 10 hottie and she becomes a gold digger so all perfect 10's are gold diggers.
We should all look at people case to case. We shouldn't stereotype and generalize.
But more often than not people do.
To the OP~ Don't discard all us white guys for a few bad apples. We're not all that way. | |
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Posted: 10/15/2011 9:23:21 PM | I'm attracted to black women for several reasons.
First, in general, black girls have a more voluptuous and toned body type I find physically appealing.
Second, I was raised as poor white trash by a single mother with 4 siblings on welfare and the experience of growing up in poverty and rising above that is more common to black girls than whites.
Third, I am a devout Christian and thank Jesus every day for saving my life and my soul. More black girls seem to take their faith seriously than whites.
Lastly, There is something about the contrasting skin colors that appeals to me, I just find it arrousing. I don't know what the causality is; if I find black girls arousing so the physical relationships are better, or if I have had a better connection with black girls and therefore the sex was better, and I now ass0ciate the two.
I'd have no problem marrying a black girl, but in my previous serious relationships with black girls, they ended over
1) politics (she couldn't reconcile that you can hate Obama for a reason other than his race) and
2) She was just really really stupid and I couldn't talk to her about anything because she couldn't understand it.
3) She got so much flack from her friends and family about dating a white guy that they convinced her that she was betraying her race somehow, black power, etc...
Some people just can't stand to see someone find happiness in a place they never looked for it. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2011 12:40:19 AM | (I'd have no problem marrying a black girl, but in my previous serious relationships with black girls, they ended over
1) politics (she couldn't reconcile that you can hate Obama for a reason other than his race) and
2) She was just really really stupid and I couldn't talk to her about anything because she couldn't understand it.
3) She got so much flack from her friends and family about dating a white guy that they convinced her that she was betraying her race somehow, black power, etc...)
The issues that you discussed are less likely to be encountered when dealing with black females who either grew up poor and later became middle-class due to education, or even less likely when dealing with black women who grew up and currently still are middle-class because:
1) We understand just because you dislike someone of a different ethnicity, doesn't make it a racial thing. (News flash: Not EVERY black person in the US is a die-hard supporter and/or feel Obama is doing a stellar job. I've read several articles in the newspapers in New York that have supported this statement.)
2) We are intelligent individuals who can hold a conversation...we were never afraid to "think outside of the box" when it came to finding interests. We never let our race or even gender define the types of things we "should be doing/liking." (Being black of course, I have black friends from all walks of life. No matter how their life started out, they made a way out of no way to get them to where they are today. We have often discussed how certain members within our community give us drama for liking certain things/activities. Yet those very SAME people would raise h*ll if we as black people were banned from liking/doing those same things. We take those people with a grain of salt!)
3)We are strong enough to dismiss other people's negative comments about who we are dating if we truly have found happiness. (Imagine someone making comments about who you are dating...yet every guy they have had a relationship with has either cheated on them or knocked them up and left...perhaps they should clean up their own backyard before advising me who I should date?! I've experienced this firsthand!)
3) Even though we are middle-class, we are still black and understand issues that plague black America. We understand that it IS possible to date or marry someone outside of our ethnic background and STILL be active/give back to our community. | |
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Posted: 10/16/2011 1:21:14 AM | | @SexyKg74: I've had some of those same thoughts myself as the other guy and you answered them, thank you. Number 2 stood out to me the most. I have never understood why people from your own community would use terms like selling out and talking/acting white towards you. I commend you for the intelligence you have posted. | |
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Posted: 10/24/2011 9:31:10 PM | Even though there's plenty of attractive women out there, I kind of have a preference for black women. To me their beauty is more exotic in my eyes. Some of the white women I see walking around almost seem to blend in (though there are plenty of exceptions though).
They're even more attractive when they're classy and professioanl looking (for some reason I find Sanaa Lathan to be a perfect example of this).
The kind of black women I don't find attractive are the skanky ones with all of the negative stereo-typical traits (Deborah Wilson's Chante character on Mad TV is a good example).
Just my two cents!!! | |
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Posted: 10/26/2011 4:46:39 PM | "now a days" the world changed somewhat over the generations but you know whats the same? humanity. it hasn't really moved much, only new gadgets and hyper technology(the death of us all)
. to all the goodie two shoes here, race is "always" an issue. the impulsive humankind(large % including me) is instinctual. in nature practically all species stick together leopard with leopard, lion with lion, cougar with cougar (they all cats). the reason? they share more often than not the same background, history, culture, taste, affliction and stereotype.
"now a days" on paper we should all get a long, equal under the law, easier written than done. date whom ever you want but if i read correctly you are seeking a relationship that has the potential to bloom into : marriage, kids,house & car, " good/serious stuff"; not just a cute date. i think if you communicate that to white guys it will send most(guys in general but the topic is white guys) running if they honest.
when races mix the babe is mixed/up, i would have to consider the longevity of my race i think some/most whites think the same. personally i respect all races but I'm not for the melting pot(orgy). opposite sex getting along is hard enough "now a days" people recognize the error s of there ways in the past but the quick fix lets just mix and do whatever feels good is just a loose concept, it doesn't usually last(and consist of forget your past, and ultimately yourself). I love my past,present and future. peace and love everyone. | |
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Posted: 10/26/2011 10:29:27 PM | | skin color should never matter. there will always be ***holes who just want sex, that will never change. forget all the crap from the idiots and sooner or later a good guy will pop up. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2011 8:42:11 PM | | As a white guy, and I've also been considered unique amongst them, I have wanted to have sex with women of different races to see what differences there are amongst women throughout the world. I have found several black and asain women so attractive however I have never been able to approach women so thing can get pretty difficult for me in face to face first time meetings. I have had several black female friends that I suspect have tried to seduce me but I am pretty oblivious when it comes to these sublte cues. That being drawn out and said. It is a taboo thing most of the time however I have noticed that black women and white men are starting to be seen more commonly together in relationships nowadays. Just like black men and white women. So don't give up just keep trying and I'm sure that you will find someone special very soon. And don't have sex with them until after atleast a fourth date. Every girl I go out with wants sex after date two and none of my relationships seem to work out. I hope this helps. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2011 8:46:58 PM | | sexy kg: I think that I agree with you on this. I believe,even though I can't prove it, that it is mainly because there is still so much racial tension between blacks and whites and both sides continue to perpetuate this tension instead of letting go and trying to find happiness individually. | |
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Posted: 11/6/2011 9:15:56 PM | | I don't discriminate. I like men, period. But too often I receive msgs like "Do u date white guys" or "Hey dark chocolate" and immediately feel irritated. I am not your exotic to try,and I'm not flavor of the week. I've dated men from every continent but Antarctica and it saddens me to have to check my race-blind attraction at the door. Do I get a question like "Are you a chubby chaser?" no. We're more our skin, I want to move past it. I get msgs from a diverse group, but mentioning ethnicity will not get a reply back. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2011 9:49:58 AM | I have run into this kind of thing before, but it isn't just a standard one explanation fits all kind of thing. There are many white men who don't have this preference. I agree with SexyK, that lots of white men that do date black women want the "cream of the crop." They will hold a balck woman to a higher standard than they would someone of their own race, because they feel it will be more acceptable if their friends think the girl is gorgeous. I am half white and half black and I prefer white men. What I have found is that 1) I am the first "black" girl they have dated and it's an "experience" or they flat tell me they like me because I have more "white looking" features. I also notice that I get flack for preferring white men, but thats another thread entirely. The point is there are some white men that will want to date a black woman for the "experience", but not all. I have dated many guys who just happened to find dark skin attractive. Just watch yourself and pay attention to clues that they may not be genuinely interested in you for you. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2011 9:36:51 PM | unfortunately, I have read several posts from gals who are Native, Black, Mexican about being treated like a bootycall. I regret having to tell you this ugly truth. You need to be very careful to screen guys and dont meet them too quickly, don't invite to their house or yours to quickly, keep it in public, spend time writing and talking on the phone well in advance of meeting in person to avoid this kind of sexpectation disrespect ofr you. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 5:50:09 PM | | I have experienced this and I'll be honest and say that I don't like the "try a black girl" attitude and how open SOME people can be about it. I will also say that it is one thing to go after a woman with purely sexual intentions and completely another to sexually target a woman because of her race (doesn't matter what race it is). It's demeaning and suggests that my female parts are somehow different from another womans female parts, like it's "alien" or "exotic". | |
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