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| | How do you feel about interacial dating?Page 10 of 26 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15, 16, 17, 18, 19, 20, 21, 22, 23, 24, 25, 26) | | I wouldn't say all Canadians are liars. I for one don't care what color people are. However I do tend to "admire" those different than myself. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 4/8/2006 1:32:51 PM | I love dating outside of my race - all flavors of men are delicious and nutritious.
I get a lot of grief from African American men - I get comments, snickering, and even confrontations in the street ....
However, if I were walking down the street with a Puerto Rican man...my cultural equal..and if he happened to have brown skin (cuz we all don't) - then wouldn't get remarks..because I am with my "kind" --
ignorant,
to be honest ...I would be bored to tears if my only options of men were my "kind" or color....
I am a sell out --- my social nickname to some,
and yet....I am not African American...brown skin is brown skin, yes..but culturally...Latin Caribbean culture and their culture vary greatly - I don't like people twisting the facts.
I rotate my flavors of interest....I may not date a white guy for months...or I may date one tomorrow...
This means...if I am not in the mood to date African American men, I won't...I wait until I get that craving again, bottom line...
What is so funny is that many South Americans, and Europeans come in all shades of olive to creamy skin.....
One can't presume that you know the heritage of someone by their skin - I mean, one of my closest friends is a Nigerian Jewish German girl with green eyes, straight hair and olive skin.
As for dating outside of my race, I will continue to do so..because there are too many beautiful men of all races out there...to just limit myself to one flavor. 2 scoops please. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 4/9/2006 10:21:15 AM | I would definitly allow my kids to date people outside their race. Cause I don't have a standard (so to speak) race myself! I'm part Indian, Italian, Portuguese and, as my skin can't deny, African. I'm Brazilian and we love to get mixed! lol Nah... that's kind of a cliche. But I do have a thing for interacial relationships. To me, it's a turn on to love a man of a different skin tone. So... Interacial lovers... KEEP ON LOVING!  | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 4/9/2006 10:37:46 AM | "Think I answered this once before. But, I'm fine with people dating aliens. If people truly wanted to date another 'race', aside from humans. I guess it would all just depend on if the alien sexs are compatible with ours. You can't put a mouse plug into a USB port on your PC for instance."
Yes but converters have been made for PS2 to USB keyboards and mice, much in the same way if people were to come across an alien race -- we'd figure out some way to bang them i assure you. There's a dollar to be made from everything and if love doesn't find a way, the business world sure as hell will. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 4/9/2006 11:10:44 AM | | I was married to an African American (black as he prefers) for over fourteen years and have two boys as a result. My experience with him was no different than if i dated any other guy white black or blue because of his education and his family upbringing. Everyone seems to stereotype a skin color or a race to a behavior whether its a speech difference, or the way they dress. For me the attraction is not for how different we are but for the similarities we ll have and the differences that I want to embrace into my own life. I love to learn about new cultures and I will sometimes even incorporate it into my life. Its not changing who i am its growing into a better me. The more we embrace the differences the less we stand in the black and white of this world. My two boys will not have to consider dating interracially as a no go zone because they are already of multiple races. People think we lose our identities when we combine races and cultures, but everyone is an individual and our identity is being comfortable with who we are as a person. If there is no one in this world that will be willing to challenge what society says is correct or not then we would not advance at all in this human race. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 4/9/2006 7:57:38 PM | | Being Native American makes it a difficult question to answer but, I would have to say that I stay as close as I can to other Native Americans. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 4/9/2006 8:54:28 PM | | I dont mind dating outside of my race. My family is very multicultural and dont mind. I usually run into a problem, if their family has a problem with it. My mother raised me to see people for their character, not their color. I like getting to know everybody. I have dated, phillipino, indian/spanish, italian, white, hawiaan, puerto rican, etc. Whatever works for yah,, but you shouldn't ridicule anyone for dating outside of their race. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 4/10/2006 8:52:54 AM | Medicaldiver, why do you say, "being Native American makes it a difficult question..."? I'm just curious. Do Native American's not believe in this or is because it's the social barrier you live?
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Posted: 4/10/2006 8:55:20 AM |
...if I am not in the mood to date African American men, I won't...I wait until I get that craving again, bottom line...
So, now you gotta have a craving to date a African American? WoW! What's that like? Just kidding. But really, I can't say that I've heard it put like that.
DoDat
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Posted: 4/10/2006 4:11:18 PM | | Well it seems this will always be a debate, but there are pros and cons for example if you are into doing the rainbow tribe thing cool have it on with whoever, but if your concerns are about having children and you think the best way forward is well love will conquer all,in theroy that maybe true but in my field of work this not the case although in a lot of cases its tolerable,children always have problems and it is not just ther problems it is everyones problem when it comes to a duty of care. issues black, white or mixed race.in my view if you are going to date "interracially" then it is important to know how far you are willing to go and will there be children coming along the way, sex might just be sex and fun but i feel its gets serious there is a lot to weigh up. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2006 5:59:21 PM | | hey this is the same in england, spain, france, australia, and germany well hell all over europe its hidden but common knowledge but i have to say up to this point in every country i or someone I know have been stopped by the police even in my jacket and tie going to work. i have so much info about this behaviour i could not post it, here would not be the right forum. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 4/13/2006 9:23:00 AM | Well , if i may throw my 2 cents in...
IM AS WHITE AS THEY COME, I LISTEN TO HEAVY METAL MUSIC, DRINK BEER AND LOVE 4X4'IN.... AND IVE DATED ASIAN, EAST INDIAN AND BLACK WOMEN,
AND TRUTH BE TOLD, I COULDNT HAVE BEEN HAPPIER
NO REGRETS....NO MIND....
AND FOR THE BRUTHA WHO INSISTS CANADA IS MORE RACIST THAN THE US,
YOUR AN IDIOT......YOU ARE AN IDIOT....... I DONT THINK I NEED TO SAY IT AGAIN | |
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Posted: 4/16/2006 7:49:56 AM | Interesting post...you pointed out that women come down hard on you when you colored outside the lines...that's there own insecurities and jealousy shining through...I date outside of my race and it's amusing (to a certain extent) that black men go out of their way to try and intimidate whoever I'm with with the looks they give...I always think to myself "if I wasn't with the man I'm with now I still wouldn't be with you". Hate, envy, and jealousy are such ugly things, really...go with what makes you happy, don't let other people decide what is good for you...how would they know? Only you know that...as far as your fair-weather friend that you lost after coloring outside of the lines, better they show their true face now then later...can't make everyone happy all the time, can you...do you... | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 4/16/2006 8:10:57 AM | I, personally, have not dated outside my race--tempted once but again the thought of what my family would say, honestly, stopped me from going forward---LESSON LEARNED! Now, not that I'm set out to date only those outside my race, but I'm more willing to explore the possibilities--it's always said, love comes easiest when you're not looking. I agree with everyone on this thread, love has nothing to do with the color of ones skin and family should be happy for you...Period!
But here's a story, I recently asked a white friend of mine how he would feel dating a white girl who had dated black men. His response really threw me off guard--he said he wouldn't date her because he felt that most white women only date black men for their expertise in bed. I KNOW that there are white men who have it together and know how to please a woman and there are those that don't. Isn't it the same regardless of skin color? Why would someone dismiss a potential mate based on what she's done in her past? Does that mean that because I used to date a drug user that those against drugs won't date me--isn't it the same principle? HHmm, food for thought......... | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 4/16/2006 8:20:50 AM | " in my view if you are going to date "interracially" then it is important to know how far you are willing to go and will there be children coming along the way, sex might just be sex and fun but i feel its gets serious there is a lot to weigh up."
IMO.... the ppl. who say bi-racial children will have problems, are same ppl. who would cause the problems. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2006 12:18:43 PM | " I would'nt do it! I have friends of all races, but dating 'interacial' No!"
This type of thinking always cracks me up. It's like some of my best "friends" are
________. But just don't bring one of em' home ( i.e. realtionship or mariage).
Whatta' joke. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 4/16/2006 1:50:04 PM | I feel pretty darn good about interracial dating. I've had Latina, mixed, and Asian girlfriends. My wife was a Chinese national.
My preferences run towards traditionally-raised Asians because of the mix of values it brings to the table. My wife, and all of her friends and family, were very smart, hard-working, loving people. I won't turn anyone away, however. I love 'em all. :)
The folks who said it's more culture than race are dead-on, though. The biggest problems I had dealing with my wife and her group stemmed from culture - language barrier, different values, that sort of thing. Stuff that I didn't think twice about turned out to be offensive. The more modern among them understood. The old-schoolers, like her parents, didn't. Going to China to meet my new family was a difficult, difficult experience.
It was our cultural differences that eventually drove us apart; I lost my job, and couldn't get another one in my field for a long time. In China, you Just Don't Do That. My being unemployed was pretty much the most humilating thing I could put my wife through, whether it was my fault or not. Eventually she stopped loving me because of it, and threw me out.
It's ironic because now that I'm on my own, I managed to land a *great* job in my field, primarily because I was able to move to Silicon Valley, where all the jobs are. lol
Anyway, and this is gonna sound funny, I'm all for interracial dating... as long as it's done for the "right" reasons. If it's because you're just plain open to all comers, great. If it's because you get thrown in with someone and love blossoms, great. If you're a black guy chasin' white booty just because it's a way to stick it to "the man", not great. If you're (any) guy chasin' Asian women because you want a mute little geisha doll, not great. If you're doing it to prove how "progressive" and "trendy" you are, not great. Then you're not with that person because you love *them*, but because you love the idea of being able to say that you're dating someone *like* them. They become interchangeable.
Know what I mean, Vern? | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 4/16/2006 2:34:20 PM | @wonkabar
Hey some guys just wanna "stick it" irregardless of who it is But on a serious note, to bad your wife threw you out b/c you were unemployed.....I mean what part of "for better or worse" did she and her family not get???
I dunno, I gotta believe that all Chinese can't have this attitude, whether 'old-school' or modern', about the unemployment thing. Could it be that her parents just didn't want her with a white guy ( and used your unemployment as a convient excuse, afterall you did say they were "old-school")?? Another thing, why wouldn't your wife have prepared you for what to expect in China i.e. customs, culture, parents etc.??? | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 4/16/2006 2:57:50 PM |
@wonkabar
Hey some guys just wanna "stick it" irregardless of who it is But on a serious note, to bad your wife threw you out b/c you were unemployed.....I mean what part of "for better or worse" did she and her family not get???
Funny you should mention that, I asked her the self-same question: "so I guess you didn't mean it when you said 'for richer or for poorer, for better or for worse, till death do you part'?"
Truth be told, I don't blame her fully. I mean, for a while I got really depressed and played the victim. I think if I'd been on my own I wouldn't have "coasted" so much... but there's a long, long backdrop to this story that I don't feel like going into right now. Suffice to say, she was at fault, I was at fault, and the fact that it led to a divorce is pretty heartbreaking, because it truly was a case of outside influences driving apart two people who loved one another.
I dunno, I gotta believe that all Chinese can't have this attitude, whether 'old-school' or modern', about the unemployment thing. Could it be that her parents just didn't want her with a white guy ( and used your unemployment as a convient excuse, afterall you did say they were "old-school")?? Another thing, why wouldn't your wife have prepared you for what to expect in China i.e. customs, culture, parents etc.???
You'd be wrong - I don't presume to speak for all Chinese, but when I mentioned it to a pen-pal I met here who lives in Singapore (hi Ariel! love ya!), she comfirmed my POV. I think her exact words were, "it's not fair to my Chinese brothers that my Chinese sisters have this way of thinking".
And no, her parents loved me to death... and she hid my unemployment from them for years. The only reason they found out was because somebody told her sister. I forget who. When she went back to China this year and told my parents she was divorcing me, they cried. "My daddy cried. I never saw him cry.", she told me later.
I also was pretty prepared for what I experienced in China. By then, I'd been living with my wife and socializing with her friends and coworkers for several years. I *thought* I understood Chinese custom. And to be honest, I did. The trouble was, while my wife (and her boss, who is also Chinese and a very close, respected friend of the family) "briefed" her parents on what not to do around me (I get uncomfortable in large crowds, being the center of attention), they pretty much ignored both of them and did it anyway.
For example, my wife's boss said to my father-in-law, "don't take him out to the countryside to visit your mother." Nai-nai (my grandmother-in-law) is close to 100 years old, and *very* traditional. Yet, I had barely been there a week when lo and behold, we were out in the countryside in some tiny farming village that didn't even have roads or outhouses, and I was kneeling on the floor and kow-towing to nai-nai, offering her gifts of money and generally being subservient and respectful. My father-in-law had completely ignored my boss' advice.
Ironically, I was fully willing to do this, despite the fact that *no one* bows and scrapes like that anymore. I figured "hey, she's the head of the family, she deserves my complete respect." So I didn't mind.
On the other hand, I *did* mind the constant dinners out with twenty or thirty friends and relatives that insisted on making me the center of attention, talked about me in Chinese, "showed off" their kids' English, and other things of that nature. Chinese people are very communal. I am very private. I got tired of being hounded... they thought they were showing their love by constantly asking my wife if I was hungry, or whatever. It stopped being cute after a week.
The second time I went to China, things were a bit more relaxed in that regard. I knew what to expect, and I "played the game". Her parents knew what to expect, and eased up a little. It was a much better experience, although not without its bumps, of course.
But the thing is, that people are raised to do things a certain way... and they may or may not always be able to get around that. My wife, for all of her progressiveness, was very set in her ways - she'd acknowledge my differences and say she understood, but then she'd go ahead and do her own thing anyway.
I won't be so closed-minded as to say it's an "Asian-wide" trait, but when I was later dating a Vietnamese girl, telling her "do not clean my apartment" was an equally futile gesture.  | |
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Posted: 4/16/2006 3:09:26 PM | | BestGuy... how is someones preference to who they 'date' 'sexual relationship,marriage' a joke? you can have friends of other races,and bring them 'home' as friends.. but! it dos'nt mean you are sexual attracted to them and want to sleep with them or marry them. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 4/16/2006 3:31:00 PM | | I am a guy who has had many relationships all with women of different races, trust me when I tell you there is no difference, a woman is a woman. However their personality,self respect and common sense level is what made all the difference in the relationship. A person is a product of their experiences. And experiences come to us all. If you are a guy who enjoys learning and exploring different cultures and people I suggest you become "color blind" and date women of different races, trust me just trying the food and practices alone are a blast. From my experiences the only difference between dating a white or black girl is the extended long stares you get from people who don't know anything at all about "the beings in the skins they are observing." | |
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