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 HzChld
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 401
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Very well stated, BstKptScrt.
 saiyan_1
Joined: 8/26/2005
Msg: 402
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/17/2006 8:50:47 AM
Well said, BstKptScrt, and in an ideal world where everything is all sweet and purty, your idealism would fly as high as any banner.... however, as pokerjimmy states, idealism and REALISM are too different things. We SHOULD live in a world free of prejudice, a world where ones personal beliefs and preferences are respected, but we arent. I see the... complacence and ease of dating within ones own race AND culture (remember, some of us, especially CANADIANS, might share MORE commonalities with somone of their same CULTURE and environ, than someone of their own RACE.) I, for one, uphold a more CANADIAN mentality, especially with regards to the general treatment of women, than a Jamacian one. My dad is certainly the same race as me, but grew up in COMPLETELY different cultures, and hold different views and values, especially about women. I have more in common with a white woman CULTURALLY and MORALLY than many blacks, male OR female, because of where I grew up. All I have in common with THEM... is the veneer you see on the outside... the color of my skin; which, I think we ALL can agree, does not in any way allude to what kind of person lies within that skin...
 YEAIDD
Joined: 4/7/2006
Msg: 403
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/17/2006 10:41:03 AM
BstKptScrt well put my man.....im not mad atcha!
 BstKptScrt
Joined: 8/2/2006
Msg: 404
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/17/2006 5:59:35 PM

i've never heard such a ridiculous remark
-serenityCW


i have a problem with him because he dated a white woman
-lipsticklove


the disadvantages of dating outside of my race is racial jokes i can not tolerate
-lipsticklove


As far as people saying race doesn't matter, that's just ignorance
-pokerjimmy


People...don't be pathetically stupid
-pokerjimmy


I see the... complacence and ease of dating within ones own race AND culture (remember, some of us, especially CANADIANS, might share MORE commonalities with somone of their same CULTURE and environ, than someone of their own RACE...I have more in common with a white woman CULTURALLY and MORALLY than many blacks, male OR female, because of where I grew up
-saiyan_1

Sometimes, others make your point better than you ever could. I'm done here...
 BstKptScrt
Joined: 8/2/2006
Msg: 405
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/17/2006 6:00:53 PM

i've never heard such a ridiculous remark
-serenityCW


i have a problem with him because he dated a white woman for ten years and he had the mannerism of white people and this pissed me off for some reason. He and i have been togther for 4 years and in the back of mind i still think he would be happier with a white woman.
-lipsticklove


the disadvantages of dating outside of my race is racial jokes i can not tolerate
-lipsticklove


As far as people saying race doesn't matter, that's just ignorance
-pokerjimmy


People...don't be pathetically stupid
-pokerjimmy


I see the... complacence and ease of dating within ones own race AND culture (remember, some of us, especially CANADIANS, might share MORE commonalities with somone of their same CULTURE and environ, than someone of their own RACE...I have more in common with a white woman CULTURALLY and MORALLY than many blacks, male OR female, because of where I grew up
-saiyan_1

Sometimes, others make your point better than you ever could. I'm done here...
 BstKptScrt
Joined: 8/2/2006
Msg: 406
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/17/2006 6:08:00 PM
Apologies for the double post....
 serenityCW
Joined: 1/21/2006
Msg: 407
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How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/20/2006 1:04:17 AM
bstkptscrt says in his post:
"Pity about the lack of sophisticated black women in your neighborhood. I can sympathize with your predicament, and yours is not an uncommon lament. My hometown is similar in many respects. I suppose that's why the women that I've shared long term relationships with have predominantly been of other ethnic backgrounds as well as from other parts of the country."

then he runs off after quoting a little piece of what i had to say, implying a totally different context.

this has nothing to do with the bible or complacency, this has to do with putting down black women. i still say it's ridiculous. only the women in your town were unsophisticated and the men i suppose were all sophisticated? because if they also weren't sophisticated, then why not put yourself down and if they all were, i'd love to know how this all happened? brilliant men and a bunch of doofy women?!*

yes, there are some unsophisticated black women AND unsophisticated white women. there are also sophisticated black and white women. date whoever you please, that's not the point and certainly not mine given the way i lead my life, my friends, my "dates", my children....the point is you don't need to have a reason to like a physical or cultural characteristic, just don't go quoting the bible to put down a group of people, let alone women 'cause you're a man. you only put down others when your own self esteem is lacking. everyone has a story, some of us have heavy duty stories and everyone has their physical preferences, but a preference need not be a put down to others. furthermore, despite our initial physical preferences a good number of us will drop it all in a moment if we find the "right" person on all other levels. so if you like blondes and you get a smart, funny, honest, caring redhead or brunette--use your imagination or ask her to wear a wig to bed one night! lighten up! get a sense of humor and empathy and see between peoples lines when they act a certain way in a certain "town". sometimes your role is played out, even before you try on your slippers for the part. every woman needs her prince charming. even the unsophisticated cinderella's.
 Sh0t
Joined: 9/27/2006
Msg: 408
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/20/2006 10:59:24 AM


my Bible certainly doesn't indicate that God would have me chose whom I love based upon anything else but shared faith in Christ. I am very thankful for that. I


Ever try reading it?

Old testament is full of racialist views that the israelites were superior to those around them
 MrLongrove
Joined: 11/7/2006
Msg: 409
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/21/2006 5:36:17 AM
If a man and woman are attracted to each other they should get together. Period. If they can deal with other peoples ignorance and hangups (and they will encounter those types), they should be fine.
 Sigi
Joined: 5/26/2005
Msg: 410
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/23/2006 6:11:57 AM

How do you feel about interacial dating?

^^ Never found it unusual.

I live in a multi-cultural environment and I embrace it every day...variety is the spice of life !
But I will say it again...personal traits do matters more while dating.
 lucilou
Joined: 3/18/2006
Msg: 411
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Posted: 11/23/2006 6:26:00 AM
DJDODAT?? Just curious?? what do you mean by " An Asian, awww, hell naww "
 indrinita
Joined: 9/18/2006
Msg: 412
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/23/2006 3:02:32 PM
Seeing as I'm in a relationship with someone outside my ethnicity (and always have been with people who are not necessarily of my heritage) who I'm going to marry and have children with most likely, hell yeah I'd let my children date outside my race! I say mix it up, the world can't be fighting each other if we're all coming from the same origins and look like each other (well of course we do all have the same origins in the first place but people seem to find ways to fight in any case).

And I agree with everything Mayan Riviera said.. This is really not an issue in Canada, it probably is in the US because there always seems to be talkshows about it and all that. It just makes me laugh because I think it's such a non-issue.

 pitbullnoel
Joined: 9/13/2006
Msg: 413
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/23/2006 9:16:10 PM
completely a non issue. All that matters is that you and the other person is compatible. I have never heard any negative comments and I have never seen people look at us differently either, nobody cares and thats the way it should be.

someone said they wouldnt be able to deal with it hearing the remarks, well I dont expect any, if there ever is, well no way would it change the way I feel about her, I would just change the way I feel about the person who is making the remarks.

a beautiful lady is a beautiful lady regardless of skin colour or ethnic background.

as you can see in my profile pictures she is a beautiful girl and I am happy I found someone like her
 djdodat
Joined: 3/3/2006
Msg: 414
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/27/2006 7:30:05 AM
Lucilou,

For clarification... sorry to have my statement misunderstood. I date all races. I DO NOT DISCRIMINATE! Except with men of course! Seriously, I meant that Asian/Blacks were not accepted for stereotypical reasoning. Are we cool now?


DoDat
 funloving_25
Joined: 5/17/2005
Msg: 415
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/11/2006 11:58:26 AM
It is a shame that so many people get caught up on something like this! I have a 2 year old daughter. I am white and her father is Black. She is the product of a loving relationship and that is all that should matter! I heard a speech yesterday at a graduation in NC where the speaker talked about what this class whould be know as. .... she went on to say that we can only hope that this class (generation) will be the first to see past a color, to the depths of a soul. For the sake of my daughter and all others I hope so too. You can not help who your heart falls for
 serenityCW
Joined: 1/21/2006
Msg: 416
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Posted: 12/11/2006 10:29:24 PM
indrinita, you are in such denial!!! check out the thread on interracial couples and take it from an manwho lived in canada and now lives in new york with respect to racial intolerance--hidden, but not spoken. i wish i could find the one from the canadian mom whom no one would date because her kids were bi-racial. that was only a few months ago. we all advised her to MOVE, for the sake of her children and not her love life.

you protest too much! constantly! on every thread i've been. never in canada! seen any demgraphics lately? my african anerican friend, a demographer, laughs. intellectual espousing should manifest itself in reality. where are the demographics to support such liberality? and by the way, why do you watch these garbage talk shows? sometimes i think you can make these threads an upscale version of jerry springer with all your "not me" pointing the finger at americans. demand begets supply! i don't watch these shows. they are garbage shows catering to people who will watch them denigrate others. jerry springer? give me a break! but, shown "internationally" nonetheless! why is that? if no demand, they wouldn't be shown.

how about it all my fellow "stupid" americans, do we all just love watching junk shows that denigrate racial and ethnic groups? is that who's on POF? a bunch of american bigots? sure there are a number, but i think most are decent. if i am wrong, then what am i doing here?

that being said, if Oprah or Tyra Banks does a show on "integration" or whatever you wish to call the related topic (on dating, kids, profiling, redlining, skinheads, etc. ) , they do it to keep the ball rolling on getting rid of "pockets" of ignorance--particularly in all white areas. do you see them moving to canada? duh....so maybe you should watch their shows instead. and better still, invite them to do one on the canadian mom who has to move from her all white area where she cannot get a date. and yes, the same can happen here. that's why we are educating and learning.

i remember i once had an assistant with a similar claim to tolerance--she lived in america. denial knows no country, see? she loved us jews! but, only six in her entire town. where were the others if they were so tolerant? if a whole bunch of us moved into her town, would she still love us as we threatened her labor pool, etc. PLEASE this is not a remark to all Canadians. it's to a very specific person who just doesn't let up. the more i think about it, are you some kind of jerry springer plant? to spice up the threads and create contoversy and hostility? we've spoken privately and i know some of your story, but you don't get the hint. so, if you want to dish it out--you'd better be prepared to take it as well. you would be a lot more helpful, explaining what you explained to me--in a more respectful manner to those of use who walk our talk 24 hours a day, seven days a week--no reprieve.
 pebbles_2006
Joined: 7/19/2006
Msg: 417
How do you feel about interacial dating? read my forum then u know what im about
Posted: 12/11/2006 10:49:50 PM
Well i would be truthful & Blunt with u..... A person's race or creed is just skin deep its what's inside that person counts....

Me saying that meant that I am into interacial dating because majority of my relationships
/engagements/dating partners were inter racial. I myself is a mixed decent= Spanish/chinese/filipina.... my parents are against inter-racial relationships yet myself & my siblings all are with inter-racial relationships.

As I was saying... My first relationship/first bf/first experience I was 21 he was Chinese/Canadian that lasted 7 years. MY first fiancee of 4 years was pakistani/canadian. My 2nd fiancee was French/Canadian that lasted 2 years & 4 mos & the last fiancee/most recent was Scottish/American that lasted a year and a half. And the ones that followed were mostly dating.... I dated an Italian, Irish, Hungarian, Polish. Guy who's born and raised from Barbados (Black), Jamaican, japanese, English, and to name a few..

My point to all this- racism makes a great deal in all this...... we are all of the same thing, whether u have a different race, color, creed, religion- we are all the same breed. we eat the same food, we get hurt the same, we all fall inlove, we all get are hearts broken, we all have mom and dads, and so on.

Race is just outer layer that makes it for us to be different from everyone else. I have dated been in a relationship and have been engaged to several inter- racial relationships and as for my kids in the future I would encourage them to do the same like my parents have with myself & my siblings before they were skeptic of it too because they wanted for us to date within our mixed race but they come to realize that we are in north america we are brought up a different way now & also because we as human beings shouldnt discourage being friends or have a love relationship with other race because of what others around us think say or do.... you as a person should know what u are comfortable with and what is good for u.... not what society thinks for u.

MY bestfriends are Fijian, Japanese & East Indians.... the thing with me I love to explore other cultures.other languages and most of all I dont discriminate anyone to be with me or be my friend because I have open minded understanding because I am of mixed race myself so I know what its like to be different.....
 ~LoriMac~
Joined: 3/12/2006
Msg: 418
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/12/2006 1:50:31 AM
I am all for interaccial dating...most people I have been involved with were of a different race...my only problem with it is when the person doesnt take into account my cultural differences...its more than holidays, language and food. I was raised differently. I cant say what caucasian women (or women of other ethnicities) are like but i know for me there are just things about me that just are me. My family, habbits, beliefs etc are all so part of me the person will have to be understanding of that. I am very canadianized but I was raised by a black mother. I am not religious but know the bible inside and out, I am not extremely tradditional but enjoy being the woman in a relationship, I dont care what my guy does...but he needs to do something that makes him happy. I cant have one night stands, act as though all things are always equal, or be whiter. I wont be someone's experiment or version of rebelling. I was raised differently than that.
 colt8301
Joined: 10/25/2006
Msg: 419
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/12/2006 3:25:00 AM
I personally don't care who dates who, and I like who shows interest in me. I can attest that women of other races has shown more interest in me than my own for some reasons unknown but honestly like women are all the same they just handle situations differently. I come from a family that everyone has dipped their hands in another cookie Jar, my mother is currently dating a white guy, and i could care less. as far as my offspring goes they do what the hell they want to do. what i find funny though is my boy who is spanish brought something to my attention i never realized until a couple of years ago. He said if any girl that's of any race other than mexican messes with a black dude the girl is considered "tainted" that why they say once you go black you never go back because you are not allowed to go back, and i replied "black guys sure are on everybody's s*%&list" lol
 NancyC123
Joined: 12/17/2006
Msg: 420
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Posted: 12/22/2006 8:59:48 PM
Been there/done that with dating within my race....now my only preference is dating White men.
 Sweetiepie268
Joined: 11/15/2005
Msg: 421
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Posted: 12/23/2006 12:06:37 PM
I like everyone but I really like asian men. There is just something about them that is just so sexy.
 quadmom
Joined: 11/6/2006
Msg: 422
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Posted: 12/23/2006 12:41:42 PM
I read someone saying that black men/women didn't share their same morals...

I need to stay outta this thread before I snap.
 kingfisher1
Joined: 1/18/2007
Msg: 423
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Posted: 1/23/2007 4:49:50 PM
As long as you're proud to be with the person you're with, nothing else matters..It's all just opinion oriented and don't mean sh*t!
 000firefighter
Joined: 12/25/2005
Msg: 424
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Posted: 1/23/2007 5:13:09 PM
My son who is all of 12 going on 20,,,lives in a multi cultural town and attends a multi cultural school,,,I was talking to him on the phone last night and he is ,,if you can call it ,dating a young Asian lady,,,I think its beautiful,,,there might be 3 Caucasian children in his class and its a French emersion school,,,its so nice to see them all together and having fun,,,I can't even pronounce half of his friends names...I hope its like this everywhere I am learning from him.
 redheadedhaley
Joined: 1/3/2007
Msg: 425
How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 1/23/2007 10:45:56 PM
I look at it this way dogs don't mate with cats, but for example a Boxer will mate with a Poodle. See what I'm getting at they are both dogs just different breeds. Would I allow my children to date outside of their "race"? No I'd like them to stay with the HUMAN RACE. I just want them to be happy, to be truly in love and be loved by another wonderful HUMAN. As for me hell I'd just like to meet someone to date.
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