| How do you feel about interracial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 10:10:04 PM | I think its fine,I was jumped as a teenager buy 12 guys my age because I was dating a black girl (the only black girl) in our school.It didnt stop me. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/22/2005 10:41:42 PM | Open minded. BUT do your homework and research first. There is lot to be said of the impact of different culture and lifestyle, that can override the 'love and romance' factor. In some races, some of the differences are serious, others are just humerous and interesting
On the serious side, interracial can mean different religions also. Always a tough one to negotiate. But its possible...Be informed before making a decision !! thats what I do myself and also tell any children... | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/23/2005 7:16:51 AM | I think it don't matter as long as you have feelings for some-one. Who you like is a personal preference thing. I have dated only 1 person outside my race. He was 1/2 Italian and 1/2 Argentina Queros Native Indian. The total European man. To tell you the truth I never saw his colour. He was just plain beautiful to me. I would not hesitate to date outside my own race at all.
I also would not fault my children for doing so either. We are all 'brothers with another mother' under our skins. (I've heard that saying a lot lately.) Good thread. I like it.  | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/23/2005 5:57:01 PM | | Wow...this issue is so foreign to me...it's not an issue at all in Canada...when I would see it as topics in talk shows (US talks shows, of course)...I'm perplexed because I don't understand how or why it is an issue. Besides true true love...does not see color, race or religion...it's not about their exterior quality..it's about their soul. I'm not attracted to blondes, low and behold the people I have fallen for have all been blonde...and it certainly wasn't because of their external traits. I still don't understand why it is an issue, outside of the historical issues, finding/being with your true mate should not have anything to do with it, otherwise, you're just denying yourself true happines...and for what. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/23/2005 6:30:30 PM |
I don't see race. Love to me is love and as long as my heart can see clear to yours . . .
Hear, hear!
I have no problem with it if my son dates outside of our "color-scheme!" What I care about most is that she loves him and he loves her.
People are people. My parents were somewhat racist and when I had a crush on a Native American in highschool my mom flipped. Fortunately for her, he and I never dated but we flirted outrageously and that was fun for what it was. Man, he was gorgeous! And funny!
Once away from home though, I dated whomever I liked. I've dated Italian, Spanish, Asian, East Indian, Native American, Black and White. It's all good to me generallly speaking, but the truth is--I am the biggest sucker for big dark eyes and dark skin and a beautiful smile. I don't know what it is about men who are darker than me--it makes me feel protected in a way I can't even explain. I feel more . . . valued, yet it isn't something I can put my finger on as to why that is. I don't rule out nor choose men based on skin color though--I go where my heart leads me, and if it turns out the guy I'm crazy about also happens to have darker skin than me, that's a welcome bonus. I'm so pale though too that just about everybody on the planet has darker skin than me. LOL!
Anyway, yes, I agree that it's about love above all else. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/23/2005 9:18:53 PM | | Ok, I am going to give an opinion and will probably be blasted for it but I don't care. I see nothing wrong with interracial dating. I have dated a couple of black girls and a few asian girls. I would have some serious objections though if I had a daughter who wanted to date a black guy. Let me explain. I have worked with alot of black guys and I have seen their attitudes about dating white girls. They make it a point of rubbing it in to white guys like they are paying us back for historical reasons when they date a white girl. This also seems to be some kind of trophy to them. They think they have succeeded as a man because they got a white girl. Like I said, I am just going by the things I have had black co-workers say to me, and if that is why they want to date someone, then I think it is the wrong reason. Also, I have worked with alot of black women who complain how irresponsible black males are. They are usually raising their kids by working 2 jobs as the father is nowhere to be seen. I have started seeing alot of white women with bi-racial children with no father. I feel sorry for those kids as it is tough enough growing up without a father present. If you don't like what I said, prove me wrong. I am sure there are exceptions but they are not the norm. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/23/2005 9:22:55 PM | to me it matters. it's kinda like food flavor. vanilla is cool, chocolate is cool, but caramel just makes my mouth water... he he he :))) i think there are different dynamics to each race, and it is what makes them flavourful, richly unique and different, and thank god for that... i don't have a preference either way, really, but the best looking man i've ever seen was spanish + black + native american. god save me, i had an urge to grab him right in starbucks, thrown him down and give in to the cave woman impulses. lololol... geez, there was just something about that long dark hair, those intense black eyes and his warm smile, that woke up some old warrior in me and i saw red... lolol...
i like them exotic and unique, and maybe because i am so pure blooded mixed races appeal to me so much... or maybe it was just him, and i would felt the impulse to chew his butt even if he were short and 300lbs, u never know... he he he
ps. just in case u r curious, we didnt date more than a week, i think i scared the heck out of him...lolol | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/23/2005 10:23:06 PM | | A guy proposed a theory to me once that mixed races are higher on the evolutionary ladder because it takes the best genes from both races...and I agree...a lot of exceptional kids are mixed. Same race breeding/inbreeding could almost be considered unrevolutionary in that the breeding process is stagnant/same/very status quo. Other then the fact that the world is shrinking...the countries are becoming more multi-cultural...interacial relationships are inevitable and simply a natural consequence to a progressive modern society. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/24/2005 8:48:16 AM | sweetied30,,,same thing here ...only i didnt have any contact with my parents the three years i was with him..i simply didnt exsist...well hes gone my parents are there,,, but the trust was gone when all the words of rejection came flying out of there mouths
i agree im grown i pay my bills love and respect me for who iam not what or who you want me to be | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/24/2005 10:18:49 AM | Like Whoa! Did I miss some interesting post or what?? RDtoo... I respect anyones . However, I, being a blk man, must stand up for some of us. Correction to your assumption: "They" = not just blk men but also all creeds. There's a problem nationally with deadbeat dads that has no color barrier. Now, I understand to a degree about your childrens date wish list. However, you were one sided a bit. You spoke about your daughter dating a blk man, being stereo typical to a degree about hearsay... that... by the way holds no grown in a court of law... so lets assume the same practice here... What if your son wanted to date a blk woman? Do you have a thing or something about them too from what you heard?
I agree that there are "SOME" and not "They" (blk men) that abondon their kids and leave everything to the mother. I see this trend everyday with everyone. So, yeah buddy, you may get blasted a little with your false allegation. A little to tip to address people... if you choose the word "they", be factual about your comments. Otherwise, try "some" to leave a window of integrity and balance. Ones intelligence speaks in the way they type and/or respond. Just how intelligent are you?? 
Sounds to me like you may have been one to have had your woman taken by a blk man and now you have a bit of a chip on your shoulder. It'll be okay If you ever heard R Kelly new CD about loosing your woman because of not having a tight enough game, then step your game up buddy. Don't ever feel like we as blk men choose to take any woman for the alleged throwback of a time that most of us never lived but studied through American History. Its by way of something called appreciation and love. Something, I don't if you have. Do you? That's a copout statement for you to say. If I'm with a white woman in public, its because I respect and love her enough to want to be with her... NOT society to pove a point. I find you to be so lame for assumING such nonesense.
Anyway, maybe the dudes at your workplace say the things you're hearing because they know what type of person you are just to get under skin. Maybe that in itself is another thread for you to start because you have a personal story of your own. Was your woman taking by another race? Blk man maybe? Hmmmm.. The General Thread wants to know. Oh yeah
IN CLOSING ARGUMENTS.... I believe EVERY WOMAN deserve to be a trophy because of the crap we as some men put them through... They have our kids... put up with our BS sometime... we should Trophy them as great as they are to us! Oh yeah! | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/24/2005 10:27:00 AM | Mauii... thats interesting. Maybe the US can learn a thing or two from Canada. I wish I had never heard of crap like this either but it is an issue here, depending on where you are. Maybe I should move to Canada! Oh Yeah! Just kidding... too cold!! | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/24/2005 11:38:44 AM | Mr. djdodat, you gave a good example of the attitude I was referring to in black males by suggesting that I had a woman stolen by a black man..lol. That never happened to me, but I did take a white woman from a black man once. He told her "I see they got you back". Is that a mature attitude??
I see nothing wrong with interracial dating if it is based on mutual respect and genuine fondness for the other person. As I stated earlier, I think there is more at play in black male's desires to date white women. They think wrongfully that this somehow affirms them as a man or that they pulled one over on whitey. That is the wrong reason to date someone. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/25/2005 6:25:34 AM | | I don't know where mature attitude would fall in terms of your feelings about black men. It is what it is. Nonetheless, congrats on dating a black woman or whomever your date or take. That doesn't whole much merit to whatever it was you were trying to accomplish beside what... proving a point?? Anyway, considering the obvious; what would you think of your son dating a black woman? | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/25/2005 6:39:21 AM | I don't date according to race. Those who truly love me will be happy for me if I'm happy.
As for my children .... I'll be happy with whomever they choose as a partner .... regardless of that person's race or gender .... as long as they respect my children and keep them happy.
P.S. I'm in Canada ... Northern Ontario ... and it was 90 degrees here the other day .... too cold? | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/25/2005 7:18:09 AM | | I would have no problem with my son dating a black woman. I have dated black women myself. Incidentally, speaking of Canada. One of the black women that I dated was a Jamaican living in Canada. She told me that black people in Canada act different from black people in the United States. I have no idea what she meant, but she did say that African-americans accused her of trying to "act white" because of her British accent. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/25/2005 7:23:06 AM | | Thats interesting... The Canada/US difference. But then again... Northern Alabama and South Alabama African Americans seems to be totally different too! Jamaican culture is a bit different anyway. So given Jamaican's flexibility.. could you hang!! | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/25/2005 7:30:44 AM | djdodat;
All people are basically the same. It's just a matter of choice. I date white men now, by choice. My deceased husband was black. I have one Asian daughter-in-law and one Black one. I love them both the same. I have dated Hispanic men, Black men, White men, some whom I didn't know their racial background. People are just people. Variety is good. Shouldn't matter what other people think. As for mixed babies being beautiful, I think all babies are beautiful. My Asian-American grandkids are beautiful, and my all Black grandkids are beautiful. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/25/2005 9:42:22 AM | | From my personal experience, all I dated were white women. A few years ago I was appproached by a beautiful non-white woman. Our relationship lasted not that long. But, it opened up my eyes that my preference was to women that are not white. I am all in favor of interracial dating. It does appear that interacial dating is most more prevelant these days than a few years back. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/25/2005 10:06:35 AM | I don't feel that interracial dating is a bad thing.. in fact, to me... it's the 'norm.' Racism is never going to die.. as much as that sucks to say and/or hear it.. it's jst fact and we all need to accept that. There will b ppl who feel that sticking to their own 'kind' is the only proper way to go about this cr8zy dating world we are in; however, I for one feel bad for them. Think of all of the things they would b missing out on.. 'No, I'm not going to give 'x' person a shot simply bc 'x' person isn't white, black, purple, blue, green, orange.. like me.' 'Yes, I'm going to pass up the opportunity in meeting what could b the best person EVER simply bc 'x' person doesn't dress like me, or talk like me, or they came from a broke family, etc..'
Whatever the case may b.. it's jst pure arrogance but sad to say.. the way of life.
I personally date outside of my race.. I can't remember a time I stayed within my race. Sure, I prefer 'x' race over 'y' race.. but what matters most is what lies beneath the surface. So the answer to your question, YES.. my children will b allowed to mingle within all races.. hopefully the day my children (in which I have 0 lol).. are looking at dating.. this whole issue will kinda have surpressed a lil bit.. cuz more and more each day.. people are becoming a lil bit more 'excepting' of interracial relationships.. and focusing more on the whole homosexual relationships.. (not that it's 'ok' for the world to do this.. but hey ~ We as Americans and/or other.. we are judgemental and feel that our train of thought is the way of the world..)
Jst hope people can bcome more open minded and I wish you all who run into this issue the best of luck.. jst hold your heads up high and don't ever let anyone or anything keep you from being truly happy.. as I'm sure that's what most of us are here for in the first place. (here meaning this fishy site). | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/25/2005 10:59:41 AM | | ^^^^^^ Yeah! What he said! ... I was raised neutral on the subject of interacial anything, except that interacial marriage would create myriads more problems for the couple down the road. That may be true in some cases, but LOVE is LOVE and it will seek it's own path despite what you want or think. I have dated asian women and really adore them for their special qualities and I have dated african-american women too and they also have their own unique and wonderful qualities. If you step past societal inhibitions and concentrate on THE PERSON, i.e. PERSONALITY, then race fades from your mind. Actually, I have found that age is much more of a discriminatory factor than race, but few people acknowledge it in the same way. Age may be a different type issue, but it's relevant to dating in a similar way. Don't judge a book by it's cover. Read that book and find out what is written inside! | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/25/2005 5:10:08 PM | RDtoo have you ever heard of stereo typing? Well that is what you have done. Just because a few black men have made these statements does NOT mean they are speaking for all. Sure there are ***holes out there, i've encountered a few myself, but by no means are they the majority. It depends on the man, hear me when i say MAN. I think maybe the remarks were made by immature boys that don't know what they are talking about. Maybe that is why they want a white woman, but what point are they trying to prove? That they are immature and they have no idea how to treat a woman let alone keep one.
To prove you wrong; I have a white daughter with my white ex-husband who doesn't pay child support, insurance, school clothes, etc.; i have a bi racial daughter with my black ex fiance and he pays child support, buys her clothes, and pays half her insurance. So, race doesn't play a factor in being a father. Always remember, any man can father a child, but it takes a real man to be a daddy.
As far as attitude; Attitude is everything!!!!!!! | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/25/2005 5:29:51 PM | WoW!!! Thanx SweetieD! You really nailed dat azz on that one! RDToo is confused likely because he finally was able to get a piece of blk azz and now he feels overwhelmed and can't blame anyone for his misfortune and now we(all blk men) are of some stereotypical, uneducated, bias azz, confused, stuck in a whirlwind boy minded body of a cat named RDToo. What does that stand for?? Really Dumb To Offer Oppions. I'm just curious.
He's too afraid to totally admit there's nothing wrong with interacial dating without having some negativity to go along with it. One is either for it or against it. There should be no in between. There should be no one to fault about why one genere/race dates another. Everyone of us on this forum hasn't a clean past and for some maybe present. Nonetheless, there's a mixture of opinions here that I see positive overall and I respect your thoughts and everyone elses.
However, "Love", RDToo has no faults. Out of all the post thus far, you're the only one I just can't seem to understand. Oh yeah... and I've read some of your other post in other forums and I have to ask you; are you confused about yourself?? I don't mean to single you out but you asked if it was immature as I supposedly displayed in my reply to you; maybe you're the immature one and you're having a hard time accepting as most of us here already know (interacial is the norm now). You wouldn't want your daughter to date a blk man but your son could date a blk woman. Sounds pretty smart.
I'm going to step back from you dude. Are you a cow-ard and too afraid to let all of us see the real you. I can kind of imagine you... I bet you're like some... well.. I'll leave that alone. That in itself is for another forum. I'm just glad to see how a sistah got dat azz confused. You probably was already a bit shaky.. now you got like some mid crisis shake syndrom called.... HATER!!! Oh Yeah! | |
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