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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 10/27/2007 8:06:58 PM | I have always been attracted to white men. As a little girl, I was integrated into an all white school and so I learned to like other people for who they were. These people happened to be white. Needless to say, my first crush was on a white kid in school. My first kiss was with him too. However, since I lived in a black neighborhood, I dated black guys. But I was always attracted to white guys.
As I got older, (I am now 42) I realize that I put alot of pressure on myself to not date white guys because I would be seen as a traitor. I no longer feel that way. White men have always been attracted to me and I've always been attracted to them. I prefer white men over black men because they are culturally different. I still like black men, and I still think they are hip and cool, but I just prefer white men. Despite people saying there is "no difference in color", there really is a difference in cultures. White men are different from black men, that is for sure. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 10/27/2007 8:12:52 PM | | You don't have a "pure Scottish" heritage. NONE of us on this planet has any "pure" blood in them. We are ALL mixed. Sounds like you are confused dear. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/1/2007 11:03:21 AM | *SIDE NOTE.... some on said on like pg. 2 of this thing that racisim basically doesnt exsist in Canada.... i was born, raised and still live in Canada and know plenty of people that have the same beliefs as i do. Sorry had to burst that bubble too lol!
I totally agree with December there......I have been told (by a white Canadian) and see it quite often...albeit very subtle......that Canadians are a silent majority of racists...... | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/1/2007 11:19:37 AM | My son is dating an African/Canadian girl and there coming for Christmas.
I've met her......nice girl.
Did'nt they make a movie about that with Sidney Poitier and Spencer Tracy ?
However, I think big cultural differences can be a lot more complicated. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/1/2007 6:40:43 PM |
"Race" is something that was socially constructed by whites in their attempt to justify genocide and colonization. I disagree with this once again the white man is being vilified.
Whites were not the first to try to classify people by race -
When the lighter ancient Egyptians were in power they called the darker group the "the evil race of Ish" while when the darker ancient Egyptians were in power they called the lighter group the "the pale, degraded race of Arvad". [1] For example, the Ancient Egyptian sacred text called Book of Gates identifies four ethnic categories that are now conventionally labeled "Egyptians", "Asiatics", "Libyans", and "Nubians" (see Ancient Egypt and race), but such distinctions tended to conflate differences as defined by physical features such as skin tone, with tribal and national identity. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/1/2007 7:39:13 PM | Hi I've just read your comments and felt that I had to respond.
As a black British woman, I just do not understand the American obsession with 'interacial' dating. Surely if you meet someone and there's a mutual attraction, then why not date - if they then turn out not have the qualities that you're looking for, then you move on.
There are even feature films (American of course) that make such a huge deal out of these relationships such as 'Guess Who' about an interacial couple. I watched that film in total disbelief and couldn't believe that in this day and age, that certain factions of society still considered such relationships as being considered taboo!
It's about time you Americans came out of the dark ages and into the 21st Century! I am not a naive woman, I have had my fair share of racism and I'm very much in touch with my cultural roots. Those who are intolerant to 'interacial' dating ( I even hate the term - why the label?) have the problem and it should not affect your choice in who you date.
In Britain, the term 'interacial' dating does not exist. It is not an issue over here or unusual as it is in the States. It is more about what qualities an individual has to offer in a relationship, not whether they are black or white or green! I have many girlfriends and male friends of all races and who have dated or married 'outside' of their race. When we women get together - it won't be about 'oh my God, he or she is going out with some who is black, white or martian. It will be about the normal things that men and women go through when dating or in a relationship.
So stop making this an issue and as you say 'get with the programme' and start living in the 21st Century. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/1/2007 7:50:35 PM | | ps just to wanted to say I have dated men who are black and white, eventually married someone who was white which lasted 18 years and we have two children. At the end of the day he was male! And as the saying goes 'Men are from Mars and Women are from Venus' and I will never understand the complexities of the male mind, that's if they have one! | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/2/2007 4:07:27 PM | | meh, i'm open to interracial dating. and for some reason, my brother calls me a sellout but he's dating outside his race too. it's a different stigma when it's a black female dates outside her race than it is for a black guy. I really hate that but there's nothing i personally can to change the opinions of many. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/28/2007 10:12:10 AM | I am a black man who has dated nearly every ethinicity and race. Black, white, asian, latina, etc. At the end of the day we are all people, women are women, and men are men. It drives my crazy to hear people that end relationships or not even relationships a chance becuase of family members, friends, etc. The vast majority of family members and friends will indeed get over the racial differences, so long as those in the relationship are truly happy. Family members only want happiness at the end of the day and they will accept your true love as long as the love is true. If there are any cracks, family will know and they will exploit that crack so if you know your family may have issue with this, then just be 100% sure.
I recently met a woman whom after a few short meetings I truly felt that she could have been the woman for me, for the rest of my life. She was tall, blonde, gorgeous, funny, smart, and enjoyesd nature. Unfortunately, she fell into the above category and looked high and low for every excuse about why she shouldn't date me. It is very unfortunate for her and I. I am very close to her best friend's husband and obviously I know exactly what she wants in a man and in life. I fit the bill, and obviously she fit the bill for me. So I guess its back to the drawing board. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/28/2007 5:12:57 PM | Interacial dating? Oh how quaint! really, its sounds like a terminology that would have been used in 50's America. I suppose living in Britain it does sound sort of quaint and old fahioned to my ears. We've had a lot of marriages and relationships with the peoples of Asia, (India) because of the Empire and whatnot since the 18th and 19th centuries. Not many then, to be sure,.. but now, its nothing to see people of all different ethnic backgrounds together. Of course racism is always there, sometimes covert, sometimes overt, but on the whole, it is'nt really a big deal. My own family has a Anglo/asian mix to it,.. as do many others,.. it seems theres something about the Indian and English cultures that seemed to mix rather well.
So, yes,.. i see absolutely nothing wrong with it. The only resevation i have ever had, is if the two people involved have diametrically opposed cultures,.. for instance, i would have great difficulty dating a Muslim, because of some of the requirements of islam, wether the Muslim were black, white or whatever, it would be the cultures and traditions that might put a spoke in the wheel there,.. i do have muslim fiends,.. but to Marry, or have a relationship, I think shared values and interests need to be there, DAx | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/28/2007 10:12:30 PM | | Just answering the original question since it's too late for me to read a story book explanation of how you feel... I think interracial dating and children is totally cool, people truly accepting one another regardless of culture and race is priceless and with the way the world is wired with technology and transportation, the world is so much smaller than it used to be..so if you want someone of a different race, enjoy it to the fullest and take on all challengers, whatever hate or mean looks you get is worth it for someone you love. My children even though that is light years away can date whoever they want | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/28/2007 10:41:43 PM | well I see this thread has had a lot of reponces and I don't have time to go through all that is said. I'll just offer my opinion to the original question.
no I have no problem with interatial relationships. I have dated many races and there is beauty in every single one of them.
you can't tell race by looking at a beating heart.
my children are interacial so it would be hypocritical for me to say they can't. Besides with all their diverse bloods, that would be near impossible lol!
Love is blind. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/29/2007 9:06:08 AM | To whom it may concern:
It doesn't matter what race or color they are to me they are beautiful and sexy women inside and out and they need to be treated with respect that is due to them.
African-American are very passionate and very loving and so are Latino or Hispanic females too.
Asian women are beautiful too, but i would go out with any woman with she is a white, african-american or hispanic it doesn't matter to me.
U can harass me all u want its how i feel inside.
Eric Carhart Jr. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/29/2007 9:20:55 AM | I really hate to use the term dating outside of your race, we date within the human race , not animals, or other creatures. anyway. I do and have always dated white men and would not change for anything. I would not really care what anyone say about who I date. I do have mixed children, and would tell them to love whom ever they want, as long as they are treated well and loved in return. I think americans pay way too much attention on race and seperating people. love hard and just live life, what others think really do not matter. just be happy. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/29/2007 8:46:26 PM | I'm really glad to see so many non white women saying they have and would date white men. I have a friend/coworker who is black and was married to a white man and has one child by him. Her mother is single and would never date a white man. My friend has told me many black women feel this way. I think its sad. Why limit yourself?
I have been with men of other ethnicites. The only problems we ever had were cultural.
Now...I haven't dated an oriental man. Wonder what they are about....probably the same as all the others. Men are men. Women are women. Just different. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/30/2007 4:21:00 AM | | I am curious as to what a oriential man would be like to date. I am totally stuck on dating white men and am gonna leave this world that way. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/30/2007 8:30:36 AM | | Really liked the comment on dating within the human race. Never really thought about that you don't say Caucasian race normally, or the Asian race, it's all sub categories of one race....LOL. Personally, I can like any woman be it white, black, asian, hispanic, etc. I do find women of mixed ethnicities very attractive as well as the combinations can be intoxicatingly beautiful, and they have a foot in two different cultures (sides of their family) and are usually more openminded. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 6/2/2008 7:30:30 PM | Look for love....not for race....if you are lucky enough and find a really good person
in this day and age you shouldn't care about so-called race....one race...the human race. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/7/2008 2:12:58 PM | | it is not for me I like someone that I have more in common with cultrally. I am not into the current trend of "multiculture" mixing. at least not for dating purposes. how ever I do like Mexican, chinese, food............... | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/10/2008 8:36:11 AM | | As my mom would say.....love is love no matter what the color......just remember you will always be seen/treated as a black man and so will your kids. Funny things is now with Obahma going for the highest office in the U.S he is not call the bi-racial canidate......which is would show unity and honor both backgrounds.....he is pressed as the "black canidate" which automatically creates some tension.......very interesting. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/10/2008 7:40:49 PM | I have dated men of several different races before. There was once a movie...I think it was called "He's got Game"? Its about some black kid who goes to college on a b-ball scholarship, and begins to date a white chick. His teammate tells him the "rules"...one of which being that (according to him) white women are wimps, will do his cooking and laundry, WHILE paying his bills,etc, etc, and black women will NOT take his crap, so, the friends' advice is that he take the easy route and date the white chick....I really dont remember much else about the film, but, being a white woman, I took exception to that portrayal, and that much stuck, anyway.
Being a somewhat older, and hopefully wiser white woman now, I can see that there ARE some cultural differences. Not true in every case, but true to a large enough degree. I am what some would call a BBW...and I don't know if that plays into it at all or not, but I do know that I can walk into ANY Mexican bar in town, and count on drinking free all night if I am willing to dance once or twice. I can go to a Black bar, and will get asked to dance a couple of times, but since I look more like a frog in a blender dancing to rap, I always say that I prefer to play pool.....I dunno what would happen if I ever did dance there, LOL. If I go into a White bar, though....I better have a friend with me to talk to, and my own money for pool and beer, cause aint nobody asking me nothing. I have dated and dumped men of all races...and been dumped by men of all races, for various reasons.
Now that I have kids, though, I tend to stick to white guys, primarily because if I were ever to have any more kids, I would want them to "match", physical-appearance-wise.....I dont know if that makes me a bigot or a racist or anything else, but it is there now, for me, and before, it wasn't. I wouldn't ever rule anything out based on race, if it happened, but I would not intentionally begin anything with a black man now, either.
Who cares what race my kids date? As long as they have the guts to stand up to any bigots they encounter, and as long as they are happy and being treated right, I would be a happy mama.
Soneone once told me (and PLEASE dont yell at me, I am only giving my theory based on his information) that black folks have thicker skulls...and white skulls are thinner, (he also went on about intelligence based on brain weight, but we wont go there, he is racist, nuff said, ok?) My theory would be then that a person of mixed-heritage would, evolutionarily speaking, have the advantage in that situation. And I have never seen an ugly mixed-race person....ever. And I dont care what is PC, God did make some ugly babies...black ones AND white ones.
I sometimes wonder what we will all find to argue and fuss about, in a couple-few hundred years, when we are all a nice beige color, and all speak Javanese?
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/11/2008 1:44:10 PM | | i have a mixed race son (hes dads st lucian ) and he has two great cultures in his life so as long as the children you have in a interracial relationship get to no about there culture there is nothing wrong with it the only time there can be problems is if they are not taught to love the black and white blood running thought them because they will end up not noing who they are but my son loves the colour of his skin and the fact he has white and black family members who all teach him things about who his family is and where they come from | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 7/29/2008 2:57:18 PM | I'm glad to see this thread is still alive. I have to go back and catchup on each of your responses. Urshortie, you make a good point about learning the split cultures. I too have mixed kids and totally agree with what your saying. Nonetheless, let me ask you this... is more important that they learn from their family members or from you as a parent? I'm not saying or implying anything is wrong. I'm just furthering this topic a bit with your response.
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