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Msg: 552 | |
| How do you feel about interracial dating?
Posted: 11/2/2008 8:25:51 PM | I think it's fine as long as they're doing it for love. Where the problem lies is when people exclude based on race.
I find MOST of those who will only date a specific race romanticise that particular racial stereotype and thereby enforce it. Oftentimes they're also trying to opt into a culture, for example, some white girls who listen to a lot of hiphop and bounce their ass off the floor when they dance decide they want a black guy too... This in my opinion is more racist to black people than someone who excludes them.
Of course, the politics of attraction come into it too, and they may actually be physically repulsed by all other races... Or they might have a mixed child, and want the child to have a stepdad of the right racial makeup.
I've heard both the arguments "exclusion is preference" and "exclusion is discrimination", but it really does depend on the reasons for exclusion. As far as I'm aware, racism is a belief that race is the primary determinant of human traits and capacities and that racial differences produce an inherent superiority of a particular race. Exclusion based on that belief would be racist.
Ultimately, it's far better to drop the ideas of stereotypes. Not all black guys like reggae, not all japanese girls wear sailor suits... Just try to meet someone who is worthy of your love and who loves you. Race should not even be a factor. | |
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Joined: 10/28/2008
Msg: 553 | |
| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/3/2008 12:03:52 AM | I personally feel it's ok. I have dated interacial and we have great fun. I'm in the process of dating another, what difference does it make. We are all humans and love the same. As far as my children, they can date and marry whom they choose too, as long as they are happy why shouldn't I be happy for them?
Sex isn't on my agenda, yet. We just go out and have fun. Sometimes we may go to each other house and watch videos and eating pizza. I go home and think what a plesant evening. Of course I must put it on the line, "No sex, if that's what you want, bye". I'm not ready yet, perhaps one day. | |
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| How do you feel about interracial dating?
Posted: 11/3/2008 3:39:02 AM |
There is only one race...the human race
If more people thought like you, this would never be an issue!!
I personally don't give a darn who dates who. I have too much going on in my own life to start worrying about any one else's!!
There are still far too many people who make the color of a person's skin an issue. This is the 21st century and I am often discouraged that we have not over come this by now. I would have thought "society" would have advanced further by now!
** I have maintained the same thought process my whole life regarding this topic; One's heart is color blind it is their eyes and mind that are not ** | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/3/2008 6:22:51 PM | | I, too, am amazed that we still have this conversation in this day in age. I was raised to believe that one should not discriminate based on age, color, sex, religion, sexual orientation, etc...I was taught that character is so much more important than race. With that being said, I am a man who like variety and diversity. If there was a green or purple lady out there, I would be one of the first people to see what it was all about. My motto is this: when the lights go out, we are all dark! | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/3/2008 8:28:33 PM | | I don't have a problem with it as I date inter-racially. I have been given a hard time by black guys when they find out that I date inter-racially. When I was with my ex, walking down the street, black guys would give us looks or make comments. I honestly don't care who others date as long as they are happy. I'm just happy to see people getting along and loving each other. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 11/28/2008 4:41:49 PM | Think secret is, be happy
I am all for people dating outside races as beautiful people in all races and i admit some kids i have seen in my travels from people dating outside of races are such beautiful looking kids but aint all kids beautiful.
Think only issue is some people in realtionships have cultural differences thats sometimes you do not know or thought about and when in a commited relattionship you do not then want to live or believe in these ideals.
So may cause an issue for some...
Also as someone said what other people family think.
As we all know well i think long as happy be hapy follow your heart.. if do not work well big world millions more....
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 5/10/2009 7:29:14 PM | | I dont feel there is prejudice in the world. I do believe that we are not confortable with one another. I am black, and if im lucky, i will get a response from a white female simply because most white females dont prefer to date outside their reace. Nothing wrong with that, most black girls are the same. white women after all are female, and alot of females are picky about who they date, simply because they can | |
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| How do you feel about interracial dating?
Posted: 5/10/2009 10:05:54 PM |
there is only one race....the human race
This is an ignorant statement. It's one of those feel-good platitudes which only serve to confuse the issue. This is the knowledge you lack: Humans are a sub species. Race is a sub sub-species categorization. Races arose out of population isolation. They are scientific and based on biology and mathematics. Population isolation leads to speciation. Put 2 and 2 together this means that races are a degree of speciation on the human evolutionary path. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 6/22/2009 3:02:28 PM | I think Interracial dating has its positives and negatives. Honestly, I've never dated outside my race... not sure why. I'm attracted to other races and in passing we never hit it off. In school I was the only person of my color in my classes, and still never dated any of them. I attended an HBCU, so it didn't happen in college. Now I find myself working and different races have actually approached me. A friend of minds has an interracial child and he's beautiful, smart, and intelligent but the childs grandparents give her a hard time. I'm not sure how my family would react to it... although our president came from an interracial family, its not accepted everywhere. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 6/22/2009 3:50:04 PM | I've dated one person outside of my race and I don't regret it at all. We lost contact and in the end we ultimately had to end the relationship, but I earned one hell of a friend.
I'm for interracial dating. That is all. Wee. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 6/22/2009 4:02:06 PM | Relationships are hard enough with out complicating it with race, cultural and religious issues. So I don't do it. To much of a hassle.
Would I let my kid date outside of his white race. Yea we have had this conversation and it gets it. If hes willing to take on the hassle than have at. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 6/22/2009 6:24:59 PM | To much of a hassle.
If hes willing to take on the hassle than have at.
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Why is it such a hassle? They are people, only difference is skin complexion. What is a hassle is when you are dating a person who's views are different from yours so much that it causes friction between the both of you. Getting involved in an interracial relationship is no different than getting involved with someone from your own race. Unless you feel it is a hassle to date some one of a different race because it won't get you into a social club or get you invited to parties.
I was involved in an interracial relationship that produced my youngest son. My ex is African American and being with him was the same as being with someone of my race or caucasian.
To be honest, for people who say that they think it is a hassle to date outside their race but a decision of their children to date interracially is up to them is a little twisted. The 'conversation' (I bet) was this poster putting on her child why it is a hassle and so now her child 'gets it' is just proof that she is positive that this child will grow up not wanting to date interracially because it will be thought of as a hassle. But to add at the end of the 'conversation' that it is up to him----if he's willing. Yeah, right. Not if you have anything to say about it.
I wonder if this poster would accept a woman in her family if she were as light as me and Puerto Rican. This woman may be white but may produce a dark skinned baby. Hispanics have all shades in one family, from light to dark. Two of my sisters are a tad darker than me, with one being a shade darker than the other.
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 6/22/2009 6:32:02 PM | s.n.(Hi!)
Unfortunately Georgia(and the rest of the South) full of ignorant people like her. She is right about the hassle...that would come from her bigoted family, friends and the rest of her community. Lawrenceville is right on the edge of Metro Atlanta and full of rednecks. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 6/23/2009 1:05:19 AM | | I know that I am currently in an interracial relationship. For a long time, I wouldn't date someone outside my race unless I was 100% into them. But after my last relationship, I have (unfortunately) decided to give up on my race completely. To me it is just too hard to date a black man. I am looking to settle down. Most of the men I meet either just want a one night stand or have issues with staying faithful. Maybe I have bad luck with men. All I know if I have dated 3 white men in the last 6 years and all three were ready to commit and treated me well. So for this reason I choose to date outside my race. I am a lot happier and there are a lot less games. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 6/23/2009 12:18:30 PM | | If you asked me this question, say oh 20 years ago, I would say no way. Now, I feel so open to interacial dating. One of the nicest dates I went on was with a black woman I met here on POF. It didn't work out as we both would have liked, but the experience was wonderful. We still communicate and keep in touch as well. We are all a brotherhood of man. I love women of all races. The color of their skin is not important, as the content of their character. (Indirect quote from MLK) | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 6/23/2009 6:09:03 PM | @Kid A...Amnesiac:
Hey! You made a very good point and that particular poster is just like those people who would never date interracially although they might keep a friend or two who is black or of another race just to prove something to people.
Fine, people have their preferences but you wonder about these people who claim that they have 'preferences' and the way they express it shouts 'racist'. If your child has the option to choose what he wants, then let him do it through experiences and not because you had a talk about the 'hassles' of dating interracially and influencing him and his decision. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 6/23/2009 7:09:40 PM | Some people are ignorant about race... It is annoying and I'm from IDAHO! (save the jokes folks)...
Here's how I feel about it... In the search for the love of my life why would I disregard an entire race because of... Well I really don't know why... Maybe taboos?!
However, saying "stay with my own" also sounds kind of ignorant... And who gives a crap what people say? At the end of your life you are not going to stand before some judgemental a-hole... God sees no difference. I have dated "outside my race" (that sounds so retarded to me) and again, I see no difference...
I would allow my daughter to date a man of another color (when she begins dating at age 50) as long as he wasn't a jerk. It is sometimes difficult to deal with other people's perspectives on interracial relationships but I am not one who cares about what everyone else thinks of me. It's so boring! I don't do peer pressure either (unless I'm giving it)! LOL | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 6/23/2009 11:47:41 PM | The heart wants what it wants so why deny it cause of social hang-ups. Damn this thread has been circulating for a minute but I figured I add my 2 cents. Happiness doesn't come in a predisposed package of what your significant other may look like or that their race will be the same as yours. You gotta go out and test the waters and see what works. The only people who dont like interracial relationships are the ones who were raised to dislike what they can't understand. Fear is a hell of a drug haha ...
That's a shame one lady considered interracial dating as a hassle. That just shows she's more worried about what society may think. Instead of worrying about possibly finding her own happiness then the cycle continues on. She instills this belief into her children. Then that hate and fear continues, look! As the old but simple saying goes. Don't knock something unless you actually tried it! Now if you just have a preference for your own race then kudos to you....But God created beauty in every color and shape I believe....(not super religious dont worry :) Step outside your spectrum if your attracted to other races you just might like it..... | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 6/24/2009 4:21:34 PM | Life is not meant to arrive to the grave in a well preserved body, but to slide in sideways...worn out, used up, yelling, "What a RIDE!!!!!"
Live an let live. You need to enjoy what short time you have here, so make the best of it.
Realtionships are like parking spaces. All the good ones are taken, the rest handicapped!!!!
Sit back relax an something will open up prob just when you need it most regardless of color.
As long as you BOTH are happy, thats ALL that matters!
For those of you that dont think like that....
I think I remember you being on the short bus, with helmet an bib on, licking the windows..... | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 6/24/2009 4:40:24 PM | Personally, Interracial dating does not mean a thing, my mum was white and my dad was black but upon saying that, most black men I know (and im not being racist, its just the ones I know) 99% of the time go for a white woman, and they always disrespect them because they think they can . now if it was a black women (which i know it would not be) they would never even think of disrespecting them, because the beautiful black women I know are strong and are no pushovers. Black men dont like strong women thats why they go for white women becasue they think they are the weaker ones and its wrong because they should respect all women, no matter what colour they are. anyway, like i said, im not against interracial dating but when I think of all the guys I've been attracted to, I'd say 98% were white and the odd few have been halfcaste. I think I prefer white chocolate to milk chocolate as my friend says! but I would never rule out interracial.  | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 6/24/2009 5:01:58 PM |
now if it was a black women (which i know it would not be) they would never even think of disrespecting them, because the beautiful black women I know are strong and are no pushovers. Black men dont like strong women thats why they go for white women becasue they think they are the weaker ones and its wrong because they should respect all women,
I dunno....you got more black men with black women than you do black men with white women. Controlling men don't like strong women. People go interracial because - 1. its fruit that they're no longer forbidden from touching; 2. they like exotics, anything different from the norm will be more exciting than the usual.
plenty of men disprespect women of their own race and there isn't an "epidemic" of interracial dating out there.... | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:01:18 AM | Yes it has been circulating for some time! Wow! I started this back in '05 but even today I see a growing trend in more and more interacial dating.
As for your comment about the one lady, which I won't call her name out either, you're right, she is one of those that are worried about what society has to say. There are lots who still feel that way and I don't think with some it will ever change.
As for everyone else who is continuing to keep this thread alive, THANK YOU & GOD BLESS! "Open your mind, let your heart follow because distance between open love and closed loved is no love." ~DoDat :modhammer: | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 10/25/2009 7:20:04 AM | | I adopted non racial behavior when I was a child. Although racism existed amongst groups, it was individualized learning that of a best freind before prejudice could take hold which was my fate. To this day, my best freind since the second grade has been a african/american. It was my understanding of what a true freind was which over rode any and all views of non acceptance based on race. I realize all people are human and have the ability to love any human being and love rises above all. Yes I would not object to my child dating outside of his/her race. They have the right to learn the lessions life may not teach them | |
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