| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 8/9/2005 2:01:55 PM | I've dated a lot of different races. Usually I end up with latinos since I like to dance salsa so much. I live in California now, where I think people are more accepting to interracial relationships. I'm from Chicago and over there it is a definite no no for a lot of people. It's a lot more segregated. I think it is a good thing to see what is out there, but some places people will be more accepting and others you will have to deal with a lot of dirty looks and comments. But ultimately if someone makes you happy, it shouldn't matter so much what other people think as long as you are happy.  | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 8/9/2005 2:23:44 PM | To the OP:
A beautiful post! Yes, sometimes people still have the tendency to see people of their own races as "we", and others as "they". But there are so much cutural differences that we can learn about, learn to appreciate and to compromise with our own.
I've be friended with african people, korean people, japanese people, white people, and some indian people. Though I do identify with the asians generally better than anyone else, I find that all of my friends have one thing in common - humanity. They are capable of friendship and loyalty to their loved ones, they feel connected to their fellow human beings, they can be compassionate, they learns from their mistakes and strive for the future - cultural or skin color differences are just too insignificant when you look into people and see the similarities shared by all humans.
As for children - I don't care who they date, it makes little difference. As long as it is the prince/princess of their dreams and they'll be happy with their marriage for the rest of their lives... | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 8/9/2005 5:31:45 PM | I never did understand this race thing.. we are all shades of gray to me. I will agree with a post interacial babys are so pretty i should know i have one big headed boy ! But serously should color even matter ? hell now! if you can get to my mind and heart you in.. dont matter if your green. I would say I think alot of white men have a problem with my interacial son.. Dont know why but seems to ring true.. I think for me its all about what your attracted too.. I havent had a date with a white man in a long time but I wouldnt rule them out.. But I also know what I am attracted too.. and for me dark skin tone is a turn on.. I think of it like this some of us like blondes redheads big men short men tall men bbw's I say go with what makes your feel good.. IF he can bring more happiness to my life then so be it bring on the men in any color.
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 8/9/2005 6:11:35 PM | | I have had a secret fondness for it all my life. But my serious relationship with another race did not work out. For that reason I am a lot more skeptical than I used to be about interracial. In principle I have nothing against it, however. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 8/10/2005 8:23:29 AM | WoW... haven't a missed a lot of interesting post since my little break! Thank all of you for your interesting comments! There's a couple of post I'd like to address but I'll come back to do so. In the meantime, thanks again for all of your comments! | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 8/10/2005 8:59:34 PM | To me I believe in it not only b/c my daughter is mixed but b/c I see no difference in someones color it's like you being racist again a notebook b/c the cover is different or a pen because it writes a different color all races have blood flowing through them and it's the same color when it comes out "RED" so if we bleed the same color then we're the same and should be treated the same .... my fiance' is Black & Indian I'm Mexican & White so of course I wouldn't see it as a problem if you love one another it shouldn't be an issues the only way you can really seperate people is by ugly an pretty  .... so for the ones who still have racism stuck up their ass that's their problem not our children nor anyone of a different race that finds it ok to date outside of your race | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 8/12/2005 12:56:36 PM | | Although I was engaged to another race woman one time (I am white Caucasian), I have always feared that mixed-race children are not beautiful. I really love my white race which is from Ireland or England (there are rumors I have an Indian squaw in my line). I think European is a great race. I don't understand why so many younger white girls in their 20's go with black men. I think they should prefer their own race. Why would they rather have a minority race man? JMHO | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 8/16/2005 11:56:21 AM | | I also can't believe he said that, mixed babies are gorgeous. Not that white babies or other races aren't, but there is just something about their big brown eyes, soft curly hair, and tanned skin. Sooooooo beautiful!!!!!!!! | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 8/22/2005 5:29:04 PM | | This topic really hits home. I have a 1 year old daughter that is half white and half black. This was the first time that I had dated outside of my race. To me I would never change anything that I have done. However, now it is very hard to find a white man that will date me because of my daughter (I live in a small southern town) But to me in the end I would rather be by myself than to have to deal wit hthe hate | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 8/22/2005 9:02:22 PM | | i personally have no problem with interracial dating. with most people, these days, it's not a big deal to them. not everyone does date other races though because of personal preference... of course i am in canada, we tolerate just about everything here. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 8/22/2005 9:11:26 PM | | Gosh honey you really need to move and do it fast. My dear departed husband was black and I have 2 beautiful daughters. Yes, many white men will be too insecure to date you, no great loss if you ask me, and some will not. Men of color may notice you with your child and decide you are approachable for that reason [always happened to me], and some may think you are easy [don't be]. But for your sake and the sake of your child move to a place with more diversity and fewer closed, ignorant minds. I don't care if mamma is helping with the baby, put a plan together and go. By the way, I just call it dating. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 8/23/2005 10:02:15 AM | I have dated(*dated/non-sex) AmericanINdian,lebanese,latino,italian,french,english,greek, peurto rican-and I married an italiano-don't know if this is considered interracial???someone once said have you ever dated caucasion-??-well sure I have..
I do have a mother who rather not have her daughters interbreed although..two of my older nieces(we have a lot of girls in the family)and one of my nephews have children that are mixed with mexican, portugese, and spanish-those little darlings they have, are very beautiful!!My mother loves them..and so do all their aunts!so interracial is so common these days..Not like back when the Sco-Irish- clans stuck together in their own kind..I have a friend that is married to a phillipino gal-she is very nice. and I have met some orientals that are sweet.And I have maulado friends too. So-there you have it-americans do well with whom they love the bestest. Now I'll let you know if the greylings and martians have intermingled..lol which ever speciies survive it doesn't matter I suppose..life will still evolve. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 8/27/2005 5:11:48 PM | Love is all that matters in the end. I am caucasian and my wife is asian and we both think that all human beings are beautiful in their own way. There is only one race; the human race. I think the sooner we get it all mixed up the better. Now if you are going to talk about culture... well that is another arguement altogether. I think interracial dating is perfectly fine but I have some serious problems with certain culture's ideas about men, women, relationships, etc...
bye for now
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 10/15/2005 9:52:02 AM | Before I came to USA, I had two longterms and a couple of Affairs with African woman. If you ask me: top of the line!! Its the mix of femin, passion, honesty and hot power what makes me so addicted to them. There is no open question, no missed feeling. In addition I am attracted to dark skin. If I could make a wish I would make a family with an African woman. But I think first I have to leave this rassistic place named Georgia, USA.  | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 10/16/2005 10:51:08 PM | It is so good to finally see that there are people around that don't have a problem with interracial dating. I'm 21 and everyone of my past relationships has been with the opposite race. I just love a blk man and wouldn't give that up for anything in the world. Now, let me say this....love has no color, if i were to run into mr right and he was blue then i would be the first person in the history to date a blue man.
On the other hand, my parents have put me through alot of stuff about dating outside my race. Everything that could be said has been said to me....I'm just tired of everyone saying things like that to me and not considering how i feel. I mean they should be happy with me. Even if they don't accept it at least accept me and my decision not alienate me because of my choice. My own family turns their back on me, so that's why i'm single and if i do go out on a date with a blk man I do it very secretly..nobody knows about it. That's all I know to do. Any suggestions feel free to address me | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 10/17/2005 10:03:21 AM | | I feel great about it! I really don't mind interracial dating, I think its beautiful when people here (USA COLORADO) can express their feelings and not bow to the status que placed on us by society, well not society as a whole but-here for instance, colorado, I posted a post much like this one and i've gotten ZERO response, now this is posted in the COLORADO forum. This really speaks volumes to me and makes me want to yack beucase I've always thought as colorado as intollerante for the most part, of interracial relationhsips, and to an extent this proves my point. For you foreginers, colorado is mostly WHITE the cluture of america is WHITE dominated, and so here it seems, there isn't what they would discribe a "problem" with this situation and so they choose not to address it, well the "problem" is people being color-blind, to the specifics of the word, BLIND TO THE COLORS AROUND YOU-unwilling to accept them and hence they are not there or you are blind to them. I don't believe in color blindness-its ignorance-it needs to change, be aware of the wonderous variety around you and accept it, I choose to immerse myself in it becuase firstly I have not choice, I'm black in this society- and secondly its extremly interesting to learn about other people's ways of life (persian food is great!). But I think its really sad that people of any race can simply 'dis' others becuase they are brown or whatever. I'm not just speaking to whites, when i outlined this society-that is simply the facts about America-but dont take it like I'm posting just about white privledge, look there is a hispanic woman in one of my classes and she talks about how her people will not date blacks-how we are porch monkeys and stuff to them-why would you date that they would say... this makes me sick beucase I've always felt that racially there is a common bond since our oppresion stories ended up placing us in the same place after aLL-so whatever-does all of this effect my dating habits-well yea-I'm already pretty docile-so yea. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 10/17/2005 11:25:48 AM | Love doesn't know race so why should we care. U can't help who you're attracted to.
I have always dated who I've wanted to. This is an issue for the older generation in my family and I admit I doubt that anything I do would ever change their mind.
I have seen the look ppl give me when dating sum1 of a diff race like I'm white trash/a slag and the guy is probably seen as a disrespectful, lazy, woman beating, player.
Since having a white child it is a question I have thought about ...would I reassess things etc etc but the truth is although predjudice is still out there we're living in a multi cultural society and I want my child to grow up knowing that it really shouldn't matter who he wants to be with as long as they're a decent person. Also, if he later on in life should meet sum1 of a diff race that it will never be an issue for him in his own home(our home).
Ppl go on about how it's not right you're have 2 completely diff cultures I'm like what's that got to do with it ...I will learn ofcourse things are going to be important to me if they have such an influence on sum1's life that I care about.
I will close on the fact that I could listen to my oldest relatives and blow out the idea of dating inter racially but when they are gone and I am left alone I know that I would sit there and go ...what if that guy I rejected for someone else's beliefs was my soulmate? | |
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| How do you feel about interracial dating?
Posted: 10/21/2005 8:22:36 AM | atta dude 777,
Well said! Some people still seem to think that there is this 'MAJOR' difference between the races. But people are just people. They're good people and they're bad people. Let's stop playing into the stereotype. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 10/27/2005 6:26:39 AM | Hi tatalinia,
Aren't you Black? You look it. I mean you might be mixed race, but you can pass as a Black woman too. So you won't exactly be dating outside your race. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 10/27/2005 8:24:06 AM | amen sassy
the dating interacially has nothing to do with finding thatspecial love of your life!
never had a date from outside myown race but that doesnt mean i wouldnt
heck hecould be a green alien if he treated me right id date him | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/6/2005 1:01:20 PM | Hmmm...
As an Asian woman who has travelled a lot and lived in many different countries, I have been taught to accept all ethnicities. But dating is a different story.
From age 17 - 23 -> I found that I dated mostly black men. I don't know why, maybe it was because I thought it was " cool " at the time or the only people I have met were mostly black.
From age 23 - 26 -> Now, I date mostly Caucasian men and I am actually in a long term with one. I like them a lot.
But in general, I tend to date men who were very much of mixed ethnicities...I've had one man who was German-Black, one man who was Indian- Chinese - Filipino, another who was Scottish-Japanese-Black, another who was Spanish-Black-White, another who was Asian-German-Spanish....see? very very very mixed in all ethnicities. Needless to say, many would always comment that we made a beautiful couple....must be bc I am Asian, but many mistake me for being mixed of many different ethnicities, Prevuian, Hawaiian, Chinese-Jamaican, Caucasian-White etc. | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/6/2005 1:09:49 PM | | Personally, I've never seen race as an issue~~ But, I"ve had the "pleasure" of witnessing other's who think it is.... There are times I truly wonder what century we live in..>? | |
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| How do you feel about interacial dating?
Posted: 12/6/2005 1:14:26 PM | ...
Where the white women at?
Sorry, I couldn't help myself...
But for me, since my family line is mixed I never care. Shoot some of my cousins are lilly white and we get along swimmingly. She likes to date black men, I date white women... Our wires must be crossed or something...
But I am for any dating other than animal dating. that's just plain bizarre... | |
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