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| what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/15/2011 11:52:13 PM | Hmmm, I read each and evry post on this thread. Unfortunately, it made me realize what I never had but could/should have. I've said before, I knew my ex wasn't a romantic from the get go, so that was no biggie.
But I read things like,: i miss cooking with someone, the a$$ grab at the kitchen sink, doing dishes together, sitting on the porch sharing wine, having texts randomly sent for a im thinking of you, or drives on sunday, or vacations, or holidays, wedding partners, (he went but kicking and screaming, no dancing etc, and leave immediately after the meal), the kicking back together watching a movie, snuggling while watching.
I think you get the pooint...after 17 years of marriage, i missed out on a marriage of any of these things. So i either can choose to continue not to miss it, or i could choose to allow myself to wish i could find someone that was even a few of those things.
But i do miss his quirky sense of homour, in fact he still makes me laugh, that we did well together. So now i find a guy who seems to be all these things in one, claims to love me (tho we've never met face to face), and im not feeling the spark. I'm walk alone.  | |
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| what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/16/2011 7:12:29 AM | Those who wrote the missing of the Ritual Sunday dinners added another good/sad one to miss. Also the Holiday dinners here in the home. Those are things you really can't do as a dater since while dating you have not gotten to the point of creating you own new rituals yet.
And the lady who wrote the grab-assing in the kitchen has another point. Ahh the kisses on her neck while she attempts to chop the veggies!! 
This really is a bittersweet thread! | |
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| what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/16/2011 9:58:07 AM | ^^^^^ Taoistic1, bitter-sweet it is, but it also highlights whether the person making the comments is remembering through a glass-half-full or -half-empty frame of mind, or just perhaps, they are remembering both (a balanced approach).
When a person studies for a test, 'last in is first remembered', because it's fresher. Same with a relationship. The ending, especially emotionally-charged as it usually is (be it a passing or a break-up), tends to make it the part that is remembered most forcefully. It is good to remind oneself (or be reminded by threads such as this) of the good times that went before, especially if the relationship was a happy one -- all the little things that drew you close and kept you close.
It is a reaffirmation of the promises of happiness that are inherent in a good relationship. Whether those promises are broken later on is a moot point; thing is, they did exist, they were shared by the partners, and love was expressed and received in wonderful ways. | |
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| what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/16/2011 11:21:30 AM | After being widowed, i always felt sad around 5 pm, the time he would come for dinner. Even if he was working, he would stop by, give us all a hugs & kiss, & grab a bite to eat. Early mornings were hard, i always missed the sound of him puttering around the house, & how the house would smell of his shampoo & cologne even after he left.
Weekends were tough also, we used to go to Miami, South Beach, or the Hard Rock in Hollywood on weekends, and enjoy the big city.
Now that i am in a relationship, i do not take any of these things for granted!
Enjoy every little moment! | |
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| what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/17/2011 7:41:49 AM | Sunday is the worst day of the week for me as a single person..its the day that all my friends are doing their family time. I have noone to hang out with and I jst miss that wonderful feeling of having someone of your own to hang out with to do together things. Cooking for one is no fun either!
Going to a wedding or similar function I miss having a partner.
Recently I returned from a wonderful vacation ..I went on my own..when I came home I felt soo alone and lonely..there was noone to tell what a wonderful vacation I'd had.
Most of the time Im ok with being single....to do as I please, when I please. | |
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| what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/17/2011 4:33:37 PM | I haven't read all the other replies, but here's my 2 cents:
I miss having someone around to do things with on the weekends. During the week my job and my kids take up most of my time. Friday evening is usually "out with friends" night. But Saturday and Sunday evenings, it would really be nice to have someone around.
(But I get over it come Monday morning...)  | |
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| what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/18/2011 7:47:37 PM | glen
i don't like to kill anything either. but this thing was not eviction material. larger than a half dollar and was jumping like a tai kwon do expert!
i was afraid to let him get away and out of sight to show up later in the bedroom! would never have been able to sleep til i hunted him down....... | |
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| what are some of the times you most miss a relationship-not the obvious ones
Posted: 10/18/2011 9:19:25 PM | Holidays or Sundays. I see couples going out together. Or at a club when everyone has a date and men alone think oh she must be out to pick up a man--NOT! Just because they are out for that does not mean a woman is. . Family events yes, here I AM still ALONE AGAIN hehe. . Trips. It is so hard going on a trip without anyone but I still do it. Or taking a road trip, hard to go to those out of the way places as a woman alone. Or how about football games and other sporting events. Or fishing. a woman can not go to a lake alone with no one around fishing.  | |
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