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| for a man....is it best to have an affair or visit a prostitute...
Posted: 9/6/2011 10:50:07 AM | | Well.... Now ive got your attention and i've shown you that there's always more to these stories than the usual "oh the guys just a **stard". Which while simple, convenient and easily spread around social circles, Isn't always the full truth of the matter!! | |
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| for a man....is it best to have an affair or visit a prostitute...
Posted: 9/6/2011 10:52:35 AM | What is it you want to hear? Do you really want the answer to your question or are you seeking our approval?
I have heard that men feel less guilty about paying for sex with a prostitute than having an affair. 99% of the men who visit masseurs for a 'happy ending' massage are married. It seems a lot of men seem to think that visiting a prostitute isn't the same as cheating. Personally, I think they are deluding themselves but they see it as a business transaction and they can justify that better in their mind than having an affair. If I were you, I'd ask myself if my partner had an affair or paid for sex behind my back.... how would I feel?
I don't know your circumstances and what stops you from leaving your wife or trying to make a go of it. You haven't mentioned whether or not you still love her....perhaps its irrelevant, but do you?
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Posted: 9/6/2011 10:54:01 AM | | The point is he's declaring himself to be separated, but admits he isn't and has no wish to get divorced. So he's looking to cheat, basically. If the marriage is dead, whether by her fault, his or both, then he needs to man up, as one poster said, and deal with it, not look to cheat. I don't suggest for one second, that he's a **stard or that he's the only one who could be at fault, but cheating solves nothing in the long run. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2011 11:02:59 AM | Now maybe I read to much in to things but on your profile you say you have lots of friends but " need a special friend ". Also you are looking for someone who is bored and not narrow minded.
What I read in to all that is your looking for someone to have sex with . Or maybe I just need to start reading things differently.. | |
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gixsr1
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| for a man....is it best to have an affair or visit a prostitute...
Posted: 9/6/2011 11:22:17 AM | Well.... Now ive got your attention
So you said all that just to get people's attention?
and i've shown you that there's always more to these stories than the usual "oh the guys just a **stard". Which while simple, convenient and easily spread around social circles, Isn't always the full truth of the matter!!
Who were you showing that to, because so far I don't think anyone has said he's a b@stard and people (on the whole) just seem to be responding to the question he asked, rather than judging him as a person. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2011 11:40:12 AM | op I now have read your profile here is my opinion .
You are trying to draw some inoccent women into this .
That is not fair its cruel .
you fix what is wrong with your marriage .
or at least try to if you cannot you split
once you sort your head then date not while you are married
I for one wouldnt touch a married man with a ten foot barge pole
strider we only no hes on here telling fibs on his profile that isnt fair to any women he involves .
We all have needs but that doesnt give us the right to hurt another person
We all need affection yes but i think the women he would date would be mislead dont you .
As ive said disposable world why bother finding out what is wrong with his wife when he can keep all there material wealth and see a prostatute or two .
Weird
bringing another women into the mess could destroy another life | |
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Posted: 9/6/2011 12:29:33 PM | Ok read his profile and had more of a think.....
There are people out there who have affairs, not only will you be going behind your wifes back but you will be lying to an innocent woman who may fall in love with you believing you're single and thinking you will be with her when the reality is you won't be; therefore you will be using her and playing games.
Use your wife to keep the house, put dinner on the table, support you financially and you will be using another to have sex with and give you the fun.
That is a very dangerous game, when the other woman finds out she will expose you and you will lose everything.
If you want to maintain some dignity and you're unable to fix things at home and really do not want to leave, be honest there are women who have affairs so find one and keep it open instead of misleading and hurting someone.
Obviously you're determined to do this so do it above board and do it the right way.
VV
Yes it is wrong but there is noway he will not do it but the least he can do is be honest with the other woman instead of breaking some innocent good womans heart. | |
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| for a man....is it best to have an affair or visit a prostitute...
Posted: 9/6/2011 12:49:23 PM |
Thats the thing angelcakes there is no right way to commit adultry its wrong
It's wrong .... to some (most?) people
He probably should just leave his missus if he can't sort it out ... but if he doesn't think that's an option then I can understand why he'd consider playing away from home.
I'm not condoning what he's thinking of doing, but in the big scheme of things, I don't see infidelity as a massive crime (except to the person whose been cheated upon) | |
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Posted: 9/6/2011 12:51:59 PM | His History shows this.
cos i am a male who hasnt been happy for many years, and have been looking outside my marriage, personally i think too
many people are too willing to get divorced, this can wreck the lives of children and families generally, it can also be very expensive and just lining the pockets of
overpaid lawyers etc...
And having a fling with a prostitute or looking for women on a dating site wouldnt wreck the lives of children and families, git a grip man. | |
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Posted: 9/6/2011 1:14:35 PM | Having a fling with a pro could give him a doze of something (std aids )
Any man of mine went near one id be of he could keep the blooming house i wouldnt risk my health for no amount of cash .
OP Isplit from my 2 kids father we are the best of friends here is why i never bothered what he took when we split ,
His own sister cause he had cheated told me keep the tv id bough him for his 40th
what did i do i played fair he had the big tv ,
Ihad a portable
Iwasnt being an indian giver for noone .
The result is two very happy kids with parents who are split but never argue .
He ended up in a flat guess who did the fighting for him to get a home that was suitable for our son to be in .
Yes me things only get nasty if people play nasty .
My ex cheated on me not my kids . my kids were not suffering no amount of money in this world would be worth seeing my kids suffer ,
So be an adult op
Dont use kids as an excuse happy parents happy kids and you do have a responsibility to your family with there emotional well being ,,,
Or had you forgot that with self pitty cause of no sex | |
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Cazita
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| for a man....is it best to have an affair or visit a prostitute...
Posted: 9/6/2011 11:50:05 PM | | There are lots of married folk on here hooking up with each other. I'm not going to judge as it's none of my business. I have no advice regarding the question in hand as to which route might be best for the OP... however what I will say is that he should be honest in his profile. If you're married then say you are married and give women the opportunity to make an informed decision about entering into communication with you. Yes that means most won't be interested... but that's life. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2011 1:32:53 AM |
well i have been married for many years and bedroom games have not been available for many years, although i have put "separated" i am still married and living in the same house,i dont really want to divorce if i can avoid it.
I have put on my profile i'm a man, but really i'm a giraffe!! | |
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Posted: 9/7/2011 8:40:01 AM | | thankyou" strider886" at least you understand, i can understand people taking an aggresive stance at me , but until youve been in the position of not having sex for about 15years, you cant begin to understand how i feel. its not just sex that i miss its that closeness and feeling wanted. | |
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Posted: 9/7/2011 8:57:02 AM |
its not just sex that i miss its that closeness and feeling wanted.
from how you've put it across so far, i find that hard to believe.
if that is also what you are missing, then why would you consider going to a prostitute?
there is no closeness and there will be no (affectionate) feelings. that is all just about sex.
plus if you wanted that stuff in an affair, but you're not being upfront with women whom you speak to, then that closeness/feeling you may get, is going to be based on a lie and so it won't be real.
as a few other people have said, you've not really given any background info into what's going on (even though it'd only be one side of the story) and so people have responded to the question that you actually asked. | |
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| for a man....is it best to have an affair or visit a prostitute...
Posted: 9/7/2011 9:13:24 AM |
thankyou" strider886" at least you understand, i can understand people taking an aggresive stance at me , but until youve been in the position of not having sex for about 15years, you cant begin to understand how i feel. its not just sex that i miss its that closeness and feeling wanted
Why are you still in a loveless marriage why is your wife i mean it just doesnt make sence . you have 70 80 yrs of a life and your waisting it being unhappy makes totally no sence to me im sorry but it doesnt .
Here is something you cant take money with you it doesnt make you happy .Im not being agressive im giving my opinion as you asked for opinions .
you got my honest opinion thats all i can give . | |
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