| | Does Sarcastic Sense of Humor = poor social skills?Page 5 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | Sarcasm and dry humor, properly applied in the right context can be a level of communication much more effective and can be a much deeper level than your typical banter.
I've found that at least for me, my profile weeds out those who are less intelligent than me without me having to do a thing. If they don't respond, or if they send a hate message, they're probably not smart enough to change a lightbulb by themselves, but if they tell me that they read my profile and I made their day.. a first meetup is almost guaranteed. | |
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| Does Sarcastic Sense of Humor = poor social skills?
Posted: 11/30/2011 10:05:37 PM | As per sarcasm, some people just don't get the -humor- which lies therein 
Sarcasm to me is a great social 'tool'. lol
I am a sarcastic person sometimes. If used in a satirical manner, no one is focused on in a personal attack sort of, and it's just plain kidding around. It certainly helps in situations to put a STOP to whatever nonsense that may be occurring. The basis being to break the monotony, to make someone pause and think, or to just 'throw a rachet' into the mix.
Dry humor, wit; call it what you will, but sarcasm is my way of dealing with some of the negativity and other B.S. life throws at you. If a person doesn't like it, gets offended, doesn't understand or is just too damned dumb- oh well! At least I know I'm going to get a laugh in, no matter the situation. Oh yeah! I'm weird and laugh at some of the most trying situations... all I know is that when it's said and done, MY stress level is diminished. haha
Essentially, sarcasm can sit on either side of the line...
Now as for conflict- I avoid it. But at the same time, I do not tolerate ignorant bullshit and sarcasm turns to ass munch if necessary. I was taught to deal like with like, dish it like I receive it(w/in certain moral, legal and ethical boundaries). Usually a sarcastic remark will come out if you are acting like an idiot or offensive to me, my friends or family. Nonsense stops real quick then. Once the pause has been established- let's find something cool to do, laugh about and or go grab a beer. That's just my philosophy on the matter. | |
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| Does Sarcastic Sense of Humor = poor social skills?
Posted: 12/1/2011 3:24:09 AM |
In your personal dating experience, is "sarcasm" a red flag--a euphemism, for poor social skills? Or is it a prime desirable attribute, seeing as so many people tout it?
After reading the posts and situations in real life, I've come to the conclusion that Men tend to favor sarcasm more than women do. When i do it to men they laugh, and when I do it to women they get an attitude.
Damn Bruce Willis for making sarcasm/a$%hole look cool. "Die Hard"  | |
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| Does Sarcastic Sense of Humor = poor social skills?
Posted: 12/3/2011 6:59:23 AM |  I happened to find that a sarcastic sense of humor can be quite an amiable quality--one, in which I possess & utilize, when seemingly appropriate (or not, for that matter...lol) when feel'n the need to addresss instances that especially exhibit displays of sheer stupidity. Can be used very effectively in getting one's perspective or summation of something or someone in a variable of situations, in which one may deem inappropriate & in need of being put "in check". Sarcastic retorts, though perhaps having the tendency of being "politically incorrect" & on the ornery side--with a 'lil touch quick-wit, can be a very effective communicating tool.
Poor social skills are the absence or lack of an individual's ability to interact and assimilate effectively amongst others in social situations and in society in general. One shouldn't misconstrue the manner in which someone may choose to utilize a form communication, as not having adequate abilities to do so well or at all. Nor should one character trait of one's personality, be misconstrued as being a poor form of socializing as a whole. Just 'cuz ya don't like or agree with something doesn't make it substandard or unacceptable--it is merely a difference in opinion and preference.
Ignorance is the absence or lack of knowledge & the absence or lack of opportunity to obtain or learn it. Stupidity is having had the opportunity to obtain or learn knowledge-- then to mindlessly refuse to accept or dismiss that opportunity. 
NOW!!!! Tell me...do I come across as someone with poor social skills??? Heheheh-- YEH...I don't think so!!! SARCASM CAN BE AN ART IN ELOQUENTLY PUT"N SOMEONE IN THEIR PLACE WITHOUT THEM GENERALLY BEIN BRIGHT ENOUGH TO REALIZE IT "TIL UR LONG GONE!!! | |
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| Does Sarcastic Sense of Humor = poor social skills?
Posted: 12/4/2011 7:39:41 AM | | I know I have good social skills and I am also sarcastic. Although I know when to use my sarcasm and when not to. There is definitely a time and place for that type of humor. It's not always appropriate and some people DON'T like it. But I like it when I meet a guy with my sense of humor so we can bounce sarcasm off of each other and nobody takes it personal, cause that is never how it is meant. | |
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| Does Sarcastic Sense of Humor = poor social skills?
Posted: 12/5/2011 12:27:32 PM | Sarcastic people, like me, are or have wit. you must though have tact in order not to be an a$$. Also you must understand how others might perceive your comments and that is where tact comes in. Try never to make fun of things which someone cannot change, but more what people might say or do...
To me, I use sarcasm to point out to the obvious what others cannot see. Like... better to be a wise a$$ than a dumb a$$. Not all sarcasm is used to poke fun at others ,but there are those who do that irregardless. | |
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| Does Sarcastic Sense of Humor = poor social skills?
Posted: 12/5/2011 4:18:46 PM |
I read up on it and what I learned is it is a sign of insecurity
I usually find that labelling someone as insecure is the biggest sign of it.... It's a way of trying to put someone down in comparison to themselves....
Sarcasm can be used for humour, political expression... (Let's face it, almost every editorial cartoon is an example of sarcasm.... ), to illustrate a point, etc... | |
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| Does Sarcastic Sense of Humor = poor social skills?
Posted: 12/5/2011 4:50:46 PM | Sarcastic humor and poor social skills are mutually exclusive things. They do not automatically go together.
It develops for many reasons. Mine is a twisted way to reveal humor and the positives in seemingly only negative circumstances. But I also rarely get sarcastic about people. It is more about life and the human condition. | |
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| Does Sarcastic Sense of Humor = poor social skills?
Posted: 12/5/2011 5:18:23 PM |
(BrockLee74) Sarcastic humor and poor social skills are mutually exclusive things. They do not automatically go together.
Then, they are not "mutually exclusive", which means, having one automatically makes it IMPOSSIBLE to have the other. It *IS* possible to have both (i.e. be sarcastic, and have poor social skills). The proper term, then, is that they are "unrelated", not that they are "mutually exclusive".
Arlo...
(people who say "One in the same", instead of "One and the same", are the verbal equivalent of running fingernails down a chalkboard...) | |
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Posted: 12/6/2011 8:07:56 AM |
Then, they are not "mutually exclusive", which means, having one automatically makes it IMPOSSIBLE to have the other. It *IS* possible to have both (i.e. be sarcastic, and have poor social skills). The proper term, then, is that they are "unrelated", not that they are "mutually exclusive".
You meant that in the nicest and most sarcastic manner possible of course. | |
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Posted: 12/6/2011 12:48:38 PM |
(Consigliori) You meant that in the nicest and most sarcastic manner possible of course.
Aren't "nice" and "sarcastic" mutually exlusive? Or did you mean "nicely sarcastic", which I suppose is possible...
We should stop this before my head pops...
Arlo... | |
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| Does Sarcastic Sense of Humor = poor social skills?
Posted: 12/6/2011 12:54:28 PM | I can appreciate a sarcastic sense of humour, at times I have one as well.
I dont like any humour that makes people feel badly, and I dont participate in that...
I dont think having or enjoying sarcasm means anything except, they enjoy or display this type of humour.
Are there sarcastic types who actually have bad social skills? Yup. And there are types who prefer slapstick comedy who also have bad social skills. One does not equate to the other. | |
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