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Serephena
Why would you ever buy him a drink? Not me, if a man is seriously interested and we have been talking, I am old school and he pays.
If you were truly old school, you wouldn't have any money to buy drinks with. What you meant to say is "his money is mine and my money is mine". Ladies, it's 2012, you want equality then you pay too. Or you can go back to being barefoot, pregnant, and in the kitchen. You can go back to living with and off your parents, till they could marry you off.
You're just old school when it benefits you, is all. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2012 10:47:13 PM |
He tells me he has had a dream where we were intertwined on my bed when my door flies open and housemate jumps in the sack for " fun and games." He was very detailed in his discriptions! My message to him? Sir you are a PIG!! BLOCK!!!!
What was he thinking??????????????
Give him some points for creativity though. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2012 10:52:53 PM |
If you were truly old school, you wouldn't have any money to buy drinks with. What you meant to say is "his money is mine and my money is mine". Ladies, it's 2012, you want equality then you pay too. Or you can go back to being barefoot, pregnant, and in the kitchen. You can go back to living with and off your parents, till they could marry you off.
You're just old school when it benefits you, is all.
Actually, it benefits both of you people. Think of it as a transaction. You pay for whatever, she offers physical affection. That's what she meant by "old school".
Sure it's a bit different in 2012 for some people now but "old school" is still valid. I do it "old school" and it works fine. I'd feel a bit weird-ed out if we both paid for our own share and I bedded her. I'd probably get high-fives around the table by my boys (even more so if she paid for me) but I have an "old school" mindset when it comes to dating. | |
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Posted: 7/22/2012 11:17:23 PM | Nyte2008
Actually, it benefits both of you people. Think of it as a transaction. You pay for whatever, she offers physical affection. That's what she meant by "old school".
Sure it's a bit different in 2012 for some people now but "old school" is still valid. I do it "old school" and it works fine. I'd feel a bit weird-ed out if we both paid for our own share and I bedded her. I'd probably get high-fives around the table by my boys (even more so if she paid for me) but I have an "old school" mindset when it comes to dating.
Do your 'old school' dates know you think of them as cheap meal/event wh0res? You buy them things so you can f*ck them. They're not even getting top dollar money from you.
Did you really want to say that? I think you're going to regret typing those words out for all to see. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2012 1:08:47 AM | | He took notes while I talked and gave me the creepiest side hug ever. The notes was what did it. Never again. | |
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Posted: 7/23/2012 12:49:57 PM |
Talked with a girl on here daily for 2 weeks. Thought she was a sweetheart, really sweet and innocent. Met for a walk, 10 minutes into it she tells me that she is a "call girl" and then starts rattling off her rates. omg :)
Obviously she wasn't attracted to you then! :-D | |
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Posted: 7/23/2012 1:13:24 PM | Do your 'old school' dates know you think of them as cheap meal/event wh0res? You buy them things so you can f*ck them. They're not even getting top dollar money from you.
Did you really want to say that? I think you're going to regret typing those words out for all to see.
No, he didn't want to say that, and that's not at all what he said. It's what you said.
There are a lot of people out there (and for the record I'm not one of them) who still do the dating ritual
where the guy pays if he asks the lady out. There are actually a few guys on these forums that have said
as much. Usually when they get into a relationship, most admit (guys and girls) to sharing or taking turns.
Now, if that's not your thing, no problem...there have been numerous threads dedicated to this very
question and both sides have been presented.
Not sure why you turned his statement around, but it made you seem like a creepy, old, bitter guy.
Not sure you really wanted to say that? But I think you could regret typing those words for all to see. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 3:52:11 AM | This is one of many as I've been single and on this website since last year :
anyways
So, I'm not an shallow guy let me say that right off the bat. I date women of all ethnicities, shapes and sizes. Too bad its not reciprocated but anyways so I talk to this woman for about 2weeks almost daily. We like the same movies, hobbies etc. Ever seen the movie "catfish"? Well i show up at the restaurant to meet her in person. Clearly as she's at least 200lbs heavier...they were fake pictures but I'm nice and keep my mouth shut. We eat for awhile, and I'm steadily getting angrier for such a blatant lie. But to top it off, shes breathing so heavily, has a sheen of sweat on her face and is smacking so loud,as she eats that i snap. I dont say anything but i audibly sigh really loud and stare off at a far wall until she asks me whats wrong. Again i dont want to barrass her so i just say "you lied, thats all and its angering to me"
She then starts tearing up and apologizing to me telling me the pictures were actually of her sister, SISTER! and that she had a hard time meeting guys like me because most men are pigs or simpky ignore her true profile.
Well then the sobs get louder and looking around the room in the applebee's restaurant, you would think I committed some kind of murder because I'm getting glares from everyone and this lady is crying in front of me . I calm her down and explain im nit mad (though really i still am) and explain to her that after the date because she lied...it was safe to say i wasnt going to be interested anymore. She says she understands and proceeds to apologize the entire time. By the time i get home shes texted me 9 times basically telking me in 9 different ways rhat shes so sorry and i just ignore her | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 4:56:07 AM | My worst date:
We sent many texts on POF, then talked on the phone, and he seemed like a great guy. So we met for dinner. He said he would walk as he lived very close. He was very out of breath when he arrived and looked like he was going to pass out. His picture was not at all the same. The conversations went very well. He chose not to have any alcohol, which I didn't think anything of. Half way through dinner he told me he was dying! He had advanced liver disease, and explained that in most people it affects the brain and the body deteriorates quickly. Then in the next breath he told me he had a girlfriend, but she had 5 kids. Double shock! Well, I left right away. I just could not believe this was the same man that was texting me and talking to me on the phone. It was a bit of a shock. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 5:56:30 PM | chinadol6977 - That is too freakin' funny!!! OMG I am busting out laughing here! I'll have to remember that line!
When someone invites you to their home knowing they have animals, dog, cat, etc. The owner should make it appoint to manage their animals. They know whether or not their dogs jump, hump or sniffs the jiff and should be consciensious in monitoring their animals to prevent visitors from being uncomfortable visiting. Stick them in a room, outside, or where ever until the visitor leaves. It's just rude for the owner NOT to do nothing to prevent the behavior especially in the beginning of the relationship.
If for some reason after months of dating and there is still no control - get out or live with it. Remember a "dog" is a man's best friend. That's not going to change! | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 6:10:33 PM | I started to say "To Gramps" Then, I realized when you put "53" in your name you are either 53 or born 1953. Either way... you are close to my age, so I'll refrain and be respectful.
I believe Serphena was trying to make a point - that she doesn't believe in "digging in her pockets" on the first date. And, she shouldn't. Again, it sets the precidence for the relationship. A woman needs to be treated like a lady. I imagine that later on in the relationship most woman would do something nice for their special guy. Whether it's going out to dinner, buying basket(base or foot)ball tickets to his favorite team or cooking him a really well thought out dinner. But, in the beginning of any relationship - a man should be a gentleman, open doors, pull out chairs, pay for drinks or dinner if that's what HE suggested you both would do.
Personally, I don't intentionally set out for dinner initially. If they ask what I would like to do, I suggest a couple of drinks and an appetizer. I try not to spend more than 1 1/2 hours on a first meeting. I let him know before the meeting that I only spend that much time, because if it's not what you are in to - no harm, no foul. If it's a good meeting ...I'm definately going to make it appoint in letting him know how I'd really like to see him again. And, really look forward to it - then, if he doesn't suggest something , I will suggest something in a "fun" senario.
Ladies - food for thought... keep this in mind and have that "fun" place in the back of your mind in case. | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 6:24:50 PM | Sailingthe Ottawa - honey, I am so sorry you had to encounter something like that! Unfortunately, people - woman & men have no clue to the impact actions like that have to the recepient party.
I just can't even imagine the shock in your face. It must have been devastating.
Another rule of thumb for me - I block my number until we meet. At that point, if things go well I will divulge my number, if not - I don't have to change my number or deal with rapid fire texts. Does it sound controlling? Perhaps, but it's a cautious measure I take as a single woman. As I share these tips with you all, remember - this works for me. It's a course of measure I take to avoid having to take drastic recourses to eliminate them from my life. Instead of having to deal with the emails, texts, phone calls. Those privileges are very sacred to me and should things go well, I will grant them those priveleges - if not ... It's all good in my BIG PICTURE!!
Take what you need and leave the rest! | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 8:38:55 PM |
Do your 'old school' dates know you think of them as cheap meal/event wh0res? You buy them things so you can f*ck them. They're not even getting top dollar money from you.
Did you really want to say that? I think you're going to regret typing those words out for all to see.
No, because I don't think of them that way. That is honestly the most ignorant response I have ever seen.
My definition of "old school" is a modernization of the classic "man vying for a womans affection". Sure, the hipster kids and/or the jaded folk these days may go around and be all about equality but I still believe in some points of "Natural Law". That is, a female will naturally be drawn towards and copulate and pro-create with the strongest male of the herd. "Strongest" in the modern sense is career stability, the ability for the man to care for his young, and the ability for the man to defend his territory. Paying for dinner subconsciously enforces the first 2 points above for being the "strongest" (the last point is not financially motivated).
To counter each of your points:
Do your 'old school' dates know you think of them as cheap meal/event wh0res?
No, my 'old school' dates probably think I'm trying to impress them by being a "modern chivalrous man". The only way my dates would think that I think they are cheap meal/event whores is if I literally ask them to go back to my place after paying for an expensive ass meal or going in for a long dirty french kiss at the end.
You buy them things so you can f*ck them
No, I buy them things so they have a good impression of me so that there may be a chance at a second or third date etc. Bedding them is simply a consequence of dating and is in no way my goal. My goal is for that chance at a relationship with an awesome gal. It's very misogynistic to think that the end goal of "dating" is f*cking them. That's a reservation that chauvinists have which I am not.
They're not even getting top dollar money from you.
Again, highly ignorant and a failed attempt at berating me. It has nothing to do with the amount of money so whether it is top dollar or not is irrelevant. It's the act of paying for it which to me is important.
Now I can go on and on and write an essay about this but I hope that you're a smart enough guy to understand where I'm getting at so I don't waste my time. And if you don't understand, date around more and get experience. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2012 9:29:56 AM | | Yes, Boynton Beach is a nice place, especially in the winter! I only talked to him on the phone once before meeting. He seemed like a jokester, and I thought that an upbeat persona wouldn't be bad...but that turned into crude when we met. Live and Learn! | |
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Posted: 7/28/2012 12:08:53 PM | Nyte2008:
I still believe in some points of "Natural Law". That is, a female will naturally be drawn towards and copulate and pro-create with the strongest male of the herd. "Strongest" in the modern sense is career stability, the ability for the man to care for his young, and the ability for the man to defend his territory
This may be true in the animal kingdom, but human beings do not live by instinct; we are capable of independent thought…not that everyone chooses to exercise that ability.
‘Strongest’ is subjective. What attracts me in a man is not necessarily what attracts other women and I KNOW this to be a fact. To assume every woman wants the same man is absolutely ridiculous. The minute a man is in ‘demand’ with other women I will have zero attraction to him.
Plus not all women want to procreate. That’s another difference between us and animals. Animals have no choice. Human beings do.
x_John_x:
Well then the sobs get louder and looking around the room in the applebee's restaurant, you would think I committed some kind of murder because I'm getting glares from everyone and this lady is crying in front of me . I calm her down and explain im nit mad (though really i still am) and explain to her that after the date because she lied...it was safe to say i wasnt going to be interested anymore. She says she understands and proceeds to apologize the entire time. By the time i get home shes texted me 9 times basically telking me in 9 different ways rhat shes so sorry and i just ignore her
Well that’s damn sad. Probably you were her one and only date in years, unless she’s tricking other men the same way…in which case her dating life must be one disappointment after another. :( And of course disappointing to you as well.
Don’t do dinner on a first meet. Just make it a quick coffee/drink meet, then if you like each other go from there….or bail really quick if things turn out for the worse. | |
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Posted: 7/28/2012 4:49:36 PM | ^^^^I don't know how to "quote" so I'm referring to the "quote" that Fleuron refers to in her first paragraph above.............
When I hear verbage like ".....copulate and pro-create with the strongest male of the herd.....", I picture things in my mind that just should NOT be there!!! And I don't mean in a fun kinda sexy way! I'm imagining a bunch of gazelles and curly horned goats skewing bunny rabbits......or something. WTH? REEEEEElllllaaaaaaxxx(zz)!!!!!
I just have to wonder about people who say such descriptive things......not what I said, but the whole "copulate....." statement.
Do people like that ever REALLY relax? LAUGH? Have sex without the word "copulating" running through their mind.......?
Dayum!
It scares the hell out of me that IF there is ever a NEXT time.........I'm going to be thinking, "WOW! I'm COPULATING!!! Sure hope he's a strong one!".
Poor guy. | |
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Posted: 7/30/2012 5:33:50 PM | | If you have a first meet with someone who obvioulsy lied about their pictures, why would you bother spending time with a liar? Lying is not a good foundation on which to start a friendship or relationship. | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 9:17:45 AM | I so would have sent my laundry bill to that chick, OP.
Worst date I've ever been on was a couple of years ago... We met at a coffee shop and as soon as we starting talking I began to get an uneasy feeling. He would not stop talking about all the dates he had been on with other women and all the sex he had. What a tactless perv! Not only was I immediately put off by him, I was annoyed that I had actually put on makeup to meet this loser. A complete waste of my effin' time! 20 minutes after meeting this cretin I was plotting my escape. Ugh... | |
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Posted: 8/1/2012 7:00:56 PM | Not my date, but I was trying match dot you-know years ago, and ended up text-chatting with a nice blonde in Australia. I was new, and she was warning me what to expect.
She goes to this restaurant to meet this guy, and he's clearly 10 years older than his pix, and worse for the wear, hair not doing so well, etc.. She had me in stitches, with comments that his teeth looked like tombstones with moss, and the revelation that a piece of the moss flicked off as he talked and landed on her wine glass. The conversation went on for a long time, and the details were hilarious.
But the best part was when she decided to make her escape—she feigned an appendicitis and said she needed to get to a hospital. She tried to out-rush him to her car, but he kept up and went in for a hug/kiss—she bent over and held him off in a faked acute attack, got in the car and drove off. | |
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Posted: 8/2/2012 4:37:09 PM | | OK, so I meet this guy from another site. He is a LITTLE older than me. His photo shows some age, but its ok. I try not to judge. We meet at a chain restaurant for drinks. He turns out to be 68 yrs old. I was 36 at the time. Then when the check came, I asked the waitress to separate it. He did not have nay money. He asked me if I could hold on a sec while he went to the care for some more money. He came back with a hand full of change. He covered his tab but asked if I could leave the tip. The waitress and I were like WTF???? He then walked me out to my car and said "damn, nice truck baby..." He then proceeded to grab my butt. I was like, "you remember I am from New Jersey, I carry a knife." He wanted to know when he would see me again. REALLY???????? | |
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Posted: 8/2/2012 11:08:05 PM |
When I hear verbage like ".....copulate and pro-create with the strongest male of the herd.....", I picture things in my mind that just should NOT be there!!!
Romantic, ain’t it?
“Oooh, baby….copulate me, now!”  | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 5:32:36 PM | I think I mentally blocked the memory of my worst date until it resurfaced, reading this thread! LOL
I was chatting with a guy about bicycling, since I love biking and he had done some long distance trips, too. He suggested getting together for coffee so he could tell me about some weeklong bike trips he'd done that I might be interested in, because I had told him I was looking for weeklong bike vacations for this summer.
When I met him I was struck by how emaciated he was.....really gaunt, not thin and muscular like a lot of guys who cycle a lot are. Well, he quickly admitted that he had some kind of chronic blood cancer that had required a bone marrow transplant (which explained his emaciated state) and that he did not own a car; his only transportation was bicycling. I suspect he just wanted someone to have lunch with and talk to, since he seemed lonely. And he never did come up with any good suggestions for weeklong bike trips -- obviously, that was just a ruse to get me to meet him. Although I earned brownie points in heaven for being nice to a guy with one foot in the grave, I sure felt used. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 7:38:11 PM | Worst date for me was after I had an initial meet with the guy. He was a bit geeky and nervous but very articulate and we had a lot in common. I wasn't feeling huge sparks but I gave him a second chance thinking maybe it was just due to nervousness.
It was in July and after our meet we spoke a day or two later and I mentioned wanting to take off and see a local fireworks display. He asked if I would like company so I agreed to go with him. I insisted on driving although he was trying to be insistent with me on letting him drive. I wasn't threatened by him but I just felt safer being in my car. So that was a tad awkward. We proceeded to go go to the fireworks display and he was so friggin annoying with complaining about everything: the traffic was bad, we would have to park too far & walk, will there be bugs out? , he forgot his mosquito repellant, etc. ad nauseum. It aggravated me so much I just said fine, let's skip it if it's such a big deal.
We were driving past a movie theatre and he suggested it as an alternative. And by suggesting I mean he whined like an eight year old boy. I just wanted to get out of the house that night, I NEVER do movies with new guys because it is a crappy way to get to know someone but in this case it seemed best. He insisted we see "the bachelor party" which I would not normally pay money to see - more of a guy movie I think. During the movie he kept trying to hold my hand and I was not so subtly taking my hand back each time. I ended up becoming best friends with my soda and cuddled it the whole time. Then I feel something going under my knee. I was wearing a full length skirt and had my legs crossed. I looked down at his hand pulling my knee up, looked at him and said " what the hell are you doing?" to which he replied "I just thought you might be more comfortable with your leg up on my lap" and that was said in all seriousness with a straight face. I said "seriously? NO."
On our way back out to my car he tried to hold hands, put his arm around me etc. awkwardly - he had no social skills as far as dating was concerned. I told him to knock it off unless he wanted to walk back to his car. I seriously think he was such a friggin geek he got so excited I actually agreed to see him again that he assumed it meant I was ready for full speed ahead or something. it was totally creepy. Never saw him again. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 10:57:14 PM | | mine was last year , when this dude picked me up from my house and we went to the beach and he told me about all his ex gf drama , how terrible the girls is and all his personal issues, all of a usdden he asked , " what do I think of this" then he keep on calling over the next few days | |
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