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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/2/2012 3:41:45 AM | | I don't necessarily have much in common, but I think that's overrated anwyay. Sometiems you can click with people you don't necessarily have a lot in common with. Obviously you have to have some opinions in common though. So far anyone my age is boring though. | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/2/2012 6:27:38 AM | Nope. 10 years is as far up as I have gone, and that was ok as we were both at the same approximate stage of life (her 40, me 30), but for me 20 years is too great a gulf of time (basically a generation).
I met someone for a date who was 10 years younger and that was ok too, but I wouldn't want to go any younger than that. | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/2/2012 6:30:39 AM |
No I wouldn't that would make the girl 12
Thread says older not younger....
Age is just a number. I dated older, and younger, but not very much past a few years? Would I? Dunno, depends on the person. I couldnt care less about their age; if we click, we click. If we don't, we don't. Over 18 and under 70 pretty much. Although I'd probably have trouble dating if their over my folks ages LOL. Kinda akward..... | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/2/2012 7:53:05 AM |
Age is just a number.
I get what you're saying, and there's no 'universal' reason why such a couple couldn't be happy together (heck, it happens all the time!). 20 years is a significant passage of time though, I can't imagine this sort of age discrepancy not impacting on a relationship in some capacity, physically or mentally.
I guess the level of impact would depend on the couple.
Speaking personally, I'm ideally looking to start a LTR with someone at the same stage of life as me, with similar life priorities (including the possibility of starting a family together if things go well), so this sort of age gap wouldn't work for me. | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/2/2012 8:33:34 AM | I usually date about 10 - 15 years older, it's always worked out better for me that way. I don't think I could date someone my own age. Even if we did have anything in common I'd still always feel they are too young.
Would I date someone 20 years older? more than likely yes. My ex was 48.
For the most part there are some things that only seem to come with age. The reason I'm different is because I spent my 20's surrounded by 40 year olds so I grew up faster than my peers. | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/2/2012 3:39:20 PM | Of course I'd date someone older than me if I was as you as the lovely woman who has five kids and a great friend in the 'farmer' who's just shown how wonderful, generous and absoltuely adorable he can be.
After all he did do his job, came over and talked. Some men who are older go well with younger women because the men their age haven't grown up yet.
When I was younger I dated men who were 10 to 15 yrs older than I was because they had a B R A I N..... could think, talk and weren't just ready to hop in bed at a moments notice. They actually treated me like I was an intellegent woman. Not that I mind sex, it's great.
NOW though I don't want to date someone that much older than my self unless LOL he's going to be my sugar daddy and leave me well off when he goes down for the count while I'm still waiting for my MOMENT to happen. Do you think what I've just said was thoughtless, crude or insensative? I don't really care what you think. I've been there, done it and won't wear a T-Shirt for it when it comes to rude men who only want sex for the sake of sex and don't know how to hold a single intellgent sentence.
Am I here just for sex, no but is it an option? It might be IF the person had a brain, used it and wasn't into just sex for the sake of it UNLESS they are soooooooooooooooo good at it they can't be ignored, forgotten or get lost in a crowd of other men/women who I might meet along lifes path.
Do I want just a sexual relationship.. NOPE do I want more, Yes.
IF I were younger would I date a much older man, YES say HELL yes he may be the one and The Famer in the Dell perhaps should be the one the lovely young woman should be dating she doesn't need this website she needs to take the flowers, invite that man over for dinner and a movie and see where it goes if it's not already gone further by now..
Just my opinion.. we all have one right LOL | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/3/2012 12:27:37 AM | | As far as age being just a number, as long as both are legal ages that's true. And yet people always go out of their way to tell me it's oh so wrong for me to date an 18 yo. AND they make dumb assumptions as to why I usually date 18-22 range. People worry too much about what others' prefs are. Meanwhile, they think abortion is ok, but anyyyyyway. | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/3/2012 9:56:06 AM | | I date men in their late 20s usually as thats what I prefer and we have more in common than some man in their 30s with a ton of kids and exwives. I like no drama ty lol | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/3/2012 10:15:41 AM | I don't know why people make such a big deal about this age difference thing, especially in smaller towns.
Just last week when I was out for dinner with my companion who's 23 years old people in the restaurant were giving us dirty looks and I definitely felt some bad vibes from the waitress. The sense that people feel that I'm doing something wrong was almost palatable, and several times I could see people leaning over their plates and whispering, and I could imagine them saying all kinds of bad things about us.
I almost let it ruin our 10th anniversary dinner. | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/3/2012 10:30:54 AM | No. Someone 20 years older than me would be old enough to be my mother. 'Nuf said.
Maybe that works for women, but not for most guys, unless they have serious mommy issues. : | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/4/2012 12:15:42 AM | Personally plus or minus 10 years is my limit.. Given that, I also take into consideration the fact that women tend, on average, to live around 7 years longer than men (it's nine years in Japan!).
Knowing that, it is not suprising that there are so many elderly female widows. | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/4/2012 8:54:57 AM | | 20 years older than me would be 51 and sorry thats just not acceptable. No physical attraction would be there and I may want kids and well sorry I dont want my kids father to be 70 or older going to a high school graduation | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/4/2012 10:33:07 AM | | Most of the women I have dated seriously for two or more years have been 15 - 25 year younger than myself although for fun and casual dating I am willing and able to go much younger. When I was around 50 the women I dated usually were 10 to 15 years younger. At 60 I found 20 years younger was ideal. Now at 70 I am looking more at 25 years younger being ideal for me, at least for LTR's. | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/6/2012 9:02:26 AM | Going to be 60 later this year, out of curiosity I did a search from women 79-81 within 35 miles of my zip code. Since I live close to Chicago, it's a big dating pool. But only 14 women that age on PoF.
Age is not a linear function, when I was 30 I would date a women 50 but not date someone 20 years younger, because like, they would be 10. When I am 60 I would not date someone 20 years older for many reasons, not the least of which there aren't many left that want to date and who knows how many profiles are "active". But I would date someone 20 years younger. | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/7/2012 8:06:16 AM | | Not all men 20 years older than oneself are the same. Your guy sounds good, but I've had a very different experience. I was married to a man 21 years older than me and he was awful. He was self-centered, a hypochondriac who popped pills every day, jealous of my friends, attempted to cut me off from my family, etc etc. That was my experience; you are having quite another one. Don't think of it as dating someone 20 years old than you; think of it as dating someone who cares about you. | |
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| Would you date someone 20 years older than you?
Posted: 5/7/2012 8:13:04 AM | Dunno if I'd go with 20 older, but I'd go with 20 younger.
Let's see, that would make her...12.
Cos you know, it's important to really MOLD them fromt he start and have them eating OUT OF YOUR HAND.... 
LOL Seriously, why not 20 older? Be weird, my folks are only 54, and that would make her 52...but it all depends on the woman herself. | |
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