| pre-arranged marriages!
Posted: 7/31/2007 3:44:12 PM | | i can honestly attest to saying mine did not work.It lasted a whole two weeks. | |
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| pre-arranged marriages!
Posted: 7/31/2007 8:42:00 PM | who wants to trade a 18-25 year old female off for a dozen goats? any takers? As long as she looks nice, talks nice, and isnt a money grubber ill consider it.
Seriously, the idea of the prearranged marraige is ancient, it can be good or bad but the idea of th system is great. use two kids from different families to create family and business bonds that will be beneficial to all involved. What a good idea.
What most western women dont like about it is that the mans wealth is not taken into consideration. For example the mans family could have a couple million in anual income, and he could just be a janitor at best amkiing 3 grand a year after taxes, and shed have to make do with his income, and not his families income. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2007 8:49:52 PM | | If someone could pre-arrange a wedding between me and Prince William, I'd be all over that. I mean he's hot, heir to the throne, has money AND he loves Gwen Stefani (who is my idol btw).... Maybe we can get her to sing at our wedding.... | |
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Posted: 7/31/2007 10:29:36 PM |
Aren't all marriages pre-arranged by God?
of course not. Assuming said god exists (not going into that here) it's generally assumed that that level of predestination would seriously compromise free will.
i.e. If your marriage (or any aspect of your life) was already pre-planned out for you, are you truly responsible for your actions? What's the point of sin then? Or salvation?
ah, I'm off topic. carry on. | |
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Posted: 7/31/2007 10:56:22 PM | Never marry anyone you have not established an enjoyable sex life with. | |
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Posted: 8/3/2007 4:18:15 PM | Please understand, the talmudic entertainment industry has promoted on every front, and particularly the country music industry (with all their "how can 18 years just up and walk away" phuck you dad songs) the notion that dad's out and big brother's marriage licensing officers are in where marriage is concerned but no prophet or apostle ever put bondmasters on a list with fathers of those who have to do with the vows of an unmarried non-widow so no one in heaven is paying any more attention to big brother's officers than they would to me if i wrote you out a license to breath and handed it to you - Point being here that it's noones business but dad's when it comes right down to marriage - and that's even bad dad's - otherwise you qualify yourself as being a sorry ass socialist.
To me a lot of the pre-arranged marriages looks like inbreeding.
Apocalypse, that remark sounds about as mature as a first grader so who cares what people who don't know any better than to offer explanations to their slander thinks.
It is so amusing to see something that never wasn’t (among the right-minded of this world) – spoken of as though it would be some bizarre experiment. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2007 6:42:17 AM | I just read an article this morning online about an Indian lady who was at the end of her 'timeline' for marriage in her culture. Her family had over the years introduced her to about 4 men that they thought would be of interest to them but she did have a say so in the final decision and with each of them for one reason or the other was not socially attracted to them and members of her family felt the same way. Eventually a man that was from her culture had came to visit his family in India and they met through mutual friends/family. He is a NY city bank broker would was raised mainly in the US but still followed the guidelines of his family's culture and knew that he wanted to find a woman from his own cultural background.
Arranged marriages are ones that do involve both families and because of tradition, culture, and strong family ties all are involved in being loving and supportive of the union from the onset. There is so much mutual respect for not just the couple but for the entire marriage of the families together. This does bond a couple in this marriage more so than what an 'Americanized' marriage does. There is a more deeper bond spiritually, more respectful of one's self and what is expected in each other's roles to one another. Some people feel that with this sort of marriage that the gender roles are one where the women are always the ones that are so submissive to their husbands but in all actuality it is that the two are submissive and very supportive of each other. The man does take the responsibility of being the main one as far as working outside the home but it is allowable but not a requirement that the wife work. Most women in this type of marriage entertwine the traditions and modernization of today's society and the husbands do the same. To me, having the blessings and having the entire family being supportive on both sides makes for a better union.
In the American society we have lost sight of 'all' the conditions of marriage and take so much for granted and don't consider the spirituality of the sancity of marriage. We have become such a shallow society and it is proven with all the failed marriages, broken families, infidelities, one parent families that don't have the support of either side of the family units due to them initially being supportive of the unions in the first place.
Many times I have thought back of how my great grandparents met and how their marriage was over the years. That was when divorce was out of the question and the old saying 'you made your bed now lie in it' had true meaning and two people truly worked on their marriage and took the time to really learn about each other and respected each other's thoughts and desires. They molded themselves to each other and made it through their indifferences instead of not liking a certain situation and running to a lawyer to get out of the marriage.
Would I go for an arranged marriage... Sure.. especially since it is one that is more thought out and planned for all the right reasons but one with a more modern twist. Better than bouncing from one man to the next but taking the true time that is needed to secure a great relationship and the blessings from both families. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2007 8:38:19 AM | | the key here is to understand the difference between an arranged marriage and a forced one. | |
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Posted: 11/11/2007 9:21:40 AM | Ha! I thought just about all marriages in 'modern' societies were "pre-arranged" -- by the woman.
There's plausibly even quite a lot of psychological forcing going on, too. That's what all the biz is about "Peter Pans who refuse to grow up", men who are "too attached to their mothers" or are "commitment-phobic", men being "intimidated by smart, successful, independent women", et al ad nauseum, is all about, right?
I'm all for bringing back dowries.
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