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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 4/25/2012 5:59:05 AM | | i find rosahoney's statement about men in their 40's being desperate for sex to be a little condescending in this regard. not all men are desperate for sex, no matter the age. hell, i'm 40. and i'm sure not desperate for it... | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 4/25/2012 6:50:34 AM | | Good men?? You forgot the other bit.. Good looking men that are good.. Theres stacks of good guys out there but alot of them arent great handsome brutes like me lol.. naa they're not up to your specs so you move on to someone who is hot!! and guess what?? If you think they're hot, then a thousand other girls do too. So if they keep getting gorgeous chicks hitting on them then f#$king oath they're gonna play.. They're single and allowed to. | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 4/25/2012 8:38:00 PM | | Not all men are desperate horn dogs, I have to0 many male friends to buy into stereotypes :P I know more then a few of different age groups looking for stable relationships, hell I know a few that wont even have sex unless they think it is with the right girl. The right guy will respect you the wrong one wont :P | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 4/27/2012 3:25:10 PM | I like to believe that most of us in this age group are past our casual sex, one night stand phase. I mean , there's nothing wrong with that as an occasional thing if two people feel that intense physical attraction and are both on the same page. But Personally, I would far rather be with someone I want to have a conversation with over breakfast the next day and then see again after that. It's much more satisfying.
So if two people really like each other, there is interest and attraction etc. then waiting until both are ready should not a problem. I try to just let things evolve organically and see how we interact etc. I never push for anything before a woman is ready and if I get the feeling that she isn't comfortable advancing things then I will back off and take it slower. I have had women politely tell me they want to take things slower and I have graciously accepted that and told them it is perfectly fine and that I am interested in more then just the physical aspect of being with them so we can take our time. That's the mature way to do it. Of course, sometimes they are ready to get physical fairly quickly, maybe even quicker then I wanted. Everyone is different and the dynamic of every pairing will be different.
That being said, I think it is important to at least communicate that you are a sexual person and that you are also interested in that with a woman. But in a non creepy or pushy way. If she doesn't know you find her attractive you may very well end up in the "friend" zone and then it may never happen. | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 4/27/2012 5:53:19 PM | | I have had that problem with women lately they want it the first night and you say no and you never hear from them again. | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 4/28/2012 5:47:51 PM | OP says,
" Guys: Do any of you actually respect a woman if she says I want to get to know you better befoer we jump in bed or do you just move on before even having a date?
thoughts? "
I'm not the one to judge but some ladies "sometimes" want to take me home after getting to know me( and strip me naked! ) O_o
I too want to meet a girl who takes it slow, not driven be sexual needs... I never see them again when I say I'm looking for a LTR. Oh well. The bar isn't the right scene I guess! | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 4/29/2012 6:15:04 PM | | So didnt you notice the comment the young lady made right after your question. I think i get more and more irritated each day. You mention do men want something more. But do women. It seems to me, just my thoughts. That they dont want to look further i dont know anymore. Dating should not be this hard. Good luck with your search. | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 5/1/2012 10:04:31 AM | | buenas diaz como estas me llamo omar ytu que estas aciendo que me cuentas deti soy de cuernavaca ytu que te gusta aser los fines de semana | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 5/1/2012 3:10:40 PM | | A life partner is my preference personally . I always thought your partner should be your best friend . Maybe im fashioned old that way . | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 5/24/2012 6:28:44 AM | | Last two guys I dated Isde them wait first was 3 months the second one was to n it wasn't until we were formally bf/ gf of guy likes u for u he will wait if he can't he doesn't deserve u | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 5/24/2012 6:39:29 AM | "Guys: Do any of you actually respect a woman if she says I want to get to know you better befoer we jump in bed or do you just move on before even having a date"
I do and have. BUT...it takes quite a while to get to know someone so I always kept that in mind. | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 5/24/2012 3:20:09 PM | The message you are replying to:
Posted By: Greeneyeslostnfl on 11/13/2011 10 13 PM
Subject: Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Message: thats my point I dont want just sex...
If I am not good enough to date I am not good enough to have sex with either.. all that does is still leaves one alone on holidays and weekends...
I guess it works for some but not for all....
My point exactly feel same way I guess we came here to find a relationship well at least I did so if the guy can't in lnclude me in nothing else but just sex I don't want it either thanks good for mail filter so I can block other relationship intimate encounter of married/ living together | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 5/25/2012 12:13:37 PM | Sex is important to me. Its also part of the relationship and getting to know someone. You might be the nicest person out there and we could be the best of friends get along awsome. Lets say I did wait for 3 months (no way I will) if we had sex and on the second time you still didnt do it for me ( bad sex), Guess what I'm out of there. Having good sex is same as being with someone who has same sense of humor. If you cant get my jokes or me yours, It just wont work.
Good sex makes about 20% of the relationship. Bad sex makes 80% of the trouble in the relationship. Now if both people have low sex drive then it would work out for them. But if I date someone and feel that for her sex is take it or leave it she dont care much for it. Then I know that at best we can be just friends. When I'm with someone sex once or twice a month for two healthy people is not even close to be enough. | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 5/25/2012 1:52:16 PM | | Lmao... This thread is kinda like HS... And maybe that's the problem... There are too many adult adolescents out there!!! My respect for a woman, has NOTHING to do with sex... I can't even believe they ask, or you respond to sex questions through email... Or even on the phone... Maybe I'm wacky... But... Should those kinds of things just happen naturally??? Seriously... Talking about it at all?? What's the point??? If that's what he wants to know... Then there's a shady reason behind it!!! Don't get me wrong... There is nothing wrong with two adults, jumping in the sack because they both want to... But everyone should just be upfront and honest about it. | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 5/25/2012 5:22:32 PM | | what do you do if a woman is emotionally and sexually repressed and cannot even start a relationship ?? how can a man respect that ? | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 5/25/2012 6:57:50 PM | Don't get me wrong-sex is awesome. If I could get paid for it I would. Wait, scratch that last.
After a bit of time hiding/unhiding my profile on here in frustration or disgust I have found that typically you get some type of warning of the persons character before going on a date. Ex: when they send pictures of their junk before a first date, that's an indication they may have less than pure intentions.
Every situation is different, but in general it makes sense to let the emotional side catch up with the physical side. That being said, texting, talking, IM'ing or Skype makes it seem like you have that connection before even meeting sometimes. | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 5/26/2012 4:28:51 AM | | Ladies if you're tired of meeting men who only want sex then you probably need to step your conversation skills. In the dating world most women seem to advertise body before brains all the time. When you're basically a walking meat-market with that dress on you can't get mad when you attract nothing but dogs. Popular opinion say that men are logical and women are emotional. That being said it mean we men are thinkers. Now when we engage you in conversation about things that are happening in the world other sports and pop-culture and you're looking like 'duuh!' then out minds will revert to sex since you just proved to have no other value but that. | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 5/26/2012 11:52:43 AM | I am done with the guys looking for just a sex partner. I believe in waiting for it to be the right time to have sex. Ive been married before and had those FWB relationshps. I am at the point in my life where I want the whole package.
Ladies: Do you feel the same way?
-Yup! In fact, before I turned 40 and after my last fwb arrangement I decided to put the 30's behind me and focus on ME. Alone... yes, A L O N E.
Granted though, I do have children. They really do take the focus off of how single I am and make time fly by.
So there OP, you are NOT the only one.
Guys: Do any of you actually respect a woman if she says I want to get to know you better befoer we jump in bed or do you just move on before even having a date?
- Imo, some guys do and some guys don't. Each have their own thoughts and opinions on this. So be it! Not a biggie.
thoughts?
I've decided that when I am ready I will get what I want. I recently told a friend who advised I have to kiss a few frogs to find my prince that I am not interested in kissing frogs. THAT is my prerogative. I'm so happy with the ability to even make that kind of decision and be content with it.
OP, if this is your belief and you are content with it. Fugg what anyone thinks. Only you live your life, do as you wish.
I'm a firm believer in fate.
I will add this though. Make sure you don't turn yourself off sex either. There is nothing wrong with sex! It can be fantastic with the right partner. Some of us who push others away because we are tired of what we go through and sometimes turn our brains off sex. It might even go as far as "hating" the opposite gender. We get turned off by it when truly sex is not the blame here! Maintain your healthy outlook in sexuality/sensuality. Realize each of us are individuals.
Just own what your beliefs are. Stick by them. It makes it who you are.
That is all
(slurps coffee)
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Ladies if you're tired of meeting men who only want sex then you probably need to step your conversation skills.
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I agree. People are not mind readers. Speak up, say what you want. | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 6/17/2012 7:54:31 PM | | Yes same though exact I aliways forewarn that I won't be jumpin to bed with them from get go n want to wait. So they do agree n then leave bc I won't sleep with them on 4 or 5 date. I'm extremely disappointed in man these days | |
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