| | Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40sPage 2 of 15 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9, 10, 11, 12, 13, 14, 15) | My god.
Men do settle down. My three best friends all have wifes and two kids. Out of my group of friends I am the only single one and I do want to settle down and such. But women are picky and I mean super picky.
Anyways I think that point is super wrong. In fact in two of my major relationships my gf cheated on me and was running around.
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 11/15/2011 5:22:09 PM | | I agree. All the guys I have talked to on this site want fwb. The worst part is most of them are married. Why are these guys even on here. I am a widow at 37 and I'm looking for someone to talk to and hang out with and get to know. I'm not crazy I know that at some point sex is part of dating, but really guys don't even want to talk to you if you don't want to meet them in a day and drop your panties. Were are all the serious guys at. The men on this site are a joke. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 5:27:00 PM | | Well the men my age let it happen because they only care how hot the chick is not if they get treated right. Alot of men do this. They will overlook how screwed they get just because she is hot | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 5:28:58 PM | | Did you explain that to her. I can understand not clicking with someone and then ending it. But I think the problem is women feel like if we don't offer sex at the start men don't want us and if we give sex to early men don't want us. So how can we win. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 5:31:08 PM | | Why do men tell you that you are beautiful or sexy if thier only goal is sex. Do they think that really works. Women are not that dumb. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 6:08:56 PM | | How do I find a guy that respects a women that speaks her mind and is not afraid of a women who know what she wants. I think any good relationship is built on friendship first and then that can make a sexual relationship more fulfilling. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 6:16:12 PM | | HAHA!!! That is funny... Why else would they want to hang out, join a rock band, make lots of money,.... heck the one that are not interested are at home playing with their Xbox. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 7:14:26 PM | | Well I have found that all the guys I have talked to on this site only want sex and if I'm not willing to give it to them they are not interested. I'm not putting anything out there to indicate that I would only be interested in that. It really irrates me that there are not good guys out there anymore. I have gotten to the point only after 4 months of being single that it is not worth it to try to get to know anybody unless you are willing to sleep with them right away. I'm giving up on guys. I would rather be dead than deal with all the bs. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 7:36:26 PM | | I think your taking it a bit of an extreme there Monica. Not all men are only interested in sex. If the time is right then the time is right. Yes there are preditors out there and thats a shame really....but the same goes for both sexes....and you know it. Just wanted to point that out. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 7:57:26 PM | | Obviously I cant speak for the rest of the male species. However I think the other gentlemen was right sex is part of the whole package. Sex is great. However it shouldnt be a deal breaker. I want a woman who compliments me and enjoys life. Someone who wants to share laughs and build memories that last forever. A woman who can depend on me and I her. Someone who wants to grow old together and happy forever. Guys the sex will come ladies take your time and sort through the BS-ers. As you can see not all guys are dogs and believe it or not some of us want the same thing you do. | |
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Posted: 11/15/2011 8:04:46 PM | | Its hard for us women to actually believe it when men say stuff like that. It seems cheesy and full of bs. Its prob not coming from you personally but in general | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 11/15/2011 8:30:31 PM | | do i want to have sex with a women, hell yeah i do. do i want to be in a relationship with her at the same time, you damn betcha man. i will admit a lot of guys are just out for one thing, but not all of us are like that. | |
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| Sex and Dating late 30s and early 40s
Posted: 11/15/2011 8:58:35 PM | I am in my 40s and seen alot. Have grown children now. the divorced men I have met are still very mentally involved with there old families to the point that they cannot give themself to you 100 percent. I often have spent hours talking and giving advice to the man about his old family ex wife kids etc. This is not fun because the whole reason i was there was to be with him. I actually convinced one guy to go back to his wife after her cried he missed his kids so much. These divorced men i have met came packaged with many problems.
Single never married men in there 40s usually dont like kids are used to being single overly inderpendent and used to going out with there guy friends constantly. These guys I have found put there guy frineds first and me second. I truly believe that these guys are not looking for a realtionship if they have not been married in there 40s they really like single life.
who does that really leave to date...who does that leave available for a good relationship... I have met men in there 30s who begged me to get serious with them because they wanted to get married and have kids. I constantly to my surprise get sex offers from guys in there 20s . They actually sometimes have asked me to go out on dates and have been very romantic and charming. I am somewhat baffled by them wanting to be with someone 20 yrs older . Sexually I have found guys in there 20s to be amazing lovers. and fun to be with. I would love a man to be my best friend and want something serious but it imposible to find... | |
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Posted: 11/16/2011 6:36:48 AM | | If sex IS the reason for the relationships you people have been in, then none of you need to get married. Ever. Just stay single and have lots of sex. I'm kind of appalled at the moment . . . I so despise human nature (sigh) | |
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Posted: 11/16/2011 9:56:49 AM | | Quick question, what does FWB mean? I looked for a section that explains the shorthand on here, but FWB wasn't there. Thanks! | |
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Posted: 11/16/2011 11:24:05 AM | Guys: Do any of you actually respect a woman if she says I want to get to know you better befoer we jump in bed or do you just move on before even having a date?
I would totally go on a date with a woman that didn't want to jump in bed right away. If a woman is too eager to jump in bed, it can give men the wrong impression that she's been with a lot of sexual partners. On the other hand, I wouldn't want a wait a ridiculously long time to be intimate if I entered a relationship with someone.
Well I have found that all the guys I have talked to on this site only want sex and if I'm not willing to give it to them they are not interested. I'm not putting anything out there to indicate that I would only be interested in that. It really irrates me that there are not good guys out there anymore. I have gotten to the point only after 4 months of being single that it is not worth it to try to get to know anybody unless you are willing to sleep with them right away. I'm giving up on guys. I would rather be dead than deal with all the bs.
I can't believe that the only men on this site are the ones looking for one night stands. That's not what I'm looking for and I have friends on this site that have either found relationships, or are actively looking for one. It's possible that you're not connecting with these men because you're not attracted to them or they're not attracted to you. That all depends on your taste and their taste.
This thread needs less stereotyping and a dose of reality. You can't lump every man or every woman into one category. There are some men and some women that are only looking for sex on here, but there are many that are honestly looking for relationships. I've never been married, I'm not currently married, and I don't have kids. What it comes down to is a woman will give me a chance if she finds me attractive and vice versa. It's easy to stereotype, but it's more worthwhile to get to know each person on an individual basis. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2011 11:27:25 AM | | Im 31 and I can lump men into one category based on the right that in 31 years Ive never met a single nice guy that there was a mutual attraction. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2011 12:04:56 PM |
Im 31 and I can lump men into one category based on the right that in 31 years Ive never met a single nice guy that there was a mutual attraction.
You just contradicted yourself. You admit that there are nice guys that either you're not attracted to, or that aren't attracted to you. Then you talk about then other men that aren't nice and only want sex. That's two categories. Being 31 doesn't give you any special "rights". I'm 31; do I get a gold watch now? :P Stereotyping and adopting a reductionist attitude isn't going to help you see people as individuals, which is an important thing when it comes to meeting people and dating. | |
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Posted: 11/16/2011 12:51:12 PM | | I find it funny that tons of people say looks dont matter but if a 300lb guy approached them or girl they would be like no way. Everyone on here contradicts themselves to some point. Im tired of just settling for any ugly dude that will have me. I, like everyone else should be attracted to physically and mentally to the person they want to be with | |
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