| | What is dating like now?Page 2 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | dear Op- just be yourself, do what you like so that you will meet a suitable partner. The meet-ups in my area, I found to be clique-ish like High School & had people who just kept going to meet-ups, but never got nto relationships.
All the relationship minded folks got into relationships & stopped going to the sock-hop | |
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Posted: 11/21/2011 6:13:52 PM | Hi, OP,
One of the nicest persons i've met courtesy of this site is also the most physically fit, unassuming, and good-looking men on this site. He first began taking dance lessons over a decade ago following his divorce. I give him so much credit for channeling his heartbreak into something wonderful. He gets out every week, meets interesting active people, enjoys all sorts of music, all different kinds of dance steps --and has become a fantastic dancer! After the holidays, i'm taking him up on his offer to be my swing dance partner. Hopefully, he has as much patience as talent, but that's another topic:) | |
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Posted: 11/21/2011 6:33:30 PM |
Where else can you hold 40 different women in your arms, press your thighs against theirs, swing them, dip them, turn them, feel their warm body against yours, lead them, make their bodies move the way you want them to (men lead, women follow).... and get a new woman 3:30 minutes later when the song ends?? AND have them thank you and want to do it again with you!?
Orchard Towers, Singapore...
Landra makes dancing class sound so good it's made it to my bucket list - it's the first thing I'll do if I ever get sober. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2011 6:41:28 PM | Well, I have allot to take in. I looked around and the only dance classes I could find were ballroom.
I just added to my profile that I'm willing to learn.
I never heard of over 40 clubs before this thread. Of all places I would expect to see them in the Boca Raton to Fort Lauderdale area. It looks like a club is a club down here. No catering to a specific group other than LGBT.
Thanks everyone | |
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Posted: 11/21/2011 7:01:55 PM | Received the following email from you:
Try reading. The only "Pissy" response was supported by at least 5 other posts that spider was being nasty an mean spirited "Troll". It seems your looking for an argument. Good luck. You are being blocked
Why would you bother to email me then block me? Not cool. Why do you care? I suspect you'll be off here soon enough angry and bitter when it's your attitude. I never wrote a personal email to you. And it's spelled "you're." I reported your email. | |
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Posted: 11/21/2011 7:39:02 PM | If dancing interests you, then take lessons. I would also suggest some private lessons to gain the confidence to take the lead, as this is very important whilst dancing.
The POF dating side is not as harsh as the forum side, so I would stick to that at first until you grow a thick skin. JMHO!!! | |
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Posted: 11/21/2011 9:56:40 PM | OP ... I square dance (also love wearing the petticoats as does poster #2) and I also do cued ballroom dancing ... used to help teach it. I've been dancing both of the above mentioned dancing since I was 19 years old.
The type of square dancing I do (Western Style) is called in English all over the world and I have danced here in the US ... in Canada ... in Germany.
If I'm at a bar, it's only to sing Karaoke ... not pick up men.
I've been to several POF parties and even sponsored some. There has always been some sort of dancing and it appears that it is the type of dancing that doesn't require any instruction. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 1:27:02 AM | Dancing is not a requirement if you want to date.
I go dancing from time to time and most of the guys my age do not appear to have any dancing skills beyond bopping around to the tunes. It's all fun, you don't have to be Fred Astaire and the dance floor is usually so packed, you can barely move.
You can take dancing classes if you want, or turn on the stereo at home and dance by yourself. But it would also be good if you joined meetup groups for photography, arts, theater etc., which you list as interests. In my experience, meetup groups usually have twice (or more) as many women as men, so even by scarcity alone you will be popular.
And don't despair, starting to date can feel awkward after such a long time, but try to be friendly and approachable, you'll be fine.
Good luck
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Posted: 11/22/2011 2:54:43 AM | | Others are cooking classes, wine tasting classes and art appreciation | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 6:34:29 AM | Makes you wonder why there aren't more things that require less ---- whatever ---- for some of us who cook only for the purpose of ingesting healthful fare, could care less about alcoholic beverages and think that "all the fuss" over wine is fine but when a bottle of the stuff costs $700, it's socially unconscionable for people to spend that kind of money given so many needy members of the population, and can't draw stick figures.
Anyone ever join a bowling club or a tap dancing class for singles?? | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 7:47:21 AM | | The major issue for me is what do you do with someone after a few "standard" dating activities? At this age most have a life full up with various activities that don't involve going out for dinner, drinking wine, concerts, etc, except on occasion. You need someone who will fit into some form of daily life which is built together. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 9:08:47 AM | I would happily do a cooking classs with Mr. Here's lookin but he is too far away! | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 10:10:42 AM |
I would happily do a cooking classs with Mr. Here's lookin but he is too far away!
Wine tasting is good too. *We need a nice little wine glass emoticon*
But it is a good idea...lots of things available for meeting other singles. With meetup.com someone hosted a sushie making class. I thought that was pretty neat....doing something new, promotes conversation...and if that doesn't work out..hey, you can amaze your family and friends with your "cooking" (or not.. in this case) talents. 
...mae | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 10:56:17 AM | | Actually I think if you don't like dancing then to go and meet someone and then never take her dancing wouldn't be very fair. I think the OP should find things he likes to do and see if there is a meetup group for it and look for a lady that way. If you find someone who shares your love for a hobby then you have a good start toward building a future together; but if you go dancing with the intent to find someone and never do it again the lady is going to be resentful in the future that you never take her dancing. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 10:58:47 AM |
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The major issue for me is what do you do with someone after a few "standard" dating activities? At this age most have a life full up with various activities that don't involve going out for dinner, drinking wine, concerts, etc, except on occasion. You need someone who will fit into some form of daily life which is built together.
An excellent question. If you find someone with whom you have a mutual attraction, the first few dates are easy. But "dinner, drinking wine, concerts" are not things that most of us are wanting to do several times a week, after the initial glow wears off.
Maybe this is why so many relationships these days wind up as FWB?
Ring...ring...
"Hey, it's me. What are you up to this evening?"
"Nothing, just watching a little TV. Why?"
" You want to come over and hang out?"
"Why not? I'll be over in a few minutes." | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 11:26:32 AM |
Who wants to dance? I just want to know if the guy's gonna put out after the first coupla dates or if he's wasting my Starbucks allowance.
This made me laugh, she was just being silly.
Seriously though, learn to dance if it appeals to you and want to learn. Don't do it to appeal to women. Dancing is not a dating requirement. Personally i would be turned off if asked to go out dancing by a guy i am getting to know. Don't want his hands on me until i decide if i like him or not. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 12:32:02 PM | | dating post divorce is simply a different experience. you have all the insecurities piled on with the loss and pain of the divorce, its a pain at times. But if you like people and dont take it too seriously its fun. I look at first dates as an opprotunity. Worst thing that happens is I have no fun and cross a person off the list of folks I want to date. Best thing is romance happens. Most times we have fun and go on. Look at it as an adventure. As for dancing I always tell folks I dont mind dancing fast, just dont do it well but I will fast dance with you if you slow dance with me! lol | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 5:59:58 PM | OP - Why are worried about dance? You never did it before, you have no interest, no skill, no experience -- let's face it -- you are NOT going to dance at any function.
The good thing is -- YOU DON'T HAVE TO! Women write "dancing" in their profiles because they aren't thinking, they're just filling space. How many women have you taken for a nice romantic walk on the beach? How many times has that happened in your life?
I've been to beaches dozens of times, plenty of times with girlfriends, and 95% of the time, the beach is crowded, it's windy, sand is blowing in the woman's face. She is not running in slow-motion like in some ancient movie. She is not at some secluded shore having an affair with an army officer like some even older movie. When you take a woman to the beach, she complains that the sun is too bright, the sand is too hot, it's too windy, the seaweed smells, the birds are pests, they don't want to touch the water or go near it. They wrap up their hair, eyes and face, and hunch over. They can't wait to get back inside to wash sand out of their hair. That's what usually happens on the beach.
What happens at a dance club? They don't like this song. Or the next song. Or the next song. Oh, wait, they LOVE THIS SONG! -- That's when all the women go to the bathroom to sing in the stalls.
DUDE!! Are you getting the picture? You weren't part of this scene years ago - don't worry about it now. Go back to your smooth moves you had back in the day. A little rusty, sure, but at least you have some experience to fall back on.
BTW -- dancing classes? Are you serious? Dancing classes are about some exercise and socialization. Women just want to get out of the house! You will NOT be dancing those moves at a dance club.
When a woman say she wants to go "dancing" it means she just wants to GET OUT OF THE HOUSE every once in a while instead of sitting on your rotten couch trying to block your roman hands. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 8:56:25 PM | ^^^ I usually agree with AintNoDeal, but I have to take exception to the above post. Dancing is a "good thing" (tm applied for). Many women really do like to dance, and how many opportunities are you ever going to have to hold a woman in your arms, and feel her body up close and personal? All of this without even asking her for a date, or paying for an expensive dinner.
If you don't know how to dance, then learn. It's like learning to swim, everyone should know how. No, not ballroom, not the tango or country line dancing. Straight forward slow dancing. Wait for the slow song, walk up, ask her to dance. If you're wearing clean clothes, and she can't smell you from 50 yards downwind, odds are she will say yes.
Now, with regards to what you said about "walking on the beach", yeah, I'll give you that one. Dead on. | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 10:54:04 PM | | If you want to meet women on here and the chances are slim so dont expect much.... Then I would go to dancing classes for sure and you make get a little trimmer into the bargain. We all like them fitter baby....... | |
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Posted: 11/22/2011 11:27:26 PM | Your profile pic makes you look about 25. So are you serious or doing a research paper..
Group dance classes are really good places to meet ladies. Pick a style. Swing, jazz, west coast swing, lindy. You will be surprised. "Dancing with the stars" has really put new life into the activity. | |
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Posted: 11/23/2011 12:22:04 AM | If you would like to learn to dance, try googling USA dance. It's a national organization and you should be able to email someone and find out where to take lessons. There are all sorts of lessons that are fun. Swing is really fun. Waltz is easy if you'd rather not jump around. Dancing is a great way to meet people. They usually hold social dances somewhere near where the lessons are held. You will have your pick of ladies to dance with.
I took lessons for a long time, and it really filled a hole in my life at the time. That being said, my guy does not dance, refuses to take lessons, but dancing isn't everything!
Figure out what you'd like to do, a bowling league or a book discussion group WHATEVER! lol
Send out a few messages, and take someone to lunch. That's what dating is like now. It's getting to know someone, just like it was years ago. | |
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Posted: 11/23/2011 4:46:28 AM |
Your profile pic makes you look about 25. So are you serious or doing a research paper..
My post was specific to dancing, so I'm not sure why anyone would question my intent. Thanks for the compliment.
No, that actually is my recent picture and I actually am 49. I have always looked significantly younger than I really am. Made it hard to get into bars when I was younger. Back then women my age would always say "No" because I looked too young.
I was married at 27 and looked about 17. Comments were flying all over the reception.
Now, people usually say mid 30s. I never heard mid 20s until now.
Damn, if I really look that young I need to go to a cougar bar.
Since all I can find is formal dance studios, I put "Willing to learn" in my profile. Maybe a bigger fish will bite. Well, not literally.
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Posted: 11/23/2011 2:25:07 PM | Personally, I think you are waaaay too sensitive for internet dating. You will find that given the anonymity of the internet, people will say all kinds of things to you. Best to laugh it off and not take anything seriously.
But, as far as dancing goes... I used to date a guy who was really good at swing dancing. ALL of the women in the bars he frequented LOVED to dance with him. If you are good at it, you will definately attract MANY woman in real life.
Good luck to you. | |
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