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Posted: 2/16/2012 7:19:51 AM | | @msg 351 Platonic; I take my chances. Your monologue seems to be basically correct. Good points. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2012 7:20:07 AM | I disagree. I've been honest which is, I'm sure you will agree, a most positive trait to display when looking for a partner. I've never had a probem resulting from being honest on the net in the 13 years I've been using it. I can't and won't legislate for keyboard warriors who are nasty and negative because of their own shortcomings. They don't figure in my life and therefore do not matter to me. If people have (and feel the need to express) such low (and such generalised) opinions of others who use dating sites I can't really understand why they would be using one themselves.
Incidentally, the weight loss is going really well, thanks for your most genuine concern. I'm smiling: Are you? | |
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Posted: 2/16/2012 7:32:50 AM |
In short, just because I don't choose to place my business out there for billions of total strangers to "know", it doesn't mean I deserve some silly retort like "well you must have something to HIDE"............
Deserve has nothing to do with it. With the amount of data available in this thread, you should anticipate it.
If you think you can convince people that they shouldn't have this reaction, have at it. Don't be surprised, however, if your words fall on deaf ears. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2012 7:37:20 AM | I'm just wondering where all the "billions" are who are looking at my highly controversial profile... because I've only had one message in 2 days!
To be fair platonic, you may be well educated (as am I) but your manners are lacking which is why you will get a negative reaction. Referring to fellow chatters as idiots and using words like dumb are not conducive to a good thread atmosphere! | |
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Posted: 2/16/2012 8:05:37 AM | Thread "atmosphere" is not the crux of my point....duh.
It's immaterial that "reactions" are necessarily negative, or positive for that matter. Anyone can "choose" to rationalize their use of their own personal information in any way they wish...it's their own risk, it's their own business..
The salient point is that the total risk can not be truly quantified OR qualified, given the known and unknown nature and capabilities of the digital/cyber envirnoment.
To ignore or dismiss those real, already-known pitfalls seems to further buttress a strange naivete....but again, that's an individual choice indeed.
Additionally, the subject is not my "manners".....I certainly have not hurled personal attacks at any indidivual....that's bogus on its face......YOU on the other hand seem to want to overly "personalize" disagreement through s rather feeble attempt of discrediting the "truth" about web exposure and violations of privacy, which is patently boneheaded.
Believe as you wish...rationalize your own choices of participation...fine, fine with me.
Succinctly, if you have not encountered "idiots" on the web, then you and I shall have to look at "web-life" through totally different prisms....the reality is there are "idiots" in daily life, therefore subsequently there are "idiot chatters" on the web.........simple.
Please know there are also quite diffferent levels of "participation" on the web.....some may believe in what they view themselves as "transparency", while others may be totally "cloaked".......so what ?? there exists no "requirement" to do either....My "participation" is deliberately "passive"..not "active"...so I don't resort to "merchandising" myself in a deliberate effort to advertise myself in order to "attract a woman".....again, there is nothing nefarious in that level of participation...can it be ?? of course ! but I have met many already disingenuous, bogus women with what looks like a very transparent profile with detailed personal information, and a ton of pictures....but so what ?? that's essentially meaningless.
If someone is "silly" enough to believe there is some inherent "goodness" about blasting their highly personal data and picture globally on the web, then that's their business.....I would submit that seems to me a bit parochial and self-serving to say the least.
But.....to each his own.....but everything has a "cost", and the "cost" can be very very high | |
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Posted: 2/16/2012 10:51:33 AM |
Actually, people with pictures don't give a crap if you choose not to have one.
And yet they have gone on for 15 pages here about it, and continue to do so. 
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Posted: 2/16/2012 11:03:15 AM | Kags,
Him.. no wonder you're single you're a shallow ****
Welcome to PoF! Please don't feed the Natives!
Politely, Seki | |
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Posted: 2/16/2012 3:04:39 PM |
And yet they have gone on for 15 pages here about it, and continue to do so.
What would be the point of having a discussion board if nobody posted to the threads? | |
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Posted: 2/16/2012 6:40:50 PM | I would agree with much of what Platonic has posted.What's with Anchuka and her pic going on about not responding to people without?.Basically,I can't see very much of people with a pic here anyhow,guys my age do not generally get contacted by women unless they are considered a real prize for some rea$on.
If I could see a member on this very generic site which interested me,I would send a pic.That simple.I like to speak my mind about a variety of topics on the forums,I would rather remain largely anonymous concerning these. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2012 6:48:48 PM |
What would be the point of having a discussion board if nobody posted to the threads?
Well, some threads generate few responses because most people actually don't care about the subject.
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Posted: 2/16/2012 7:27:42 PM | Hi,
I don't have a picture, and I imagine it's probably not for a great reason, though it's not because of my looks. I am a professional and will be seeking work soon, and I live in a small town, and I don't really have any suitable pictures, and I had someone take some, and they have dallied and dallied about sending them to me, and I have been too busy to get more taken and don't know how to get the person who took them to send them to me.
So, that's a long answer. I suppose the other point is that I have a lot of other goals than meeting men, and I haven't really made it a priority. And, what is most important to me in a potential mate is intelligence, character, etc., and I just find it hard to believe that a photo is so all-fired important, just to reply to or to email someone. I am aware that virtually everyone disagrees with me-hence all the replies that indicate that is it absolutely crucial. And I will get around to it eventually.
A minority viewpoint, I know. | |
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Posted: 2/16/2012 7:34:25 PM |
And, what is most important to me in a potential mate is intelligence, character, etc., and I just find it hard to believe that a photo is so all-fired important, just to reply to or to email someone. I am aware that virtually everyone disagrees with me-
I don't disagree with you.
Don't worry about it.
Take 2 pills and call yourself in the morning. 
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Posted: 2/17/2012 1:26:28 AM | | Platonic... I would politely suggest that you are short of anything important to think about. Maybe you should consider the threat from life on other planets or us all being dead by Christmas instead of obsessing about the perceived danger of the net. I don't appreciate being called stupid, be it direct or implied. I am far from stupid. I consider crossing the road or driving to work a much bigger danger than telling people on a dating site that I like to go to musicals and the pub. You must be terrified to get up in the morning! | |
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Posted: 2/17/2012 8:13:14 AM | No one is assaulting or assailing "opinion"...that's silly to do that on ANY sort of forum but particularly crazy to do so on a "dating website".
Let's be crystal clear: The "net" is not "dangerous"...it's what it can and is likely to facilitate and/or "violate".
"Danger" of malicious-use of personal data placed on the "web" is not somehow fictitious......that's a sophomoric point of view indeed. The danger as you put it can even be "life threatening"...and the record is full of valid examples of that as well.
No one must agree on this point....I certainly don't need to see more "convincing evidence" than I already have, working in a highly regulated business, and in government on the federal level.
The net is not some innocuous "sandbox" for users to play in, without possible negative consequence.
That notion would be quite beyond ignorant. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2012 8:46:16 AM | So a lack of picture is the only thing protecting you from
the malicious use of personal data placed on the web?
Seriously?
You're here, you've already placed yourself out there.
No one needs your picture to find out everything about you,
if they were really that interested.
Surely being in a highly regulated business and in government
on the federal level *snort* has taught you that?
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Posted: 2/17/2012 5:32:27 PM |
So a lack of picture is the only thing protecting you from
the malicious use of personal data placed on the web?
Seriously?
Do not submit exact data.That way hackers that might breach security do not get exact info. | |
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Posted: 2/17/2012 6:28:12 PM | Certainly. In the order of attractiveness physicall as well as emotionally Ive found them to be the most attractive even! Your own instincts will tell you what is right and not or what you like in a person. I love to read and I like people so I will read them. Desparation is easy to spot. Some people are just held up by professional worries and/or being exposed/shy.
Id warn you though.. Date them before you convince them its ok to turn on their pics! Some people are just so freakin shallow! I have no issues with "competition". Ive had a couple girls I have gotten private pics from and asked them to turn their pics on and experience online dating. This being after having good conversations but no actual physical meeting. So they turn it on and I'll ask them a bit later "hey hows your mailbox". They are suddenly very busy! hahahaha gotta laugh at that! | |
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Posted: 2/17/2012 6:52:44 PM | Get off the girl Platonic...
youre ignorance and inexperience is apparent.. The federal government at ALL levels advocates the use of ALL social media. EVEN DOD so Im not sure what federal govt you work for.. Users are encouraged to put themselves out there Responsibly.. SAAR.. and every identity has a facebook even so WTF really..
The concept being openness or TRANSPARENCY which is congressionally MANDATED makes malicius activity easy to spot. But you are probably desktop. Imagine how you must look to them sneaking around!
The fact that you are even connected to the net is all the exposure that is needed for your life story to be told.. Go ahead though.. Stay in the dark | |
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Posted: 2/18/2012 5:55:08 AM | I don't have a public picture because there's someone from work on here and my life wouldn't be worth living if he found out. It's not ideal. However, I ALWAYS attach a private image (not as bad as it sounds) to anyone I contact.
Is that ok? Seems like a reasonable compromise to me. I accept not many men will be making the first move, but I can live with that. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2012 9:15:38 AM | no one is silly enough to suggest that the "lack" of a photo on this or any other site is "insurance" for anonymity....that's nutty indeed...
but you keep believing what you want to believe, and I'll keep believing what I KNOW as truth....fair enough ? | |
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Posted: 2/18/2012 9:28:55 AM | | newer met a crook who cared what you looked like. Plenty of girls do... The question was I guess if the person without one is worth the time. To me they are cuz I care as much about what you say. peace | |
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Posted: 3/1/2012 12:26:15 PM | I just don't understand why someone wouldn't post a picture...or even worse, someone posts an old picture, etc.
If you're looking for any kind of "in-person" relationship, you have to meet in person.
So why not get it over with?! | |
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Posted: 3/2/2012 6:17:55 PM | I've met soooooooo many fine women that had no pic.....the weird thing was that they were all from Moscow.
 Vodka anyone?? lol
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Posted: 3/2/2012 6:30:37 PM |
poppyseed100:
I don't have a public picture because there's someone from work on here and my life wouldn't be worth living if he found out.
If that is all it takes to 'make your life not worth living', that a coworker might see you here. Then you have more problems than I even know where to start with. Come on, 'would make your life not worth living'? you need  | |
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