|Emotionally Abusive mother|
Posted: 6/17/2012 8:29:42 AM
|For those who have had success with talking to their mother/step-mother and having them change, that is great and I am glad that it worked for you, however for most of us, it was not so nice. When I told my mother how I felt, she just told me to get a thicker skin that nothing she was saying was wrong and life was tough. (won't go into the terrible things she said, not really relevant) I was told if I didn't like it, I could leave. I did, married the 1st man that would have me and moved from an emotionally abusive and distant parent to an emotionally distant and abusive husband.|
There were 4 kids in my family, 3 were perfect and then there was me. My 2 older sisters also bought into my mother's behaviour and continued it after her death. Even though I knew what they were saying was not true, it still had a profund effect on my life and attitude. It took a lot of counselling, and a very dear friend pushing me to deal with it, to get past it. As I say to this day, that girl who was ugly, fat, stupid and could do nothing right is still there inside me and if she appears, please tell her to go away.
So OP, do what you can to get out and GET SOME COUNSELLING, even ifyhou think you have dealt with it, you probably haven't.