tjl503
| | Joined: 9/29/2011
Msg: 26 | |
| | Afterplay...the forgotten necessity Page 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | Afterplay? Really? What is this nonsense. Foreplay and SEX isn't good enough for you? I know the last thing I want to do is cuddle after I bust a nut, I'm fine if she wants to go clean my man juice out of her after so she's not marinating in it. She jumps up and even starts doing her chores by changing the sheets, send her my way. Shi*, jump in the shower with her. Iv'e heard of complaining about not getting laid but complaining about afterplay? A forgotten necessity? Na I didn't forget, I just wasn't in the mood. | |
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| Afterplay...the forgotten necessity
Posted: 11/30/2011 7:17:39 PM | I don't necessarilly need to lay all over each and cuddle......but I do enjoy the touching and talking and basking in the glow with each other.
Then get up and take a shower together!
Screw the sheets......they'll wait till tomorrow! | |
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Posted: 11/30/2011 7:20:25 PM | | "afterplay" is just foreplay for round two. The only time I have stripped the bed is when the AC was broken and we got all sweaty. Like to chill out and have a nice conversation myself, but it's no fun if you have to sleep on the wet spot. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 1:16:14 AM | | ^^^I know all about sleeping on the wet spot, my ex-GF reserved that for me on purpose. Once it dried, I couldn't get up and leave without it pulling the sheet and waking her up......that's so cruel, I refuse to use fly paper anymore. | |
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| Afterplay...the forgotten necessity
Posted: 12/1/2011 1:46:27 PM |
so I don't have to face the embarrassment of waking up in a drool puddle on somebody's chest.
I love after sex, girl drool. | |
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Posted: 12/1/2011 2:10:50 PM | | Cuddling? Bah. A quick rest and bring on round two...hell, bring it on in the shower, living room, in the garden...lol | |
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Posted: 12/3/2011 4:52:15 PM | Ok, don't bash me for not being perfect, not always being in love with my lover...
but it struck me just now. When I have sex really late at night, in bed, specifically (as opposed to mid-day, on the sofa, etc...), I usually have 1 of 2 reactions during afterplay.
1. Get out and go away
2. Put your arms around me and let's sleep together all night wrapped up in each others arms.
So... what's the difference?
It's not rocket science. But yeah. The difference is how I feel about the guy. And if I knwo him well.
I have had sex before with a guy I had just met (remember, no bashing). and afterwards I wanted him to leave more than anything. This particular guy was with me in teh first place b/c he was cute and drunk and I offered him to come home from teh bar w/me to SLEEP so he wasn't driving home drunk. Well, you know, biology happens, and we had sex. But I was still stuck with him in my bed for the night.
And th e dam* guy wanted to cuddle. All night. And talk about his mental problems.
See? This is why one night stands are a HUGE NO NO!
I kept telling him I couldn't sleep w/him laying on me. Literally, trying to drape himself on me.
The urge to kick him to the floor was strong. OMG....NEVER AGAIN will I bring home a guy I just met.
Contrast that w/dating a guy and being with him late at night. After the sex I might want to talk a bit or eat or watch tv...lol but if it's late enough, I really just want to snuggle with him all night long and sleep. Id ont' want him to leave even if he has to.
I find it fascinating that I can be so repulsed or attracted to physical cuddling with someone based on knowing them or my feelings for them. I mean, you would thinkk that the physical comfort from cuddling would be there even if you aren't dating them, because you just had sex and the release of those feel good hormones. But apparently for me, at least, it doesn't work that way.
And I know I'm pretty normal in this. I think a lot of us feel this way...that we want cuddling and closeness only with someone we care about. there's got to be some great biological or evolutionary reason for this. Huh...Not sure tho!
anyway, gotta eat my soup... and 10 min til the VT Hokies kick some Clemson butt in the big football game tonight!  | |
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Posted: 12/3/2011 5:47:10 PM | That would make it feel rather businesslike for me too.
I'd prefer a shared shower, perhaps some wind down sexual contact; and THEN maybe she could change the bed while I get us some drinks or food or something similar.
Heck; I would MOST prefer if she just massages my back and as* while I fall contentedly to sleep, but apparently that doesn't go over well with women.
p.s. Your story above is hilarious. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2011 5:55:52 PM | | I need to wash my bits after a little fun. But I would never want to make my partner feel dirty or unwelcome in my bed after sex. That is just mean! | |
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Posted: 12/3/2011 7:13:40 PM |
I kept telling him I couldn't sleep w/him laying on me. Literally, trying to drape himself on me.
Ugh.......I have an ex boyfriend that tried to do that every night.......
cuddle for a little bit.......then get the hell off me!! 
I hate having my legs trapped under someone's leg.....and I'm very hot blooded and a body draped across me is going to make me quite irritable!! | |
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Posted: 12/3/2011 7:20:15 PM | | That is unusual for a man to say what you said. A man should get up and clean up, just as a woman should get up and clean up after sex. I have not had sex for for over a year and a half, but I still recall proper manners. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2011 8:05:36 PM | Secondhand Lion, you should, not use words. You should not be here.
Secondhand lion, I can see you took my advice, and that is if you want a "3 some", use both hands, your "second hand" Please be gentle with the sheep. Please stop attacking me. Stay on subject and stop attacking people who think different than you. Enjoy your , second hand and be gentle with the animals and the sheep. Please learn to stay on subject and stop attacking people like me, and others. Enjoy your 2 hands, because that is all you have. Please do not abused animals and sheep. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2011 8:07:55 PM | OP: Really? most guys I've been with want to was right afterward. They don't want the "crusty" feeling after rolling over and going to sleep! I've been known to get up and clean the house after he's knocked out...Round two? the only time I have ever gotten that, is when Round one lasts all night long- LOL  | |
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Posted: 12/3/2011 8:09:38 PM | That is unusual for a man to say what you said. A man should get up and clean up, just as a woman should get up and clean up after sex
Cleaning eachother; while the other triumphs in their achievements work nicely.
See if you can do it without goin in for another
when Round one lasts all night long
Just one night? | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 5:57:11 AM | | If 'after play' consists of cleaning up quickly then turning on TV to catch Family Guy on Adult Swim, then yes, I engage in after play. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 7:53:09 AM | just wondering OP, did she do this all the time? or just a one time thing?
if it was just a one time thing that she behaved this way, could it be that she was on her period at the time, and that's why she felt such urgency to clean up and change sheets? | |
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namina
| | Joined: 7/17/2011
Msg: 47 | |
| Afterplay...the forgotten necessity
Posted: 12/4/2011 8:53:14 AM | Afterplay? Absolutely. Love to cuddle: touch, stroke, kiss...... and if that leads to sleeping, fine: just means round 2 and 3 are delayed for a little while.
Yes I like to wash afterwards: but hey: I usually reappear from the bathroom with a naughty grin and a renewed interest.... | |
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114M3
| | Joined: 4/19/2011
Msg: 48 | |
| Afterplay...the forgotten necessity
Posted: 12/4/2011 9:44:39 AM | IMHO I don't get how some folks can feel "all icky" and need to jump in the shower the 2 seconds after they have just finished being more than happy to swap spit and other bodily fluids with their partner. But meh, to each their own. ... To me, awesome, mind blowing sex is all about being a little dirty and sweaty ... and come to think of it, thats about the only time when I find being dirty and sweaty a turn on ...  So YES ... afterplay is the cherry on top of the ice cream in my book!  | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 1:07:26 PM | | To me, afterplay is sharing a bottle of water and wiping up the mess. I know what you mean though- my ex used to have bladder problems so needed to run to the loo after sex. You make do with what you've got if you love someone. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 6:48:01 PM | I can understand getting up and showering even changing the sheets
I get up and wash up then bring a hot rag and clean her up. My girl squirts.
so there is a big mess on me her and the bed...
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