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| | POF horror story Page 2 of 8 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8) | If she is fake or what not have her go home to where she is from. Dont kick her to the curb because no offense guys but everyone could be in a crappy situation so stop actin like you are better than everyone.
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Where'd that come from? Send the OP your address with your invite. Don't know her well enough, neither does the OP. Hey OP, go to her previous employers and ask why they REALLY let her go. If they have the same story as she does, call the authorities and have them (her employers) pay for her trip back home instead of the taxpayers footing the bill. If their story isn't the same as her's, get domo's address and let him take her in, he has more room. Don't worry domo, this story reeks of BS anyway. Look at the title: POF Horror Story. It's not a horror story, but it has strong potential. | |
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Posted: 12/3/2011 11:20:25 PM | I still LOVE this story....
this scenario...
believe me bro - before you, she was shacked up at another dude's place until he grew hair on his gonads and put her on the street... | |
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Posted: 12/3/2011 11:47:12 PM | lie and tell her you were contacted by admin and you cannot have a roommate it's a violation of your dorm agreement and she's gotta go now, you can take her to a shelter.
there is no way i would let a russian right off the boat into my home. manipulation and being con artists is how many of them have learned to survive. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 1:12:41 AM |
she's mentioning things like she's going to stay for awhile with me, and she has strong feelings for me, etc
She said that because she doesn't want you to throw her out and she knows you want her to go...
1: Don't panic
2: Don't get attached (regardless what she tells you that she fell for you)
3: Be patient, she will leave (you're not her first or last temporary place to live)
She will move on probably in a few weeks or couple months at most, just enjoy the sex and don't get attached. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 1:39:37 AM | Guys how about a little more compassion? Sure, it could be she is conning him out of a place to say and it could be that everything she says is a lie, however stop to think about what got her to go to such desperate measures to begin with? Any self respecting person who is happy and secure in their life would not do what she is doing. She's obviously in a bad situation and needs help - the only problem now is that our OP is -not- the right guy to help her.
j0999 the gentlemanly thing to do is have the balls to be completely honest with how you feel, help her pack her things and escort her to a women's shelter (or an equivalent) which will take on the responsibility of handling her case. Drawing this out is not kind or gentlemanly either.
Besides, if she really does have strong feelings about you (and not merely strong feeling of needing you), she will NOT want to be a burden on you and will appreciate you directing her in the right place for help. After getting her out as kindly and calmly as you can, if she still has "strong feelings for you" and wants to keep in contact, and obviously if you feel the same way, great. But first thing is first. She needs to get out and you need your life and space back!
Good luck! | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 2:31:19 AM | OP, here is your starting point.. She is not in the country w/o a way to get home. Her employer (the family had to guarantee her travel)
Take her to Human Resources Canada they will find her a place to stay and support her.
They will hold her host family responsible and take the money out of THEIR pocket.
Keeping her with you is setting you up financially.
If you do not have a written agreement with this woman.. get one now.. Make sure it says you are not responsible for her. Period.
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Posted: 12/4/2011 3:34:00 AM | OP, THAT is sooo not a horror story!!
I could tell you way much worse as I'm sure many others could!
IMHO you've done above and beyond the call of so I'd help her find somewhere else to go, which would've probably been the best thing to do from the off.
good luck! | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 4:50:00 AM | On campus they must have an international program or student group, see if they can help the situation, maybe help find job or houseshare, this would also help find support and friendship so she's not as reliant on you.
Not sure how long she's been in USA , but the agency she took the job with, should also be able to help, breaking of contract, etc, and should of paid for breaking the contract.
Put a time limit on how long she can stay, discuss this and help her, and encourage her, if still no progress, maybe move her out. Must be quite hard for her in this situation, don't nessesary think she's after a meal ticket, she prob came for the American dream, send money home, and these situations can happen.
Good luck and keep up your studies through this drama. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 4:57:21 AM | Sounds like your getting played.............but on the off chance that isn't the case.........
You really should not have let her move in with you but since you did you should have set a time limit on how long she could stay. You already knew you had limited space so why you didn't do that is beyond me. You've only been seeing this girl for two weeks so you really don't even know her at all yet.........I'd think I'd be telling her she had to find another place to live...........sorry..........and good luck. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 5:19:48 AM |
Not sure how long she's been in USA , but the agency she took the job with, should also be able to help, breaking of contract, etc, and should of paid for breaking the contract.
She's not in the USA, OP is in Canada, I'm gonna take a wild guess..and say 'they' are in Canada... | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 7:14:40 AM | OP, I think it's great that you want to help a girl out that'd down on her luck, but you also have to ask yourself if your judgement isn't being clouded by the fact that you're atrracted to her. You've mentioned several times how attractive she is, so don't become her doormat and take on all her problems just because you're attracted to her.
You should help point the girl to the right places and organizations to help her, but SHE needs to help herself also and better her situation. Also, beware of her getting too close too fast. She already seems to be a quick operator, so don't be surprised if she starts talking marriage to stay in the country.
I'm not even joking here. I've had guys from different countries do this to me. I'd meet them and after knowing them for all of a day or two, they'd be telling me they wanted to be my boyfriend and they wanted to marry me soon. They were just looking for an American girl to marry, any one would do, lol!! | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 7:24:05 AM | After only one day living there the wife got jealous of having a pretty girl around her husband and rudely told her "you have four days to leave" basically throwing her out on the street in a foreign country where she knows nobody, except... ME A very unrealistic scenario. First, the Canadian woman would have known a pretty young woman was going to show up on her doorstep and expect to live in her home. Very unlikely in one day she went balistic about this. Also, if the girl is here only to work for this family, she was brought here through an agency, and the family for whom she was supposed to work signed a contract. If she was fired after only one day, she would go to the agency and they would take care of the situation, whether it means send her back home or whatever. The agency would not desert her to live on the streets.
The whole thing is either made up by you, OP, or you are being scammed by this girl for some reason. Seems if she is a good looking young woman and wants to scam someone, she would scam someone in a better financial position than you are, unless she just wants to hang out with you until she can find someone with more money---or, you made it all up.....
She's not in the USA, OP is in Canada, I'm gonna take a wild guess..and say 'they' are in Canada... Doesn't matter if it is the US or Canada...there will be an agency involved and a contract has been signed for this young woman to work for a family in North America. The family cannot just throw her out on the streets without a dime or a place to live. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 7:28:32 AM | I have to agree with the posters I have read so far, you gotta be honest with her. As much as it's going to hurt her. You clearly do not have the space to take in an extra person and you are NOT in any way obligated to this lady. You have done your part as far as being a nice guy, but there is being nice and then there is being USED aka the doormat.
Take her to a shelter and you have no need to feel guilty.
Good luck | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 7:55:41 AM | I still LOVE this story....
this scenario...
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Me too. I think it's great. It's got alota twists & turns. The biggest flaws concern his times (meeting her a few weeks ago, 4 days notice, a few days ago, a commitment after two weeks). The times just don't ad up. Portraying himself as a good-hearted gentleman, which causes his fatal blunder, is brilliant. A few minor tweeks with the times, and this is recycleable. Kudos OP. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 9:27:35 AM | she's mentioning things like she's going to stay for awhile with me, and she has strong feelings for me, etc. and both of which are freaking me out lol.
she's mentioning things like she's going to stay for awhile with me, and she has strong feelings for me, etc. and both of which are freaking me out lol.
This should freak you out, since she is a stranger & you have only known her a few weeks. She scared & probably saying this out of desperation. Her situation is frightening, put out in the street in a forgein land, what a nightmare! Did she have a work visa, was this family her sponser? If yes, the family needs to be reported to the proper authorities. You need to put her in touch w/agencies that can assist her w/food, housing, employment, shelter, etc. Start by contacting a counsler at school, they have lists of resources available to assist her. Don't mention she is staying w/you, just that you are helping a friend. She should contact the russian embassy, & look into a women's emergency shelter that can help her. If you are reported for allowing her to stay w/you, will that put your housing in jepordy? You can tell her the school won't allow her to stay, this puts the blame on them & not you. She is scared & vunderable & can easily be exploited if she meets up w/the wrong people. There are evil ppl out there who will try to exploit her by making her a hooker or stripper, while holding her against her will. Start calling these places that can assist her right away. Be there for her as a friend, & explain to her that this is not a good time to be in a relationship w/her, she has enough to worry about, like survival. Let us know what happens, I hope everything works out for her. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 9:31:11 AM | yow, that really is a horror story, do NOT let her move in !!! You can ask around if there is someone she can live with or refer her to other venues of those who are looking for room mates. Whatever you do, do not let her guilt you into anything, it sounds like a very bad time coming if you do !
The way to be a gentleman is to be direct and tell her NO. I bet you anything she will find someone else when you do !!! | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 9:32:41 AM | 'In finest form' has the best answer dude.
I was going to suggest starting a bidding war betweeen the Sheiks and the Texans to see who gets to put a chain on her waist, and a veil on her pretty face; or have her in marriage.
It's not a bad idea^; but "in finest form" sounds more right.
*shrugs*
Got any video of her there alone and enjoying the scenery out the window?
;P | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 9:48:49 AM | saw this thread again today and I gotta say...
this entire scenario is just flat a lie..
nice one OP...
you got us...
funny funny.
I mean honestly - you have a smokin hot immigrant Russian girl and you are on a dating website ?
please...
you're in your mid 20s and if this nymph was in the pickle you say she is in...
you two would be banging 3, 4 or 5 times a day...
she'd have you completely drained sexually so you could NOT even THINK about doing anything else....
I know I wouldn't be able to think properly if some young immigrant hottie was draining me like that.
cuz all the blood would be rushing downstairs to the little head...
touche. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 10:01:59 AM | | OP if she is over here on visa and her "family" kicked her out she may be in danger of being sent back and so she is not contacting anyone to tell them what happened. She wants to stay here, and I dont blame her. There might be some resources that can help her on campus. I would not kick her out. I would be up front and and tell her your issues. I hope you are not still having sex with her. Don't let it drag out for so long that you explode and kick her out. I hope she can get a job! Maybe she can find a room mate. If it is a college town there are always lots of kids looking for room mates. Keep us posted! | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 10:02:32 AM |
j0999 the gentlemanly thing to do is have the balls to be completely honest with how you feel, help her pack her things and escort her to a women's shelter (or an equivalent) which will take on the responsibility of handling her case. Drawing this out is not kind or gentlemanly either
Hey, can I kiss the Videogame Girl? 
The gentlemanly thing to do IS to be completely honest with her and tell her that. Tell her you dont feel that same way towards her after such a short time, and that you are not interested in making this a long term stay, YET. Who knows, if she finds another place to stay and you still date her, what will happen in the coming weeks, months, years. But be completely honest, help her actively finding another place (which she may or may not be doing, who knows, maybe she thinks she`s set). I dont think it has anything to do with bad intentions. Lets just say, if she comes from Russia, the mentality over there, is...well not exactly the same as here lol. So help her as much as you can, but if you commit to her now, she definately will not understand it if you un-commit latter.
Be kind, be gentle, but be firm. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 10:11:01 AM | Too little information, much too little!
Hahahaha! I doubt many would view this as "POF horror story". A beautiful russian woman, shows up on your doorstep, and dates you, then has a problem, and decides to share your bed.
My first thought(sorry I'm a bit jaundiced) is a rewrite of that english movie, where the russian babe, who is a mail order bride, shows up and he can't get in touch with the agency who sent her. Then the 2 guys from russia show up, and rob the bank the guy works in!
I read your profile, you're not a teenager, and you don't elaborate on things very well. Did you see the family kick her out(firsthand or pick up her sh1t from the house), or have you sat her down and spoken with her about her plans going forward? Where is she getting the money to eat? Did she intend to return to mother russia once the contract was over? Did she take the job to husband shop in NA? Is she in touch with the agency that sent her and can they place her with another family? They usually would, it would mean another fee! What does she do with her time? Is she looking for a job?
Those are just some of the questions that occur to me, off the top of my head.
You dated her for 2 weeks, and I'm sure since you say "she turns heads" or words to that effect, that you felt great the first few days. If it's an inconvienence what actions have you already taken? Or is this a case of I see that face and say, yeah OK let's let her hang out for one more day?
You've gotten some good advice and some not so good. The one poster gave you a lot of contact information and resources to persue, to end the dilema.
In order to "still being a gentlemen" that would require a number of things, she must have acted like a lady, you shouldn't be getting laid every day, and you should be pro-active in trying to correct the problem. If some or none of that is the case. Give her a week to find a solution, then get her out. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 10:15:12 AM | Well, for once, I actually agree with practically everything Oyvay says! And they say miracles dont happen lol 
Oh, wait, everything except the getting laid part. But hey, that`s just cause I`m an evil, EEEEVILLL man  | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 11:03:06 AM | RUN....Run now.
You have nothing other than this girls word that she had a job and somewhere to live. You only have her word that she was kicked out for being too pretty. This screams of scam to me. And even if it isn't a scam, she is not your responsibility.
Sure - you are being the nice guy but to what personal cost ? Would you allow ever person with a sob story to move in ? Of course not.
Do not let her move into your place - not short-term, not long-term. There is nothing wrong is supporting her in getting somewhere to live or a job, but moral support only. Do not financially support her or ease her financial burden in any way.
I will repeat - You are not responsible for this girl ! Don't let her hand you that responsibility. | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 11:40:34 AM | Anyone ever watched the Movie Birthday Girl?? This fake situation shows the OP has watched that too many times, lol!! A guy meets a Russian girl online, then she comes to meet him, she moves in way quick. Awhile later, the Russian girl's 2 "friends" come to the guy's house and extort money from the guy.
If she mentions it's her birthday, RUN OP, run, lol!! | |
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Posted: 12/4/2011 11:41:30 AM | | Her visa in her passport will show if its a working visa or tourist visa if your still wondering if she's been working, which should be both English and Russian | |
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