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 JerseyGirl2008
Joined: 12/27/2007
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No you didn't really try to date a feminine guy though did you? YOU had no idea he was like that until you seen him and then you came on here pointing out his flaws, I am sure he would be really happy with you blasting this all over the place.

Geez...someone's been riding the Bitter Bus, I see.
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 52
feminine man
Posted: 12/8/2011 8:39:42 AM

So why waste the feminine guy's time? Would you like it if a Manly guy did that to you? I don't get some of you folks...

Look ... we are attracted to what we are attracted to, its plain and simple,we should not be out to change someone , they are what they are, if this guy is too feminine for you don't date him and certainly don't lead him on.


The Iceman nailed it again and I see the OP has since broken it off with the dude.

I've got a lot of clothes, I like to keep a clean house, not anal just clean. I don't like to shop but when I do I often shop for the best deal. I'm not going to go to a place for a $50 pair of jeans when I can walk to the next place and get another pair for $25...that's just being thrifty.

My sister is a Harley Davidson gal, nothing wrong with that, but she'd go to the official local HD shop and get the majority of her clothes there. Some of them are very high, then she'd come back and brag that she paid $500 for a HD leather jacket. To make her feel all high and mighty I suppose. I'm just the opposite I would brag that I found the $500 HD jacket at another store for $100 and I got it for the value.
 Alpha78
Joined: 7/18/2009
Msg: 53
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Posted: 12/8/2011 8:48:28 AM
If I have to wonder if he will want me to share my lingerie with him at some point - the answer is no. I am not attracted to any man who even remotely reminds me of a woman. Call me crazy...
 GoldinSFla
Joined: 10/21/2011
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Posted: 12/8/2011 9:54:28 AM

This is not even remotely similar to dating a midget and you can not compare this to that so don't give me that pony. It is obvious the attraction was there initially otherwise she would not have met him, what attraction would be there when i see a midget pop up in my inbox? None, so I wouldn't even entertain meeting that person. She is judging him on a few innate mannerisms that he can't help and are clearly not out of choice for him and if she pulled her head out of her backside a bit she would see that it's not really a big deal in the grand scope of things.

I am displaying frustrations because yet it's another shallow post from another shallow woman whining that someone is not good enough for her. How about rather than posting about it in here you go and twiddle your thumbs in a corner and decide if he really is good enough for little miss perfect OP.


The original poster might have been originally attracted to the man, but that doesnt mean she is obligated to continue to feel attracted to him. There were things about him that turned her off, whether the attraction was there initially doesn't matter, something ended that attraction.

She's shallow because she no longer wants to date a guy that she once may have been interested in, but you aren't shallow for not wanting to date a midget, because you wouldn't have dated them to begin with? How does that make you less shallow? You're still rejecting someone for a physical trait that they have no control over. Let's face it, everyone has their standards. You seem to think that its ok for you to have your wants and desires, but a woman is a shallow princess if she has hers.
And plenty of men ask women out once , but never call them for a second date, because there was something about the woman that made them less attracted to her then they had been in the beginning. Are they shallow for no longer wanting to go out with her , or is it OK for a man to decide he's just not that into a woman?
 HappySingleSpirit
Joined: 9/10/2011
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Posted: 12/8/2011 11:41:04 AM

Have any of you ladies got with a feminine guy? Or would you?

I'm never attracted to someone based on his effeminate or masculine nature. However, if I am attracted to someone and he happens to be effeminate I am even more attracted to him.
If I am NOT attracted to someone and he is effeminate or too masculine I get turned off even more.
 --Zen--
Joined: 6/29/2011
Msg: 56
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Posted: 12/9/2011 3:58:22 AM
^5

masculine females? they are fun to play sports with. My romantic interests got to wear a skirt.
 UnknownSld
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 57
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Posted: 12/9/2011 4:32:48 AM
Ok, to some extent I agree with Newvana but the guy wanted pink in the bedroom? That is a little gay. But you never know, this guy could be the best relationship you ever have. You will never know unless you give him that shot. Keep in mind, love is not something that happens overnight. It takes time, more time than a few months or a year. Back 100 years ago, love was not what mattered to start a marriage. Though in many cases, the two involved in the marriage grew to love each other. I say you should give the guy a chance before judging so hastily because of his feminine ways.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
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Posted: 12/9/2011 4:54:55 AM
I would date the masculine female, I'm attracted to strong personality females. I find them sexy :-)
 UnknownSld
Joined: 8/18/2010
Msg: 59
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Posted: 12/9/2011 5:16:32 AM
Eh, I personally don't know about masculine females. I find myself more attracted to a little bit of girly girl mixed with some tomboy. I guess you can say a girl who likes to get dressed up and take care of herself but is not afraid of getting a little muddy.
 GoldinSFla
Joined: 10/21/2011
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Posted: 12/9/2011 6:04:58 AM
I like being feminine. That doesnt mean I don't have an attitude sometimes, but I like getting my hair done, wearing pretty clothes and yes being with a masculine man.
I love a man who's big and strong. I don't mind one that shows emotions...that's not feminine to me an I dont want a man who's uncaring. I want one who is built large, cuddly and who wants to take care of me and hold me in his arms all night long.
 loveyalongtimeox
Joined: 9/9/2011
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Posted: 12/9/2011 6:09:45 AM
Ok I have a question Unknown Sid..say you were to meet a nice lady off this site and go on a couple of dates, you had a blast but she was very masculine in her ways and she reminded you of hanging out with your buddies..would you still give her a chance? Even though you are not attracted to a girl with them traits? And even though she weren't girly in the slightest except for what she looked like?
 SC67
Joined: 6/21/2009
Msg: 62
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Posted: 12/9/2011 6:16:02 AM
Ehhh...no girly boys for me! I prefer the more manly type & don't feel any attraction to feminine men.
 LukeT77
Joined: 1/12/2009
Msg: 63
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Posted: 12/9/2011 6:47:13 AM
Everyone has a their own idea of what they think makes a guy manly or feminine, it's all very confusing.

I suppose I could be considered 'feminine' by some folks because I'm not into football or cars, don't have any tattoos, I'm an empathic listener/emotional support for a lot of my friends, can pick out clothes that match, I don't own a lot of power tools, I actually don't mind watching some 'chick flicks' (within reason) and I prefer not to fart openly for the amusement of all and sundry.

I've never been called up on my masculinity before though.
 ComplekCity
Joined: 1/17/2011
Msg: 64
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Posted: 12/9/2011 8:21:44 AM

No, masculine women don't do it for me.

My idea of romance doesn't involve a woman belching " I love you " in my face !

I also have no desire to see a woman in my driveway sitting on a Harley with a skull tattoo, a helmet with a spike on the top, chewing tobacco and saying " hurry up and get on the back, **** ! "





Lol...this reminded me of Steve Martin's love interest he meets at the circus in The Jerk.


Yeah, and Bernadette Peter's character, a girly girl, ends up punching out the butch b itch - a girly girl with inner strength, that's more what I prefer !
 good_catch77
Joined: 3/28/2007
Msg: 65
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Posted: 12/9/2011 8:59:52 AM
I've been asked if I was gay on more than one occasion. once by a woman I was slow dancing with....I quickly ran away. Because where I'm from there is a lot of Rednecks, so when they see a guy that is neatly dressed, clean cut, smells good, and decent to them. They ASSume that I'm gay...most of the time I laugh about it and go on. That's all I can do anymore. I used to get miffed and upset but meh who cares anymore...if they ASSume that then they are not for me.
 lacalli
Joined: 11/27/2011
Msg: 66
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Posted: 12/9/2011 10:45:36 AM
he said he broke up with his ex over the interior design because she wanted a black and white colour scheme bedroom and he wanted pink, so he threw

I think he's my soulmate, where is this guy? I just had my bedroom painted light pink and the guy who did it, did it under duress. He said it looked like a giant pink uterus. This guy you describe sounds perfect for me.
I like manly men but now apparently that's added to the list of politically incorrect things to say??
And it's just a quality that some men have and women always understand but men never get it. They think it means steroid bodies or macho wife beaters. It's not that at all.
 JCinVicBC
Joined: 6/17/2011
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Posted: 12/10/2011 5:17:41 AM
I would date the masculine female, I'm attracted to strong personality females. I find them sexy :-)


Agreed. I'm not attracted to masculine-*looking* women. However, one of my top crushes is the 1998 Thai national kickboxing champion (Nong Toom--she's a transwoman). She's like a perfect balance to me--sweet, beautiful, sexy, very feminine, yet both physically and mentally strong, tough, confident. I really admire that, and find it very attractive.

On the other hand...so many women around here seem to be hardcore fans of watching hockey, football, baseball, UFC...no interest in those, personally. Seems to be hard to find a good fit.
 Archangel_07
Joined: 6/21/2010
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Posted: 12/10/2011 6:20:10 AM
JCinVicBC,
I hear ya, No Transgenders for me. I go for 100% female, I like strong confident women that don't look like a muscle man but like females toned cut.
 Whisky_River
Joined: 9/12/2010
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Posted: 12/10/2011 6:59:56 AM
Lol..I have to say effeminate men...masculine women??
Definetly..as anything, is in the eye of the beholder.

I consider myself a "masculine" woman in the sense that I fend for myself...don't whine,stick up for myself and am not worried about breaking a nail...I will work beside my man to my capabilities and still know how to turn on the womanly charm...

As for a feminine man...I met on here a man who was an olympic aerial skiier....at this age in his life he taught at the mountain.
He also sewed..He designed one of the Olympic ski teams uniforms..can't remember what year.
Well..His voice...got to me...Just couldn't get past it...definite turn off...great guy though! Just thinking..kind of like a Mike Tyson voice.
Hey...I have a low toned voice....could be a turn off to some men..goes both ways..
 lacalli
Joined: 11/27/2011
Msg: 70
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Posted: 12/10/2011 7:47:33 AM
^^Nope it's not hobbies. Lord knows I've met some straight men in yarn stores (a lot of dentists knit for some reason) who weren't at all feminine. It's just a quality. You can even see it in the pics on here.
 MrFication
Joined: 5/6/2010
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Posted: 12/10/2011 4:29:54 PM
I would get accused of being feminine by a woman. The main things that bothered her and led her to believe that: keeping the house picked up (dishes, laundry, yard), cooking (real food not TV dinners), shaving (face) and frequent haircuts (apparently scruffy is manly), daily shower and deodorant (apparently speedstick is like wearing girly cologne), keeping my nails trimmed, drinking wine on occasion, coffee that isn't black, eating lots of candy, not caring about sports, being a courteous driver, being too skinny (I was around 180 lbs at the time and was supposedly unhealthily skinny for a man--therefore girly), had more than 1 pair of shoes, and it went on....
 DrumminD
Joined: 2/3/2011
Msg: 72
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Posted: 12/10/2011 6:59:25 PM
What does anyone else's opinion matter? All that matters is how you feel about him.
 kcladyz
Joined: 8/7/2009
Msg: 73
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Posted: 12/11/2011 7:58:03 AM
I will never date a feminine man. i will always assume he is a gay man in denial. I met a man like this. I sworn he was gay for he acted real feminine but turns out he was married and everything. crazy
 walkingtall38
Joined: 11/16/2011
Msg: 74
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Posted: 12/11/2011 8:01:16 AM

I will never date a feminine man. i will always assume he is a gay man in denial.


Lol...oh boy, the gloves are off now.

I foresee a barrage of awful analogies including midgets, Star Wars, and jalapenos on a stick coming this way to a theatre near you.
 SweetLilGTP
Joined: 10/22/2010
Msg: 75
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Posted: 12/11/2011 8:55:25 AM
and jalapenos


I, for one, would have a nicer time dating jalepenos than dating many of the girls from my area.



Cant go wrong with jalepenos; especially when they're baked
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