| What do women think of a man who is
Posted: 12/1/2004 12:08:38 PM | IN MY OPINION, we'll have to agree to disagree!
"you better watch out! ::::Whistles to an aforementioned Santa song::::
you better not cry! ::::Whistles to an aforementioned Santa song::::
you better not pout! ::::Whistles to an aforementioned Santa song::::
i'm tellin' you why! ::::Whistles to an aforementioned Santa song::::" | |
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alura2
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Joined: 3/18/2004
Msg: 52 | |
| What do women think of a man who is
Posted: 12/1/2004 2:51:23 PM | i have to give you a quick run down on my situation everyone..this is a difficult and toucjhy subject for me.
i was with my ex for 8 yrs...married had 2 kids with him. Within 6 months of my last child beign born i knew we were doomed.It meant more commitment...more responsiblity he just couldnt do it. He was always out leaving me to be the parent..when i was crying for a partner to help me. I had literally 3 children..he was such a peter pan.
I never knew he was going to end up this way..some partners may only be good boyfriends..but sh*tty hubbys and providers.This was his case. We were good as lovers..but not with rings on our hands.Responsiblity was not his best quality...even to this day..if soemone else can do it for him..he wont lift a finger. Hes a big playmate to our kids..where im the parent..its very sad.
He left us a week after our sons first birthday. he gave up and ran out..what a loser.
BUt..3 yrs of me fighting with him..trying to date..it hasnt been fun at all. I am still legally married and cant afford a lawyer.Its very very exspenisive.He flatly refuses to offer one red cent to help pay..and unless i do it myself..and get screwed..i must wait.
I may try a mediator..3 yrs of being separated ..my god..its a money issue..and him beign a lazy a** and a cheapskate.
so i met the love of my life..who got to know me for who i am..and my children..loves me to death..and will wait til im divorced to marry me.All good thigns come ot those who wait..
so..some situations are very different..i was very very very lonley..being married and couldnt wait to get out and find soemone to love me and treat me the way i deserved. | |
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| What do women think of a man who is
Posted: 12/1/2004 2:56:28 PM | that's... pretty tough, Alura. However, the issue here was never men painting separated women with any kind of unflattering brush. I think it's pretty clear that we're open to that sort of thing. It's the women here who are putting their fingers in their ears and singing "nononono, separated = married, separated = bad" despite being given example after example of how every situation is different.
Here's hoping things work out for you, though. That's got to be the worst... | |
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| What do women think of a man who is
Posted: 12/1/2004 3:42:02 PM | i agree skarsten, but alura's predicament is very typical of some of the men here too. even though men were the subject of this thread, she further supports the point that there are perfectly valid reasons for a man to be separated, yet entirely available to begin a new relationship.
ultimately, the bottom line is that i think it would be a shame for a woman to pass on what could be the love of her life, simply because of pre-conceived notions applied to ALL separated men. separation, just like anything else, is handled most fairly on a case by case basis.
alura sweetie... hang in there... maybe we can get a "rescue alura" fund started here on POF! | |
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