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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/8/2008 9:49:17 PM | | For me personally it is in my mind, nowhere else. There are sexy woman all ages, just like asexual women all ages. I think it is common misconception that youth evokes sexiness, yes sometimes and more often that that, I don't dispute it, but I believe it goes beyond the age. It is similar to a concept of 'beauty' ... what YOU consider beautiful and sexy. Similarly to verygreeneyez, I never liked to be viewed a 'sex bomb', lol, but it always feels being objectified. | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/9/2008 12:17:10 AM |
What makes a woman over 40 sexy? Oh Dear ... I hope it's good conversation, musically talented, and a love of the outdoors. (Does it help that I know how to pitch a tent and build a camp fire?)
Oh ... that might not be "sexy" ... that might just be considered "practical" ... sigh. | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/9/2008 3:23:31 AM | | I definitely find women over 40 sexy. The reason is simple they act based on how they feel. Basically....their principle seems to be....."If it feels good, do it." Many (not all)younger girls tend to be so caught up in appearance or what others think that you never know why they are with you or what they enjoy. They don't always just open up and enjoy the moment. But women over 30 and 40 don't get so caught up in how things appear and just go with what feels good or feels right. So they are much more open and fun and less inhibited since they aren't worried about what others consider conventional. So they are much less inhibited and can just let go and enjoy what is happening! Anyway not sure if that makes sense to anyone else but it is why I find women over 40 to be sexy! | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/9/2008 5:11:21 AM |
I hope it's good conversation, musically talented, and a love of the outdoors. If "good conversation" means that she will, at the drop of a hat, tell him what he "should" find desirable in a woman, and how he's "wrong" to have a contrary opinion, then, no, that wouldn't especially be a turn on.
But then I may have been mistaken when I heard that some men find an intelligent woman (one he can have an intelligent conversation with) ... sexy.
I may have been mistaken when I heard that some men find it especially sexy when a woman can sing love songs to them.
Whoops ... my bad.
I may have been mistaken when I heard that some men find it sexy when a woman will put on "grubbies" and go camping with them or even hunting and fishing with them. Again ... whoops, my bad.
They might be interesting in the contexts of having a relationship, but I can't see a connection with those attributes and creating a sexual desire in a man. I guess some men are all visual ... and just can't make a connection when it comes to intelligence.
It does take all kinds to make the world go 'round ... right?  | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/9/2008 6:26:57 AM | Wow --
I think duckling made an AWESOME point, even if it wasn't directly related. When I think about it, there is no comparison to my mom at 40, and me at 40, and I don't really even try.
I think a lot of women my age are sexy as h*ll, me included. And, the one's I don't find to be "sexy," which I equate on some level with being physically attractive, intelligent and confident, someone else does -- In fact, most of the women in that latter category I later find out are married. Could it be that those of us who aren't married, or are divorced -- a HUGE number compared to previous generations -- just try harder, because we "have" to? I don't know.
What I do know is that duckling made a great observation: "I compare the average woman my age to teen-aged girls and the "over 40" crowd seems to more physically fit and attractive than women half their age for the first time in history. Add life-long experience, wisdom, self-confidence and self-awareness and for those that want it, modern cosmetic practices and you end up with an entire generation of M.I.L.F.'s!"
Maybe that's why women my age get all that mail from the twenty-something crowd. | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/9/2008 6:29:21 AM | | Its simple, "They Glow", dont ask me why, but they do, they absolutly scream sexuality and confidence :) | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/9/2008 6:52:22 AM |
The process of selection is a series of filters, and a woman isn't considered for the next level, unless she passes through the first filter, which for me, is that she be physically attractive to me in a way that engages the "male" in me. Sexy, in other words. No need to be defensive about being a "VISUAL" being (and no regard for what's inside).
Let's just hope as she ages that she still appeals to you "visually" or I'd imagine she'll be out the door like the last lady in your life?
Like I said ... some men are ALL visual ... and just can't make a connection when it comes to intelligence.
Proof for sure that it really does take all kinds to make the world go 'round ... right? | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/9/2008 8:28:30 AM | Calling the above poster "cute" is like saying the "Mona Lisa" is just an average painting.
PS
I can see why people would think you are sexy!
JGirl
And I can see that in you as well. (Thank you.) 
It's more highly prized in a woman over 40, because, as a percentage of the whole, fewer women are physically attractive with each passing year. Some, by 40, seem to have "retired" from doing the things that it takes to "stay in the game". Also, in their 40s, a much higher percentage are married or in committed relationships.
There is aging, and there is aging insecurely. Here's some good insight from a man much younger than you (or me for that matter):
I definitely find women over 40 sexy. The reason is simple they act based on how they feel. Basically....their principle seems to be....."If it feels good, do it." Many (not all)younger girls tend to be so caught up in appearance or what others think that you never know why they are with you or what they enjoy. They don't always just open up and enjoy the moment. But women over 30 and 40 don't get so caught up in how things appear and just go with what feels good or feels right. So they are much more open and fun and less inhibited since they aren't worried about what others consider conventional. So they are much less inhibited and can just let go and enjoy what is happening! Anyway not sure if that makes sense to anyone else but it is why I find women over 40 to be sexy!
Not only is he definitely beyond handsome, intelligent, and open to the reality that women are beautiful in all forms/ages ~ he's exhibits no hostility. That's sexy in a man of any age.
Oh Dear ... I hope it's good conversation, musically talented, and a love of the outdoors. (Does it help that I know how to pitch a tent and build a camp fire?)
Ms. C ~ it is, unless someone has serious issues of their own to contend with. I know plenty of men that find the inner-workings of a lady to be the sexiest thing about that particular women. Musical talent being sexy isn't limited to those in the "biz." 
What does being musically talented or having a love for the outdoors have to do with being sexy? If "good conversation" means that she will, at the drop of a hat, tell him what he "should" find desirable in a woman, and how he's "wrong" to have a contrary opinion, then, no, that wouldn't especially be a turn on. They might be interesting in the contexts of having a relationship, but I can't see a connection with those attributes and creating a sexual desire in a man.
And here is some more insight for you to take into account:
Its simple, "They Glow", dont ask me why, but they do, they absolutly scream sexuality and confidence :)
Like I said ... some men are ALL visual ... and just can't make a connection when it comes to intelligence.
Yep, those get ignored, at least by me. There is nothing sexy about anyone, of either gender, that can't hold an intelligent positively-based conversation. Even differing opinions can be sexy if handled with tact, respect and decency.  | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/9/2008 9:03:23 AM | I definitely find women over 40 sexy. The reason is simple they act based on how they feel. Basically....their principle seems to be....."If it feels good, do it." Many (not all)younger girls tend to be so caught up in appearance or what others think that you never know why they are with you or what they enjoy. They don't always just open up and enjoy the moment. But women over 30 and 40 don't get so caught up in how things appear and just go with what feels good or feels right. So they are much more open and fun and less inhibited since they aren't worried about what others consider conventional. So they are much less inhibited and can just let go and enjoy what is happening! Anyway not sure if that makes sense to anyone else but it is why I find women over 40 to be sexy!
Very nice and most insightful post from such a young man (she says while slowly...VERY... slowly and most reluntantly retracting her claws) Haha. 
And yes of course I am JUST kiddin' about the claws. But IF I did have claws, I would know EXACTLY where and in whom to try and sink them into...gawwwd help this old fool...err...I mean this old soul) 
Now ...what makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Well in my most humble opinion, I think "sexy", much like happiness, comes mostly from within. At least it does for me. How old I am and how many wrinkles I'm getting seem to have little or no relation on how sexy I feel (or not feel).
It's more about how I feel about myself as a whole that mostly determines my level of sexiness. When and if I feel good about the whole me, then I can pretty much guarantee that I will also feel sexy.
And the reason I'm convinced about this is from my own personal experience. I once was a much younger woman with a MUCH better and oh so much firmer body (dammit), and while I had no problems attracting men, I didn't feel very "sexy".
Yet it wasn't for the lack of attention or because I wasn't "sexy" on the "outside. It all had to do with me and how I felt about myself on the inside at the time.
Anyway, I believe that women and men can be "sexy" at any age, regardless of their given physical attributes...sexy is mostly an attitude in my opinion. To each their own.
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/9/2008 11:35:15 AM | My former relationship of 5 years said he found me to be very sexy because I am so secure about myself ... because I have an opinion that I feel secure in expressing ... because I don't just turn into a "sheeple" when it comes to controversial issues. I actually take the time to research the information before I form an opinion.
On the physical side ... he told me he particularly liked my legs and the fact that I did not have huge hanger breasts. He got to know me over the phone long before he ever saw me. We were a member of the same dance club but had never been to the same dance before I ended up having to call him about some club business. So he truly did get to know me (my intelligence) before he ever saw me.
He said he was quite turned on by the way I spoke ... the way I was so well-informed about the subject we were discussing ... the sincere interest I had in the subject. He was a smart man.
He said smart men are attracted to smart women. It's great if the lady is also attractive, but he said when the lights go out, you still have to be able to listen to her talk and not want to leave the room.
I can understand men who are all about "VISUAL" ... but I'll take a SMART man any day. I too do not want to get the feeling that I have to leave the room when the lights go out ...  | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/9/2008 12:45:42 PM | Is the topic of a thread, "what makes a woman over 40 feel sexy?" or is it "what maes a woman over 40 sexy" with the implication that it's "to a man". Those are different questions.
I suppose you are right Renaissance Man (like your new moniker by the way:) ...they are two different questions.
Or are they?
If I feel sexy from the inside...meaning I feel beautiful and desirable and "worthy", not just as a human being, but as the "sexy" female that I am....won't that sexiness somehow makes it's way on the outside and make me even more desirable (sexy) to the opposite sex??
It's a complicated subject of course...I mean, I could "feel" sexy but not wash for days and not "groom" my body according to the expected societal norms, which in turn would mean that "most" men wouldn't find me sexy. So in this case, the question definitely becomes two entirely different questions.
But assuming that I pretty well "know" or am "aware" of what "most" men "in general" find sexy in a woman.....wouldn't my confidence in my own sexiness HELP negate what could be seen as a negative about my "sexiness" (short hair /small breasts/less than firm body...etc...) and turn it into a positive?? In other words, and short of me being completely repulsive of course......wouldn't a man find a woman who is confident in herself and her sexuality.....sexy IN SPITE of a few wrinkles and of not being the model of what is SUPPOSED to be sexy??
And dang it...I do have a hard time expressing what it is I'm trying to say in a succinct manner...(always wanted to put the word succinct in one of my post...I just hope it fits there). Haha.
And don't worry RM...I don't "feel" you're picking on me. We don't even have to agree you know, and as long as we can respectfully disagree, all is well in my world.
The thing is that I kinda agree with you in this instance. The question is "what makes a woman over 40 sexy", and short of me going back to the OP and seeing if the question was addressed to men or women or both, I just assumed it was asked from both men and women.
And I also agree that what I find sexy in a woman (yeah I find women sexy:) might be entirely different than what some or most or all men find sexy. But I don't think I'm that far off the mark for some "strange" reasons. This old soul has done a LOT of living and hmm...how can I say this without having to delete or hide my profile....let's just say that I know "stuff" and leave it at that. Haha.
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/9/2008 5:17:12 PM | .
Is it physical features or something else entirely?
Both, sometimes. But, with me it’s mostly that “something else” that includes quickness of mind mixed with a bit of healthy self-confidence -- and respect for self and others around them.
Because, in truth, I’m seldom attracted to women who dress to look sexy in public. In other words, I’ve never been too interested in those who present themselves as a femme fatal, but do enjoy talking with the ladies who can be a real barracuda at work. I guess the point is that I find women who know at least a couple things very well to be most attractive -- even when they are things I know absolutely nothing about.
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/9/2008 6:35:53 PM | in cotter's case: her GREAT legs!!
greeneyez: smokin' abs and 'tude!! [who painted that portrait, btw?]
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/9/2008 10:22:15 PM | Yes, there is lots of dancing around the issue about what makes woman attractive over 40.
I can only speak for myself... it is the same thing that made me sexy when I was in my 20ies or 30 ies, but you don't have to agree with it. We are human being not sex bombs or movie stars who are obsessed with their daily appearance. There are days and months and periods in my life when I don't fell sexy. I am going through 'stuff' in my life and I don't give a flying fook if a man considers me sexy or not.
There are times when once I figure my stuff out, and let's say I have more of routine in my life, I can pay more attention to my appearance, and like I said in my post, sexiness appears in my mind. Suddenly something shifts in me, there is glow in my eyes, mysterious look, I dropped unnecessary pounds, I feel like going shopping, indulging myself, I feel sexy. I walk on the street, I make their heads turn, or make them smile, both genders see it man and woman. La Jaconde, 2 cents | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/9/2008 11:00:53 PM | Edit to my previous post, my last little story based on real life situation:
I said:
There are days and months and periods in my life when I don't fell sexy. I am going through 'stuff' in my life and I don't give a flying fook if a man considers me sexy or not.
This does not mean others don't view me as a potential date. Example, met recently a man at a coffee place. Since I am new in the city trying to figure out my stuff, so somehow we got into the conversation. I suppose it must be our intelligent conversation that kept us going. Nothing in my head appeared, no thought of sexiness at all, instead I was going over my frustrations trying to find a decent place to live in a big city of Vancouver, that is decent and doesn't cost me loads of money. I also was getting a cold, and felt like $hit anyhoo... so, after our little chat he asked me if I wanted to meet again. Yes, I said sure, I don't know that many souls in the city. So, after a couple of meetings he has asked me if I was going to consider a partner, hmm... didn't cross my mind... puzzled, I said I will think about it and will get back to him... OMG. So, I guess despite of feeling eicky and yakky and being preoccupied in my thoughts, I must have appeared sexy to 32 year old man. Viva me! | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/10/2008 7:08:02 AM | jaconde: viva you!! applause: oh, and it's your eyes, darlin'....
mike
i think what makes women over 40 sexy [aside from 40's bein' the new 30] is what makes younger women sexy: their individuality. that is, not that they ARE unique, but BECAUSE they are, so, each woman is sexy for a different reason, for a unique combination of traits that makes her sexy on an individual basis. so, take all o' that, throw in their experience, and there it is! | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/10/2008 9:35:02 AM |
jaconde: viva you!! oh, and it's your eyes, darlin'.... mike
Thank you mikedanger, blashing me...
But, this is very true... our sexiness comes out in all sort of forms ... our uniqueness, combination of different traits, all that plays important part. For me, for example... I was told recently by one of the male, that what he found unique while talking to me and refreshing is that I appear for ever young. But I think what he also meant to say without him realizing it, that I am still 'innocent' in my way of being, I have this sort of girlish approach to life and this also manifests itself with being with a man. It is the fact that I have never have had any children, so I don't have an experience of being a mother to my child. I am still 'a girl' in some odd, strange way. (Please note, I do not put down any women in this post who have children. Good for you! ) But in my case, my free spirit, and a sense of adventure in life makes me unique that many, many men all ages find very refreshing and are just drawn to me for that particular reason. I am speaking from my own experience.
I have worked with one of the woman who is now 60, and she is very similar to me in terms of our lack of experience with motherhood. Also an artsy type, beautiful, sexy ... I love her choice of clothes and her open mind makes her so much more desirable. By the way, I recognize all that in her, and although there is something like 20 years difference between her and I, we can relate to each other, when we talk about men etc. etc. etc. It is all sexy and she inspired me in so many ways.
thank you, La Jaconde | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/10/2008 10:42:49 AM | | I have been told that my personality, laugh, voice and attitude make me sexy. Also my appearance, plump body, large breasts (some men do like them, referring to a previous poster), realistic optimism and perceptive personality make me sexy. | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/10/2008 5:56:18 PM | They way they carry themselves,little crows feet at the corner of their eyes.
The knowledge they have gained and share,the sag of their boobs from their child rearing years.
The way they handle problems and understand whats really important in life.
The sound of their voice when they whisper in your ear.
Whats not sexy about a woman over 40? | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/10/2008 6:42:56 PM | | IMO "sexy" is between the ears. Sophia Loren is still gorgeous and I think much of it has to do with her attitude. One grows old when they lose a passion for life. | |
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| What makes a woman over 40 sexy?
Posted: 8/10/2008 8:56:21 PM | Really, to spot sexy woman over 40 is not a biggy at all. 40 or 40 something is not old, although it may appear ancient to 20 year old, yep I understand it. When I was 16 in the college I thought of those one year older than me, I thought they were ancient.
Back to topic, I like what abby156 said:
One grows old when they lose a passion for life.
yep, this is the secret of youth - the passion, one single needed ingredient, forget all the special creams against wrinkles, who needs them. The only make up I use is lipstick, I like it.
A friend of mine just found me on a facebook, we used to work together. She is almost 60 now. I knew her and met her 10 years ago. I could not believe my own eyes when I saw her images posted, I practically have not recognized her. She was always sexy when I knew her but in addition to it, she appeared glowing with happiness, she lost so much weight, although she was never big. She confined she left her last husband, and threw herself into dancing, that's how she was able to deal with turmoil, she met a new man and bang she fell in love. I saw her wedding pictures and she looks absolutely fabulous, beautiful, stunning and exudes sexiness around her.
a woman over 40, sexy? Is this a topic we are discussing here? gimmie a break.
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