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| Why Indians are scared to love?
Posted: 10/24/2009 7:39:58 PM | I think the successful marrage rate cant be defamed,nor the stability of the family structure which has succesffuly survived dispite the negative aspects you mentioned.
Its funny but the things you dont like about Indian culture and its stability, many here today desire. So many constantly doubt others feelings and love toward them constantly dismissing others based on how they themselves feel, only to realize it eventually sizzles and fades after the intial honeymoon, infatuation stage leaves within a year, leaving opting for a new relationship to recapture what they felt in the beginning. I think the India culture is aware of that and why it is so difficult to get divorsed. People have to work at a marrage to make it work for the sake of the family which is really the reason for getting married in the first place. Just my view of things. | |
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| Why Indians are scared to love?
Posted: 10/25/2009 4:07:23 AM | | Serenity Sam...It all comes down to what each person is looking for. You see, I can't for the life of me understand or relate to people that opt to live a robotic life for the sake of avoiding divorce. These people you speak of will never feel passion, love, heartbreak and all the other breathtaking colorful things that life has to offer...And what's sad is their kids end up being the exact same way...unhappy doctors/engineers that can't marry the person of their choice...This is not life, this is imprisonment. | |
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| Why Indians are scared to love?
Posted: 10/25/2009 4:52:39 AM | ArabianAngel,
I agree with your statement that it comes down to what each person is looking for up to the point when they take on the responsability of bringing a new life into this world. I don't believe divorces should be given so easily when children are involved. I was raised in an era in a family(europian) that believed in family values, the success of the family came before individual desires. When people take vows and honor them and have a family, selfish motives of what can the world do for me attatudes deminish, children(our nations future) lead a more stable life and tend to enter relationships more responsably. I think passion, love, heartbreak are way over rated. Personally these things are fleeting . A life of constantly falling in love, loosing that love, ends in heartbreak, and the devistating cycle repeats itself. My brothers ex wife has had three marrages with three children all from different men, half brothers that two rarely see thier father due to the divorces.
This is why I oppose a system that is so leanent with the sanctity of marrage.
You have a country like ours that is just 200 years old, with rampant divorce, fatherless children, children that grow up thinking why take relationships seriously thier motive in life becomes what can I get for me, thus the me generation we have today. This is the direction we are heading into. I know many children are still provided with homes where parents do stay together and make sacrafices for the sake of thier children, which it should be, but it takes a dedicated effort by both to make the marrage work. | |
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| Why Indians are scared to love?
Posted: 10/25/2009 8:52:07 AM | i wasnt going to post today because i'm trying to get to my church's bazaar for the gumbo cookoff. there's a lot of things that i admire/respect about indian culture and muslim/arab for example:
you don't see old maids, there is no drop outs, there are no unwed moms, the men are taught to get a wife and support a wife/kids- not to get some random chick knocked up or force her to get an abortion, they don't believe in having someone else take care of their family like getting welfare/foodstamps/medicaid, they believe in having their own businesses and aligning with their own kind business wise as well as marrying their own women, there is not a large amount that marry outside of their race .
i have seen bollywood indian men (good looking) married to the most ugly indian women or vice versa and that's because it was arranged since little kids. also, what i don't like about indians /muslims is that they string american women along (mainly white women since that's their base) and know they have a woman in their country waiting to be brought to the states. last, when the women don't follow their rules like want to go to work or further their education, etc then the men are very abusive to the extreme of throwing acids on their face and sharia/mercy killings.
i had an indian friend who lost his wife to a white guy at work. every time he would talk to me he would talk about "whitey this" or "white that" because he was so consumed that the white guy at his wife's job took her from him. my indian friend would even say that he wondered if she was giving him oral sex and how could she be putting that "whitey" you kow what in her mouth. no, he didn't use the actual word, and he was not my lover just someone from my job at the bank in the IT dept. | |
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