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 OctaviaV
Joined: 12/20/2009
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 tiathewriter
Joined: 3/19/2012
Msg: 127
Why don't women approach guys much?
Posted: 3/22/2012 9:06:19 PM
I'm with mom2liv I don't get a response when I message guys. Personally I can't be so non-proactive, but I'm finding more and more the trend at least fro me on here is to let the men come to me. I don't agree with it, but it's what works. If I had more time I'd probably out talking to men instead IRL instead of waiting for any guy to email me.
 socalcitycat2012
Joined: 2/27/2012
Msg: 128
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Posted: 4/1/2012 5:37:00 PM
@ Wonder5750--I absolutely love reading your posts! Very insightful! Age really does play a part with how women tread on this site.

I have learned through (at times painful!) trial and error what it is that I want, and, more importantly, what I DON'T want!

I have gleaned a lot of useful information from reading these forum threads too.

Happy fishing!
 mysterioustallmn
Joined: 2/17/2010
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Posted: 4/2/2012 5:33:55 AM
I was approached by woman just the other day, she asked if I could give her a dollar.
 Wonder5750
Joined: 1/30/2012
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Posted: 4/2/2012 8:15:03 AM
^^^^^
Cheap date lol
 slpboo
Joined: 8/21/2011
Msg: 131
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Posted: 4/2/2012 9:42:40 AM

I was approached by woman just the other day, she asked if I could give her a dollar.


LOL!!!! Did she have all her teeth?
 socalcitycat2012
Joined: 2/27/2012
Msg: 132
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Posted: 4/2/2012 12:25:53 PM
[Cheap date lol]

ROARING with laughter!!!!!!!! Thanks, I needed that little humor pick-me-up! Now I need to scrounge up a dollar or two for gas.... Anyone got a dollar I can borrow?
 psytle
Joined: 3/7/2011
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Posted: 4/2/2012 12:29:00 PM

[Cheap date lol]

ROARING with laughter!!!!!!!! Thanks, I needed that little humor pick-me-up! Now I need to scrounge up a dollar or two for gas.... Anyone got a dollar I can borrow?


I kid you not, I was at a gas station more than five years ago, and this guy in a beater car rolls up and shouts "39 cents on pump 6!" at the attendant.
 1womanman33
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 134
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Posted: 4/2/2012 5:22:55 PM
Dunno about some of the previous posts, but being raised in a house of five females (I swear, the government owes me hazard pay)...even without a father always present, I saw my sisters and older cousin raised that if a man is interested, he will step up and ask you out. Societal standards, perceptions, and in some cases...an intense fear of rejection are culprits. But the simplest answer is this: women don't usually have to. It's all about your options. Most women can sit back and invariably, men will come calling. Personally, I couldn't fathom sitting around and waiting/wondering if a woman was going to ask...my father DID teach me the simple axiom, "A closed mouth don't get fed" when it came to saying what I needed to other people. As such, if I want someone's attention, I'll ask for it.
 socalcitycat2012
Joined: 2/27/2012
Msg: 135
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Posted: 4/2/2012 8:58:08 PM
Your dad was incredibly wise...
 1womanman33
Joined: 3/25/2012
Msg: 136
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Posted: 4/2/2012 10:20:49 PM
:) You have no idea hehe.
 lukecash12
Joined: 3/29/2012
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Posted: 4/5/2012 1:58:56 AM
And I quote:


Call me crazy (waiting for the jokes on that one. LOL), but I'd really like to know why is it that women don't tend to make the first move/approach? I mean, I understand there's the typical answer of fear of rejection, etc. But it's just the same for men as it is women. Maybe it's just me, but I like to see confidence in a woman as well. Not to mention it's just as 'flattering' (and I don't really care for that word) to have a woman come up to a guy.

I typically don't like to generalize, because I know there's always exceptions and reasons for situations, but I'd really like to hear some comments on this topic. IDK, this is just my experience.


If you feel that way, then maybe you should ask this question:

"Why don't women approach me much?"
 Ortiz87871
Joined: 3/26/2011
Msg: 138
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Posted: 4/10/2012 11:58:27 AM
I get messaged all the time on this site, I have 77 women who want to meet me? The chicks seem pretty aggressive, that's my experience.
 RichenLosAngeles
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 139
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Posted: 4/10/2012 12:16:35 PM
^^^^^^
Yes, the "Meet Me" is a form of approach, although pretty weak. It generally implies that they like your photo, not that they have any real intention of meeting you.
How many of the 77 have you met in person?
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 LAgoodguy
Joined: 8/21/2008
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Posted: 4/10/2012 1:33:14 PM
Why should women approach the guys??? The guys do all the running around as is, women just need to wait till the prince show up at there door knocking .... Some women but not many, when they see the number of guys that come knocking is droping. They would approach the guys, Those are the woman that are intrested in finding and meeting someone.
 Ortiz87871
Joined: 3/26/2011
Msg: 141
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Posted: 4/10/2012 2:24:29 PM
So far I have selected only 30 that I was interested in as well. 15 dates, 10 ending with sex. I have 2 on the calendar this week. 7 no replies, I will follow up with another message, in one week to these girls.
 Ortiz87871
Joined: 3/26/2011
Msg: 142
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Posted: 4/10/2012 2:41:59 PM
I have found that the uglier girls will still approach, the hot ones usually don't need to. My Experience.
 Roujin
Joined: 2/22/2010
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Posted: 4/10/2012 6:35:05 PM
It really just comes down to the fact that if guys were getting 12+ messages a day they wouldn't feel like they would need to send any messages. Add to the fact that even like this site says "Only 1 of 3 messages get responded to" so girls who do get even a minor amount of messages will probably get discouraged from trying very quickly, while a guy pretty much has to put forth 100% of the effort to get any where on this site.
 ThinkinginCA
Joined: 4/14/2010
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Posted: 4/10/2012 8:11:07 PM
^^^I've seen your past posts, and wondered why you weren't getting much responses considering you're pretty decent looking guy.....so I looked at your profile, and I can see why you're not getting much interest.

Unlike many other profiles I see, you provide TMI. Really, lose the stuff about being introverted, and just simply say you're a little shy. Or all the stuff about roommates, that's not necessary to disclose. And more.

Imagine what you want, or how you want to achieve it, and they express that as what you seek.
 NaN485
Joined: 3/31/2012
Msg: 145
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Posted: 4/21/2012 10:12:04 AM
Because men love to chase. It's in their hormones. And I do not chase! If a guy wants me, he will initiate.
 nina92504
Joined: 3/18/2012
Msg: 146
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Posted: 4/21/2012 10:21:40 PM
I don't really know why women don't approach guys much, but I recently sent a message to someone who looked good in a uniform. "What is it about uniforms" and this was his response

"Don't know , what is it about sex , that's what I'm here for only"

I should have read his profile. But I was just sending the message to say ya know that he looked nice.

But dam what an ass.

Could be a reason why women don't approach, ya think!
 camb4m
Joined: 5/23/2011
Msg: 147
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Posted: 4/22/2012 12:56:19 AM
Hey people,
I know I'm chiming in a little later here, but whatever hah. From my experience the first approach can go either way. Personally, I think the guy should make the first move. If a guy doesn't have the juevos to approach a girl he is vibing on, then he shouldn't get her. It's not that hard to talk to someone. Having "fear of rejection" is a load of crap. Every great homerun hitter in baseball struck out at times. Get over it. On the other hand, it is a good pick-me-up when a beautiful lady makes the first move. And ladies if you're afraid of coming off as easy because of it, get over yourself, most guys don't read into it that much. That's all I have to say about that.

ps. I'm boarderline wasted, so sorry if some of that^ doesn't make sense.
 RichenLosAngeles
Joined: 11/14/2010
Msg: 148
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Posted: 4/22/2012 12:58:44 AM
^^^^^^
"But dam what an ass. "
That's precisely what Arnold said the first time he saw Maria Shriver.
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 tallmanenters
Joined: 1/28/2012
Msg: 149
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Posted: 4/22/2012 1:12:23 AM
But they do approach (first)... much, in my experience. And good on them. Shows the spirit and determination. Which are good qualities in a woman in my book.
 camb4m
Joined: 5/23/2011
Msg: 150
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Posted: 4/22/2012 1:51:26 AM
too add to what i said above:

it's so exciting approaching a girl you're into for the first time. I mean anything can happen and when you get exactly what you want, it's such a rewarding feeling. rejection sucks, but you know, shit happens. shouldn't stop you from trying. guys who wait for a girl to make a move need to get their ish together and step up.
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