| | High Expectations and First Dates.Page 2 of 2 (1, 2) | | I think taking rounds in turn is good... i generally prefer to pay my own way though, avoids giving any wrong/mixed signals | |
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Posted: 5/7/2012 6:22:40 PM | | Was it a first meet? Then she has to suck it up and pay for herself. Only fair. You learned your lesson and didnt pay out for a big dinner etc. Let her find someone who will buy her drinks and then expect some kind of compensation. That she harped on about it was tedious. Going for drinks for a first meet is not always a good idea and she was probably getting plastered and boring.If you didnt fancy her and didnt want to see here again then you did the right thing for sure. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2012 4:54:22 AM | When I go out on dates I like to pay my way. I dont think the man has to pay for everything. Perhaps Ive been 'conditioned by society'.
I offer to pay from the outset for my food and drinks but if he absolutely insists then Im not going to bang on about it and insult his chivalry and kindness.
That is about as high as my expectation is and I can honestly say, it has failed dismally so I am going to resort to be a money hungry biatch from now on in and see how that goes. | |
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Posted: 5/23/2012 5:05:05 AM | Yeah, I don't get that either---
I offer to pay (and on occasion have paid for both) but, men seem to take offense at even the offer... | |
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Posted: 7/12/2012 1:41:45 AM | | I prefer to buy my own drinks, it means I'm not expected to "owe" him something. But i think t he fact she kept mentioning it is a turn off as opposed to the fact you didn't buy her one. | |
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Posted: 7/12/2012 8:57:06 AM | If a man pays for meals and then offers to pay for drinks after, I very quickly offer to buy desert/cake and coffee...or shout a round while they are ducked off to the loo.
I certainly hope sex after is not a pre requisite .. in uni and school it was, but sharing your best bits with a near stranger is not the ideal way for me .. but that is just me.
Some women like to fleece - and if you will profressional scammers or hustlers.. others like me have been treated poorly by a few men and its a uplifting experience to be treated like you are special. | |
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Posted: 7/13/2012 9:02:32 PM | I finally got a message from someone Yeah for me. Went on my first POF date, no big surprises as we had skyped previous so knew what each other looked like.
Meeting in the carpark and the walk to the restaurant was great then it turns out the family restaurant he chose is owned by friends so I wasnt just being judged by my date but 5 other ppl aswell. EEEK pressure.
He talked about his 'bestie' most of the night making it clear he has set dates with this person. Bestie = female friend without the romance. At the end of the evening he asked to do it again. Sure, maybe we can invite his bestie next time.
High Expectation on First Dates - I dont expect to be hearing about an obvious crush on another women.
Getting to OP comments:- For someone to be that strong on the thought that the asker should pay, you said she mentioned it 10 times, was there no sign that she was a princess in your conversations to the lead up to the date? | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 2:49:58 PM |
Now I'm all for chivilry but I don't think that because you get asked out on a date that it means your date has to pay your way!!
Oh no ... if I a woman has made such a poor "life choices" decision to go out with me, I expect to keep the bad decisions coming by keeping her peeessed (as a Mexican would say). | |
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Posted: 7/24/2012 2:55:05 PM |
If a man pays for meals and then offers to pay for drinks after, I very quickly offer to buy desert/cake and coffee...or shout a round while they are ducked off to the loo.
I'll have the Death by Chocolate ....
Death by Chocolate ... hmmmm, now I wonder if I'm making dodgy life choices | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 6:26:00 AM | Death By Chocolate is a sharing desert... in some eyes that would be seen as "cheapskate" others romantacise a shared desert..
Hmm want chocolate now..
I'll have the Death by Chocolate ....
Death by Chocolate ... hmmmm, now I wonder if I'm making dodgy life choices | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 7:10:49 PM | | If i cant afford to pay my own way i decline the date invite.... I dont like people buying me things im a very independant person i however wouldnt pay for a guys drinks or dinner either if he asked me out. I like a man who offers to pay but i dont like to take him up on the offer.. maby im strange lol | |
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