| | Valentines Day...Page 4 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | The anniversary of our first date is feb 13th. I'm a florist and I don't like chocolate so by the time VD is here, I'd rather stuff a red rose up someones nose than receive them lol. I am not expecting anything as the day just doesn't work for me romantically at all. Last year we thanked each other for a great one-night-stand the night before and said, "Happy Valentines Day". I have no idea what we will do this year considering how we started :)
I don't think it matters though what day of the year you have your first date. Treat it like any other non-holiday and have fun! | |
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Posted: 1/30/2012 12:21:34 PM | You can try looking Valentine's Day in the eye and staring it down, but it won't work. It might work with your dog (MIGHT), but you will always break the stare before Valentine's Day does.
The majority of women would like to see the man they are with, whether first date or 40 year anniversary, acknowledge the day in some way. Resistance is futile. So many men cry about how they don't understand women or what they want, and the woman makes it such a big mystery. There is no mystery on Valentine's Day. She's spelled it out and made it quite simple! And if she didn't, Hallmark has done it for her. Appreciate that! Don't make her beg and nag and get herself all agitated....show her she's special...if she is. You're probably going to give her the damn flowers anyway, why not avoid the histrionics and make it pleasant? It might even pay off for you. If she is not special to you, well then, why did you wait until February 14 to figure that one out?
Oh, yeah, and women, try to ease up on those men, if you can. If he's not going to buy the flowers, he just isn't, and throwing a fit doesn't do anybody any good. Go blow up his credit card instead. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2012 12:32:42 PM | | If a guy I was dating didnt get me flowers for vday I wouldnt be dating him anymore. No effort is a big nono | |
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Posted: 1/30/2012 1:04:32 PM | I started another thread about the wonderful nuances of living in America, Chime in with your favorites, just make sure they are contemporary references, and not historical nostalgia drummed up from a Norman Rockwell charicture and generations gone by.
Freedom of speech ? you havent been watching the SOPA debates much. 
Hall Mark Holidays
New Years Day (China and Russia dont celebrate jan 1)
Martin Luther King day
Ground Hogs Day (yep, get your cards early)
Valentines Day ( Europe, Russia, China - meh, not so much)
St Patty's day - .... co- opted by Walmart - expect to see the decorations the day after Valentines day
Cinqo De Mayo - .... c0-opted by Jose Cuervo - most have no idea what they are 'celebrating' but damnit another shot with a worm is grand
July 4th..... watered down - hell it is illegal in too many municipalities to even own, light, or sell fireworks
October - Halloween ? nope - mostly America - this is a New Years tradition in Russia - the pranks, treats, and knocking on doors
Thanks giving - get your damn Turkey - it's gone PC, you cant even say 'indian, plymouth, pilgrim, Mayflower - without some school board twit getting their panties in a twist
Kwanza - before 1993 ? nope
Christmas - you mean the coopted winter soltace that was moved arbitarirly by the pope centuries ago ?
Totally manufactured, produced, and shovelled retail hype
and as for flowers "Why would you kill them ?!?! you should have brought me the bulbs "
Never knew an American girl that would say that.
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Posted: 1/30/2012 2:04:15 PM | "Don't make her beg and nag and get herself all agitated"
And there you have it! It isn't about men or love at all, just about how you honor women.
"show her she's special"
Now why is this limited to V-day? A woman or a man in a relationship should be special to their SO, every day.
"If she is not special to you, well then, why did you wait until February 14 to figure that one out?"
So, if you don't make a big todo over V-day, it means shes not special? Or if you don't believe in V-day, you have to because she does!
Sadly this is a more common reaction, than others who see this as just another hallmark holiday. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2012 3:02:08 PM | Meh. To me, whether I am single like I am now or when I had a girlfriend, Valentine's Day is such an overrated holiday. A holiday designed to show your affection to the people that you care about and love? Aren't you supposed to do that everyday?
So to answer your question: No, I don't think it would be too much pressure. In fact, the only pressure that there will be will be based on how heavily you weigh in the significance of Valentine's Day. | |
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Posted: 1/30/2012 5:20:28 PM | To me, it's just another day, and always has been.
I would have no problem with a first date on V-day. If nothing else, we could people watch and remark at how sappy some people get just because it's February 14th... That's pretty much what I do with my "Valentine" every year haha | |
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Posted: 1/30/2012 6:41:03 PM | | No its for everyone! Go have fun and loose all the expectations! You might get lucky...lol | |
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Posted: 1/30/2012 7:00:52 PM |
let's hope the poster of this one did learn something about birth control - Lord knows there are MANY options out there for that
As I will be turning 53 in April, yes I learned about birth control- MENOPAUSE | |
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Posted: 1/30/2012 7:28:26 PM | | ^^^^^yep thats the one that works best next to abstenence | |
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Posted: 1/30/2012 7:52:35 PM | a lil too soon? not sure :)
depends on person and how conncected you both are | |
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Posted: 1/30/2012 11:00:02 PM | Let me turn the tables on you OP, would it be too much pressure for you as a datee?
Would you feel inclined to put out if you go on a first or second date on Valentine's Day with someone? Cause, you know...it's Valentine's Day and all. | |
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Posted: 1/31/2012 10:11:21 AM |
cautiousluv:
So your saying instead of staying home alone and feeling sorry for yourself.....dress up like a slut and get out there and start seducing men?? AWESOME!! This just might be a Happy Valentines Day after all!!!
Hallelujah, brothers and sisters! The line for men volunteering to be the object of the seduction starts behind me! | |
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Posted: 1/31/2012 1:10:47 PM |
Hallelujah, brothers and sisters! The line for men volunteering to be the object of the seduction starts behind me!
Hold up. The word LINE in the above sentence really makes me nervous. I don't want people confusing this thread with the "Are These Women FREAKS" thread!  | |
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Posted: 1/31/2012 1:12:55 PM | | It's just another day to me. Sure I'll celebrate it if I'm in a relationship at the time but if it happens to fall on a Friday and I feel like some companionship I'm not NOT going to make a date for that night just because its a trumped up commercialized holiday. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2012 3:06:24 AM | Still waiting for Hallmark to pick up on
The guy's holiday for 3/14
and you would think the American Council of Beef Producers would endorse it too!
It's just over a month away
Have you girls thought of how you will surprise your man, improve your technique, invite a friend ?
.....
www.steakandbjday.com/
It's a wednesday this year... appropriately a Hump day. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2012 10:02:18 AM | " ‘If she is not special to you, well then, why did you wait until February 14 to figure that one out?’
‘So, if you don't make a big todo over V-day, it means shes not special? Or if you don't believe in V-day, you have to because she does!’ “
The reality is this. You can buck against Valentine’s Day all you want, but the majority of people recognize it, especially women. Just acknowledge it for her. If you have bigger problems, like she’s a golddigger, or has unrealistic expectations of you, this is not the best day to deal with those issues. Try March 14 instead. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2012 10:19:26 AM | So, a few years ago...just after I re-entered the dating world ...I was emailing and talking with a woman I'd met on-line...and after a little bit I asked her to go to dinner (never met in person up to this point)...she askes when (it being right around valentine's day)...and I try every day but valentine's day....nope no good...she's gotta meet on valentine's day...so, reluctently I agree...she shows with a gift...I did not...she throws the lip lock in the parking lot after dinner...and I escape with my life...I wrote her a nice note later on telling her I hope she had good luck in her search.
IMO...valentine's day is not good for a first or second date. | |
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Posted: 2/2/2012 11:35:23 AM | Depend's a cute card for someone you have been seeing for a while is nice. Just keep it a friendship card.
R | |
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Posted: 2/2/2012 11:44:55 AM | I am willing to bet the ranch. IT would be expected   | |
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Posted: 2/2/2012 11:59:13 AM | | It is just a regular day for me and a rather annoying day also, with having to buy all the flowers, candy and such if I am in a relationship. What good are flowers anyways, they wilt and die within a few day afterwards. I prefer to buy whoever I am seeing at the time a broom and some house cleaning supplies and suggest that I giver her a foot rub if she cleans the windows, the bathrooms and the kitchen. Of course I have never had a relationship last much longer past Valentine's Day, but I am okay with that. I would also like to add that I do really believe in romantic love, I think it is a con to get people to do foolish things and useless items such as flowers and diamonds and such. I mean how are you going to to do the dishes and bring me a drink with a diamond? LOL! | |
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Posted: 2/2/2012 12:12:28 PM | First date on Valentines....likely not.
Whether I'm in a relationship...or not...I love Valentines Day!
What a great excuse to "get your love on" and surprise those who are important in your life with a little reminder that they ARE loved!
I guess we can all be cynical about "we should show love every day" ...or it's a commercial holiday...or we can choose to make it what WE want it to be.
MrsF | |
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