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Posted: 2/18/2012 7:26:33 PM | | Other way with me they move in anyone they can wiggle in lie cheat steal.....scared to death of relationship after the last woman.....my god everything she said was a lie put me in debt and it was horrible.....loveless i say loveless......i just want a woman to love do things with ask her how her day is goin......and if something upsets her i would like to console her....make her darkest day bright........why cant i find an honest loving partner..........i said i was sorry lord......i`ve tried to right my wrongs......i`m not complaining.....just wondering if i get a second chance?If i have to suffer alone or with immoral women so be it i`ll take what i deserve.....so listen up guys when your breakin lil girls hearts.....ten fold is what you git in return....i`m truly sorry lord if you send me an angel i swear I`ll do the right thing by you.........truly sorry for my actions G | |
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Posted: 2/24/2012 10:54:34 AM | I love it when women ask where the "real men" are. because it's so arbitrary.
Here's a secret- the real men are with the real women. if you can't find one then hint hint. | |
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Posted: 2/25/2012 2:07:14 PM |
Lol! I had dated an actor, whom I had met from Match.com, for several months...very much a gentleman, but he was a "player".
easygoing nailed it - Your picker IS broken!!!! Gentleman & Player are soooooooo not even in the same universe!!!!  | |
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Posted: 2/26/2012 8:21:39 PM | | I am not sure, but it is hard to not be on a job interview at first because I think people want to cover the basics, maybe there should be a dating RESUME? I feel like guys don't know how to laugh or how to make me laugh anymore. That really frustrates me. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2012 9:26:49 PM | Oh gawd, to think I almost passed this one by! Hahahahaha!!!
Gentlemen and ladies, I give you the classic bait and switch! I would have missed this entirely, had I not read the whole first page!
First off, reading the OP, I thought to myself, hmmm...that sounded strange, most of what she wanted seemed reasonable. Like all threads like this one, the OP seems so simplistic, but it's the add ons that get ya!
1. Seemed simple enough. Usually the give and take, I try to take care of in the email and phone call parts, BEFORE the date. Her point is rightly so, it should be "laughter and good times", why do people date and make others uncomfortable? You get your basic information before the date, then have fun and let it happen organically.
2.Kids, OK well some have, others don't, some have them but they are grown. Hopefully the mom is in the picture and provides that role, all a woman needs to do, is provide a good female role model. Any man with custody of his kids, should be doing double duty as parent and SO.
3. Marriage, again OK, there are a slew of both men and women not looking to tie the knot ever again. For those that are, except for the troubled individuals, most have reasonable expectations, and would not want to rush into anything.
4.Get to know me..er..do for him??? This was slightly off, but well yes both should take their time and become aware of who they are dating. The "do for" part I don't get, I have my own place, cook my own food, do my own cleaning, shopping, driving, whatever, so I don't get this one.
Simple enough, right??? Ahhhhh...but that's where your WRONG!! This is where the bait and switch starts! You see, you thought this was someone looking for a chevy, from the 4 questions, ahhh NO! We want a Mercedes for a chevy price!
5. Sex, seems question 4 was more about sex than whatever. so lets say we go onto a reasonable discussion. Should sex happen on the first date? How the he11 do I know? It may be fine for some and not for others. We each must decide for ourselves what we will do. Now remember when deciding, there are 2 people involved! Don't tell someone you love sex, when you mean you love sex after you have been dating 6 months. As adults, we should be fair and honest about when and what will allow sex to happen with us, or you may find the other person doesn't call anymore.
Oh wait... then another post has more questions and rules.
6. Takes care of himself. Well this could 6a, b, c or 7, 8, 9. I'll let you decide. No smoking, no drinking, not too young. Each in and of itself is one more level of elimination. Since taking care of yourself could also mean a trip to the gym 3 times a week, maybe another one. While I get that these are preferences, and yes everyone is entitled to eliminate or accept what they want only, it is still a far cry from the 1, 2, 3, 4 we started with when we perused the OP titled "Is it actually possible to find a man who"
?. I don't remember what we decided so I can't give a number to this one. Pays for the date. Hmmmm, seems this wasn't in the OP either! Well this is a hot button on here. Some men do, some don't want to. Some do it, because that's the way they learned to date, some say they are "old fashioned", some are entitled princesses who are just to cheap to part with a buck. I pay for dates, but I understand the reasoning of those who'd prefer not to. So each must decide for themselves.
Ahhhhhh...but wait it's far from over!!!
The OP then goes onto say "I attract successful, famous men"
Can you say delusional with narcissistic tendencies? Now maybe she is, maybe she's not any of those things. But again it's a far cry from those first 4 points. Because now we must add a career, that is successful and makes us famous.
The problem with dating online, is always the same. It's the agenda AND the hidden agenda of the person you are looking at. They say "nice guy" or "reasonable woman", but you really never know what that means until they open up and say more.
As I see it, the only thing "possible" is to view profiles, write some emails and maybe get some dates, to see if what you get, is really what you get or a waste of damn time, emotions and money.
I hope you enjoyed my show, I will be here all week, good night!  | |
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