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So to show off what you have worked so hard to get is fine by me
See, I tried this by posing in a giant pile of cash but it came off as pretty materialistic.
Then I tried posing with a group of terminally ill kids that I help and people said I shouldn't post pictures with kids.
Showing off what we have worked hard for seems to only work for the buff guys in the Military. 
So.... I mean, we've been beating around the bush and all, but you never actually told us whether or not you reciprocate the sex talk! 
Just sayin, might as well string the creepy guys for as long as you feel like, kinda wish I was female so then I could troll them until they get bored.  | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 11:37:52 AM | | "vivacious7" :sorry was not being an ageist. I just didn't expect the attack I was getting about a SMALL amount of cleavage showing...and was just trying to figure out what would be expected from a 31yr old..lol. Maybe a carnigan set? Or a colared button up? lol | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 11:39:00 AM | bethesdafoodie:
you are funny....and you get it! I get plenty of scandalous messages and if they are done with some wit and It makes me giggle then i say "well played" and counter. I would love to meet someone on here for sure but mostly it gives me some entertainment on the long Alaskan winter nights.
Till the right one comes along
Good Day Sir | |
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| Every chat starts with sex talk...WHY??
Posted: 2/6/2012 11:40:17 AM |
Gosh, having matching drapes and carpet in your house is quite important, why do redheads in particular get offended when we ask whether they match their drapes/carpet/cabinetry!?
"Bethesdafoodie" I have no idea if women with other hair colors get asked this question a lot or not. But..I just wonder why guys are so interested in my interior decorating skills. I mean does it really matter that much if you have cherry cabinets with multi-color drapes? If I am colorblind and have orange walls with green carpet will you not date me? 
I bet some people that are okay with cleavage aren't okay with shirtless guys, hypocrisy much?
Far be it for me to be hypocritical...Shirtless pics are fine with me as long as you have some where you are fully clothed too... 
And I am original damnit! LOL.. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 11:44:35 AM | | Honey don't let the creeps get to you. You know who you are and some unfriendly fire from on online no name shouldn't shake you up, You are beautiful and REDHEADS ROCK!!! Shine em lady and keep doing what you do. I had a guy on here who said he was looking for Christian fellowship ahahahahhaha all he talked about were my breasts and how I shouldn't have those pictures on my profile.....I told him to shift it then if he found me too alluring and couldn't control himself. If you are going to rock what you got then you have to OWN IT!! CONFIDENCE is sexy so don't buckle under this POF nonsense. | |
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| Every chat starts with sex talk...WHY??
Posted: 2/6/2012 11:46:14 AM | I am astounded by how naive some women are. Yes, guys want sex. This isn't new and isolated phenomenon. Men should never/will never apologize for sexual expression. Testosterone is a hellava drug. Some seek sex and find love other seek love and get sex. Sex is important in a relationship and talking about it reveals important personality details and builds rapport. I'm not advocating rude behavior and naturally if one feels offended interaction should end. Asking a woman if she is DTF is the epitome of idiocy. It isn't particularity offensive, just dumb on so many levels. Some women would have found it amusing and toke him apart.
I sympathize with your frustrations but that's male nature. Just because guy is a pervert doesn't mean he isn't monogamous. Express clearly what you're looking for and don't run at the slightest provocation or you gonna be 'online dating' for a while. Your self esteem comes from within, don't let anyone effect it. You know you have more to offer so show it. It is your job to read between the lines and figure out if a man is worth your time. Men who openly/honestly talk about sex should be least of your concerns. There are much worse out there. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 11:48:42 AM |
I mean does it really matter that much if you have cherry cabinets with multi-color drapes? If I am colorblind and have orange walls with green carpet will you not date me?
Interior decorating skills are very important. For instance I artfully display my clothing on the floor because I haven't had time to fold my laundry.
Without complementary decorating skills two individuals can't peacefully coexist.
It's actually pretty funny.... I have Mint Condition Crate and Barrel Modern furniture that gets snide comments by people who shop at Ikea.... The thing is I didn't buy the furniture, they were a hand me down from my family, and it just humors me that people are so snobbishly against decently constructed furniture that also looks nice.
Far be it for me to be hypocritical...Shirtless pics are fine with me as long as you have some where you are fully clothed too...
What do you have against nudists? They're people too! Sort of at least...
And I am original damnit! LOL..
Keep telling yourself that! 
I try to turn POF into a drinking game, take a shot every time someone says they're Original because they like going out to movies and watching Jersey Shore!
 I swear I'm not an alcoholic! | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 11:50:26 AM | ^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^^
What she said!!! Vivacious I am with you! Redheads rock!!! Especially the 55 year old ones..lol  Oh hell..any age! Sorry Redhead didn't want to leave you out..lol. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 11:54:44 AM | | Very well put............I have had some really great conversations on here with men and we talked about many things other than and including sex. I am not turned off in the least if a man wants to take things to that level if they have demonstrated the ability and the interest in discussing other topics and areas of interest. A man's ability to express himself in that subject and do it with some skill is a bonus. When a man's first comment to me is vulgar and disgusting then they don't get to enjoy the warmth of my presence. Thank you for posting your thoughts. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 11:56:18 AM |
I try to turn POF into a drinking game, take a shot every time someone says they're Original because they like going out to movies and watching Jersey Shore!
I guess that leaves me out...I don't drink and have never watched one minute or even one second of Jersey Shore. I do go to the movies though..and here I thought I was one of a kind..
What do you have against nudists? They're people too! Sort of at least...
Nothing against nudists..In fact as soon as I am finished posting here I am off to loveanudist.com.  | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 12:03:12 PM | | I'm not naive...I just want someone to ask me at least a few questions before heading in that direction. I don't think clicking out of chat after someone asks first thing "whats your favorite possition" is "running at the slightest provocation". I've tried changing subjects in the past..and tried to get around having those conversations..but those types of men are stubborn and won't let the convo go in any other direction. And yes, sex is important in a relationship I def agree...but why are (some) men so dumb that they don't realize if they want to have a chance at that relationship you don't talk about sex the first sentence you write. It's going to make me assume that is all you are on POF for and I'm not going to waste my time.....Just saying.. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 12:06:07 PM | | I am guilty of trolling..........not on this site but another REALLY scandalous one which I won't name......I was bored and I got some VERY obscene chat message invitations...I wanted to see just how deeply disturbed this individual was so I encouraged him to continue.....pretty eye opening and a real view into the human condition. I quit that site because I had enough education for one woman. Trust me when I tell you that this site is tame in comparison. | |
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| Every chat starts with sex talk...WHY??
Posted: 2/6/2012 12:16:33 PM |
Every guy that starts up a chat and I actually accept...sex talk instantly. Most of the guys that write me...is for sex.
Okay.
You've now said you've disabled the chat feature.
Wise move.
Now, may I suggest, how about this...
If "most guys" are emailing for sex discussions straight off the bat..
you hide your profile for awhile and YOU do searches and read profiles and you email men YOU find interesting only?
That way all the emails that come in to you will be from those with whom you've 'picked' to email.
Then maybe it won't be "most guys" jumping straight to sex talk.. maybe it will go down to "some guys". | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 12:24:25 PM | | "drummingnut" : you are right about the hiding my profile and how it would cut that out...but I guess my next fear would be missing that right guy by doing that. Many guys that write me I had never seen their profile before. Plus, guys 95% of the time if not more never write me back when I initiate the messages. And I take time and effort in my messages. But that gets into the whole "guys not wanting to date single moms" thing. If they write me, at least I know (IF) they actually read my profile and are ok with me having kids. So I don't think there's really a win win situation here. | |
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| Every chat starts with sex talk...WHY??
Posted: 2/6/2012 12:33:07 PM | Why?
It's the red hair.
How the heck am I suppose to keep trying?
In these instances, the "delete" and "block" buttons are your best friends.
I just deleted and blocked a female member whose message appeared to fit the classic MO of scammers.
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Posted: 2/6/2012 12:35:36 PM | Some are naive, I wasn't singling anyone in particular. If we gonna start assuming and stereotyping redheads are direct, passionate and flirty.
Males who get stuck on one subject and isn't particularly versed in it save you time. You don't even have to spend time disqualifying them. Some say stupid should not reproduce. In this case it's true.
Point being honest expression regardless of intelligence or maturity levels is harmless compared to manipulation, subversion and deception. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 12:39:13 PM |
Some say stupid should not reproduce. In this case it's true.
It's scary to realize that if you take your Average human being and then realize that half of the people on the planet are DUMBER than the Average human, that's a whole lot of stupidity.
Maybe they're on to something though, I mean 99 nos and 1 yes for a DTF message still means the guy is getting laid. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 2:14:36 PM | | Since the beginning of time, men have been sexual visual creatures, and I hate to inform you ladies of this day and age, it hasn't changed and it isn't going to change...GET OVER IT!!! They are men they have 2 HEADS controlling their thinking come on give them a break !!!! | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 3:38:45 PM | Yes, men are sexual creatures, but so are women.
It isn't about bringing a sexual element into getting to know someone here...what we are surprised at is how rapidly the convo degenerates. And sometimes it's lewd right
out of the starting gate.
I think what is disapointing is the ratio of Regular Guys vs the T and T Gang
(T & T = Type & Tug)
It does mean that you have to use more filters/common sense now than ever.
It can be a little fun to mess with their heads sometimes, but the T&T types have no value to people that are here to actually meet/date, but there seems to be more of them here than any other 'type'.
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Posted: 2/6/2012 3:42:00 PM | The great thing about the T&Ts (what a great expression!!!!) is that it takes about five seconds to recognize them, which means that you only need a very rudimentary filter and very little common sense in dealing with them.
At the first sign of T&T behavior (God I love that expression!), you block, delete, and move on.
There you go. Like the Darwin award nominees of the online dating world, they are disqualified and . . .
NEXT! | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 3:53:02 PM | T&Ts (what a great expression!!!!)
The last guy that that sent me that kind of message was the inspiration
for that term...Now that's what I plan on calling them. It's quicker.
You're right...it does only require a rudimentary filter, but some of 'them' are really good at reeling the ladies in for a while, even though that is as far as they ever plan on going. That's all they need/want, so they have no intention of ever meeting.
SO I do agree with the concept in the op
I'll chat about sex, when we've had sex....seems logical.
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Posted: 2/6/2012 3:57:02 PM | | "angelofhonesty": I don't think mens sexual desire is any stronger or different from womens...and everyone that says they deserve a break cause they work differently is just handing them an excuse for being disrespectful to women. | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 4:01:44 PM | | "broadway bella" : You are very right about that is far as they ever plan on going...I honestly feel the sex talks on these sites has become the new one night stand if you will....they get what they want and never even have to meet you now! lol | |
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Posted: 2/6/2012 4:24:23 PM | Well, OP. I know it's been said but I would just like to reitterate the fact that your pics are fine. There are cleavage pics which scream "cam/attention whore" and there are "cleavage pics" which are basically standard photos which are obviously going to show chest since women have breasts...
Although, I have to ask, the type of guys who send you normal messages and actually want to get to know you, do you find them boring? Or not attracted to them physically? | |
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