| | are single fathers so bad?Page 2 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | | @msg 19 TEAL, you're so correct. Seems time flys with these kids. Before we know it they will be pretending not to want DAD around. Yeah, I talk to single dads with little or no custody all the time. A very unhappy sort. We're not martyrs; don't ever wanna be. Hell, I lucked out. No sacrifice at all. GREAT post!!!! | |
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Posted: 2/15/2012 10:01:10 AM |  I`m a single father myself and can appreciate your views. there must be some women around looking for guys like me. | |
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Posted: 2/18/2012 8:02:47 PM | The way how I look at it is that the women who avoid single fathers are usually the same ones whining that they cant find a mature man. A lot of single dads out there that are involved in their kids lives are very mature and have a lot to offer someone. So in a way its like they are trying to find a cop, but they dont bother to look in the donut shop  | |
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Posted: 2/19/2012 9:59:36 AM | | No I do not think being a single father is a bad thing. You should feel pride in your self for stepping up for your kids. I understand how hard it is to find someone for you. We as single parents have to be firm in what we need from our partners. | |
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Posted: 2/19/2012 6:23:59 PM | | well being a single father isnt bad but you dont ever see from a childess womens point of veiw your kids always come first yes just like it should be but why do we have to put up with always and feeling 2nd you want so much for women to understand you as a single father but i bet never once did you stop to think what we feel oh we know how you feel but the turth is... WHY DATE A MAN WITH A KID WHO CANNOT JUST GET UP AND GO WHEN HE PLEASES OR NEVER BE FIRST TO HIM WHEN WE CAN EASILY FIND A MAN WITH NO KIDS and all the extra stuff wont be there simple.. my advice women with kids more understanding i mean yes i understand but women with kids can relate more i say this in the nicest way there are men with no past that has to follow him for the rest of thier life a past some women do not wanna be reminded off yes... there was a women who had YOUR CHILD first one day i may be on here thinking well ima single mom what to do... but i doubt it | |
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Posted: 2/19/2012 6:26:35 PM | OH AND JUST BECAUSE A MAN HAS A CHILD DOESNT ALWAYS MAKE THEM ANY MORE OR LESS MATURE.... LMAO SOMETIMES IT JUST MEANS A MAN WHO IS NOT A SINGLE FATHER WAS SMART ENOUGH TO ACTUALLY WAIT THATS WHY 85 PERCENT OF YOU ARE ON HERE WHINING ABOUT HOW YOU CANT FIND ANY FEMALE.... | |
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Posted: 2/23/2012 9:33:44 AM | Agreed! Single Fathers ROCK! We can be Father or Mother, protector or confidant, disciplinarian or best friend (both at times) ... OK not going too far with that thought pattern ... basically, we can do it ALL and LOVE every minute of it!
My girl has been with me full time (except for maternal visits) for almost 6 years now. Becoming confident and independent just like she should at her age. With God as our guide, we have had a pretty good life so far. And life is off balance when she is gone to her mother's.
Yes, I have had to tell potential dating partners that I just did not have the time to devote to them and that to attempt a continued relationship would be unfair to them (and me). No regrets ...
Wait for the plan God has for you. Easy to say, but often hard to do.
I am very thankful that He gave me everything (patience, responsibility, ethics, morals, courage, strength, etc) that has been required to stand up as a Father and do what was necessary. He will continue to provide all I need, too - No doubts there!
Yeah, it takes a lot of sacrifice, but we're talking about a child here - a person, a real life! It's worth everything you do and more to help them along their road.
No, we are not martyrs, but I am glad to find out that there are a LOT more like me out there. I thought a huge percentage of single parents were women and I was "the only one." Thanks for the support and insights noted above and in other forums.
God Bless! | |
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Posted: 2/24/2012 3:40:17 AM | | hi theres nothing wrong with single dads id prefer to date a single dad rather than a single bloke as im a single mum but my kids are teenagers keep up the good work!!!x | |
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Posted: 2/24/2012 12:58:10 PM | be strong yet flexible.... single dad's are a unique creature... it's tough being a single parent for either gender. single dad's are less equipped naturally with the emotional content, reasoning skills, and patience, however these can be learned along with any other skill u need to be an outstanding parent. and once u feel u qualify as such, u will no longer doubt urself in the dating world either. remember, family first and never place ur wants and needs selfishly before ur child and good things will happen for u... best of luck. | |
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Posted: 2/24/2012 9:52:47 PM | single dads rule i have a son and daughter. I have full custody of mine there mother in oregon and never calls so her loss. I miss hangin with a woman from time to time but when ur a single parent in college who has time lol . | |
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Posted: 2/25/2012 4:47:55 AM | | Your profile says your daughters don’t even live with you I can’t possibly see how there could be a problem for you….. | |
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Posted: 2/26/2012 5:45:07 AM | | I am in my 40s and think that single COMMITTED fathers are very sexy. Those who coach kids are also very sexy. Alternatively, single fathers who walk away from their kids are a piece of sh$t. I would date a single committed father and try to be who was needed for his child(ren) and expect the same from him for mine. I would have trouble if he had a ****y ex-wife though. That would take wind out of my sails.... He would have to mediate that. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2012 11:55:33 PM | SINGLE FATHERS RULE!
Note, i said fathers, not sperm donors.
I'm 25, and most girls my age who do not have kids don't want to get attached to a guy that has kids. But I have been getting great response from the 30 year olds.
To actually be a single father is a choice, and a damned respectable one at that. A man that can take care of a child, while maintaining a household, and holding a job, and SOMEHOW finding time to date.... there's a man who has priorities.
Single fathers have a better image that single mothers over all. When many people think of single moms, they think of unwed teenage mothers (before i get hate mail, I know this isn't always the case), or dependant women.
When people think of single fathers, they mostly think of weekend dads, but that image is starting to be replaced by that of fully involved fathers.
By the way, studies are starting to show that children of single fathers tend to fare better (when compared to children of single mothers) in various areas including, but not limited to:
Education
Health
Economics
Criminality
Mental health | |
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Posted: 4/14/2012 11:40:01 AM | | Single fatherhood is often rewarded. Single mothers are usually perceived as raging whores. For both, some people just don't want the whole package - and believe me, you're better off. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2012 11:42:08 AM | | I've personally avoided (men with children because they either have abnormal ties with the ex or they don't give a monkey's arse about their own children. If I met a genuine person who adores his children and has a good relationship with the ex in terms of raising the children, then I'm all for it. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2012 7:35:46 PM | | yes exactly. I avoid men with kids because I need someone who has time for me. Men with kids need to worry about their kids first and maybe date when their kids are in high school. Its not fair to women to be with someone who has no time for them | |
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Posted: 4/15/2012 8:50:32 AM | | i think its still taboo to be a caring single dad to your kids these days.. I tend to find that in most dating situations that as soon as i say that i still play a major part in my kids lives even though they only stay with me for 3 days a week most single women put on their track shoes and do a runner | |
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Posted: 4/15/2012 5:19:58 PM | Hello to all single dads,
I have raised two sons and now I have my daughter full time and she is not seven yet. Is it difficult to have a social life, yes but the well being of your child far out weighs any of the cons. Sure I miss the company of a female but if it meant my daughter was going to suffer, she wins hands down. It wasnt that long ago that a male stood little chance getting his child, now that has changed and we single dads must rise to the challenge. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2012 7:24:46 PM | | Single fathers are not bad. They are amazing wonderful men who took the responsibility they created seriously and stepped up to the plate when it was their turn to bat, ready or not. But I fear you will face the same dating "dilemma" as do us single mothers. the whole.. "it's not you, it's your kid" excuse and the rather insulting questions.. "So, where's your son tonight since you came out with me?" Gee I tied him to the roof the car while I'm in here eating dinner with you, what do you think I did with him? I mean seriously. lol Once you get over the sheer ignorance and stupidity you will deal with it better and honestly people in their 20s are way less likely to over look your parental status then those older, just a fact and you can't blame them for it. You are in the situation you are in because you made choices, regardless of what they are. Accept that and dating becomes much easier. Also look at whats truly important in your life, and I guarantee it's not some club chick on a Friday night... there are people, even in their 20s, out there who will be accepting of your situation, you just gotta kiss a lot of frogs first.. as the saying goes... | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 2:32:18 PM | | I find all these comments very imformative, since their mother ran off 6 months ago and left me no choice but to sell up my business and look after my 3 young children my views have changed several times, coming out of a 20 plus year relationship you are not used to being single and i probaly joined this site with the view to having to have someone, after 3 months I didn,t know what i wanted and now feeling much better about it all and like some on here will now concentrate fully on my kids and let life sort itself out, I wouldn,t swap my life with my kids for a single movie stars life for all the money in the world, I might be womanless but I feel incredibaly blessed. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 6:44:47 PM | | Why think so..I never think single father so bad but opposite I back look he very good can responsible kids not often can meet man need do that..:) | |
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Posted: 4/18/2012 4:21:22 AM | | I think single dads are cool, they are involved, they are living up to what fathers are supposed to do. They are doing what they would be doing if they had a partner anyway, raising their children. They are no different from single moms. I see no reason for anyone to even think twice about it. | |
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