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| Approaching 50 and it's scaring the Crud outa me
Posted: 6/30/2012 4:52:40 AM | OP...
This is a real flip of the coin for anyone, I agree with your proposed possible worries of the "speeding bullet" coming at you....I am single and just turned 51. I was married and with my wife who I was very much in love with for 15/17 years, divorced and single for the past 5+ years... turning 50 felt painful, the worst one of them all. Plus I have a couple of things going on in my life that are not perfect, just life and the recession testing me....so I can find things to be bummed about..
BUT!!!
It is ALL how you let yourself see what you life is. Truly it is that simple. YES we all wish we had accomplished this or that, had done this or that...and we have regrets and fears, and letdowns and so on...
When I am a bit down or worried?? I sit back and think what good I have in my life. I know I am a good person and I am fun to be around, so I enjoy ME! My kids love me so much and I am very important to them.
I do find women my age very attractive...and hopefully I find one that feels the same about me! | |
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| Approaching 50 and it's scaring the Crud outa me
Posted: 6/30/2012 6:39:51 AM | what a laugh!
wait 'til you turn 90 and then have a whinge about being old and decrepit.
i love life and find my age is no barrier to meeting fun and interesting people wherever i go.
maybe you need to "lighten up" and enjoy the time you have been given. happy and confident people tend to attract the same, try it!
as long as you look after your health and appearance there will always be someone to find you attractive... | |
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| Approaching 50 and it's scaring the Crud outa me
Posted: 6/30/2012 9:22:00 AM |
I've just passed my 49th birthday and for the past few months, I've been plagued with thoughts about the fact that in less than a year I'll be 50. I'm wondering where my life has gone and where it's going. I'm assuming I'm having a "mid life evaluation" (which I thought I'd already had in my early 40's)
Has anyone else gone through this? Thoughts about your past, regrets, fears that the future is hurtling towards you faster than a speeding bullet, the overwhelming realization that.. this.. THIS... is as good as it'll ever get?
Not to mention, dating at this age. Is it still possible? I know I"m not feeble minded or bent over a cane or anything but the elasticity of my youth is gone, along with gravity related body parts. lol. Do men still find women in their 50's attractive or are they searching for their version of eternal youth?
This isn't a pity thread. I'm honestly wanting to know if people went through a period of "re-adjustment" or felt overwhelmed by the thought of their 50th birthday approaching? How did you overcome it and how long did it take to "settle in to the 50's"?
Thanks for your thoughts.
Here is what ya do, go skydiving. Thats what I did when I turned 50, and it really put things in perspective. The reality of this time of life is no different than anyother time. Its not like you are the ONLY one thats 50, many are in the same boat. :) | |
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| Approaching 50 and it's scaring the Crud outa me
Posted: 7/1/2012 8:08:41 PM | | As I turn 50 in two weeks time I've really enjoyed reading the posts to this thread. Doesn't seem such a daunting prospect now. I'll be looking to make the next 10 years some of the best ever! | |
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| Approaching 50 and it's scaring the Crud outa me
Posted: 7/2/2012 8:56:51 PM |
Has anyone else gone through this?
 What do you think?
I'm honestly wanting to know if people went through a period of "re-adjustment" or felt overwhelmed by the thought of their 50th birthday approaching?
It’s just one more year that you will continue to live one day at a time.
You sound rather silly. | |
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| Approaching 50 and it's scaring the Crud outa me
Posted: 7/2/2012 9:16:13 PM |
Do men still find women in their 50's attractive or are they searching for their version of eternal youth?
Part one: I typically don't... certainly not in a physical-intimacy sort of way, if that's what you're getting at.
Part two: Eternal youth? There's no "eternal youth." Older men hanging out with younger women won't make the former feel younger. You get old, you lose whatever marketability you might have had, and you die. Game over. If you're lucky, you get to drive your white Challenger into a couple of bulldozers and go out like a man. Anything but the nursing home. | |
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| Approaching 50 and it's scaring the Crud outa me
Posted: 7/2/2012 9:22:09 PM | Its not like you are the ONLY one thats 50, many are in the same boat. :)
True... but the fact that there are "many" my age who are old, ugly, and undesirable like me does nothing to cheer me up about being old, ugly, and undesirable. | |
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| Approaching 50 and it's scaring the Crud outa me
Posted: 7/2/2012 9:53:27 PM | I never had a problem with turning 50. It's probably because my life keeps getting better and better as the years march on. When I turned 35 it bummed me out, because I didn't have children, and that was a lot harder than turning 50. I think the thing that surprises me about being in my 50s is that it seems to have snuck up on me so fast.
I look forward to the next 20 years when I'm more free (my kid will be in college in 2 years) and able to travel all over and bike and hike and......the possibilities seem endless. | |
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| Approaching 50 and it's scaring the Crud outa me
Posted: 7/3/2012 9:58:00 AM | | Getting older isn't the problem, when you stop getting older (die), then you have a problem. I am fortunate enough to have been considered, "cute" for well over half a century (I'm 72). I still get approached by women half my age, and I'm enjoying every minute of it. | |
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| Approaching 50 and it's scaring the Crud outa me
Posted: 7/3/2012 10:35:30 AM | Whatever your age now, you're never going to be this young again... enjoy it!
I remember turning 40 and feeling old. OMG, I was young and hot then! I bet I'll feel the same looking back 10+ years from now (and so will you). | |
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| Approaching 50 and it's scaring the Crud outa me
Posted: 7/3/2012 1:18:23 PM |
I dated a whole lot in my early and mid 50's ... I did workout out a lot as well at that time I had done 3 challenges in body for life.. I am also small breasted so gravity is not that much of a factor for them.. I got some nice compliments on my body and it was featured on The Body For Life website in a swimsuit back then.. I was also rated in the top 10 in the 40-55 age group here in Montreal..
nativerock
Good for you, Nativerock!
At 42 I was given a 40% chance to live 5 years--I think turning 53 this year was freaking awesome!
That's the spirit! I'm glad you're doing well. :)
It's definitely just a state of mind. I agree wholeheartedly with ICONOCLAST that at 70- will you be wondering why you didn't do things at 50? Just do it- | |
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| Approaching 50 and it's scaring the Crud outa me
Posted: 7/3/2012 1:48:56 PM | | I turn 50 in 3 months and it doesn,t bother me a bit, I,m back in training and fitter than i have been in years, the same weight i was in my twenties but then 40 didn,t bother me either, i enjoy my life and my kids, lifes to short so get on with it | |
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| Approaching 50 and it's scaring the Crud outa me
Posted: 7/3/2012 5:24:14 PM | I make hand-written journal pages more than a year in advance,
similar to a Day-Timer . It helps me to connect both to the
future and past days of my life: the future as I create them (Will
I be alive when this day comes?) and the past as I look back
on them (That was so awful that day -- I don't remember the
pain anymore, but I remember there was a lot of it, that day.)
And the present: Is it really Tuesday, already?
And like that.
I don't need a reference calendar anymore to create them, as each
of these days falls on the same day of the week in the same year
(this year, that day is Wednesday; next year it's Thursday):
4/4, 6/6, 8/8, 10/10, 12/12; 5/9 and 9/5; 7/11 and 11/7; Jan 3 or 4th;
March 0th (last day of February).
So, there's another thing I like about having seen the entire 1960's
decade: the things we committed to memory because there was no
easier way, really. You had to be able to do arithmetic with a pencil
and paper. I bothered to learn some old school things that were no
longer taught (considered outmoded) like casting out nines to check
the addition of multiple numbers -- it's still very useful and provides
a sanity check on the result.
If I wasn't my age, so many things of the past, I'd have no direct
connection to, having been born after they happened, or too young
to have noticed them at the time they were going on. I was quite
annoyed for a long time I was too young to go to Woodstock, for
example.
Every detail of the first television broadcast from the Apollo series of
moon missions is firmly etched in my memory -- how breathtakingly
exciting that day was, for me. I was about jumping out of my skin,
I was so elated. | |
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| Approaching 50 and it's scaring the Crud outa me
Posted: 7/3/2012 8:26:28 PM | | Dont be one of those people who stop living because they hit a certain age. 50 is no different then any other age as long as you are enjoying life. I have great friends that are all older then me, some in thier mid 60s and we still get out there every weekend and have a great time! Anything from parties, picnics, boating, live bands, dancing, wineries, music festivals, you name it, we are there! But, I wouldnt have that kind of life if I didnt get myself out there and made it what I wanted. Sitting there lamenting the big 50 is only going to depress you, so get going young lady! | |
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