| |
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/17/2012 11:21:33 PM | | I would think the ins and outs of what both parties wanted would be discussed before meeting. You wouldnt just guess would you? You'd find out whether you both wanted the same thing - as with any relationship. | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/17/2012 11:55:05 PM | I dont really look at that status thing.... I mean if they tick the right boxes and are good looking and are wow on the coffee date then frig sure we can work out the rest later  | |
|
_nx_
| | Joined: 12/19/2010
Msg: 29 | |
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 1:24:08 AM | i think people who say they want to date but dont want a serious relationship, mean that they want to date but dont want a serious relationship...
im a bit cleverer than the average person, so it was easy for me to work it out.
hth. | |
|
| |
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 2:00:51 AM | I also think with 'dating but nothing serious' you are more likely to give someone a second date if they make you laugh or are entertaining or could company even if you know already they wouldn't be 'the one' or suitable for lifelong material. I think you just look with more open eyes to all the possibilities not just a long term relationship.
As for 'hang out' - that's what I do with my mates so to me that just suggests you want to meet new people and aren't really interested in dating - you are looking for friends.
But if you message and talk to someone - usually the first thing I thrash out is 'What are you looking for?' That's why one liners and text talk will never get you anywhere - communicate! | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 3:42:59 AM | To find out what it means you need to ask the person who typed it really as despite what the anal retentive types on this sort of place might like to believe language and its use tends to be very unique and personal, and 100 people typing the same sentence can be meaning 100 slightly or vastly different things
The sentence you're asking about can mean anything from "Looking for sex with strangers" to "Looking for a serious relationship and possibly marriage but not in desperate rush" and a hundred variations in between those two extremes
I have had similar things on profiles in the past but it hasnt been a comment on how intense or serious an interaction "could" become, but more on how intense or serious it should begin after meeting some women who seemed to go from hello to engaged in 4.3 seconds, two emails or an introductory shag which is to say the least a bit offputting even if you do like them
So for many people its just a more polite and shorter way of saying "I am looking for an interaction to start off relaxed and easy going and to then find its own level over time rather than some desperate, speedy, race to a finish line" | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 4:03:48 AM |
To find out what it means you need to ask the person who typed it really as despite what the anal retentive types on this sort of place might like to believe language and its use tends to be very unique and personal, and 100 people typing the same sentence can be meaning 100 slightly or vastly different things
+1  | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 5:08:41 AM | | and why do people assume that 'activity partner' means fuck buddy? when it obviously means 'activity partner, ie. someone that you go and do activities with like sport or hobbies | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 7:44:58 AM | for women it means...wants to date one guy regularly...be taken out, be wined and dined spolit and made love to. (not moving in together)
for men it means....meet woman, shag woman...meet another woman shag woman....etc etc etc | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 7:48:13 AM | ^^^ Good to see youre not still bitter or owt 
Nah, you will find it means both of those things to about equal numbers of both men and women
The only difference is that a lot of women still pull the faux "love at first sight" nonsense when all they wanted was a shag because of the prevalence of double standards and even stigmatisation by other women | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 8:06:19 AM | lol Im not bitter at all..just realistic.
I don't believe in love at first sight at all ..but I do believe in having respect for eachother and also being honest with your intentions. I'm not at all a prude and will happily sleep will someone if there is a mutual physical attraction .....with men though, (in my opinion) the saying "any holes a goal" applies!! | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 8:35:23 AM |
for women it means...wants to date one guy regularly...be taken out, be wined and dined spolit and made love to.
You speak for all women do you?
for men it means....meet woman, shag woman...meet another woman shag woman....etc etc etc
 | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 8:39:27 AM |
The only difference is that a lot of women still pull the faux "love at first sight" nonsense when all they wanted was a shag because of the prevalence of double standards and even stigmatisation by other women
You might be surprised at the number of men who for some reason feel that if you so much as respond to an email you will never speak or write to another male again. And the number of men who don't notice how horrific a date actually is and are very insistant on meeting again on the basis that the second one will be better.
It's not only some women who live in never never land. | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 9:11:54 AM | All I can say is, for christs sake does this need to be such a hot topic? If I say I want to date but nothing serious it doesn't mean I want to hop into the sack with the first guy I meet off POF, or the second or the third etc etc. It means I'm not looking for a serious relationship. No more and no less.
Some of the options are ridiculous anyway, what on earth does hang out mean? Standing on a street corner drinking a bottle of md 20/20? Going to a football game?
There are so many ways that these options can be interpreted. | |
|
| |
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 1:38:45 PM | | So if I want to meet someone to go to the flicks / concerts / dinner / walk on the fells with (and pay my own way as long as he pays his) is that 'date but nothing serious' or 'hang out'??? | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 1:47:59 PM | | This is a dating site and you can dress up your intentions in any way that makes you happy. Truth of the matter is when the right person comes along it all means nothing. | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 2:42:53 PM | Date but nothing serious means pretend you are a couple dating, but you arent, hang out is an American expression meanin you do things together in a relaxed manner, neither looking for a relationship..until you "Hook up" then you are sex buddies but nothing serious, ie you may Hook up if you were at a party and no-one else was available.
Rem is right tho...
Traffic light party anyone? | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/18/2012 3:32:46 PM | Personally i put it there, as i don't want to jump into anything or appear too desperate. Some people here are all gun ho about wanting a long term thing, that they get too clingy over someone they have never met... believe me its annoying.
Not into one night stands or annoying clingy retards..Though i am see what happens if i click and then carry on seeing them..etc etc | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/19/2012 2:11:28 AM |
for men it means....meet woman, shag woman...meet another woman shag woman....etc etc etc
@ msge 35,
When I see that on someone's wall, I can't help it but come to the same conclusion. | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/19/2012 5:01:07 AM | When I see that on someone's wall, I can't help it but come to the same conclusion.
Yet your profile headline says your seeking friendship and see where it leads, your "looking for" is friends.
By your logic would i be correct to assume you were just looking for shags? or would that be very offensive?
Since when did "date but nothing serious" translate to "just wants to shag everything in sight"? a date is a date, meeting up with someone who could have potential..that is it, NO SEX.
People who interpret dating but nothing serious as shagging around must have a seriously knackered moral compass to instinctively think along those lines judging someone with a mature outlook on the whole dating game, wanting to take things slowly does not make them a slag.
Actually if you fire up the other brain cell and put it to work then think on this, if someone is on here and looking for some curtain wiping action in a different ladies bedroom every weekend is he going to be dim enough to put "date but nothing serious" on his profile knowing most of you will assume he's a serial shagger? or is he going to put/tick whatever he has to to keep himself and his little man busy? ....like "looking for a serious relationship"
No wonder so many women get played on here when you can only read what's written rather than read into it. | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/19/2012 5:06:49 AM | I always thought Hanging out was what juvenile delinquents did at malls or fast food out lets before getting moved on by over zealous security? | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/19/2012 5:10:44 AM | "People who interpret dating but nothing serious as shagging around must have a seriously knackered moral compass "
No actually... experience has led me personally to believe that is what it means....nothing to do with having a seedy mind :P | |
|
| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 2/19/2012 5:19:57 AM | I always assumed that it meant I had to turn up dressed as a clown, complete with enormous feet, and a red nose.
I was always disappointed that none of the women, thus far, had entered into the spirit of it.
I always thought that the doors falling off my clown car, was the reason I never got a second date.
Note to self *Must try harder*.
 | |
|
Home
login 
