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Posted: 7/19/2012 3:17:03 PM | I have "wants to date but nothing serious" on my profile .......................... loving that many posters think that it means I just want a meaningless sh@g, or am a brainless bimbo that thinks I will be used for sex and then cry that I didn't get a relationship out of it.
No one has an insight into my head and my reasons ........................ unless I tell them.
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Posted: 7/19/2012 3:46:54 PM | Perhaps a better option would be " Wants to date and see how it goes " but because we dont have that option people can interpret "wants to date but nothing serious" different ways depending on their view point
.... which is obvious from some of the posts on here.
The only thing that I can be sure of, is that we are all on a dating site ...so we all must want to date people ..
I am probably wrong though ! | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 4:45:35 PM | @ Cleverkitten ^^^^
No one has an insight into my head and my reasons ........................ unless I tell them.
Totally agree...or unless they ask. Seems everyone has a view of what it means themselves so therefore thats what it must mean for everyone else.
Its a bloody profile setting, which means it's open to interpretation and the person who chooses it for their own profile will have their own interpretation. Their OWN...not the assumption of the reader. | |
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Posted: 7/19/2012 5:57:32 PM | Lol....
Interesting thread. Good to see there are more open minded, interesting people.
The only thing that I can be sure of, is that we are all on a dating site ...so we all must want to date people ..
It's always seemed more American to me. I hear in the 70s it was considered old fashioned by some, more a 50s thing?
I just don't like the idea of meeting with someone with fixed ideas, what are the chances they will both 'agree' as it were. So dating is really the least appealing part of being on here for me.
I was actually a bit offended on my last date (the only 'proper' date i'v had) It was a good learning thing though. It went nowhere but after she wanted nothing to do with me, though we both have a couple of the same friends, it's like all she wanted was her special thing and if it wasn't going to be me f-off. Not that i'm not glad of that really, it just made me think it this what dating is about? More like shopping?
I somehow find it more crap than people who just have a fling or a one night stand, which I don't really.
Ok, if you don't like me, but don't make me dress up for occasion. lol. Never again, If i'm going out with someone or we are getting on then maybe I will take them on a nice date.
As such I don't really think this site holds much hope, but what they hey. I have spotted a few who are obviously not on the dating scene... | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 12:13:25 AM | Am glad am such a simple soul who knows what I want, this is all getting a bit heavy. All this over analysis makes me feel quite scared of re-joining the "market" if and when I do. I thought it was a case of "like someone, get into relationship, fall in love". Never realised there were so many possibilites within this! (Hang out/ intimate encounters/ activity partners etc etc excepted).
I guess that as people's perceptions of your profile are quite important in securing a date, the key is to explain what you're looking for in your text, unless like me it's marriage and then it's probably wise to say nowt and let "relationship" speak for itself ;-) May devise a quiz for potential new partners, in manner of Jackie mag. Mostly B's... he wants to date someone exclusively but will never want to move in together, however you are likely to be invited to his work's Xmas do.... | |
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| wants to date but nothing serious????
Posted: 7/20/2012 3:46:59 AM |
I have "wants to date but nothing serious" on my profile .......................... loving that many posters think that it means I just want a meaningless sh@g, or am a brainless bimbo that thinks I will be used for sex and then cry that I didn't get a relationship out of it.
No one has an insight into my head and my reasons ........................ unless I tell them.
Hurray for feminism and all that but surely logic dictates that one would avoid using miscontrued language to prevent the misunderstanding in the first place. Must be a female thing 'cos I don't get why you wouldn't just change it.
I'm surprised such a renowned serial POF shagger (with want's a "relationship" on his profile) is so narrow minded to be honest. You've just proved my previous point beautifully.
I'm just trying re-iterate the fact that even in this thread "wants to date but nothing serious" takes on various meanings depending on the individual reading the phrase. I didn't know I was a renowned serial POF shagger, I might close my account and come back as a priest, might have more luck then! | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 4:12:31 AM | Ooooh when did they change the options? I've just gone in to change mine to "not looking" and there are only a few options...
1 wants casual / no committment
2. wants to date but nothing serious
3. Wants a relationship
4. putting serious effort into meeting someone
5. wants to find someone for marriage
Cat amongst pigeons springs to mind....Discuss! :-P | |
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Posted: 7/20/2012 5:02:04 AM |
Must be a female thing 'cos I don't get why you wouldn't just change it.
Change it to what?
1 wants casual / no committment
2. wants to date but nothing serious
3. Wants a relationship
4. putting serious effort into meeting someone
5. wants to find someone for marriage
I DON'T want nos 1,3,4 or 5 .............. at the present time.
I don't see anything to be misconstrued or misleading about my 'intent' and being female doesn't enter into it.
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Posted: 7/20/2012 2:04:52 PM | i think ive got number 3 on mine... i dont see how two people can communicate and not develop a relationship... i consider myself as having a relationship with the person on the tills at tesco...
or maybe i am just desperate :-) | |
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Posted: 7/21/2012 5:02:44 PM | Some of you people are guilty of serious forward projection that is, well, vacant.
It means what it says, nothing less or nothing more. If you want to say that you are looking for marriage at 50 or whatever having been through the grind-mill several times before then that is your masochistic cross to bear.
Me, I like to set less ambitious and scary objectives and just see where it might or might not go. Seemples innit? | |
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Posted: 7/22/2012 8:16:21 AM | @msg 79
Nail on head. Wants to date and see how it goes. Not needy, no pressure, no rush.
People's interpretation of wants to date but nothing serious may reflect more on their own standards than on people who put it. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2012 8:44:31 AM | | I have wants to date but nothing serious on my profile. I explain my reasons for this quite clearly in my description. I certainly don't see it as wanting a quickie, quite the opposite in fact. If I do meet anyone then slow and steady is the only way forward. I don't get why people just make judgements instead of asking you. For so many people it can mean so many different things. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2012 4:22:58 PM | | Wants to date but nothing serious.........In my experience it means they are in a relationship already and are Looking for bit of fun on the side SIMPLY!!! | |
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Posted: 7/27/2012 4:34:55 PM |
Wants to date but nothing serious.........In my experience it means they are in a relationship already and are Looking for bit of fun on the side SIMPLY!!!
Have you experience of women saying that?
Or just men?
So if a man says it you might think one thing ......................... and a woman might mean something else?
Or do they think the same?
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Posted: 7/27/2012 4:45:50 PM | | There should be a option called "I want to pump you without having to memorise your name" That would clear up any confusion. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2012 4:57:46 PM | Kitten, where in my profile did it say "I am interested in women or dated women?" More important who said I was talking about women?
I was actually talking about men, like I said my experience. You need to stop trying to be a clever ass :-) | |
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Posted: 7/27/2012 5:04:53 PM | Not looked at your profile msg 94 just responding to your post on this thread ...................... questioning 'your experience'
read what it is written, not what you think is written ;)
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Posted: 7/27/2012 5:47:18 PM |
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You know that nibbling popcorn is against forum rules, please refrain from doing it in public ........................... in private is fine as the mods can't see you ;)
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Posted: 7/27/2012 5:59:55 PM | whaaaat !..myyy god ! what rule will they think up next ! hahahaha :O)
@ msg 99 "Msg 96 Popcorn is not good for you at your age haha."
believe me, at my age, it does`nt matter one bit hahaha :O) | |
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Posted: 7/27/2012 6:09:06 PM | Msg 95, Who are you to question others experience?....After all I didn't say what I think but was actually talking about what I have experienced.
Msg 96 Popcorn is not good for you at your age haha. | |
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Posted: 7/27/2012 6:18:28 PM |
Who are you to question others experience?.
You make a statement ................... someone can question it, asking for clarification. That's what the handy little symbol '?' denotes.
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Posted: 7/28/2012 5:10:35 AM | | To message 95 - Just because "in your experience" it means already in a relationship and wants a bit on the side, does not necessarily mean that it's the case for EVERYONE who has it as there Looking For and Intent. Like I said previously, for many different people it can mean many different things. I'm certainly not in a relationship with anyone, haven't got the time for one at the minute. Nor do I feel inclined to mess women around by jumping into bed with a different one every time. Surely I would've put Intimate Encounter with Casual Dating/No commitment instead? Didn't put Wanting a/Actively seeking a relationship, as that's moving far too fast in my opinion. Again, for others that might be different, but for me I've explained my reasons quite clearly. I just think it's a shame that assumptions can so easily made when instead people should ask about it and communicate rather than jumping to the wrong conclusion without so much as asking for clarification. | |
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