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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/25/2005 10:08:59 PM | | I find men are not willing to put the time in. They want instant gratification. I could pick up a man everytime I step out of the house, at the bar, mall, donut shop, beer gardens, sometimes the grocery store even, however, I want someone to get to know me and decide I am something valuable and worthwhile. The sex is the easy part, relating person to person and putting the time in is the difficult part. I am hopeful and still trying. As for the ugly comments circulating, I love the character in a person, once I get into their personality and I enjoy them, every little differences\ about them is a turn on. I wonder if any men out there think like myself?.... | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/25/2005 10:16:35 PM | | Good point being made. BUT sometimes all you have to do is show up, looking female and unattached and the sexual advances start pouring in from males, they act like they are doing you a favour by offering to service you. I can service myself quite well thank you and I will pick the product I want.... | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/25/2005 10:49:42 PM |
I find men are not willing to put the time in. They want instant gratification. I could pick up a man everytime I step out of the house, at the bar, mall, donut shop, beer gardens, sometimes the grocery store even, however, I want someone to get to know me and decide I am something valuable and worthwhile. The sex is the easy part, relating person to person and putting the time in is the difficult part. I am hopeful and still trying. As for the ugly comments circulating, I love the character in a person, once I get into their personality and I enjoy them, every little differences\ about them is a turn on. I wonder if any men out there think like myself?....
I can't say I agree with that. In real life, if the woman's not attracted to you, that's as far as it goes, because she will shut you down, period, end of story. Online, I could spend up to 15-20 minutes writing out a letter that indicates why I wrote, common interests etc, and 99% of the time I won't get a response. Now you multiply this out by a few hundred times over a period of years, and I can honestly say that as a man I'm tired of working for no reward. I'll give someone whatever they need from me, but there's NOTHING I can do if they pass up that opportunity for someone they find more aesthetically pleasing. Again, it's not always the man's fault. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/25/2005 11:03:03 PM | | I do. If I don't think I have something in common with anyone, I won't write to her. Maybe if I was strictly superficial with the way I approached things I'd have more success. I've also written plenty of notes to people with no pictures, so I have no idea what they look like. But then again, I'm a man so all I care about is T & A right? | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/25/2005 11:09:43 PM | | It seems that most guys doing the online dating thing are looking for just that. Maybe Ms Right if they stumble across her, but generally...no. It is maybe 1 out of 100 emails where someone will have anything in common with me.....generally they just made comments about my body. This with no booty or boob shots either. When I tried initiating contact, I looked for guys I had something in common with and who lived near me....and who were about my age, too. Sure, I looked at the pic, but if his profile sucked, I didn't write. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/26/2005 1:47:42 AM | I wonder, like the guy who started this thread, who is complaining? I have never gotten an e-mail from anyone I haven't already contacted, and even then it's only one in a dozen. Responses on sites like this are few and far between, with even fewer dates. I wonder if those people who complain are weeding other good people out. I wouldn't hesitate to go out with someone I thought I could have fun with, even if they didn't match my idea of perfect, because you never know untill you try.
As for the sex thing, its just a quality controll issue. Everyone who is on the internet looking for love is going to have an issue of some sort, and the problem becomes finding people who want what you want. It would be nice if the people who decided to break things off were more courtious about it, and told you why... | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/26/2005 1:51:16 AM | I think that internet dating is very workable for people under 30. Both my daughters have used it in the past and my youngest is still dating the guy she met.
Unfortunately, it seems that the older men online tend to be a lot more close minded and this venue has turned into a large meet market mostly about hooking up for casual sex. I get the feeling that women here are viewed as desperate and willing and men treat them as such. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/26/2005 3:15:29 AM | Actually, women have no hard time getting a date online, in fact, typically her dance card is full at all times.
I just met this nice girl online recently, we're suppose to be going out this Sat., however she believes most any man, within reason, gets a fair shot..she told me the weeked before she went out with a guy, so she isn't picky when it comes to meeting new people.
As a man, if you're out on a date with a woman you met Fri night, chances are the next date is lined up on Sat night with another man, so everyone has to wait in line.
Would you be enthusiastic about dating a woman online if you knew if she had 10 other guys lined up for future dates?
This girl says to me, "Oh...I'm sure you have other people that are interested in you" And I said, "Nope, I have no other potentials right now" And she said she was suprised...she's new to the online dating scene, and isn't to aware of how men are typically at more of a disadvantage than women are online.
I think I have about 2 maybe 3 dates at the most in one year from online encounters. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/26/2005 3:47:46 AM | @ webeatving
I guess I have been played!
I don't think so. She probably liked you a lot and thats why she went out with you 4 times to see if that little seedling of affection could grow into something bigger. The fact that she is newly out of a relationship was the hard part. I know what that's like. You want desperately to forget him and fall for someone else but it just doesn't happen overnight.
OT. here we go again with generalisations...there's lots of men complaining how hard it is to get a date too! | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/26/2005 10:05:37 AM | | Perhaps SOME women have it easier and their "dance cards" are full, but there are a lot of us who don't get any real interest and who meet maybe 1 person every couple of months, or even less often. I think it depends a lot on location and of course, as someone pointed out in a different thread, it is harder for us ugly women to get dates. | |
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