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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/27/2005 6:14:55 PM | ^^^Some guy asked me if I wanted to go to Timmy's for a drink, and I said I was free all of this week. He never messaged me back.
Mind you I used to always tell him I was busy during the school year, but school is out now! I have the time. Guess I scared him by saying I had the time instead of saying I had to study.
Or his brain wasn't comprehending that I actually said yes instead of no?
I don't know men confuse me. | |
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r324
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Joined: 7/13/2005
Msg: 103 | |
| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/27/2005 6:34:21 PM | B/c women never take the initiative...instead, they draw 'hearts' in their diaries; and write 'how dream' he is; and think 'I wish he would ask me out to the prom'; then start a pillow fight with her girlfriend...then who know what...?
OK, maybe not! But a guy can dream...can't he? | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/27/2005 6:35:14 PM | | No. they are just "fishing". I think it is some sort of game...caht to a woman, get her interest, ask her to meet and when she agrees, throw her back and resume fishing. Hell if SHE agreed, then there is likely something "better" just panting to take the hook. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/27/2005 6:40:51 PM |
No. they are just "fishing". I think it is some sort of game...caht to a woman, get her interest, ask her to meet and when she agrees, throw her back and resume fishing. Hell if SHE agreed, then there is likely something "better" just panting to take the hook.
I was trying to remain hopeful. :( | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/27/2005 6:48:58 PM | | I'll bet that if all of the women asked men out on dates as much as they claim to do on here any study ever done would reveal that the women are much more successful when they do it. The average (and I stress that word "average") guy would be delighted to be approached by a woman and asked out on a date. Yes, many women do it but I really have my doubts that they do it as much as the guys find themselves approaching women first. This is all fine and dandy and it's just the way it is so no hard feelings about it but I'm willing to put money down on the theory that if women asked men out more often they would meet with greater success than their male counterparts. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/27/2005 7:33:17 PM | | Well there's your problem. I know you meant it as a joke but truthfully I don't think you did. You still expect the burden of being shot down to go to the men. Fair enough I suppose. Still though, keep on doing what you were doing before and when a man approaches you for a change consider it an added bonus. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/27/2005 7:37:26 PM | | Ask out any guy that you think is worth being asked out assuming he is in a position to decide. I've looked at your profile a couple times and you have plenty to offer. It's also clear that you are down to Earth and approachable with a knack for wit. You just have to keep on trying. When you approach someone, nine times out of ten you're going to get shot down. That's how it is for the average guy too. Even if they do accept there are no guarantees. So it's a long and arduous process but if nothing else, think of it as sampling at a buffet. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/27/2005 8:06:08 PM | Well, I won't deny the truth of what you say there. But then again, what's stopping you from doing the same? Even then, yours is a blanket statement and it doesn't apply to all men or even the majority of them. They may WANT a younger woman but at that same certain age they have some grounding in the reality of the matter. They know that their odds of snagging a twenty year old are slim to none. So what do they do? They take a moderate approach and hold out hope while still seeking out someone they are simply compatible with. Once they actually have someone they stop with the chasing. Contrary to what Oprah and NOW would have you believe, most men are decent and they do in fact grow up and mature.
I understand your frustration. I'm not an optimist, I'm a realist though. And in reality, as easy as it is to believe what you say, it's not precise. If they are interested in you it's as simple as that. Who knows how many coworkers you may have or friends you may know who hold a candle for you without expressing even the slightest hint of it. I say nothing and express nothing on the matter myself and there are plenty of women I find attractive who may well welcome my advances if I were to. So there you go, you just have to keep on giving it a shot. Besides, what other way is there to get what you want? Hope alone? | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/27/2005 8:28:46 PM | | Okay then who is at fault here? Nobody. I don't know what this even has to do with males for that matter. If you aren't out meeting new people then that's the problem. Look, we guys have been walking on eggshells for some years now in regards to not knowing what is acceptable behaviour and what isn't. Men are afraid to approach a woman to try and pick her up in most places in case she takes it the wrong way. We don't read minds so we're stuck working with what we know. If you aren't going to the bar or are in some club atmosphere it's going to have to be you who approaches men. Sorry, that's just the way it is nowadays. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/27/2005 8:34:21 PM | Okay then who is at fault here? Nobody. I don't know what this even has to do with males for that matter. If you aren't out meeting new people then that's the problem. Look, we guys have been walking on eggshells for some years now in regards to not knowing what is acceptable behaviour and what isn't. Men are afraid to approach a woman to try and pick her up in most places in case she takes it the wrong way. We don't read minds so we're stuck working with what we know. If you aren't going to the bar or are in some club atmosphere it's going to have to be you who approaches men. Sorry, that's just the way it is nowadays.
The problem lies with the online dating and the men on them. That's what I've been talking about all along! Geezus! And as sorry as I am I've talked to all the available men my age on different sites and they all want a quickie. THAT IS THE PROBLEM!
So wait I will until someone decent gets himself a damn computer and doesn't lose his mind thinking "OMG check out all the hotties on here!" After 3 years I've given up on that idea also. | |
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Joined: 4/24/2004
Msg: 121 | |
| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/27/2005 9:56:31 PM | Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
- No, I never said that! 
Where do you live where there are no men available?
- Huh?
Do you ever insist on going dutch on dates ahead of time?
- What for? I'll offer to go dutch but if he wanna pay go ahead. Why insist?
Oh wait... DamnPizza's account been deleted.... | |
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r324
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Joined: 7/13/2005
Msg: 122 | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/28/2005 8:44:58 AM | | @gotapulse. Sweetie, you are 29....only 2 years older than my son. As much as I admire your outrageous optimism, men over 40 never ever get a dose of reality and quit chasing the 20 yos. They just get bad tempered and bitter and set their sights on the 25 yos. That is just a fact of life. Men your age have a completely different mindset....which is great for the women your age. | |
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