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jaxx4u
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Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 127 | |
| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/28/2005 9:38:21 AM | ...is the question her that it is hard for women to get a date....or its hard for women to get a quality date......and since I am an equal opprotunity female...I am sure that the same goes for the men too......a date is not hard to get......and it has nothing to do with lowering or elevating your standards.....It has to do with willingness .....to accept that every date will not turn out to be the love of your life...but new friendships can be made that way.....I am a realist.....I know that I am not every mans ideal woman.....and I dont want to be....but that doesnt stop me from making new friends and being open to possibilities.....and I agree that a lot of times men are looking for something sexual although they state otherwise.....but all you have to do is say no ...and move on.......and I am sure that the men run into some of the same things......so at best...its a crap shoot.......nothing ventured ....nothing gained.....I have met a few men this way....and if not compatable...thats ok....but if they seem interested and I am not...then I will pay for the date......guys get stuck holding the bag too often....the above missive is just my personal opinion..... | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/28/2005 10:34:11 AM | | Just a comment on this subject--I haven't had trouble getting dates--the problem is on the dates, you have guys who assume you will have sex with them on the first date and others who seem to be interviewing you for a housekeeping/maid/cook job! Been there, done that! Oh, plus you need to be18, look like a supermodel, make a three-figure income but be available whenever they want you to be, and demand absolutely nothing from them. Personally, I have come to a place/time where I just want a decent person with a brain and some respect for me. Too many guys who don't know how to treat a woman like a person! | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/28/2005 10:36:00 AM | women want sex just as much as men - they just go about it differently
a group of women out for a weekend are worse than a group of men -
it kills me to read the profiles of women who are looking for "long term, or dating" and want a great guy to be their friend and who wants more than just sex, then in their pics, there is a least one bra shot or one panty shot - please, give me a break - how can we respect you if you don't respect yourself enough to have the confidence in your personality to attract the right man - what do you think showing us your "delicates" is sending as a message?
then there is the people (both men and women) who just delete your e-mail - please - what happened to giving someone a chance as a person
and yes I know you have to have physical attraction, but hey, at least read what we write and then send a "thanks, but no thanks" - | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/28/2005 11:47:22 AM | fox- I have to disagree. Now, I am not 40 yet only 38. But I can tell you that I have zero desire to chase or catch a 20 year old. I would not even consider going out with any woman that young. I might consider a date with a 26 yo but even that I find too young. I really only look for women 30 and over. I just have more in common with someone closer to my age.
Maybe alot of over 40 guys you've met do chase the kids but not all men do. That is a fact. I know this because I am a man and I wouldn't and don't.
OT: It just is the order of things. | |
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jaxx4u
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Joined: 7/28/2005
Msg: 132 | |
| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/28/2005 2:22:47 PM | | the two men above me make excellent points.....women arent the only one here who have these types of issues...you are what you project youself to be....and the picture gives the first impression....so if it is a provocative pic...then dont blame the man for thinking that is the kind of thing that you are looking for. If you are going to put out that kind of bait....then dont **** when you catch that kind of fish........... | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/28/2005 5:40:19 PM | I am going by my experience. I don't get asked out, ever. So it isn't like I am "too picky". I do not EVER post provocative pix and NEVER participate in sexual talk in the Forums or anywhere else. How is that giving men the wrong idea? I still get the pigdogs messaging/emailing and expecting me to be panting to jump into bed with them.
My guy buddies who are over 40 come right out and tell me that they would never consider dating a woman over 40 and I have read more than one Forum thread with the same attitude/topic. I get told that if a younger man shows interest it is only because "old women" are easy lays....yes, that comes from the buds and also from many threads here in Forums. I used to send email to men who caught my interest, but never got a reply and after reading the Forums and listening to my buddies, I won't ever send another.
I am not sure what guys think, but for some woman, there are no date invitations, of any sort. Hell, the local guys won't even meet face to face for coffee!! In the last 5 or 6 months I have had 4 first meets arranged, 2 just didn't show up, 1 had a serious drinking problem and the other made it clear I was too much of a freak for him to be interested. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/28/2005 9:45:06 PM | It could partly be because of where you live Fox (making an assumption that you haven't tried to hook up with many from the mainland).
One thing to keep in mind about guys flirting sexually on dates. One of the themes I take out of a few of the messages is here is that guys are damned if they do and damned if they don't. By that, I mean that the guys who don't make an effort to flirt and create a spark end up getting dropped into the just friends category. This is a blackhole that you can never escape. If they flirt with sexual overtones, depending on the woman (and possibly her mood and her reaction to him in general), they get dropped into the player category - some guy just looking for sex.
Some women (and guys too) can have a non-sexual conversation while still keeping the possibility alive. Some, it would seem, can't.
Everyone being an individual, unless the guy is incredibly good at reading people, it's impossible for him to figure out which way to go with it. The guys who are really good at figuring this out are already half way to being players.
I'd hazard a guess that some of the guys who flirt like this are just expressing an interest in you romantically to keep the possibility alive, even if it won't be realized immediately. I guess it depends on how much pressure they're putting on you.
That's not to say there aren't a lot of guys just looking for sex. Not something I have to worry about though.  . | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/28/2005 11:21:40 PM | "They don't know any other way to deal with men except sexual flirtation,..."
Ha! I've found just the opposite to be true. If I dare suggest discussing something besides the size of my boobs, titty bars and Titans football, it completely throws some men for a loop. I think primarily that happens for two reasons: one, he either is not inteligent enough to discuss issues with a woman that require he think with the head on his shoulders, rather than the one in his pants, or he just assumes because I am female I am either unintelligent or I am flattered by him emailing me and saying, "Hey, nice rack!"
Sure, it's nice to be thought of as pretty and/or sexy, but much more intriguing is the man who attempts to decipher the core of my being, what makes me tick, wants to know what my opinion is on any number of topics and can spontaneously engage in conversation as any one human talks to another, rather than as a man primarily looking to get laid. Talk about being boring and predictable! I'm not at all impressed by any IMs or emails I get from men telling me they want to sleep with me. Well, guess what? You're not the only one; not by a long shot. Tell me something worth capturing my attention! | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/29/2005 7:37:18 AM | No such thing as too tall Norolim. I'm 5'9".. relatively tall for a woman.. and I"ve never had a problem with my height.. Dated many men shorter in stature than I am, but so much taller in personality and integrity than some 6' men I've met.
What I find is most men I meet on here.. and I"ve met a few..( all good experiences/life lessons).. are very open on there profile... email.. phone conversations... but in person.. they get shy and uncommunicative. NOT to say we women dont... I however am not one of them...I just think if we can get past the first few dates. struggle with the discomfort for a turn or 2.. the odds are you've passed up several good guys due to just NOT knowing them well enough.
But then again.. they've gotta realise that first impressions are sometimes ones to struggle through as well and move on to the next impression of that same person. 2nd dates are so much more relaxed than the first.. Now if we could just skip the first one.. and move on to the 2nd one.. wouldnt life be so much easier? lol | |
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ksue44
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Joined: 6/20/2005
Msg: 138 | |
| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 7/29/2005 10:01:06 PM | I think in my age group (49 years young) and living in Dallas TX, it is not of an advantage to me. My date book isn't full, I don't get 100 emails a day. I wouldn't want to get that many. I prefer quality over quantity. I know I don't look like Super Model, nor do I scare animals or children. I do believe I am someone's crown jewel, but I won't settle.
In the dating arena it is all about the numbers game, the more people you meet, the better your chances are of meeting "the one". Also, don't limit dating to just online, but try other venues of meeting people. If you can't think out of the box, you'll be boxed in with limited opportunities. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 10/7/2009 2:43:42 PM |
In real life, I have been asked out once in the last 2 or 3 years. I have had maybe 3 actual dates through online dating in the same time frame. For the most part, the men I have met via online venues are not looking to "date", they are merely looking to get laid.
My profile is not "sexy", my pics are clean and I do not ever get "sexual" in chat or email. I still get guys assuming that I am willing to screw anything in pants. I would definitely say it is very difficult to get a date.
probably some women laughing at the men who think this is real. men have it harder than women ever had.
most men have probably never been asked out. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 10/7/2009 2:55:14 PM |
Perhaps SOME women have it easier and their "dance cards" are full, but there are a lot of us who don't get any real interest and who meet maybe 1 person every couple of months, or even less often. I think it depends a lot on location and of course, as someone pointed out in a different thread, it is harder for us ugly women to get dates.
lies, lies, lies.
women date more men. multiple men at a time.
women even have back up men they can date when they are in a relationship
how many men are excited about this? | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 10/7/2009 3:06:14 PM | I found that when I was younger it seemed much more difficult to get a date. And most women didn't seem to have that problem.
Once I got older, it became easier. Obviously that had something to do with experience and confidence, but it also had to do with the fact that the women in my age demographic were now more...OK, I'm going to get flamed for this...desperate.
The 35+ ones had become more realistic about their chances, and weren't as likely to harbour the delusional beliefs they had when they were younger. Not to mention the ever present ticking biological clock that grows louder and louder with each passing year.
So, it's been great the last few years for myself as a single man in my demographic.
And by living in a city that has more single women than men, I've had no problems getting dates. Yet, I do hear single women complain about the lack of quality single men and their inability to get dates. However, what they are really saying is that it's not that they can't get dates, they just can't get them with the men they want. Big difference. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 10/7/2009 5:25:21 PM | | As you get older, it is harder to find quality decent man who would want a stable relationship. You tend to be wiser and pickier in a good way. If you live in big city, no problem to that. you got other avenues to meet people rather than the internet. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 10/7/2009 5:37:50 PM |
The 35+ ones had become more realistic about their chances, and weren't as likely to harbour the delusional beliefs they had when they were younger.
The last sanctuary is delusion -- don't disrespect delusion man! All of my greatest life experiences have been delusional. It is truly easier for the young to get dates -- but they may not know it and if they don't try they won't be successful. Older people have less motivation -- less purpose and less tolerance for failure -- about practically everything, so they find it harder. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:53:49 PM |
I found that when I was younger it seemed much more difficult to get a date. And most women didn't seem to have that problem.
Once I got older, it became easier. Obviously that had something to do with experience and confidence, but it also had to do with the fact that the women in my age demographic were now more...OK, I'm going to get flamed for this...desperate.
The 35+ ones had become more realistic about their chances, and weren't as likely to harbour the delusional beliefs they had when they were younger. Not to mention the ever present ticking biological clock that grows louder and louder with each passing year.
So, it's been great the last few years for myself as a single man in my demographic.
And by living in a city that has more single women than men, I've had no problems getting dates. Yet, I do hear single women complain about the lack of quality single men and their inability to get dates. However, what they are really saying is that it's not that they can't get dates, they just can't get them with the men they want. Big difference.
Good for you man. Enjoy your situation over women. Must be fun to laugh at how desperate older women are.
So do women sometimes ask you out? | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 10/8/2009 9:56:27 PM |
Because guys like me have written the vast majority of them off. Leaving them to pick through losers and self absorbed a holes.
Men are getting smarter and smarter each generation. Today's man knows from a young age that most women are not worth dating. And with chivalry dying out there is no stigma attached to letting their complaints about women be made.
Unfortunately for women more and more men will become like you. | |
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| Why do women keep insisting that it's harder for them to get a date?
Posted: 10/8/2009 10:45:21 PM |
It's because women won't date guys who are interested in sex. .
exactly.
this is a dating website, not a random hookup website. Our profiles tell you what we are lookin and NOT looking for.
pay attention..or get a hooker..we are not here to be used. | |
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