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does anyone else feel this way about cam or am I the only freak that does?? lol.
it is not only you. A huge part of my job is web based; as I have cross country sessions in web meeting and I have always refused to do them via teleconference... do audio only. I have no problem with in person and am totally comfortable meeting the clients when I am onsite; but I absolutely refuse the webcam. I hate it; it feels totally bizarre and weird; like a funhouse mirror or something...
so nope it's not just you. If someone wants to verify me before meeting and considers meeting me a waste of time because they want to "see" me before me see me in person; whatever; it's their loss. I have no problem whatsoever with in person. I'm TOTALLY comfortable with live and in person; but on memorex? no way in heck Avoid webcams like the plague... :) | |
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Posted: 4/14/2012 5:02:10 PM | webcams are better than seeing a pic i do agree with that. i used a cam before and it was a bad experience never again will i do it unless i am talking to my sister or bf over webcam. i hate when ppl would ask me to see a cam i don't have to show anyone shit! i made that clear to people dont like it move on! i got tired of seeing naked ppl on cams omg! i automatically closed it once i saw a nude person i dont need to see nude ppl thats not why i asked to see ur cam.
funny, i've seen enough ppl on cams, where they would have the cam on their chest and not their face lol. i wonder why? they had all kinds of reasons not to show me their face: you may know me in real life, my job reputation is at stake (dont show ur goods online if thats the case), i don't think my face is attractive enough for you, etc. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2012 9:52:07 PM | | It took me 1 try and I have banned the webcam. The guy sat on his bed and started shaving... Okay... That killed it for me.. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2012 11:19:57 PM | Maybe the person likes what they see. Nah, that could never happen. Or could it?
Hopefully they are responding to what is on the screen, or maybe that is what they are doing and the position of the cam makes it look otherwise. Maybe they touch type like I wish I could and don't need to gaze at the keyboard. Maybe there are more maybes than we could ever invent. Maybe you get to find out if someone is inappropriate by showing something you don't want to see and you find out faster that way.
Imagine the possibilities. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2012 11:39:03 PM | My laptop does not have a webcam. So far no one has asked for a video chat, but if anyone does, that is all I need to say. Plus it is the truth. My laptop, I believe, could be ordered with one when new, but it does not have that option installed.
Outside of that, the only time I would use it, is for face to face video chat with friends from around the country. Mind, I have lived most of my life in the Midwest, but keep in contact with childhood friends that are scattered all over the nation, and I briefly lived in Kansas and California, so I have friends in those places too. Never would I use a webcam with anyone I did not know, unless it were a strictly business meeting. I have done a few of those (video conferencing), and frankly, I could not stand it. There is a lot that is lost when you do not see the other person directly. Body language can be harder or impossible to decipher still, facial expressions may get lost due to poor framerates or video resolutions, and the list goes on.
Now, if anyone were to believe that based on the above, I were hiding something, then it's just as well. Someone that paranoid, who would entertain the belief that there could be no other conceivable reason to not video chat, other than "hiding something", is probably bad news anyway. | |
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Posted: 4/14/2012 11:42:35 PM | | Nope, I love webcams. It's a good way to see if potential dates check out. At the very least, you get an idea of what the small talk will be like. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2012 4:33:56 PM | Yup, to me it's an invasion of privacy.
Some total stranger could also be recording your image and doing god knows what with it..
Some women are shy talking to a 'screen'
To the woman who said the guy saw her face then asked her to get up and turn around for her, I hope you didn't. That's just ignorant and controlling behaviour. Screw that jerk.
Most men are just perv's and that's the way it is on here. I would 1000 times rather spend a small amount of time to email, get a feel for them, and if it feels ok then proceed to have the brief meetup. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2012 11:45:48 AM | what gets me is the guys who purposly lure women to view thier cam making her think he will just want to show his face an just chat..but instead you get a unwanted wank show..these men are so unshamed to show what they have or dont have yet pretend to be so shy an sweet an are so worried about showing thier face or somebody might recognize them..come on now stop the bull s hit..
you can get fully naked put on a pity jackoff show not realizing people can still recognize a persons body an the guy not realizing or caring just who maybe watching him..
but yet are so worried about who might see thier face or know them..apparently you dont care that much an arent to worried of what people may really think of you if you can put on full unwanted perv show..so what differance does it make..might as well show ur face with all ur shame attached to it if your brave enough to put on cam shows.. | |
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Posted: 4/16/2012 11:56:19 AM |
Nope, I love webcams. It's a good way to see if potential dates check out. At the very least, you get an idea of what the small talk will be like.
Yeah, they're fun, you can make faces at each other, and even demonstrate your dance moves. :) | |
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Posted: 4/16/2012 12:10:26 PM | | The only image I want to see in front of me is a real, live human being using a real, live voice. Why are so many people determined to hide behind a screen forever and afraid to enter the real world? E-mails, texting, MSN, IM, webcam, etc is not dating in the real world. If you're too afraid of people, don't be thinking of dating. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 10:01:36 AM | | i have a different problem. webcams distort pictures and i need to be able to read a person's lips to understand what they're saying. so no on the webcam thing. mine is broken on my computer anyway. it sucks power, but it has never worked properly since my ex bought it for me some time ago | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 11:17:41 AM | | skype and most services allows you to text while seeing the other person. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 11:22:38 AM | I also love webcams, but seldom use them on a first date. One thing, many don't know how to set them up for a service, I get tired of guiding someone through the process.
For a meet and greet it doesn't really make all that big a deal, it isn't like I accept many dates like that in any case. Not such a big deal to drive a ways and have a beer or cup of coffee with a stranger.
I would insist on webcam if I thought something was fishy.
I get the comment from many women that guys often want them for sex. Never did that and wouldn't want to at least not with someone that I don't already have a long term relationship with. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 11:36:35 AM |
I think some people might actually not want to meet me because I refuse to go on cam and they think I'm hiding something.. but I'm not.. does anyone else feel this way about cam or am I the only freak that does?? lol.
Good for lazy azzes and shallow people who want to look at the steak before trying to eat it. I'd rather have a beer and shoot some pool. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 11:40:31 AM | | Web cams video is rarely an accurate representation of how you look. Usually it's unflattering. The lighting has to be right. I'm finicky in that I want things done right, but I'm not going there to arrange lighting just so. I have a cam built-in to the computer, but I rarely use it. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 11:59:15 AM | When webcams came out back in the 90s, I thought they were cool as sh!t, a novel piece of technology (wasn't everything back then? lol) with numerous uses: teleconferencing, distance learning, etc.
Now, when I hear the word "webcam" for some reason I think of porn (which I've never been a fan of) and some loser guy in his basement jacking off. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 12:10:07 PM | ^^^^^That's 'cos it probably is some loser guy jacking off in his basement. LOL
I do online classes, but I don't turn on the cam. In fact, I don't even have the headphones that have a microphone because they broke and I didn't replace them. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 12:41:23 PM | | If I'm chatting online, then I may as well have the webcam on. I don't spend all the time glued to it. I still do other things while chatting and just click over every so often and say something else. I don't just sit and stare at their webcam. I assume that the other person is doing the same thing. I don't feel uncomfortable about being on the webcam for me the trick is to not look at the little window that shows my own image. If I see that I'll get all distracted and try to look good for the camera. So I just ignore that and just be myself. If a man is local then I push for a meet right away, but if not, I'll chat on cam several times before deciding if it's worth any distance. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 6:29:13 AM | | I totally agree.... We're living in the 21st century. Webcams, whether you like it or not are the future and brilliant for vetting dates and weeding out the fakes... | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 7:00:12 AM | I am a fan of it. Have a friend out of state, we chat on web cam sometimes.
It's good to see who am I talking to.
If I start talking to someone, and she refuse to go on web cam, I would be suspicious.
I don't buy that "I look terrible on web cam" excuse. More like she has something to hide.
As another poster said it's surprising what passes as athletic on POF.
Or what some might consider a "few extra pounds". | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 12:05:27 PM | | Sometimes I am naked in front of the computer so using the webcam is not a very good idea! | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 12:38:40 PM | I like the webcam. It allows you that face to face interaction when someone is far away. Yes, you can be silly. Yes, there are pervs out there (weed 'em out), but for the most part there's nothing wrong with it as long as you don't do anything you wouldn't want posted on the web. The report and block feature is a handy little button if someone gets out of line. :D
I video chat for work (across states and often with coworkers in other countries) so it's nice to be able to talk "face to face" without someone having to travel. With travel restrictions (at work) it's easier to work on something together that way and the company I work for encourages it.
I also video chat with my family and friends. It's great because we are scattered all over. It allows us to maintain that connection and not just be voices on a phone. Much more intimate and personal that way.
The most interesting request was from a potential employer. They were in another state looking to fill a position locally. Instead of flying me out there to meet, which would cost plane, hotel, car, etc., they wanted to video chat. I thought that was a nifty way to use Skype.
Technology is great. At least, I think so anyway. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 2:56:38 PM | To me, webcam would be a good option to keep in touch with someone, ranging from friends to the person that you are in a relationship with. I would want to see them while talking, haha :)
I would never talk on a mic without webcam though... also not a big fan of talking on the phone.
It's also a good way to get to know the person before meeting up, face it, some people don't look like their photos. And webcam eliminates that. | |
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Posted: 8/4/2012 3:05:48 PM | | The only way I would do web cam is if I was to set up a studio complete with stage props, stage lighting, back-up dancers and a band performing and I would expect who I'm web camming to would also have the same arrangement. | |
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Posted: 8/5/2012 7:44:52 AM |
I prefer to meet in person ASAP. Not only does it expose the liars...
Why would you waste your time going on a meet just to see if they were lying about their looks?? Wouldn't it be awkward to get there and see they are completely different? What do you do then, run away?
A couple of years back I was supposed to go on a "date" with a guy who had 2 pictures on his profile. The pictures were good and showed him up close and a full body pic, but I still wanted to check just in case because I had a funny feeling about him.
So I asked if he wanted to chat on cam for a little bit. Now, it was as much for him as it was for me; maybe he had trust issues as well....Anyway, he's 35 and a computer techie so when he said "I don't have one but I can buy one and then we can chat". I said OK and that I could wait.
So nothing from him for 2 weeks, then he emails me back and said he couldn't find the right kind that was compatible with his computer but he'd keep trying. I said "fine" but that was my sign to forget about it.
Never heard from him again...
So IMO, it's a good thing but I wouldn't just sit around camming with someone I hardly knew. Talking on the phone (gasp!!) is good enough for me until the date, IF I felt comfortable that he was real.
On the other hand, I LOVE seeing my kids on cam when they are on vacation with their father for 2 weeks, like now :^(
It makes me feel closer to them and I love seeing their faces when they laugh *sigh* So I guess it's a double edged sword.... | |
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