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 jeep1127girl
Joined: 12/31/2009
Msg: 26
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I don't want "my stuff" out there.
Then you wouldnt be on any networking site including POF?

So when did the world get rights to my life????
When you put your stuff on the internet like here? No one is that private when the put anything on the internet.

The world is changing and more people are networking more than ever. Change can be a good thing.
 Sweetxcape
Joined: 2/23/2012
Msg: 27
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Posted: 3/6/2012 5:46:41 AM
sounds like he'd rather show off to his friends that he can land a lady. If he can't just enjoy you outside of his fb world, then he might actually be using you to boost his ego and show the virtual friends he can get a gf.
 onlydateIF
Joined: 11/15/2011
Msg: 28
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Posted: 3/6/2012 5:47:00 AM
Hi OP, yes, agreed, deal-breaker!Your privacy matters and not all of us need electronics for what ends up as anti-social networking. Some of us do just fine IRL maintaining our friendships, and can afford to pick up a phone and call our friends and family-even...gasp...before 9 or on a weekday, imagine that lol. FB is so passe already
 funinsun32
Joined: 9/1/2011
Msg: 29
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Posted: 3/6/2012 5:47:07 AM
If he can't respect you and your position enough to understand then he isn't worth what you have to offer. The world and he do not have a right to invade your personal life. You have made your position clear and it goes without saying that he should respect you and your views on the subject, PERIOD.
 CulturedBlackMan
Joined: 2/20/2012
Msg: 30
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Posted: 3/6/2012 6:09:48 AM
Im not disagreeing with your position....you have every right to feel the way you do...one question....why do you have a facebook page?
 femaleconnection
Joined: 8/12/2010
Msg: 31
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Posted: 3/6/2012 6:14:09 AM
OP, go into your settings-no one can tag you unless you approve it if you use the settings properly. I get a notification that someone has tagged me and I have the choice to accept it, or have the tag deleted...all before it goes public.

I do agree-many are more concerned with showing off thier life on fb rather than just living a life.

I enjoy fb...but I only post about my pets. I dont post about my friends, family or a SO as it is thier business what they want on fb...not mine.
 CulturedBlackMan
Joined: 2/20/2012
Msg: 32
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Posted: 3/6/2012 6:23:59 AM
My now ex girlfriend insisted to the change of status (I thought insecurity, myself) on FB....I could care less about FB....now we are no longer together....Im not sure if she's changed it back.....maybe I should check....hmmmmm?
 452
Joined: 11/1/2009
Msg: 33
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Posted: 3/6/2012 6:51:37 AM
I don't understand what your problem is? Do you want to be kept a secret? The only people I have on my facebook are my friends and family so they would be suspicious if I were to keep a boyfriend a secret.Why tell them all I am single when I am not?



sounds like he'd rather show off to his friends that he can land a lady. If he can't just enjoy you outside of his fb world, then he might actually be using you to boost his ego and show the virtual friends he can get a gf.

Wow! suspicious much?
It's more likely that he is so in love that he wants to shout it from the rooftops.
 browneyesboo
Joined: 5/19/2005
Msg: 34
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Posted: 3/6/2012 6:53:43 AM
I don't get the big deal about facebook.
I have a facebook page, but I use it for my friends and
family. It's great when they're far away and you don't get
to see them often, you can share pictures, etc.

You can set your page to private so that only your friends
and family have access to it and you can also set it so you
aren't tagged without permission.

If you don't want anything to do with facebook, simply don't.
If you think your stuff "isn't out there" while you're on fishes,
you're kidding yourself.

This thread would be a good example to use in the "what is
drama" thread.
 Revilors
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 35
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Posted: 3/6/2012 7:07:00 AM
Two schools of thought...same degree.

Personally...I don't give the FB BS any more weight than it deserves. It is an effective way to connect to friends and family but some people have to have extremities in their lives. You both have yours. He MUST post everything about his life and you REFUSE to be a participant. Obviously not a match. But...you both have CHOSEN your extreme view over your potential relationship.

For me...I have a Masters Degree in it just doesn't matter. It doesn't matter to me if someone puts they are in a relationship with me...provided I was not the last to hear that I was "in a relationship" with that person. On the other hand...I would feel no need (especially if objected to) to post personal information about someone else on MY FB page. That is what theirs is for.

It isn't FB, POF or anyTHING else. It's the azzhats behind the keyboards.
 therdtymesachrm
Joined: 7/17/2011
Msg: 36
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Posted: 3/6/2012 8:45:20 AM
Since I moved several states away 8 months ago and left most of my family and friends behind I use FB a lot. It's easier to keep in touch with my family who are in five different states, my nieces and nephews in college, my granddaughter, who is in high school, has a part time job and a crazy social life and all my friends from my old job and some even older friends from high school. I have no issues with it because the people I choose to have as my friends and my family don't use it for drama. I changed my relationship status, but did so without including the name of the person who I am in a relationship with. I am respectful of his privacy and didn't feel any need to put that on there. The people who need to know who is, do know. Not the whole world.
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 37
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Posted: 3/6/2012 8:48:22 AM
F*ck facebook. If I'm lacking attention that much I'll run around naked on the street prancing and dancing..............
Facebook is a usefull tool for keeping in contact with people you havent seen in a long time, or those who live far away. If I want to have drama in my life, I'll rent the complete seasons of As The World Turns, not put it on facebook. Like the OP, if someone runs around putting info about my personnal life on it, not only will I pull the plug on HIS facebook, I'll pull the plug on HIM personnally....
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 38
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Posted: 3/6/2012 9:01:23 AM
What I don't get is how is he putting your picture on his f**kbook? Can a person copy and paste a profile picture from POF to f**kbook? Sometimes I envy friends of mine who don't have a computer or a cell phone. When I asked why they don't have either, their answer is "because I don't need a computer or cell phone". Can't argue with that logic.
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 39
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Posted: 3/6/2012 9:13:10 AM
What I don't get is how is he putting your picture on his f**kbook? Can a person copy and paste a profile picture from POF to f**kbook? Sometimes I envy friends of mine who don't have a computer or a cell phone. When I asked why they don't have either, their answer is "because I don't need a computer or cell phone". Can't argue with that logic.


When you are friends with someone, on the relationship status page, if you write the name of one of your friends, it pops up his picture.

You can still be in a loving relationship with your partner and suddenly change your status from relationship to "It's complicated". Right where your partner can see it on HIS facebook, thus adding more drama to your life for those attention hungry hoes. Why in the world I would want to expose anything of my personnal, love, sex or anything other kind of life, is beyond me.
But hey, the kids love it.

Oh, and I have a PC (for games and porn, mouhaha) but I dont have a cellphone. God willing, I never will. Dont need one.
 Revilors
Joined: 10/9/2008
Msg: 40
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Posted: 3/6/2012 9:18:42 AM

What I don't get is how is he putting your picture on his f**kbook? Can a person copy and paste a profile picture from POF to f**kbook? Sometimes I envy friends of mine who don't have a computer or a cell phone. When I asked why they don't have either, their answer is "because I don't need a computer or cell phone". Can't argue with that logic.


Here's is how it can be done.

1. You can actually use something called a camera and take a picture of them. All cell phones (most of them) have one on them. You can even put them on your FB, POF or anywhere else right from your cell phone.

2. Yes...you can take any image from anywhere and upload it to FB, POF or anywhere else. In fact...you can take one out of a magazine with various methods and covert them to digital images and put them there.

Which is exactly why I don't put much stock into it. I just hope if someone puts a naked picture of me on the internet...they at least take the time to photoshop a decent body underneath my face. If they don't...I will certainly claim they did...and stick to that story like glue.
 moraima
Joined: 6/26/2005
Msg: 41
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Posted: 3/6/2012 9:29:58 AM
I exist therefore I am.

No wait, I exist because I am on Face Book.

Just don't get what people get out of Face Book. Why this need to have a public life?

Is it really too much work to phone/email friends and family without Face Book?

I haven't got a single friend who uses Face Book. We are just too busy living our lives to have the disposable time to waste on Face Book.

I am not a match whether romantic or friends with those who have a need for cyber space to record the history of our lives.

More than a decade ago, I went to a convention in Manitoba. Meet up with a gal that I know from Ontario, so we had went to meals etc. together. She had to stop at least every two hours to update her Face Book about what was going on the convention, plus what we were doing with our free time. She was a nice younger person, but I wondered who the h*ll in her life wanted to read what she had the need to publish.

My world runs quite smoothly without Facebook, and it will stay that way.

My business doesn't get involved with Facebook or twitter either. I think about the time involved with Face Book, and I know I have more productive and fun things to do.
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 42
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Posted: 3/6/2012 9:32:32 AM

I exist therefore I am.

No wait, I exist because I am on Face Book.



Wrong again; Facebook exists; you don't LOL.
 TerrieLynnC
Joined: 5/31/2011
Msg: 43
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Posted: 3/6/2012 9:45:15 AM
Yes, you can change your settings to NOT be tagged in someone else's pictures.

Yes, you can either deactivate or delete your facebook account.......it's under settings.
If you deactivate that means noone will have access to your page and your able to reactivate it at a later time. If you delete it, well, it's gone.

It's pretty simple really, if you don't like facebook, then don't create a page there.
Yes, I'm there and have been recently thinking of deleting my page.
 OyVay...
Joined: 7/15/2011
Msg: 44
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Posted: 3/6/2012 10:13:33 AM
EVERYONE has an agenda! Even facebook!!!

While many use this to connect to family and friends(that's what I do, though rarely there maybe once a month) there are those, that this has become the center of their universe.

Aside from the egocentric, who view this as their mini-tv station window on their lives, there just like here are the damaged and strange.

As I said, everyone has an agenda, many are not even aware of the fact, but that doesn't change the fact. Some view life as incomplete w/o a relationship, so when they have a GF/BF it has to be front and center on their profile. Regardless of what the other person wants or believes is an invasion of privacy.

The REAL problem with FB is the fact that no one aside from the company controls the content. When the company goes public, who knows what changes it will make, in order to make more profit. They already sell your information to advertisers. What's next, selling your information to someone who wants to stalk you or check you out?

While all of you will say ohhh no, they would never do that. Is it so far fetched? IMO, be careful and selective on what you put there, what you share. Already people have been fired for things said on FB, so we have already embarked on the slippery slope of what can be seen, against what we want to be seen.

Think about it.
 VixenOfForums
Joined: 2/20/2012
Msg: 45
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Posted: 3/6/2012 10:14:17 AM
So much drama over nothing. If this is a dealbreaker then you weren't into this guy. You cannot control what other people do. You make it seem like the entire CNN audience is going to know your life story. Not everyone cares!
 Maleman999
Joined: 2/14/2010
Msg: 46
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Posted: 3/6/2012 11:10:47 AM
This is a temporary problem OP. With the way technology and trends are changing, in a few years F*ckbook will be totally obsolete and some new program with more personal information-DNA profile, blood type, sperm count, ovulation cycles, etc.-will come out that everyone will consider essential to life and won't be able to survive without. And anyone who stays on f*ckbook will be considered old fashioned dinosaurs who should be relegated to live in caves. It's like people going into Myspace to find out sh1t about you.
 Pingshooter
Joined: 3/15/2009
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Posted: 3/6/2012 11:10:51 AM
Jeep1127..

That's the point.

Only you, can put YOUR business out there, by using.POF/FB.

Inapproprite use, even by a date, ultimately, is your problem..not POFs, not FBs.

Again, it is NOT the venue, it IS the user.
 VixenOfForums
Joined: 2/20/2012
Msg: 48
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Posted: 3/6/2012 11:39:55 AM

With the way technology and trends are changing, in a few years F*ckbook will be totally obsolete and some new program with more personal information-DNA profile, blood type, sperm count, ovulation cycles, etc.-will come out that everyone will consider essential to life and won't be able to survive without.

Pretty much sums it up!
 Capn_America
Joined: 10/6/2011
Msg: 49
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Posted: 3/6/2012 11:49:00 AM
Hey, I just read on my Facebook that Davy Jones died....

One of the good things about FB tho, is that you occasionnally see comments like these from your friends;


He decided to visit Davy Jones' locker


 ITWYLD
Joined: 11/15/2011
Msg: 50
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Posted: 3/6/2012 11:56:42 AM
People that make a huge deal out of facebook privacy should not have a facebook.


Agreed, BUT........


Facebook is for social networking and for people to read and share.


This is the best reason that parents of teenagers and even pre-teens, should indeed have a FB account. There were many times while my kids were growing up, that they posted how they were feeling, what they were thinking/doing on any given day........I found it to be an awesome parenting tool, especially with teens who are in daily drama zones.

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