| | Virgin And Over 30Page 2 of 2 (1, 2) | At this point I am very frustrated.
I don't know why I keep coming back to this site. I have decided to resign to the fact that I am not going to find any one. Some people are not born to have any sort of intimacy and to be loved by some one.
Therefore, I am deleting my profile on here. And, I have taken a vow to never to to sign on a pathetic dating site ever again. | |
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| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/11/2012 11:32:17 AM | | i want to **** some girls in the butt.. Where are all the girls who like it in the ***hole poop shoot? | |
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| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/11/2012 7:50:15 PM | | I meet my first woman when I was older then you. I am very shy. | |
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| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/13/2012 6:46:39 AM | no surprise,I guess,sometimes just don't find your type...
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| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/13/2012 11:36:47 AM | In our culture, no it isn't normal. But that doesn't mean that you are a lesser person because of that. You get to choose when you want to have sex, but in MY opinion you are wasting your time. GET TO IT! ;)
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| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/13/2012 11:44:22 AM |
Therefore, I am deleting my profile on here. And, I have taken a vow to never to to sign on a pathetic dating site ever again
Hmmmm just joined in Jan. No wonder still a virgin.
But then again, I see people that have been on here for 7 + years and are "still actively dating" | |
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| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/13/2012 12:33:36 PM | Dude.. I was 29 before I got Lucky. Do Not wait too long in your 30s. I did notice I wanted every woman after that. I was like oversexed lol. Now on the hand. I know a woman who is still a virgin and she is 43 yrs old. No shes not a nun. She told me she wont let any guy past 2nd base. and I saw on her fb page She will never marry since both her parents have passed away.
That Might not be normal.. Infact That isnt normal.
Well thats all I can contribute. | |
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| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 3/13/2012 7:00:05 PM | | I'm hearing guys saying sticking to music, thats the damn truth! Writing lyrics is how I cure them heart pains! | |
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| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 4/15/2012 9:48:59 AM | Lol not normal at all...
I'm sorry but this would raise flags for me and i would be very concerned. | |
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| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 4/15/2012 11:54:05 AM | | Sex isn't everything. It's great, but the gist of a relationship should be about bonding, trust, loyalty, etc. The only concern you should have is not having experience in the area of creating and maintaining relationships with women. Don't worry about sex or being a virgin. Consider it a blessing that you are still pure. | |
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Jsana
| | Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 36 | |
| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 4/15/2012 4:43:02 PM | | yea, you are right, and thank you, I am a virgin myself. so that is the right idea for me to take. | |
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Jsana
| | Joined: 4/6/2012
Msg: 37 | |
| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 4/15/2012 4:43:44 PM | | that is one way to look at it, and a good one :) | |
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| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 4/16/2012 10:11:22 AM | Patience is a virtue. And as to "manhood," one could ask if its easier to give in to "urges" or to resist them. Given the statistics, I would say it takes more to resist than to give in. Moral courage and independence is rare in a society that promotes sexual conquest and promiscuity, which is just a pathetic satire of what manhood really is.
I would rather go through life single than to end up with the wrong woman.
I believe it is best to be married before sex. Putting off the physical pleasure and building the relationship will be more rewarding in the long run and will lead to much less drama. | |
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| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 4/24/2012 10:07:59 PM | I get your confusion. How could you not be confused?
(For what it is worth - I am just an American mom with three sons who are probably about your age.)
My advice...... first, don't be so hard on yourself and second, please don't rush to any rash decision you may regret later on.
I find no profile for you, so I assume you are in the States or, obviously, now living in some country other than where you were born. If in the States, please know that historically, your strict cultural (and probably religious) 'norms' are, and most likely always have been, VASTLY different than American cultural 'norms' and so, it is impossible to say what 'normal' means. It's like comparing apples to oranges. There is an saying.....'normal' is just a cycle on your washing machine.
If your background is Indian or Asian, I can't begin to imagine the culture shock you would have experienced at 15 and how confusing and difficult it would be to adjust. That's a difficult age for boys, period. I too would probably have retreated into the safety of a 'shell' and would probably have relied on my immediate family and familiar cultural/religious norms for comfort. It would be the same for my sons had I immigrated when they were in their teens to, for instance, South Korea. In S. Korean, 'skinship' among boys is a cultural 'norm'. But my sons would have probably assumed that every young Korean male was gay and not been comfortable at all...except for my youngest son who IS gay...and who would then be living in a culture where it's ok to act gay so long as you're not gay. Talk about confusing!
It sounds like you've had the opportunity, over the years, to quietly observe the social differences in cultures and are able to pick and choose, to some extent, what is and is not important to you. Unfortunately, you are now at an age where it is difficult, even for American born men and women, to begin meeting new people, whether for friendship or dating. Difficult, but not impossible, especially if you find key commonalities in the people you meet. Though I regularly watch Kdrama, I suspect that the bollywood melodramas you mentioned as having played a role in your "quest for true love", probably also ascribe to the 'norms' of your family's culture and influence your thoughts on what is 'ideal'.
So, in my honest opinion, my third piece of advice would simply be.....don't change who you are and stick with what you know. While you may be very comfortable and understand the importance of socializing and developing friendships with people of all kinds and colors....you may find yourself best suited for a successful relationship with a woman who shares and can/will appreciate your same cultural 'norms' and values. She may be looking and waiting too! | |
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| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 4/24/2012 10:50:45 PM | | By "he" do you mean you? In this world I guess it isn't normal because sex is pressured into peoples lives, why? I'm not sure exactly people are just like "let's go out and get polluted and possibly get someone knocked up so we can have children as stupid as we are!" and then there's always the ball busters that watched one too many Seth Rogen movies and actually think if you don't get laid constantly then you're pathetic. Personally I'd say thats very normal and perfectly ok be who you want to be and don't worry about what's "normal" I had to completely change my life recently because I cared what people thought but honestly generally people just suck. You or "he" as you say should just wait til you find someone you really care about. It actually makes me more sad that you or this person actually cares about whether or not it's normal, just live your life you don't need to be humping everything anyways and people love you don't feel like you're trying to get sympathy because you're perfectly normal! | |
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| Virgin And Over 30
Posted: 9/19/2012 8:10:01 AM | ^^^
I broke my vow and made the profile again. No I am not in the cult.
And seriously, I don't care any more if I find a woman or not. | |
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