| | Dates who show up, see you, and then leave...Page 2 of 5 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5) | | OP, he was a rude ignorant buffoon and you dodged a bullet with that one, but I do have a question out of curiousity. Did your friend who went out with him , know that he had already done this to you ? | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 6:17:48 AM | | No, my friend didn't know that. I had mentioned that I thought I had seen him in the sunglasses and hat at the counter, but I didn't know. Then somehow it came up when they were at the movies the other night (they were actually seeing each other for awhile and I actually became friends with her because when they fought she posted that he was a jerk on his facebook wall and I messaged her asking if he really was a jerk, since I had almost met him). | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 6:34:35 AM | | I wouldn't do this. Even if I wasn't attracted to a woman. I could have a cordial conversation, enjoy the activity, and make the most of it. In this situation, the date would probably be an hour at the most. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 7:00:08 AM | OP, I'm sorry this happened to you because you were offended by it, but in all honesty while this has never happened to me, there are times I would have preferred a drive-by and a punt. In one case, like you, I sent a guy a ton of very recent pics and we became FB friends. He seemed interested and we made a date. I met him at a Starbucks and he came up. The way his face fell when he saw me made my heart wrench, but I tried to write it off to nervousness on his part. He gamely went on with the date, we had a really cool conversation for about 20 minutes, he told me it was nice having met me and we'd chat again soon. When I got home, I saw he had blocked me on the site and had deleted me from FB.
So it hurt my feelings probably more than if he'd done a drive by and decided he wasn't into it. Sometimes "politeness" doesn't serve either party, though if I were in a situation where I wasn't immediately attracted and the person hadn't misled me with his pics, I'd probably not leave. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 8:00:43 AM | | thats why meeting online is the worst.Better off meet someone in a spontaneous situation like in the supermarket or in a public place its a better deal for both parties. Online dating is like applying for a job interview. He might look good in this pic Maybe he looks bad in that pic blah blah. Overall it stinks . It just leaves too much room for excuses. Meet someone right off the bat bang ! Instant attraction . No need for the preambles | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 1:00:15 PM |
I was tired and wore a baseball cap... ...... tired in a bseball cap......dirty overalls........stubble...............*drools* ops, getting carried away....
OP, you seam like a nice girl, there are all kinds of weird out there, most concentrated on the world of on-line dating its seams.....thank the stars you didnt have to sit for 20 mins talking to someone so rude and arrogant to do such a thing, not the kind of person you would want to spend any decent time with.....yes I am board of meeting people who cant be bothered to wash thier dirty hair or clean thier teeth before a meet but I always order a cold drink, quicker to down and leave than a hot coffee, but I wouldnt walk out without actually saying something..... | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 1:18:14 PM | Never done this myself. By the time I've actually arrived for a date i'd just be to damn curious to walk off even if jabba the hutt himself was sat at the table waiting for me.
I mean you can have a good time on a date no matter if you end up clicking or not, And I like to give people a fair chance.
I honestly believe you can have a great date with almost anyone its all down to you.
Actually come to think of it i've never had a bad date, had some wierd dates but never a bad one. Had plenty of dates where the person I met didnt look like or didnt act how I had expected them too. But that doesnt have to be a bad thing | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 4:41:48 PM | Hello,
I am very sorry to have that happen to you first of all & I am not being pretentious with you either. I am writing to share & sympathsize.
See, if this possibly makes you feel any better (which I hope it will), I am in exactly & have been in the same boat as you. I can't tell you the number of times where I really "clicked" w/ a guy say off a telephone line service & we decided to meet at a restaurant. Once we got there, I know he saw me & just left. I can't tell you too, how really upset I was b/c it's just downright horrible how ignorant & judgemental people are.
Personally, I think it's disgusting b/c it is just simply rude.
One good phrase I was told, "Why would you ever want to be with someone who doesn't simply want to be with you?" Consider it seriously, a blessing that you didn't have to deal with him or his ignorance.
I hope you find success & good luck. Cheers. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 4:51:17 PM | I have met so few people, I have never had this done but it sounds like you are better off for it lol.
I just dont understand what goes through people's minds. A little honest communication can go a long way. I conversed with a guy for over a week. Current pics on my end, several long text conversations that seemed to show we would get along fairly well and had some things in common. We met, had a few drinks, talked for 5 hours, closed the place down. Had a good night kiss that lasted an hour in the parking lot. Said good night. Got a text on the way home saying he "got home fine, hoped I did too, that he definitely wanted to see me again...soon". I said yes. I texted him the next day before work, saying thanks again and that I had a good time. NOT another word from him. No return texts, no messages on PoF explaining a word. I gave him 4 days and messaged him saying that he could have been honest...I will never understand what can prompt someone to do something like this or what was done to you...Sorry about the thread hijack... | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 5:15:24 PM | | I've had women do that to me and it's pretty sucky. I always go through with a date even if I'm certain that this person isn't a match for me. It comes down to common civilty. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 5:35:12 PM |
one word to prevent this: SKYPE
Is that a secret potion that stops all morons from acting like a moron????? Idiots will always be idiots, and will always act like idiots. And there are a bunch of em out there. While dating you are BOUND to meet at least one or two(or come close to meeting em), and with that you get to see the type of people they are by their actions. It's percentages,,,basic math really. | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 8:49:57 PM | I'm not saying its right or wrong, here is why....
I had a friend (I swear its not me) who was on a dating site and for the most part her profile was accurate...except....nowhere did she mentioned that she was a bit full and !
All her pics were of her face and neck and she has one of those skinny faces that doesnt neccessarily match the rest of her. oh and how could I forget...she would indicate that she was petite...am a woman, so I know what petite means but MOST men, (not all) think small alround. SO she has been on couple of dates in which the men see her...ALL OF HER and just say no, I can't do this and leave.
I tried telling her that she needs to show full body pics and say that she's petite with curves, etc. because they r men out there who like that...I mean she has a twin who is full figure, married and with kids..so there is a cover for every pot.
SO for those folks who date online and don't indicate and/or hide obvious physical features and surprise their dates...be prepared to be left...but if ur honest he/she could just be a jerk and its their lost! | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 9:09:11 PM | | There is no better way to meet someone than face to face spontaneous. Online dating just gives someone the option of finding faults in photos. If you meet someone in a supermarket or any other public place and you hit it off , then its a match. I doubt you would ask a guy for a pic after he just introduced himself. Online dating is a joke never works | |
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Posted: 4/2/2012 9:42:03 PM |
Does anyone else have any stories like this?
I posted a thread here earlier this week because a girl showed up to a meet, brought a friend last-minute, spent half the time there in the bathroom with her friend, and came up with some fake "emergency" after being there less than 5 min. I was absolutely shocked because nothing like this had ever happened to me before!
Chalk it up to a bad experience and try not to let it bother you. This site, and the internet in general, give people the opportunity to be as rude as possible without feeling any remorse for it. Consider yourself lucky to have been spared any further time around this guy. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 8:04:32 AM | Aww, sorry and hate to hear that it happened to you. The world if full of people who do strange things. I do my own share of stupid things but try not to be rude. That was just rude.
Besides, you really can't tell if a person is your type without talking to them. Unless there is zero physical attraction. I always believed that you can't see psycho - you have to hear it.
Don't fret, you are attractive and I'd cut off my left foot to get a date with someone as pretty as you. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 9:58:24 AM | OP (I always assume everyone is talking about Optimus Prime when I read or write that!) has plenty of pictures of herself on her profile. I don’t understand why the chap only decided she wasn’t his type when he saw her in the flesh? Surely he must have checked out her pics online?
If you agree on meeting on that basis, then surely the least you can do is talk to her and find out if you DO get on? What a cowardly idiot. Russell5417 is correct — he saved you wasting any more time with that fool. | |
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Posted: 4/3/2012 12:46:40 PM | Yeh the crazy things both men and women may do while dating never stop amazing me.
Their are ofcourse some things you can do to minimise the chances of such things happening, But ofcourse no matter how prepared you are it can still go wrong.
Personally I will normally give someone my facebook details before i meet them, So they can see me from every angle the good the bad and the ugly lol. Then atleast if they dont like what they see I dont waste my time planning a date.
That'd be my advise talk to them on the phone and see a good variety of pictures before meeting each other and then your more likely to know what your getting when you go to meet someone.
As others have said the internet can never replace real face to face dating. You can tell so much more from a 5minute real life conversation with someone than seeing photos online and talking to them for hours on end in messages.
Is why its important to not waste to long messaging | |
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