| | If a person initiates contact with you on POF, do you expect for them to have read your profile?Page 3 of 7 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7) | It seems like it would make sense for guys to take the time to look at photos and to read the profiles of interest, and to write the ones who are of real interest rather just sending out tons of emails and seeing who may answer them.
When I was looking to date, that's what I did with the ones who messaged me. I would first see his photo and then read his profile. There were few I had real interest in and those are the ones who got messages beyond a thank you. | |
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| If a person initiates contact with you on POF, do you expect for them to have read your profile?
Posted: 4/20/2012 9:46:01 AM | I can't imagine why one would contact someone on a dating site without bothering to read their profile.
Most Men on sites look at photos most times and, fail to look at your profile. LOL
If your picture is attractive, some will ask you to send more by personal email.
That's the internet dating for you. LOL
Of course, there are always a few exceptions, some read first. | |
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| If a person initiates contact with you on POF, do you expect for them to have read your profile?
Posted: 4/24/2012 9:13:21 PM | I don't have a problem with someone initiating contact without having read the profile so much what bothers me is someone ho after the initial contact never bothers to look at the profile to see if we share interests and then worse yet asks you questions that are answered in the profile
But much more annoying than that is people who write two line responses to full page letters and think that is a response to be considered an excuse for you to write them again.
Although at this point no one has written me in a while so I guess even the two liners would be somewhat better than nothing. | |
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| If a person initiates contact with you on POF, do you expect for them to have read your profile?
Posted: 5/1/2012 7:44:44 PM |
If I get a generic "Hi" email - I will respond back with a quick friendly note asking what it was about my profile that interested them and then I comment on something in their profile that interests me. I can't say this is terribly successful as I don't usually hear back at that point - but I feel like I am cutting out at least some of the "scammers".
You actually reply?
I'm a guy that puts a lot of thought and effort into a first contact after reading a ladies profile. I even go to the extent of opening it in a separate window to reference as I write but if I get one response in 100 I'm shocked. | |
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| If a person initiates contact with you on POF, do you expect for them to have read your profile?
Posted: 5/2/2012 11:09:43 AM |
Lot of women on here are just playing games.
So are a lot of men. There are a few I maintain regular contact with, but they mostly are not anywhere near my city, or even my state. The last time I contacted a man first on POF, I got a really rude response, following which he blocked me. It never occurred to me that anyone would be insulted by being complimented on a well written profile. The only reason I stay on POF is to take part in the forums now. | |
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| If a person initiates contact with you on POF, do you expect for them to have read your profile?
Posted: 5/2/2012 11:41:30 AM |
I even go to the extent of opening it in a separate window to reference as I write but if I get one response in 100 I'm shocked.
That seems like lot of effort for little result. Why not just say - "I read your profile and find you attractive. Write me back if you are interested" If they do write back, then you could put more effort.
I've yet to hear anyone refer to anything I wrote on my profile. Every email I got was about my pictures. On top of that, most women don't put any relevant information on their profile. Typically I'll see something like "I'm hardworking, love the beach, run, love spending time with friend/family" It never fails and I rarely write back or just say thank you. | |
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Posted: 5/2/2012 12:12:33 PM | | At the end of my profile it says, "Please don't just click 'wants to meet'" but I get 7-10 "wants to meet you" a day. So it's obvious he has NOT read my profile. But to figure out if I want to meet him, I would have to go to his profile because I'm not going on looks alone. So he expects me to either a) respond on just his looks; or b) go read his profile even though he has obviously not read mine. Sorry, but no. | |
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| If a person initiates contact with you on POF, do you expect for them to have read your profile?
Posted: 5/2/2012 7:38:38 PM | | I absolutely think they should have viewed the profile and hope something in their message refers back to something in my profile which can start a conversation. I get quite a few profile reviews, possibly because it makes women laugh and smile a bit. Many messages are just nice compliments on making them smile. I do wonder at times though which is looked at first when a message is received -- the profile of the sender or the message they sent. | |
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| If a person initiates contact with you on POF, do you expect for them to have read your profile?
Posted: 5/26/2012 12:46:45 PM | I also think someone should read my profile before initiating contact.
I've had more than my share of men who click on my picture that they would like to meet me. Then, when I read their profile and respond, I never hear from them again AT ALL. It would sure help to alleviate the feelings I have of how shallow so many people are to want to meet you just on the basis of a picture alone vs. initiating contact based upon mutual likes and interests.
I, personally, do not initiate contact with ANYONE without reading their profile first. But I've also found that over half of those show as "read, deleted" so I can only assume they are also judging me based on my picture only. | |
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| If a person initiates contact with you on POF, do you expect for them to have read your profile?
Posted: 5/26/2012 9:26:35 PM | Many men do not read a profile before contacting someone. They often knee jerk react to a photo and initiate contact. That is one of the reasons I removed the photo from my profile. I am here just to participate in the forum discussions, not looking for a relationship. If a man took the time to read what I had to say they would see the following roadblocks...
Title at the top says: I have found someone
City: Not looking the Virgin Islands (I live in Ohio)
Education: high school ( I have an MD and PhD)
I am Seeking a: woman ( I am not seeking anyone, but this is again a way to try and make myself
more invisible)
Profession: CO2 production
Interests: shooting the breeze, jumping to conclusions, chewing the fat, throwing tantrums, running around in circles and minding my own business
About Me: I have found someone here on POF. All I want is to read the forum posts, share on the threads and
keep up with some online friends.
First Date :
I would bring him home to my house and see how much of a domestic god he really was by letting him wash my sinkful of dishes and wash my pile of dirty laundry. If he passes that test, he might even get to run a vacuum, and change the sheets on the bed.
Now when I get a message from a man I immediately know if he bothered to read my profile.
There are some men who will say, congratulations on meeting someone. Anyone who gives me a line about anything to do with meeting and getting to know me, whatever line they use to break the ice, clearly did not read a word I wrote. them I may respond to and tell them thanks but no thanks, if they had taken the time to look beyond my photo they would see I am a forumite, and not fishing. | |
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Posted: 5/27/2012 6:50:07 AM | Oh my--LOLOL, is that a man in a speedo lying on his bed up there, CRkid??? I must say, the pic did draw me to peek at your profile just to explore this aspect of human behavior...LOL. Look out, folks, if I decide to post me in a bikini on my bed...that will take POF to a whole new level of "daaaayum, WTH !!!" LOL....aaah well....still laughing.
Expect anything from POF?????? Naaah :) just enjoying the mystery/discovery and open to life's possibilities in the process. :) | |
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| If a person initiates contact with you on POF, do you expect for them to have read your profile?
Posted: 5/30/2012 12:34:05 AM |
I always know when someone hasn't read my profile. The ones that start their email with I Loved Your Profile. Yeah right. Then you ask them what it was that they liked and you never hear from them again LOL
That's funny because I just had the opposite happen to me. I contacted a guy and said how much I enjoyed his profile, so he asks me what I liked about it. I told him exactly what I liked. I never heard from him again. ???? go figure!! | |
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