| | Impotence Erectile Dysfunction and how to start a relationshipPage 3 of 3 (1, 2, 3) | Well if it works while watching porn then he must have the image of the sexy women in his head so when he actually has a woman in real his little man does not work, as the women dont have the sexy bodies like the ones he lusts after in the porn movies .
Poster below me i take it you know that some bp medications can cause Erectile Dysfunction | |
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Posted: 4/11/2012 3:38:54 PM | Adge I am aware of the correlation between CHD ( Chronic Heart Disease) and ED.
This is the reason i have niacin, statins, bp medication and visit the gym almost every day. I can now do an hour of HIT (High Intensity Training) without much problems.
However, Thanks for reminding everybody on here about this, this message should not be missed.
Just to re-iterate my issue is both Psych and physical. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2012 4:11:17 PM | | ....It's always wise to come to Forums like this to spew out your most personal issues, real and imaginary, often I have thought of topics scraping the barrel for attention, this one...unlike you ...is right up there. I'm not really a doctor, but perhaps taking a bunt hacksaw to the poor wee man might be the answer and be done with it. I can't wait to see how it works out for you. | |
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Posted: 4/11/2012 9:51:50 PM | > often I have thought of topics
Lets hope you don't end up like me and banned from being unable to post any new topics (And limited to 5 posts per day max as it is.) for daring to even stick their head above the parapet, if it wasn't for guys like this, we would have nothing worthwhile to talk about at all! | |
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Posted: 4/12/2012 11:12:31 AM | Firstly and most important...let a relationship develop, you'll find women are more sympathetic if they know who you are.
Second, drop the expectations...at this time you'll be lucky if it works. Let it be and it will work.
Third, in spite of all the adverts on telly, they still know very little about the causes of ED. More often than not you'll know more than they do, take control.
Being brutal, if porn works, then why not just shut your eyes and fantasise while you are on the job as it were. First they will never know anyway and if it breaks the hold ED has over you, it's justified...you can always open your eyes later.
There's a lot more ED around than people believe...most blokes keep pretty quiet about it....usually the ones who crack jokes about it for example.
You can have your heart tested a million times and they still won't find what is right in front of them anyway more often than not....The NHS does not like to spend money...but I digress.
Most important, forgive yourself...it is NOT your fault.
Bob. | |
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Posted: 4/12/2012 12:12:34 PM | Stress of any kind can cause this problem. I knew a guy that was under a lot of stress at work, put in long hours, was invariably exhausted mentally and had financial worries. When it happened to him the first time, he then added this worry to his already overloaded system and it became a problem for many months. The more he tried, the worse it got and in the end he stopped trying.
Eventually his work and financial problems eased and his normal function returned.
In a new relationship situation, I think so long as you let the woman know before going to bed for the first time, most would be sympathetic. There are lots of ways to give each other pleasure without it being penetrative sex and maybe as you learn not to be stressed normal function might start to return. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2012 2:00:43 AM | Well I've not read the other replies so am probably repeating words of others', however if someone was special enough as a person to me, this would not matter. I have had a serious relationship with someone who had had a penilectomy so these are not just empty words.
There are decent women out there who would be happy to get round this problem; you just have to give them a chance. "What's the point" isn't being fair to you or them. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2012 3:33:26 AM | ^^^^^^^^^
That's quite true, my erectile is far to sensitive to discern between right and left hand...No way did I risk your "profile"
Still back on topic...lets get medial. Does it change colour ? Have any involuntrary action? Answer to any commands whasoever? Can you rely on it to do anything sensible? Does it squint? Does it answer to a good beating?..I have many more questions of a medical nature that could easily be confused with owning a Jack Russel. | |
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Posted: 4/13/2012 5:06:46 AM | mate.sorry to hear all of this..
listen send me a pm with your name and address and i will send you some pills to try..they are FOC..and these always work..
i sell them and run a vending business..
nothing ventured nothing gained
good luck..i am being serious here..
Dave | |
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Posted: 4/13/2012 11:40:44 AM | | Msg 49, i would be devastated if i couldn't raise a smile so really feel for the guy, some women on here don't like it when you stick up for the lads and some suggested i don't like women How do they know then you will always get the ****es talk behind your back. | |
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Posted: 4/15/2012 7:58:59 AM | my problems arrive when met by an ugly woman who smells and all that jazz.
i have a few drinks and says its not to bad if the rooms dark.
my john thomas say,s "i aint going in there"
there you have my failsafe kicks in lol | |
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Posted: 8/7/2012 2:29:24 PM | | oh it doesnt sound as if you have a problem with your erectile function at all. its just you sound confused. sort out what you want. if you want children its easy find a partner who wants children, the issues around sex will melt into the background. the fact that you wer able to have a lot of sex in the past is immaterial you are older now, and i have to say you dont sound that much wiser, sorry, but it is true. if you want a partner to have children with concentrate on those issues, who will want me enough to commit to twenty odd years of their life and believe in my ability to care for them and support my children for that time. in those terms = where is sex in teh equation? i hope you get some sense. good luck though | |
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Posted: 9/30/2012 10:36:41 AM | I haven't read all the posts on here, but here is what I know about the subject: It is really common as a man gets older, but there are remedies. Of course there are the usual drugs like Viagra or Cialis. The biggest problem is the mental block or emotional damage. Men are embarrassed by this issue. No man ever openly says, "Hey, I can't get an erection. Know any cures?" It takes a patient girlfriend or wife to get past the emotional block that keeps a man from relaxing and enjoying sex.
One technique is for the woman to give a hand job. Use some lubricant and start by wrapping the fingers around the penis and gently pulling on it until the fingers slide off. Some men like a ring finger made around the base and slide all the way up the shaft and past the head and off. Almost like your are trying to pull it off and your hand slips off, but be gentle. Do this over and over again and the penis should become hard. Do it fast or slow, depending on need. Even if the guy can't get it hard he should have an orgasm.
Another technique is to give a full body massage, so the guy can relax and trust the woman he is with.
For the women: Realize that from day to day it is going to be different. Some days good, other days bad. If things don't work, just shrug and don't make a scene. If a woman gets upset because her partner can't get an erection, he will lose confidence and won't be able to get past it. Getting upset is the last thing a woman should do.
As for the men: Be honest and tell your intended partner what your issue is. Most women are understanding, if they aren't then they won't be understanding about anything. | |
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Posted: 10/1/2012 11:21:36 AM | Most of the responses have been well thought out and with good intentions. I know I will be in the minority but I feel here in the UK we are very poor in sorting this prevalent problem among males. The responses have been predominantly on the psychological side and most of these responses as I have said have been pretty good. However I feel the physiological side of things has taken an all too familiar back seat when discussing issues of this nature. I am going to go out on the whim here, but more often than not to solve your problem at your age is - more TESTOSTERONE. That is it. You talk about blood tests and nobody mentions get tested for testosterone. If it were me, that is where I would begin. Ironically the cardiovascular and heart problems that a few posters are alluding to is also sorted with testosterone injections. A decline in the thyroid and hormones affect everything else in the body. The biggest killer in life is aging right? So get your hormone levels back to a younger mans' and your older man problems go away. It is as simple as that. Your plan of action should be to use your GP to get to your endocrinologist.
How to start? First go to your GP and get your testosterone tested. See him/her again for the results. He/she quite often will tell you, 'your test levels are normal' rendering you again impotent with the answers (excuse the pun). But don't despair, make sure to ask, 'what is my specific testosterone number' and wait for the answer. See, the UK parameters of what constitutes a normal testosterone reading varies from 10 to 34. 10 being lowest normal, 34 being highest normal. GP's (bless them) go by this religiously, but endocrinologist (the experts on these issues) prefer men to be giving a reading of the mid to high 20s. My father recently was told that his was 'normal' by his GP. My father asked what was his specific reading and it came in (wait for it) and incredible 8. A reading of 8 was considered normal by this GP! Moron. My father immediately demanded an appointment with his endocrinologist and long story cut short, the endocrinologist did further tests but said immediately that it looks very likely his problems where due to his low testosterone count. Low and behold my father has started Test replacement therapy (TRT) and has not looked back. Other things my father has noticed is that the pain in his calves almost disappeared over night, he has added about 20% on to his tee shots on the golf course and is feeling 20 years younger. My poor mother though, she must be knackered!!
I will conclude with a bit of trivia here. How do you think Stallone, Willis, Gibson and Penn et al are looking rather buff for their age and are still thriving doing their own stunts in the action genres? Just a good diet and a little exercise? Come on, be smarter than that! The anti aging boom in the USA is much more in-depth than ours. When we talk about 'anti-aging' in the UK we talk about face lotions and injections to get the best out of outer epidermis. The USA's 'anti-aging' on the other hand is hormone manipulation - in the form of regularly Human Growth Hormone (HGH) and Testosterone injections. OP, put your efforts of research into these areas and you will uncover some pretty insightful findings. All the best. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2012 3:57:37 AM | Good point I have had an appointment with the Endocrinologists, my testosterone level was normal.
However the Dr did say that even if the levels were low, there are a lot of side effects of TRT the major one being Cancer eeek. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2012 4:34:32 AM | Again, the GP has given you an outdated argument. I wonder if all of them spout the same crap in this subject? They probably got away with it because men being men find it notoriously difficult to voice their needs on this issue. This is changing though and the GP's better get a new rhetoric.
Benign prostate cancer (will be the one the GP is referring to) is the domain of an older man. Think about it this way, older men get this type of cancer and at the same time their testosterone is dropping rapidly. I am no endocrinologist, but I think I see a link here. The new school of thought now is to increase the testosterone to prevent this form of cancer. Furthermore, if you get this form of therapy your health will be treated like a king for then on. You will get regular blood tests to see not just where your testosterone is sitting but also all your other particulars like your thyroid, cholesterol etc. So if any of the numbers give cause for concern the medicine can be scaled back or increased depending on your needs.
Testosterone gets a bad wrap because of the abuse cases from athletes and particularly bodybuilders. Lets put this in perspective. TRT doses are medicinal amounts. It works a bit like an anti- depressant in that the doctor will find the amount you are lacking and give you that amount back. You are not abusing this powerful hormone - you are simply restoring it. On the other hand body-builders, 'kick the s hit' out of this hormone and get all the side effects associated with it. For example, a typical TRT patient will get between 125mg to 250 mg of testosterone a month. Bodybuilders and athletes will typically use 1000mg a week!!!! That is the difference here - use versus abuse. You will use this drug, they abuse this drug. Hope this helps. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:37:10 AM | I know you say your problem is mental as opposed to physical, but I, like many other guys I suspect, went through a bit of a bad patch a few years ago, so I gave these Chinese herbal pills a go - and boy did they work!
The Nanny state has recently banned them, not making enough cash for the exchequer I would think, and now you can't get them any more.
Easy said, I know, but the more you make a problem out of it, the more entrenched and difficult to eradicate it will become. Just try and concentrate on your orgasm inducing, stud like past and see if you can gradually re-build your confidence - good luck with it anyway. | |
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Posted: 10/2/2012 9:48:51 AM | if in your sheet a wigwam lives
reaches for the sky
how come in this room you sit
instead of in bed with the night?
to the Op...
if your issue is psychological
then talk to whoever it is
the little blue pill
won't help much
if the female is making you ill | |
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