| | wants to date but nothing serious. Page 9 of 9 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6, 7, 8, 9) | It's also a way to hold off women who obviously care more for the commitment than they do for the man. HOw absurdly profound, or profoundly absurd? Either way; HOW TRUE!!
Brilliant!! Let's throw the baby out with the bath water!!
well its mainly women who have this on their profiles strangely enough Sort says alot doesn't it. ;)
Indeed it does---it begs the question: How would he know it's mainly women unless he looked at other men's profiles? | |
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Posted: 4/26/2012 6:48:03 PM |
Indeed it does---it begs the question: How would he know it's mainly women unless he looked at other men's profiles
OOoo; nice catch!
I dont understand the baby bathwater bit; but this one's ^ funny. (nice one) | |
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Posted: 4/27/2012 10:03:50 PM | I think there is way too much debate here. It's hard to know which "drop down" to choose because your reader will have their own perception--no matter what you actually mean. I have been totally shocked at times when someone told me what they "thought" I meant about a number of things in my profile. Communication people!
My opinion is that most people are open to a relationship if they find the right person. But no one wants to be pushed. Fear of being pushed or rushed sometimes causes me to pick "nothing serious". Yet ultimately, relationship is the final goal. And don't most relationships start with some kind of friendship progressing to more? Dating, friendship, relationship, all need to be decided by the two people involved as they get to know each other. Honestly, I rarely pay any attention to what is checked in that area. There is so much to sort out when meeting someone new--this box is pretty irrevelant. The right connection leads to relationship. The wrong connection stays at nothing serious. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2012 1:18:10 PM | | Baha, I have bounced back and forth my intent To "wants to date but nothing serious" to "looking for a relatiopnship" because When it was at "just wants to date", I was attracting the "Hey wanna hook up" . But that is not what I want. Seriously, what I want is someone to catch a movie with or have a drink with, I'm not ready to be exclusive. But I wasn't pleased with the "responses " I was getting on that setting, so I switched to "looking for a relationship". Now I'm getting the needy, OMG, I want to marry you right away " type . urggghhh, it is frusturating for sure. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2012 3:39:54 PM | | to me it means date then if connection lead to relationship,not want get to serious to quick.not just have sex move on,looking for relationship with right girl. | |
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Posted: 4/28/2012 8:01:06 PM | | I think there may be a gender difference here. When a man puts that on his profile, I think it probably means, as some of the ladies here have mentioned, that he wants casual sex with not commitment. However, it is my experience when a lady writes that she is looking more for a friend of the opposite sex to go out with for dinner and other social occasions with no emotional complications and no expectaction of an intimate relationship. After one experience, I do not date women with this status on their profile. | |
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Posted: 4/29/2012 10:28:18 PM |
I was attracting the "Hey wanna hook up
To guys like me; that just means 'connect'.
There's nothing sexual about it.
If I wanted debauchery, I'd be a bit more temptuous.
;)
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Posted: 5/18/2012 11:39:47 PM | | I initially had mine set up as wants to date but nothing serious because i want to take things slow. Then I kept being contacted by guys who clearly wanted only sex. So i changed it to wants a relationship even tho I still want to take things slow. I agree with what others have said above, you need to clarify things on an individual basis and trust your instincts. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2012 12:07:18 AM | Oops! Looks like my "Isn't seeking a relationship..." status may be interpreted as an open mating call! Who knew?
It's a dating site, so dates are expected, I guess. It just seems to me that, if every date you go on is a tryout for the love of your life, you're bound for a world of disappointment.
I liked what the guy said about no expectations...
The guy (or woman) who is "actively seeking a relationship" might be one who would latch on to any willing passer-by...
Oh well. Misconceptions are easily corrected, I guess. | |
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Posted: 5/19/2012 12:23:14 AM | CuriousFantasyWriter,
I agree with you. I have a friend put them same intentions up about wants to date but nothing serious because she wants to take things slowly. Nothing worse than rushing something and then finding out down the road that it was not meant to be. I want a relationship, however I choose also to take things slow too because it gives you a chance to get to know each other in all areas life, how they might be around your family, handling money, how she / he sees you with your set of friends, etc. That's the start of gaining trust. | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 10:02:16 AM |
However, it is my experience when a lady writes that she is looking more for a friend of the opposite sex to go out with for dinner and other social occasions with no emotional complications and no expectaction of an intimate relationship.
So what do I as a man write to show that that's what I'm looking for? | |
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Posted: 7/11/2012 4:54:47 PM | | what it means is the person wants to date someone & meet up as friends & see how it goes as in go with the flow it dont always mean they want casual sex relationships are built from a friendship | |
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Posted: 3/27/2013 9:50:00 PM | if guys like that message me they get a super cold shoulder
I'm not looking for anything casual I like relationships and to be tied down to a man
I'm not interested in having male "friends" or FWB, or anything like that
If I can't call you my own keep moving
I don't play in mud I like to play in the sand | |
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Posted: 3/28/2013 1:58:07 PM |
My opinion is that most people are open to a relationship if they find the right person.
I totally agree. I would even say a vast majority of people, who are truly single and not hot off the rebound. Doesn't mean they have any itch -- but with the right person, there becomes an itch with That person.
But no one wants to be pushed. Fear of being pushed or rushed sometimes causes me to pick "nothing serious".
Totally agree. It's what you're looking for -- nothing serious. One doesn't want to start things out as too serious... and whether they take things too slow or not, it doesn't = commitment-phobe. Many people want to jump into things a bit too soon. Or if they like you off the bat moreso than you like them, you'll feel a "push" many times, which nobody likes. Wanting to avoid that pre-emptively I'm sure makes one want to say "date but nothing serious" as their initial marker.
The right connection leads to relationship. The wrong connection stays at nothing serious.
I agree. And in that initial phase, not dating seriously does not mean they don't take the Person Seriously. There's a difference. Just because folks who don't take others seriously are ones who don't want to date seriously with them, does not mean not wanting to date seriously at first = not taking them seriously as a person. | |
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Posted: 3/28/2013 3:01:42 PM | | The "but nothing serious" part will scare off the women who are desperately husband hunting, where dating must lead to marriage, but for the rest of the people, does it really matter which label is used? Does it change any rules when it comes to dating? It will still be the guy's job to chase the woman. wine and dine her and do all of the work to impress and entertain her, whether it's labelled "nothing serious" or "looking for a relationship". So these labels don't mean anything to me. I avoid extremely desperate women who are more worried about wedding plans in the near future with the next guy they meet, regardless of who that guy is and will take the approach mentioned previously, where the amount of seriousness depends on how I feel about the way things are going at the time. So the first few dates start off as nothing serious, but where it goes after that is up in the air. I don't have a specific deadline and schedule to follow. | |
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