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| Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 9/20/2009 7:32:22 AM |
Pathetic! Say what you want after this...
Lot's of people spend time in the forums - yourself included. I have a relationship through a computer because when you are living at a distance from each other the computer, phone, letters, texts etc is all you have with each other. I have a realtionship, you "pathetic" twit. You don't. I have spent several months in person with this lady, and I am planning a life with her. My next in person visit is only one month away.
There are many coupled people who enjoy reading and commenting in the POF forums. I happen to be one of them. Deal with it you, "Judgemental, twit! " One word comes to mind describing you: Jealousy!
Get out of your house. Stop masterbating. Be social. Make friends. Make plans. Go to restaurants, bars, clubs, sports events, social gatherings, etc......Grab your balls. Man up. Approach the woman. Instigate conversation. Next thing you know.....she just might like you and no more cyber sex. Its not rocket science!
So why are you a single man commenting on POF? Pathetic!
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| Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 9/20/2009 8:00:15 AM | | When I did it, it was with women I didn't know off-computer, who were always several states away and I might not have been (or wouldn't have been) compatible with in real life anyway. Sort of like FWB. Most of them I never even saw pictures of. And when other relationships take priority (esp. anything serious IRL) it's understood that we can't keep doing it. | |
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| Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 9/23/2009 11:01:43 PM | http://www.abc.net.au/news/stories/2009/09/24/2695603.htm?section=justin
More support for internet sex addicts needed
By Gus Goswell
Posted September 24, 2009 15 00
According to the survey women prefer to use web cameras or spend time in chat rooms.
According to the survey women prefer to use web cameras or spend time in chat rooms. (ABC News: Giulio Saggin, file photo)
* Map: Melbourne 3000
A Melbourne psychologist says a study of 1300 internet users who engage in cyber sex shows significant levels of infidelity and addiction.
Marcus Squirrell carried out the research as part of his professional doctorate at Melbourne's Swinburne University.
He recruited survey participants by advertising within cyber sex user groups, sites that are generally used by people who spend a greater than average amount of time engaged in cyber sexual activities.
Mr Squirrell's survey shows men have a strong preference for looking at pornographic pictures and videos, while women are twice as likely to use web cameras, to send sexually explicit emails or spend time in chat rooms.
Almost half of those who took part in the survey live in North America; 12 per cent said they were Australians.
The average respondent was male, well-educated, and in their early forties.
Around 40 per cent of respondents identified themselves as heterosexual, with others listing their sexual orientation as gay, lesbian or bi-sexual.
While the average participant in Mr Squirrell's sample group said they spent just over 12 hours a week engaging in sexual activity online, some people reported engaging in cyber sex for up to ten hours a day.
Mr Squirrell says while not all sexual activity online is harmful, some people are desperate to overcome an addiction to online sex.
He treats about seven online sex addicts at his practice in Melbourne's inner south.
"They're absolutely at the end of their tether, in terms of being able to control their behaviour themself. Clients will even go as far as putting filters and blocks on websites. They've often made changes like putting their computer into other rooms."
'I've got one client who frequently looks at cyber sex at work and just struggles to control that behaviour."
Mr Squirrell's research revealed a high incidence of infidelity among those engaging in cyber sex.
Of the 1325 people who completed the questionnaire, 55 per cent said they were either married or in a serious offline relationship.
"I suppose one of the problems with it is that when you engage in cyber sex frequently enough, the actual arousal pattern to your partner often diminishes and it actually gets replaced with the online images," he said.
"There's lots of people who report they actually prefer engaging in cyber sex and looking at pornography and masturbating online, than actual face-to-face-encounters."
Mr Squirrell says online infidelity can have the same impact on a partner as other forms of cheating.
"Even if somebody isn't actually meeting up with somebody online it has the same sorts of ramifications as a face-to-face affair, because people feel that they've been cheated on even if the partner's just looking at pictures."
Mr Squirrell says he often suggests people fighting an addiction to cyber sex install filtering devices or join support groups such as Sex Addicts Anonymous, which offer a 12-step program based on the Alcoholics Anonymous model.
He says it is important to realise that not all cyber sexual activity is harmful.
"Most people can engage in cyber sex and take it or leave it. But there is significant minority, like there is with all addictions, where the behaviour just gets absolutely completely out of control."
Mr Squirrell says there's a need for more support services for people who do want to overcome their online sex addiction.
"There's very few people out there who really specialise in the area," he said.
"What I'm trying to get off the ground is actually an e-therapy program like they have for some other conditions, with training modules where people can actually go through the process of treatment online and engage with a therapist occasionally."
"As far as I know there's nothing like that currently in the world." | |
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| Cyber sex
Posted: 9/24/2009 10:19:16 AM | | Isn’t that how computers reproduce? | |
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| Cyber sex
Posted: 9/24/2009 10:38:02 AM | | I've pretty much done it all. Who cares anyway? If you feel horny, it's better than doing it alone. It's pretty much living out a kind of fantasy, but interacting (albeit through computer, phone, whatever) with another person. | |
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| Cyber sex
Posted: 9/24/2009 10:45:29 AM | My tinkie winkie doesn't stretch that far.
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