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 boinkboinkboink
Joined: 3/20/2009
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Pathetic! Say what you want after this...


Lot's of people spend time in the forums - yourself included. I have a relationship through a computer because when you are living at a distance from each other the computer, phone, letters, texts etc is all you have with each other. I have a realtionship, you "pathetic" twit. You don't. I have spent several months in person with this lady, and I am planning a life with her. My next in person visit is only one month away.

There are many coupled people who enjoy reading and commenting in the POF forums. I happen to be one of them. Deal with it you, "Judgemental, twit! " One word comes to mind describing you: Jealousy!


Get out of your house. Stop masterbating. Be social. Make friends. Make plans. Go to restaurants, bars, clubs, sports events, social gatherings, etc......Grab your balls. Man up. Approach the woman. Instigate conversation. Next thing you know.....she just might like you and no more cyber sex. Its not rocket science!


So why are you a single man commenting on POF? Pathetic!
 kyril96
Joined: 9/14/2009
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Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 9/20/2009 8:00:15 AM
When I did it, it was with women I didn't know off-computer, who were always several states away and I might not have been (or wouldn't have been) compatible with in real life anyway. Sort of like FWB. Most of them I never even saw pictures of. And when other relationships take priority (esp. anything serious IRL) it's understood that we can't keep doing it.
 gomezaddams
Joined: 8/31/2009
Msg: 78
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 9/23/2009 11:01:43 PM
http://www.abc.net.au/news/stories/2009/09/24/2695603.htm?section=justin

More support for internet sex addicts needed

By Gus Goswell

Posted September 24, 2009 1500
According to the survey women prefer to use web cameras or spend time in chat rooms.

According to the survey women prefer to use web cameras or spend time in chat rooms. (ABC News: Giulio Saggin, file photo)

* Map: Melbourne 3000

A Melbourne psychologist says a study of 1300 internet users who engage in cyber sex shows significant levels of infidelity and addiction.

Marcus Squirrell carried out the research as part of his professional doctorate at Melbourne's Swinburne University.

He recruited survey participants by advertising within cyber sex user groups, sites that are generally used by people who spend a greater than average amount of time engaged in cyber sexual activities.

Mr Squirrell's survey shows men have a strong preference for looking at pornographic pictures and videos, while women are twice as likely to use web cameras, to send sexually explicit emails or spend time in chat rooms.

Almost half of those who took part in the survey live in North America; 12 per cent said they were Australians.

The average respondent was male, well-educated, and in their early forties.

Around 40 per cent of respondents identified themselves as heterosexual, with others listing their sexual orientation as gay, lesbian or bi-sexual.

While the average participant in Mr Squirrell's sample group said they spent just over 12 hours a week engaging in sexual activity online, some people reported engaging in cyber sex for up to ten hours a day.

Mr Squirrell says while not all sexual activity online is harmful, some people are desperate to overcome an addiction to online sex.

He treats about seven online sex addicts at his practice in Melbourne's inner south.

"They're absolutely at the end of their tether, in terms of being able to control their behaviour themself. Clients will even go as far as putting filters and blocks on websites. They've often made changes like putting their computer into other rooms."

'I've got one client who frequently looks at cyber sex at work and just struggles to control that behaviour."

Mr Squirrell's research revealed a high incidence of infidelity among those engaging in cyber sex.

Of the 1325 people who completed the questionnaire, 55 per cent said they were either married or in a serious offline relationship.

"I suppose one of the problems with it is that when you engage in cyber sex frequently enough, the actual arousal pattern to your partner often diminishes and it actually gets replaced with the online images," he said.

"There's lots of people who report they actually prefer engaging in cyber sex and looking at pornography and masturbating online, than actual face-to-face-encounters."

Mr Squirrell says online infidelity can have the same impact on a partner as other forms of cheating.

"Even if somebody isn't actually meeting up with somebody online it has the same sorts of ramifications as a face-to-face affair, because people feel that they've been cheated on even if the partner's just looking at pictures."

Mr Squirrell says he often suggests people fighting an addiction to cyber sex install filtering devices or join support groups such as Sex Addicts Anonymous, which offer a 12-step program based on the Alcoholics Anonymous model.

He says it is important to realise that not all cyber sexual activity is harmful.

"Most people can engage in cyber sex and take it or leave it. But there is significant minority, like there is with all addictions, where the behaviour just gets absolutely completely out of control."

Mr Squirrell says there's a need for more support services for people who do want to overcome their online sex addiction.

"There's very few people out there who really specialise in the area," he said.

"What I'm trying to get off the ground is actually an e-therapy program like they have for some other conditions, with training modules where people can actually go through the process of treatment online and engage with a therapist occasionally."

"As far as I know there's nothing like that currently in the world."
 TQs Finest
Joined: 9/10/2009
Msg: 79
Cyber sex
Posted: 9/24/2009 10:38:02 AM
I've pretty much done it all. Who cares anyway? If you feel horny, it's better than doing it alone. It's pretty much living out a kind of fantasy, but interacting (albeit through computer, phone, whatever) with another person.
 TheToefactor
Joined: 2/11/2009
Msg: 80
Cyber sex
Posted: 9/24/2009 10:45:29 AM
My tinkie winkie doesn't stretch that far.



 Big_fun_wave
Joined: 2/28/2009
Msg: 81
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 5/6/2010 12:56:31 PM
No Way! Not pointless. I only tryed it once I know for sure, probably a few times. It's good excercise for the imagination, and can get you worked up, if you let it. It helps get you in the mood
 2loverskissed
Joined: 6/9/2011
Msg: 82
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 6/16/2011 9:05:25 PM
No I had a guy that I talked to for a very long time, and then he decided to do cyber sex, so i figured why not, I was busy checking my mail and ever so often he would whine and you ok. As if I wanted to hear any of it. But I let him get his little bit of hard on and he came and said I am floating. did you ever hear of such crap. then he just blocked me so be careful ladies who you have cyber sex with.
 bucksblue
Joined: 6/25/2011
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Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/25/2012 5:18:10 PM
i used to when i was much younger on msn/ swap pics etc that was good shit shit!!!!

made me me proper all good fun
 optimismfirst
Joined: 2/29/2012
Msg: 84
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/25/2012 8:24:09 PM
its just like phone sex, but with phone sex, becareful you wont get hearing aids
 damsel19
Joined: 2/22/2012
Msg: 85
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/25/2012 11:01:10 PM
Crayola was probably not real, is not interested or got too many sleazies.

 damsel19
Joined: 2/22/2012
Msg: 86
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/25/2012 11:04:32 PM
Long distance relationship?? Another month before you meet? How is that going to work out?? I can see why you are on here and leaving your options open. I dont think you have a relationship really.. But you are certainly vitriolic and I think buttons have been pressed.
 Darkbutcomely
Joined: 4/20/2011
Msg: 87
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/26/2012 5:54:12 PM
It like showing a tv dinner to a starving man. Waste of time and energy.
 rec_diver
Joined: 11/13/2011
Msg: 88
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/26/2012 6:51:32 PM
2loverskissed: No I had a guy that I talked to for a very long time, and then he decided to do cyber sex, so i figured why not, I was busy checking my mail and ever so often he would whine and you ok. As if I wanted to hear any of it. But I let him get his little bit of hard on and he came and said I am floating. did you ever hear of such crap. then he just blocked me so be careful ladies who you have cyber sex with


This is the second post in a row that I read and I was left shaking my head in confusion and wondering if it's me or the people that wrote these two posts that are responsible for the lack of comprehension.

I am seriously hoping it's not me because if it is I'm thinking degenerative brain disease and I don't carry disability insurance.
 abelian
Joined: 1/12/2008
Msg: 89
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/26/2012 9:01:03 PM
it is so pointless

It's more fun than watching TV.
 damsel19
Joined: 2/22/2012
Msg: 90
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/26/2012 10:32:59 PM
2loverskissed


I dont get the "whine and you ok" comment either. Dont people reread what they have written? What does it matter who you cybersex with, you cant get pregnant for God's sake so why the warning??? It is only cyberspace. He blocked because he got bored and so what?? Not a crime.
 Lupe8
Joined: 2/27/2012
Msg: 91
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/26/2012 10:43:37 PM
I don't think it's pointless, but after a while it will lose its edge. Once you first meet someone though it's a good way to kind of gage what they like, how high their sex drive is, and what they're comfortable with, all without pushing them past their comfort zone in the process. I dated a girl that we did that very early in the relationship to test the waters
 Spaz_Taztic
Joined: 3/18/2011
Msg: 92
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/26/2012 11:39:31 PM
Cyber sex is pointless but I view it as an exercise of creativity and imagination. I know it may sound a bit immature and childish but there is a bit more then you think. You can express idea's and imaginations that some times may not be possible where you stand in reality. For example, a couple wants to do bondage, crazy stuff, but wouldn't consider it in reality or some other reason. They live it out through a story of sorts. Do you understand where I'm coming from?
 Elgalawaat
Joined: 11/24/2008
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Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/27/2012 2:17:45 AM
Because they are Lunatics, Lonely. Also cyber sex is safe and cheap. You don't have to buy dinner or bottle of wine.
 BehinDarkBluEyes
Joined: 1/16/2012
Msg: 94
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/27/2012 3:06:15 AM
The mind is the most stimulating organ that we have as humans. And IF stimulated right the rest of the body has no choice but to follow in it's level of arrousement.

I use to once thing like some of you do and have the narrow mind and say oh it's pointless. Until one day I was out of town on business and talking to my ex on skype and it was late and she more less just started sharing thoughts as did I, and I said oh, now I get it as my hands had company on the keyboard lol.


All I know is if it's a bad thing or whatever some may think of it, there's literally millions of people who do it studies have shown lol. Good looking, non good looking, older, younger, yeah.
 BehinDarkBluEyes
Joined: 1/16/2012
Msg: 95
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/27/2012 3:11:47 AM
Another thing is, why would anyone even judge those who do it or don't do it? There's things that you do or don't do that people wouldn't agree with either lol. What difference does it make in your life what they do. Live and let live ;)

If someone enjoys it good for them, if not, good for them also *shrugs*
 ted61
Joined: 2/12/2009
Msg: 96
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/27/2012 12:01:04 PM
Point is, sex is sex. Love is love. If you are just looking to get off, but enjoy the extra spice of the mental interaction with a cyber partner. Without the complications of a regular relationship, whats the harm? After all, the brain is the primary sex organ.

To the people who say only unattractive people would have cyber sex, surely you are aware that even extreemly attractive people masturbate. And cyber sex IS masturbation.
 MsBeave
Joined: 11/8/2010
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Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/27/2012 12:16:14 PM
Mutual masturbation can be pretty satisfying with the right person. I've had cyber, phone and cam sex at different periods in my life. It provided me with an intimacy I couldn't get from masturbating to porn.

I have an awesome sex life, partly because I experiment with cerebral sex. I learned what men are really thinking, what they really desire and what turns them off.
 want to travel
Joined: 7/29/2006
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Posted: 3/27/2012 12:58:37 PM
I can understand long distance
like phone sex used to be
but...
the other day, I was at the doctors office, and there was a couple,who where texting,
for at least an hour!
it was weird
I have a lot of funny stories about people texting
 MrDubStep
Joined: 3/19/2012
Msg: 99
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/27/2012 2:24:42 PM
Cyber sex Is there for those that have a wild Imagination.
Like myself I enjoy a sexual conversation once and awhile and with out a doubt can get myself off. I'm not really a huge fan of It but every once In awhile you gotta switch up your routine.
 optimismfirst
Joined: 2/29/2012
Msg: 100
Why do people cyber sex
Posted: 3/28/2012 5:20:59 PM
it shows your creative side with words and gets ideas going.
well the juices flowing so to speak ;)
nothing wrong with it, its interseting to see what people come up with
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