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Wow I'm really disapointed in the forum crew on this one, you all act like she's weird. Where I come from, thats a douchebag, desperate move by her date, you really think that behavior is acceptable? not.
I don't recall anyone stating that the behavior was acceptable or denying that the offender was anything less than a "D-bag" as you so eloquently stated. Most of the "forum crew" just agreed that it does happen and that she handled it well. It was also stated by a few that there was need to get "angry" about it. It happens. Does it mean its right? Absolutely not. You always have the good with the bad. Take the good, leave the bad and move on, period. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 10:44:58 AM | earlier on in this thread there was mention of OP's profile pics......but I'm not sure why. Sure there's 1 where she's bending forward and you can see a lil cleavage....big freakin whoop.
I think the big issue here is the assumption he took from a few dates and some smooching. Now if there was more than just smooching - ie a lil touchy feely, maybe some adult oriented discussions....then I don't see it as a big deal but based on the information we HAVE been given....his actions are douchebagish at the very least. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 10:46:46 AM |
ur 50 and hot...wtf is he supposed to do?/esp. in ocala..u either ride horseys..or bang ur brains out..there's not much else to do..
chill out..and get ur groove on..it seems its been wayy too long for you and you have become prudish.
I rest my case sun32..... | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 10:47:13 AM | | I wassorry to readyour disturbing post. Quite why this man abused you like that I just dont understand, afterall you had met. At some stage there wasa mutual attraction, not making excuses but maybe he had baggage he diddnt understand, youd showed him abit of attention, he went awol, thatskinda unforgivable. hope you areok andwell now?........x | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 11:02:46 AM |
it seems its been wayy too long for you and you have become prudish.
I'd say that it has clearly been way too long for you and you have become obsessed and probably desperate.
was under the impression that men went to singles sights to form relationships...if the were seeking NSA sex they would look on casual encounter sites?
Well, it certainly would seem that it ought to work that way-but I suspect that a lot of men, due to the economical price of PoF membership, believe that it must be a casual encounter site. Besides, from all I hear, most of the casual enounter sites require paid membership to fully use the site.
Would people be up in arms saying that a woman is using a guy as a piece of meat?
I would.
Where I come from, thats a douchebag, desperate move by her date, you really think that behavior is acceptable? not.
That would be my take on it-though I will admit I have responded to unwarrantedly sexual messages/pictures with smart ass remarks or jeers-yes, I'm sorry to say that probably sometimes my response might even have been considered rude. I don't get a lot of that-I think that my profile probably scares the less agile-brained guys, and I don't date disrespectful men.
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Posted: 4/17/2012 11:20:01 AM |
What are your thoughts on this?
Meh. If you only met a few times for drinks and a ‘few kisses’ ..he took a shot and missed. Tell him off soundly and go on with life.
(Isn't that Jasmine instead of Honeysuckle?)
Yes, but ‘loving honey suckle’ has a certain sort of ring to it, doesn’t it?  | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 12:44:45 PM |
ur 50 and hot...wtf is he supposed to do?/esp. in ocala..u either ride horseys..or bang ur brains out..there's not much else to do..
chill out..and get ur groove on..it seems its been wayy too long for you and you have become prudish.
I rest my case sun32.....
One post? That justifies all of us forum posters? ONE POST?? Call out that poster, I REST MY CASE. As I said, the "majority" of the poster's were agreeing with the OP. CASE CLOSED.... Next!  | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 12:58:32 PM | The OP is one of those women who could be wearing a potato sack and still look sexy...but that doesnt mean men should assume she is open to sexting.
OP, if someone crosses a boundary, it is up to you to tell them and decide if you will give another chance-or not. This is the choice we all have. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 1:00:35 PM | | Well...you know how it is OP....you have already gone out a few times so in his mind he thinks it's "time" so he's just going forward with the process and sex texting probably just seems like the next step for him. Receiving sex text messages from someone I'm really not into is one of THE biggest turn offs to me. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 1:08:55 PM | OP The guy was a jerk and out of line.
As for your profile pictures I dont see any problem with them................some of the comments made remind me of the people who make comments about rape victims "she deserved to be raped look at how she's dressed"
Honestly!
Good on you for dumping his ass | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 1:11:16 PM | | If you don't want to sext then don't text. If you can't Not text then either ignore it when it happens/admonish him and give him another chance/or dump him. People think they can get away with a lot more when the conversation isn't face to face or at least over the phone. Just state your ground rules early make sure he understands that behavior wont be tolerated. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 1:21:00 PM | | maybe he was admiring ur clevage in ur pic....computer issues? right...what do you expect when u show half ur boobs on the internet? Ward Cleaver? | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 3:01:30 PM | | oh so because a woman reveals a lil skin, its ok for us men to spontaneously behave like cavemen? Where have I heard this dumba$$ defense before??? | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 3:17:21 PM | | One date did want me to make out with her and I was simply not interested and left the scene. And called her good luck in looking for your man. Other than that OP nothing of the like. Glad you knew where to draw the line and drew it :-) | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 3:18:32 PM |
what do you expect when u show half ur boobs on the internet?
A cleavage shot is not synonymous with consent. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 3:21:14 PM | | I totally hate it when guys send explicit pics without me asking. He could have atleast asked you if that was an appropriate thing to do. Atleast after that you can basically figure out what he really wanted. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 3:25:31 PM | OP, I disagree with the people who are saying that you gave out the wrong signals. A "few kisses" could be pecks on the cheek or even on the mouth--kisses are not an invitation for explicit texts.
I have met men one or two times and there were NO kisses but they still sent inappropriate emails. After meeting one guy twice, he said that the entire time we were together (we had lunch both times) that he wanted to stick his hands inside my dungarees (his words) just to see what my reaction would be.
What??? This was particularly strange because I told him I was not interested in him romantically. And since I was wearing a dress both times, I wonder if he had misdirected his missive.
Even worse, some guys did worse than sending texts or emails, like the idiot who grabbed and kissed me outside of Barnes and Noble after lunch.
Disregard it and move on. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 3:59:10 PM | oh so because a woman reveals a lil skin, its ok for us men to spontaneously behave like cavemen?
Nope. You know most men like to read between the lines, however. They think cleavage shots are an invitation.
OP photos are actually squeaky clean, to be honest.
This is coming from a woman who used to have several raunchy photos on her profile, by actually being alluring. OP pics are innocent compared to what I've seen on many women's profiles and my own once upon a time.
People in this thread are just nitpicking. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 6:43:02 PM | First of all it matters what you think on not what people on a forum think.
As a guy I think it's pathetic. Any guy that would do that is into one thing; sex. And to think you are the only one he's ever done this too; or that he hasn't picked up on a lot of women; is naive.
This isn't the guy to bring home to mom and dad. This is the guy you bring home to your horny cousin that you dont like. I'd dump him yesterday. What a lack of class. I'm so sick of men being such pervs. good luck. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 7:47:02 PM | I'm going to ask everybody to think back...remember when we didn't have texting ,IMs , instant messaging ,cell phones with cameras, webcams? Remember when women met men at parties, at activities, yeah, even at bars and on blind dates. If there was mutual interest the next step was usually some phone calls. Even once a couple started dating , quite often they talked on the phone. Now, I'm sure that some couples that were intimate may have shared some hot talk on the phone-but I don't think many guys called up women they had just met or had a couple of dates with, and began a sexually explicit or lurid conversation on the phone.
The problem with email, IM, texting-is that it is not face to face and/or in real time, and a lot of pretty damn lameass guys with dinky little d*cks have false bravery behind the computer or cellphone screen. Probably that's the only action they get-"sexting" women-because IRL they couldn't get laid if they were clothed in Ferraris and $1000 bills.
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Posted: 4/17/2012 8:09:02 PM | | I do not see anything that wild in your profile. Guys will see what they want to see in amy pic. If you were in a Burka it would have been your eyes. The guy was just pushing things along faster than you wanted to go. You either go Next or retrain him. Same old dating choice one has their whole lives. | |
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Posted: 4/17/2012 8:21:13 PM | I think that it is inappropriate unless you are in a relationship living toegther sleeping in the same bed because when that happens you are at the ultimate intimacey sexually anyways.
But after just a few kisses and a few drinks nah not so much approriate.
But then some women are just as bad in my expierence. I tell them a few times I dont want those pics and then if it continues ask them to stop and then I tell them they are not respecting my wishes so please dont contact me again. It is all what you feel comfortable with. I wont accept a picture of a woman in her pjs I wont accpet one in provocative clothes or anything they have to at least have jeans and a tee on, | |
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Posted: 4/18/2012 8:14:24 AM |
but I don't think many guys called up women they had just met or had a couple of dates with, and began a sexually explicit or lurid conversation on the phone.
Yes, they did. 'Nuff said! And I didn't even date much--I can only imagine how it was for women who did. | |
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Posted: 4/18/2012 8:41:54 PM | | I stopped coming onto this site because of the guys who want to sext. Usually within the first few min of instant msg they start asking if you have a cell phone, or they actually start saying innapropriate things. I find this very irritating as I am on here to seriously find someone, not for a one-nighter, or a f**k-buddy. Whatever happend to pleasant conversation? | |
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