| | Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?Page 4 of 6 (1, 2, 3, 4, 5, 6) | "Maybe it's just my perception, but it seems like more and more men are only looking for something casual -- just sex. Does the age of the guy have anything to do with it? Are men more jaded about relationships when they've just come out of one and are over 40? I've come across these guys more often or not."
First off, most men who has just come out of a long, bad marriage aren't going to want to be tied down to a woman.
Second of all there are lots of women out there who want casual no matter what they say. Guys know this so they go that route. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/27/2012 6:20:48 PM |
Are men more jaded about relationships when they've just come out of one and are over 40?
Tryn dating ladies that age, and tell me how it goes.
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/27/2012 6:50:47 PM | | I paid good money to go onto E harmony and the first guy that I actually was interested in took down my email then sent me a picture of his penis!!!!!! I think it is just the times we live in..those of us in our 40's are usually back on the dating scene after a looooooong time away . You just have to respect yourself and know what you want and where you draw the line. So what if the guy only wants casual sex...just dont give it to him..and move on | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/28/2012 2:32:15 AM |
IF YOU PAY then you will surely put more effort into making it work or it will cost you far too much to be single!
you're assuming what they're 'trying to make work' is the same thing you're trying to make work. that willingness to fork over cash correlates to 'higher' relationship goals, which is silly, considering how much money people spend on prostitutes.
since your hypothesis of correlation of goals and money is bunk, applying it to men on free sites is equally faulty. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/28/2012 10:35:57 AM | | Seriously I'm thinking of changing my relationship goal to Casual. Not because I'm not getting contacted, but because I'll genuinely be contacted by men who are being honest about what they're seeking and not just saying that they're looking for a relationship when in reality they just want to a one-night stand. I don't see why a guy would bother creating a profile here if all they want is to get laid. They can put a short post on CL along with a pic of their d*** and get it in an hour or less. probably. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/28/2012 1:00:39 PM |
I don't see why a guy would bother creating a profile here if all they want is to get laid.
i don't see why would you think the site should only cater to your goals.
people are looking for those who want the same thing. the guys who want to get laid and the women who want to get laid create profiles so they can find each other. isn't that obvious?
as far as why these guys message YOU, many are just using the shotgun approach, while others know that a woman's forebrain and hindbrain often are not on the same page. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 4/28/2012 6:02:09 PM | Message:
Maybe it's just my perception, but it seems like more and more men are only looking for something casual -- just sex.
Op, this might be a total shock to you but, with the ratio of men vs women here , & who is really available for them to date again, to actually want to go out & date. This is where lies the problem.........
This is where the men know what's really left to do out there. .. cuz u know..sorry.....
But u leave no other opp's & really....cuz then, it's the only thing left for them to want,& that is sex.
AKA.....the internet therapist!!!! lol
pay me now or pay me later cuz it don't means beans when the can is dry.....jmo | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 5/15/2012 8:48:15 AM | | If a man is only after a casual relationship and stops talking to you because you aren't willing to give in - thank him for not wasting your time and move on. I don't blame feminism for ruining the dating scene. If you want a serious relationship or the ring, you have to make a man work for your attention, mind and body. The losers will fall by the wayside. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 5/16/2012 6:04:16 AM | Maybe it's just my perception, but it seems like more and more men are only looking for something casual -- just sex
That's it, in a nutshell. I have been on this site 3 times in the last 5 years and no matter how I set things up, block, choose only to talk to guys according to what they say on their profile, 95% of the time I find out they all just really only want sex. Very discouraging. I refuse to waste my time further on a fellow once I realize thats all they want. Don't get me wrong I WANT IT TOO big time but it has to be within a strong monogomous relationship. I will not expose my heart or my kids to anything else.! | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 5/16/2012 6:20:39 AM | Indeed it does.
- Women put out a lot more frequently and with less hassle than they used to.
- With that in mind, it's easier to have multiple partners in "rotation"
- Marriage has lost a significant amount of value, especially with how much the family law courts hate men.
- Women have become "empowered" so need for codependency has deteriorated.
- With all these vague and overabundant rape shield laws and sexual harassment laws, men in general have become more passive.
- More men have realized that they don't have to fit this provider role and they can do whatever they want.
-Contrary to popular belief, men don't need women to maintain a decent household. Trust and believe that we are competent enough to know how to use a dishwasher, or a laundry machine, or even a stove.
How's that saying go? A woman wants -everything- from a man, while a man only wants -one- thing from a woman. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 5/16/2012 7:15:17 AM |
Maybe it's just my perception, but it seems like more and more men are only looking for something casual -- just sex. Does the age of the guy have anything to do with it? Are men more jaded about relationships when they've just come out of one and are over 40? I've come across these guys more often or not.
Yes, they are looking for sex, but they aren't going to get it here. Its not our fault, if they haven't got sex in the last millennium. I make guys wait an average of 3 months for sex. The dogs lose interest after a month...lol | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 5/16/2012 7:18:00 AM | How's that saying go? A woman wants -everything- from a man, while a man only wants -one- thing from a woman.
But I only want an equal, a partner, friend, lover etc etc. I don't want a provider. I have been in a relationship where we were living together for quite a few years. When I walked away from it all thats just what I did. I walked away with the clothes on my back and a few personal belongings. I left everything behind. I could have taken him to court for half the house etc etc. however I am not like that. Money is not what I'm after.
I want his heart, soul, and body!! LMAO | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 5/16/2012 7:28:07 AM | | Men who want to wait for sex get their hearts broken by women. Many women automatically think there is something wrong with them or their gay. I don't get it, but men who just want sex have a lot of power and get what they want. Men who want more, such as me before I gave up, get nothing. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 5/17/2012 6:15:41 AM |
Maybe it's just my perception, but it seems like more and more men are only looking for something casual -- just sex. Does the age of the guy have anything to do with it? Are men more jaded about relationships when they've just come out of one and are over 40? I've come across these guys more often or not.
Oh come on!! Why do women insist on analyzing everything? Ok, here it is, so listen up! Your all correct "All we want is sex that's it, that's all" Happy now? You have your answer & were right all along! Now there's no further need to discuss it, end of subject ok? | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 5/17/2012 7:00:53 AM | | LOL Steve. I am sure not ALL men just want sex. Somehow we just have to find a way of weeding out those who only put stuff on their profile to sound good and to set the trap.(I know, women do that too). In spite of my bad experiences with coffee meets, I can honestly say there were 2 fellows who were absolutely topnotch. Even though there werent any sparks between us I made 2 fabulous friends. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 5/17/2012 7:40:22 AM | luv4anita
I make guys wait an average of 3 months for sex. The dogs lose interest after a month...lol
The smart dogs schedule their dates on a revolving 6-9 month calender.
3 months to get her ready. Start dating the girl 3 months after the first.
3 months of great sex, then it cools off, but you have the new on ready to go.
My old GF taught me this 30 years ago, she called it the everlasting honeymoon. She used to tell me, the honeymoon period is the best. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 6/2/2012 6:05:43 AM | Message:
Are men more jaded about relationships when they've just come out of one and are over 40? I've come across these guys more often or not.
Nope. It's easier to have sex with a woman without ties now, as compared to 60 years ago when you had to marry the daim. Feminist movement solved that problem for us.
Besides, just sleeping with someone is a lot easier than actually understanding her, and its so easy to lie to a woman who will believe practically any outright lie without a shred of proof. I'd have harder time washing my hair.
Nope don't agree only bc we want to be treated equal doesn't mean thean we stoped wanting relationship n want to be viewed as sexual object. What the hell is wrong with man. Doesn't matter if I meet one on here or not I tell then that I want to hang out n get to know then first without sex if guy likes me n can wait n things go good for like two months We still like hanging out n each other I don't have mo
Prop. Bit if he texts me that it won't work for whatever reason he tells me good for him n I hope he can stuip one that will sleep with him right away I was raised better than that lol | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 6/2/2012 6:27:27 AM | To all the remarks about feminism--bs...women want to be equal and that equated in no way to being used as sexual objects. Women have given away that power themselves, by still being needy and obliging men too often.
We live in a society of instant gratification that has led to numerous social problems. Family law has had to try and adapt because so many people are screwed up in priorities. Do I feel sorry for some men, yes. But many deserve to have the long arm of the law tied around their neck as they do not seem to understand their responsibilities.
I have seen some pretty screwed up women, too, so this is not sexist. Just sick of the whining. Have some accountability.
Bottom line is " You reap what you sow". If you want to be mistreated and used as a sex object, then feel terrible about it, keep giving it up. In Ontario, brothels will soon be legal, so men who feel the need for only sex and not a relationship will no longer have an excuse to be on a "dating" site. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 6/2/2012 7:21:18 AM | | Well, I absolutely want a a committed monogamous relationship. However, I have learned important lessons from my 10 years with one person and I know what I want and need and I'm not going to settle for whoever comes along that is willing to enter into a relationship with me. Sometimes that might mean dating casually for a while until you get to know someone. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 6/2/2012 8:00:01 AM |
I make guys wait an average of 3 months for sex. The dogs lose interest after a month...lol
I'm not surprised. Sex or more importantly, intimacy, is an important part of a relationship. If you held back that long I'd assume that either you're frigid or using sex as a bargaining tool to challenge my commitment to you. Both of which are a complete turn off. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 6/2/2012 8:20:39 AM | | It means we're no longer children & or naive enough to rush into a serious committed relationship just because we had sex. Sex alone doesn't make a relationship & men get this. Women in our age group don't & perceive sex as an emotional act, regardless how long or well they know us & if women are unwilling to change the perception of what sex constitutes, then they should refrain from it. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 6/2/2012 8:24:41 AM |
In Ontario, brothels will soon be legal, so men who feel the need for only sex and not a relationship will no longer have an excuse to be on a "dating" site.
Illegal or not, some of the most intelligent ones have been paying for sex for decades. Good,old fashion dirty sex without the critters too!!!! Better odds on picking up a critter nowadays when you DON'T pay. Now, isn't that a scarey thought????? | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 6/2/2012 9:54:37 AM | I think the ratio of causal sex seekers is higher online, but a few guys I ended up meeting and being friends with were actually looking for relationships and a couple found them eventually..so not ALL men are looking for something casual.
But yeah, I found online dating to harbor way too many presumptuous people who treat women essentially as a potential free hooker...the penis photos right up front..before you even meet the guy...wow. Just the behavior of some of the men in general...at an age I USED to think men were more mature ( 40's-50's) I've been treated worse by men in this age group than back when I was dating in college. Maybe back then people were a bit more optimistic and marriage minded, just because you're younger and haven't been thru the grinder. After a divorce or two many men may start acting more selfish and self protective, not wanting to get burned again by opening up and trusting, but still wanting sex.
Yes, I also partially blame the feminist movement which insisted that women should approach sex as casually as men do. The idea is to be and think just like men, and retune your goals to be the same.
Also, I've found alot of guys online have never been married or can function in long term relationships..their entire lives are a long string of women, they cannot be faithful, but I've also found they can get very wrapped up with you, play games to try to make you jealous, want you around all the time even if they can't be true...demented and painful life.
I've stopped online dating completely, I never found anything good out of it, just alot of players, STD's and attitude. I know there are those "good" needles in the haystack out there, but I'm tired of wandering around in the hay. | |
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| Does it seem like more and more men only want casual?
Posted: 6/2/2012 5:45:17 PM | | In my circle of friends I have a separated guy who's wife left him for another man, a guy who's gf suddenly became unhappy after 4 years and kicked him out, and me, a separated guy who's wife left him too. We sometimes talk about relationships and all of us have become more and more interested in a casual relationship. Relationships are a lot of work, why bother with all that for a woman that's just gonna leave you when she sees someone she likes more? Especially when so many women give up sex without any effort on our part. | |
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