| | Love At First Sight!Page 2 of 2 (1, 2) | Ok i take your point..emotional overload then to the point where you can't function..
i felt like i wasn't taking part and worse than useless...total nightmare..
just not dating beautiful women seems to be avoiding the problem
but whats the answer? | |
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Posted: 4/22/2012 10:33:37 AM | Ok i take your point..emotional overload then to the point where you can't function..
i felt like i wasn't taking part and worse than useless...total nightmare..
just not dating beautiful women seems to be avoiding the problem
but whats the answer?
You have to be attracted to them and beauty is in the eye of the beholder!
I would suggest you dont work yourself up before you go and go to a 'meet' as if you are meeting a friend or a work colleague. Then talk alot! | |
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Posted: 4/22/2012 10:40:50 AM | Nothing really had been invested...in fact it was the opposite to rose tinted glasses...she was so much better
that it was a shock!..a pleasant shock until i had to interact...and thats where it went wrong..not a bumbling
mess but not my usual self...i definitely blame myself and my overwhelming regret is that i didnt give a good account of myself and she will always be the one that got away..yes it may not have worked anyway but it will haunt me forever... | |
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Posted: 4/22/2012 10:44:37 AM | msg 28
You say nothing really invested, but obviously there has been for you to say that it will be a regret that you didn't give your all plus it will haunt you. A lot of emotion invested on what might have beens.........
Sorry no upset being intended here, just saying.... | |
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Posted: 4/22/2012 11:42:14 AM |
Nothing really had been invested...in fact it was the opposite to rose tinted glasses...she was so much better
that it was a shock!..a pleasant shock until i had to interact...and thats where it went wrong..not a bumbling
mess but not my usual self...i definitely blame myself and my overwhelming regret is that i didnt give a good account of myself and she will always be the one that got away..yes it may not have worked anyway but it will haunt me forever...
What a genuinly lovely man you are . Can you not contact her still? Maybe arrange a second date ?
Awwww bless i do feel sorry for you .
Good luck next time :) And im sure there will be plenty of next times for you also :) | |
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Posted: 4/22/2012 12:56:21 PM | No its fine,appreciate your comments.She messaged me and after a few txts she asked to meet me..
i never get worked up too much,excited,you know..If you can imagine going to meet who you think is Miss 'Quite Nice'and Miss World turns up... i don't seem to be able to cope with it..i can imagine it might happen again...
i think i need a couple of pints first..LOL | |
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Posted: 4/22/2012 1:03:30 PM | Thanks..she's contacted me a couple of times but its not there from her side and i accept that..
she said i was lovely too but to me that says 'you're real nice but i dont fancy you'
Maybe i'm overreacting and there just wasn't any chemistry but she'd contacted me and she suggested we meet
so i guess i was more shocked it didn't work out.There's no wonder..after a nice meal we went shopping and all
i could do was look at her when she was browsing...i was totally and utterly smitten and i can't believe it but i guess thats not good..lol. The worse bit is i don't know what the cure is.... | |
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Posted: 4/22/2012 1:14:08 PM | Ok emotional overload...beautiful face,lovely figure,elegantly dressed,lovely manner....an absolute dream.
For example.. How do you stay cool if say, your absolute movie star idol comes over to talk to you and is seriously interested in you? it felt like that.. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2012 1:44:29 PM | My partner said that he was blown away the minute he clapped eyes on me, he was instantly smitten and that it grew into love within a short space of time - and seven months down the line from when we first met, I have no reason whatsoever to doubt that he truly does love me. And very nice it is too!
Me? I knew instantly he was a good guy, I knew instantly that we would get on and I knew instantly that he was very pleasing on the eye ;), I knew that the chemistry was there but it wasn't love. That grew over time. I've certainly had a massive smack of 'wow, I must get to know this person' at first sight, and I have taken a very romanticised view of that in the past, but now I'm a bit more realistic (or wary!). | |
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Posted: 4/22/2012 1:55:12 PM | | Given enough interactions it's possible but people only say it after the fact so you don't know how accurate it really was and no one ever says it was love at first sight then nothing happened. | |
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Posted: 4/22/2012 3:32:25 PM | msg 36
Given enough interactions it's possible but people only say it after the fact so you don't know how accurate it really was and no one ever says it was love at first sight then nothing happened.
Apart from Amade! :)
Amade: I am sorry it didn't work out for you, but just possibly you slightly freaked her with your adoration for her?
I hope you do find someone who will appreciate it as you seem very genuine and a softy.........
I can only say that you obviously wear your heart on your sleeve and it obviously hurt. Maybe you need to be a little bit calm and cool. Btw, I am not saying you should change, cos that would be a shame, I'm just thinking maybe you can become quite vulnerable. Best of luck though! | |
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Posted: 4/22/2012 3:45:53 PM | From the small amount of information that can be gleaned from some messages, a profile description and a few photos I don’t see how you can fall in love with someone. A strong, very strong physical attraction (crush) - yes! But once the initial physical attraction has faded what is left if there is no personality to back it up
Falling in love with someone on the basis of their written words alone would be more likely if anything. Besides I find that looks become irrelevant with familiarity.
So - no I don’t believe you can love someone at first sight any more than you can hate them at first sight. | |
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Bex313
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Posted: 4/23/2012 8:11:47 AM | Love at first sight = transference and counter-transference in psychodynamic terms. Or so my GP says.
I thought it happened to me on here back in February. Actually, his profile did nothing for me but talking to him over Skype/text I thought he was amazing, and just my type physically. He said all the right things (warning bells should have been ringing at this point).
We had a relationship for about 6 weeks. He introduced me to his son, he wanted to be with me all the time, he took an overdose when I went out with my ex and then he got very needy and clingy when I was out with my friends, which is when I came to my senses.
In summary, I think you CAN feel an intense CONNECTION with someone straight away. The physical attraction probably needs to be instant, anyway. I think for a long-term relationship there needs to be a honeymoon period of first dating which I just didn't have with this guy. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2012 8:18:41 AM | | Nah i dont believe in love at first site, of course there is lust between you and another which many people can mistake for love! I think you need to set down the foundations before love grows, however i do believe that you can fall in love quickly and not over a long period of time | |
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Posted: 4/23/2012 8:31:58 AM | I dont believe in love at first sight. Would run a mile if a woman professed to love me way too soon in a relationship.
I tend to suffer a bit as well when meeting people who blow me away - I think I act differently to whenever I meet someone who is just nice or I dont fancy at all. | |
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Posted: 4/23/2012 10:53:37 AM | Don't believe that works in the virtual world of dating,
You may exchange email and get on well but if and when you meet they may not even look remotely like there profile photos and chances are they will not come across as you envisaged.
Hell it could all be gone in 60 seconds .lol
http://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-383054/Chaps-youve-30-seconds-impress-lady.html | |
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zendy
| | Joined: 8/30/2008
Msg: 44 | |
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Posted: 4/24/2012 7:04:52 AM |
Nah i dont believe in love at first site
I'm not even sure if I believe in 'like at first sight' on a dating site such as this. The only reason why I would write to anyone here anyway is based on what they write in their 'about me' section. That's the only thing that tells me if we could be compatible. The pictures,the hobbys etc are for the birds. | |
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