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| Profiles that say “Looking for my life partner”, “Someone to grow old with”. Etc.
Posted: 4/24/2012 7:00:05 PM |
Are you serious save the dates = stds have a sense of humor
I apologize if that IS what you meant. Surely you realize that STD means something very different to most people and that its original and most common meaning would be highly offensive in this context.
If you're backpedaling because you did mean it in its original form - no apology. | |
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| Profiles that say “Looking for my life partner”, “Someone to grow old with”. Etc.
Posted: 4/24/2012 7:30:01 PM | I refer to these women as "mama bears".
She goes out into the wild, hunts down a man, incapacitates him, drags him back to the den and feeds him to her hungry cubs while he is still alive.
Do not make any sudden movements. Do not meet her predatory stare. If she approaches you curiously, make loud, threatening noises - for example, yell "Quitting my job to become an artist!" or "Unhealthy preoccupation with George Michael!" or "Hey, it was just a few times in Haiti!" | |
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| Profiles that say “Looking for my life partner”, “Someone to grow old with”. Etc.
Posted: 4/25/2012 2:42:14 AM |
I see lots of profiles that have these or similar statements, implying they’re strictly husband hunting (probably the same thing going on with guys who are wife hunting). POF is a dating site-not a “Get yourself a husband/wife today” site. Isn’t it putting the cart before the horse?
I realize a lot of people have marriage and the fairy tale wedding as their ultimate goal, but people should take it one step at a time and get to know the person-really know the person-before making wedding plans. I guess it’s part of the instant gratification-must have what I want NOW-society we live in. There’s no time to find out if a person would make a good marriage partner. If it doesn’t work out, we can quickly get a divorce, go on POF and quickly get a new husband or wife.
Does anyone bypass profiles that have the “looking for someone to commit for the rest of your life” statements? Do you feel those type of profiles reek of desperation?
I avoid the ones that say 'hanging out" actually. I am of the exact opposite opinion and feel that a dating site should be used to find your life partner in whatever capacity you deem that appropriate (marriage, living together, whatever). I think being on a dating site with the intent of being "just friends", "FWB" or "FB" is silly. There are a million other places you can find that. Dating just to date a multitude of different people with no actual goal of a real connection with them, actually seems more desperate to me...
Do you really truly think that anyone with a LTR, marriage etc as a goal is expecting that to be an immediate result after a couple dates?? That would be insane. | |
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| Profiles that say “Looking for my life partner”, “Someone to grow old with”. Etc.
Posted: 4/25/2012 4:38:31 AM |
Do you really truly think that anyone with a LTR, marriage etc as a goal is expecting that to be an immediate result after a couple dates?? That would be insane.
If we had a time machine you could jump in and go back and experince the things I have with woman around my age. It IS some scarey shiat. I hear alllllll this proclamations of how "independent" and "strong" these women are(from their mouths too!!!!!) and have found instead mostly,shy,scared little girls, afraid of being alone for the rest of their lives. Understandable that sometimes being "alone" is not all the comfortable,but it isn't the end of the world. Not by a long shot. In saying that though, they feel very "incomplete" without "another" around,so when somebody comes around that fills the void, they quickly "fall in love" or start another proclamation of how they "found the one".
And yes, I have a heard of a few men like this. Just a few though. | |
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| Profiles that say “Looking for my life partner”, “Someone to grow old with”. Etc.
Posted: 4/25/2012 4:45:32 AM | I dont think it reek's of desperation at all,these people are just being honest about what they want from my personal point of view. In todays world,a huge amount of people from the US and all over the world communicate and find friendship via online more so then back in the old days through friends or just out and about.
Are they Husband/Wife hunting,Yes they are. Its no different then if you went on blind dates or met someone at the supermarket,when your looking for your right match you have to place your cards on the table so to speak,like you would any other time meeting or looking to meet someone to spent that special time with.
If there is a person looking for the samething as you are then they would more then likely choose the profile of the man/woman that they feel best fits them and then progress from there.
If your bypassing profile's that you feel aren't a match for you,then your just searching what fits right for you. | |
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| Profiles that say “Looking for my life partner”, “Someone to grow old with”. Etc.
Posted: 4/27/2012 12:09:50 PM | Hi
I have to agree, we are all replaceable today for at least 80% of the people. You have to seek out that 20% who does want long term. Marriage, it takes a lot for a man to commit to marriage today. In my age group, I am dealing with widows and divorcees. I like your comment" Looking for someone to commit for the rest of your life" I almost put that on my profile.lol Today, internet dating is the trend, it's easy, sit in you pajamas and seach for a good mate. I want someone to grow old with, I don't like the dating part, I like the comfort part. But it isn't easy, I have been here 32 days and counting. I went out on two interviews, I like to called them that because it's not a date at all. The first was a complete disaster ( he was eccentric), the second is nice, but I can tell he is afraid, he is keeping in contact, and going slow, I suspect he has been hurt. I have talk on the phone with 4, all completely unlike there profiles. You can tell what a person is looking for after talking a few hours. Just listen very carefully. It comes with disapointment, and that's ok. Brush it off, and go back in the water. | |
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| Profiles that say “Looking for my life partner”, “Someone to grow old with”. Etc.
Posted: 4/27/2012 5:32:43 PM | I have to applaud the fact that you actually read that far into someone's profile. I've come across people/men who don't even bother reading my profile. They just comment on my pictures and expect a response out of that.
I think it depends on what your ultimate goal is. As long as you're honest and up front about that then there shouldn't be anything to worry about. Although my profile says seeking a long term relationship my ultimate goal is to enjoy myself and sometimes that can be achieved with simply chatting, and a date.
I do think it's important to figure this out to begin with so that neither one of you are "wasting" your time. If the two of you have different goals then there's no sense in proceeding.
Do I avoid profiles that say "Seeking life partner or marriage" no, I don't. Then again I'm not necessarily one to do a whole lot of profile hunting. | |
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| Profiles that say “Looking for my life partner”, “Someone to grow old with”. Etc.
Posted: 4/28/2012 4:16:12 AM | | I consider them as well as other profiles, because "I ain't getting any younger." I'm thinking perhaps I will meet someone I will "grow old with". At my age (50's) I do think it would be a good idea to have "someone to grow old with", and by communicating with those who list this as a goal, I eliminate those who have no intention of anything more than a one night stand, something I don't want to waste my time with. The person looking for someone to grow old with might end up being a short term relationship, just friends, or something other than a lifelong mate, but at least their intentions are not just sex for one night and then "see ya'" types that I have no interest in. | |
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| Profiles that say “Looking for my life partner”, “Someone to grow old with”. Etc.
Posted: 4/28/2012 9:46:45 AM | I don't know if they are "pulling the cart before the horse".......
That was their INTENTION to look for a life partner, it means to me that they are SERIOUS ... but if that did not work out with someone for some reason ,then it can't be help that each of one has to move on ,until they find that "life partner"..
Connecting,attachment,bonding emotionally and physically you will know the person if s/he match your true feelings with no hidden greed,ect. motives. Me , I would try my luck on this ,and see what happen...........
I have read also stated on some people's profile ,that they want to date but nothing SERIOUS, it means to me, pay your own good time with me, and we'll do "bara boom bara bang " and don't expect emotional attachment and help when you are down,> I have no moral obligation with you and I am out.... Me, I don't want to invest my time to know this kind of person.. | |
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| Profiles that say “Looking for my life partner”, “Someone to grow old with”. Etc.
Posted: 4/28/2012 11:07:22 AM | Its a delciate balance. People are here for different reasons. Some just to read forums and participate. Some like me are at the stage in their life where they just want to make freinds and have something strictly platonic and enjoy the company of the oppisite sex as freinds.
Some are looking for casual dating with no committment. Some just friends with benefits. Some a long term thing that is not permenent and some are in the catagorey that you are speaking of.
I think that for what ever reason you are here it shoulf be stated in your profile. But at least they are being honest with you and telling you what they expect out of a relationship and to me that goes a long way because then at least if you are not on the same page you know where the boundries are and what the expecttions and ultimate goals are. | |
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| Profiles that say “Looking for my life partner”, “Someone to grow old with”. Etc.
Posted: 4/28/2012 12:27:26 PM | | Too many people on POF can only see things as either black or white, with no shades of grey in between. These are people who are strictly husband/wife hunting and need a spouse by yesterday. When they are in contact with someone and the other person doesn't share the same views concerning immediate matrimony, they are accused of being perverted sex monsters. There's no in-between. You are either here to get married right now (the less desperate ones will wait until next weekend) or you are a sicko pervert wanting sex. Wanting to date (one or more persons) for a while to make sure you don't jump from the frying pan into the fire is so yesterday. In the world of the internet, everything moves at the speed of light. No wonder there were so many negative responses to the thread that dealt with the topic of starting out as friends first. | |
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| Profiles that say “Looking for my life partner”, “Someone to grow old with”. Etc.
Posted: 4/28/2012 12:38:39 PM | | Mailman 999 I think writing information "to grow old with" means you are not a player! Lots of people read remarks in negative mind set. This does not reek of desperate! Just not a player! Maybe you had bad relations with woman, divorced, cheated on, or just a Pof player to make a statement like that! | |
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| Profiles that say “Looking for my life partner”, “Someone to grow old with”. Etc.
Posted: 4/28/2012 12:54:35 PM | ^^^I think writing information "to grow old with" means you are not a player!
Exactly what I was referring to in the previous post-everything is considered as either black or white. In your mind, if someone doesn't use the "grow old with" catch phrase, it automatically means Player. There is no in-between. Maybe someone wants to take their time to make sure that they have the right "to grow old with" partner and not have a temporary "grow old with" partner. | |
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